 What's going on you guys it's Lloyd here with the single guy, and I have a very special guest today. Mr. Hey, what's up guys Moe Bassey really really glad to be here, and thank you Lord for having me on of course, man So I've known Moe for a while now We've been working together on a lot of different things and we talk about similar topics and one of the things that I talk About on this channel a lot is how to handle things like a high-value man Well, no one embodies this more than Moe Abassie and he talks about it a lot in his channel and his various Programs as well too So I wanted Moe to come here and basically tell us what it means to be a high-value man Especially when it comes to getting girls. That's what this channel is all about. So give us a quick rundown What does a high-value man have and how does he handle himself with women though? Sure So the biggest thing with being a high-value guy is to me a high-value guy is basically who has it all in his own life If you look at you know 99% of guys out there the reactive They're kind of letting society let them think in a certain way or do things in a certain way And they don't really live life on their own terms So one of the biggest things for me was in my own life I had to figure out how do I have it all you know the wealth the relationships The people that I want around me the health that I want How do I in? Encompass everything and make sure that I'm actually getting everything handled in my life One of the biggest things that you know I've learned over the years is that as a high-value guy you have to have a lot of poise you have to be unreactive you have to constantly be moving forward and Most men are so tapped away from that that they're just constantly Coming from a place of reactivity. They're going about their life just Reacting to things instead of actually being the cause Oh, this girl didn't text me back or that sort of thing right right especially like yeah with woman It's like if you want to be quote-unquote higher value like there's so many guys will be like I want a 10 out of 10 girl But it's like dude you're living in your parents basement right now You don't have a job you're eating cereal every day and you're playing video games and you don't work out It's like How do you how where was the logic behind that where you thought you were gonna get a 10 out of 10? The 10 out of 10s the girls who are really hot They're gonna be with the guy who is financially successful or has a job and can take care of himself The dude who doesn't make excuses and has ambition and goes towards what he actually wants in his life The guy who is not a procrastinator So if he wants to have a good body good health He actually goes out and does it and he has the habits and systems in place For him to be able to actually go out and work out or talk to people or have a good social life So if you want that 10 out of 10 high value high quality woman Guess what you're also gonna have to become that 10 out of 10 high value high quality guy So and most guys don't get that they think there's some like trick or technique or a mindset shift Right like it's like some magical mindset shift. That's like. Oh, I can still you know eat cereal all day And get that 10 out of 10 girl. That's just not how it works. There's a good quote by Charlie Munger who's a self-made billionaire. He's Warren Buffett's right-hand man, and he says in order to get what you want You have to deserve what you want the world is not yet enough of a crazy place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people and This is the mentality that most guys are in it's just like this Entitled like oh, I should have it just because it's me, you know, I'm special I saw her on Instagram, you know, right? It's like why shouldn't let me DM Yeah, exactly and then when they when the girl doesn't want to be around them because it's a clear No-brainer that the guys shouldn't get the girl. They got pissed off They get reactive and then they become you know, you'll see incels and red pill and men go like yeah Right so the biggest thing man is like if you want that girl See what kind of things she's doing if you want the girl who works out eats healthy reads books meditates Has her shit together has good finances Yo, guess what you're gonna have to do the same thing. So what do you think about this? I think it's great man You know, it's funny you described that guy who's like living in his mom's basement eating cereal You know, I was that guy for a while And you know, there was certain things that I did at that point to put myself on the right track and the cool thing I think about women is that They don't some women will judge you when your current circumstance But there are a lot of women who will also see your potential they they can kind of see even though He's not at the place where he's got the fancy cars or you know He's he doesn't have his career all sorted out But he's on track to be able to do that and I've seen a lot of successful people They are able to a lot of times they found their partner before they had this success and I was wondering wow That's possible and it's because sometimes the women can see it if she's smart if she's good at it So what are some things that guys can do right now if they are like a three out of ten where they're in their mom's basement or They're just not taking care of themselves, and then they're not on the path towards Becoming a high-value guy. What are some stuff that they can do right now to show that potential? Yeah, so I'm gonna pre-fist this by saying there's a good book that everyone should read which is called No BS wealth attraction by Dan Kennedy Yeah, and I think that's a phenomenal book because it goes Over how you can attract abundance in your life just in general Because at some point in my life. I was also the guy like the guy that I just described that was me Like I was in my parents basement I was eating cereal and playing video games all day and not working out and just terrible fucking habits and At that time I remember I wasn't getting late at all. I wasn't getting any woman. I didn't have any money I was actually majorly in debt But the the thing that I made the distinction to be able to get out of that is like I was like Let's start with one thing at a time just one small thing Just start with meditating two minutes a day if you haven't done it before And then stack the wins on top of the other wins you want to create opportunity momentum So if you are if you don't have anything going on in your life Why don't you just start meditating two minutes a day? And then once you have that as a habit meditate a little bit longer Then once you have that as a habit start reading books then start working out get your body together Right and that itself will make you feel really good to be able to continuously go on that momentum Where you can get other things handled then you'll be able to get a job use the money to invest in yourself Use the money to invest in education, you know take a boot camp for example like So many guys will like say that like oh well These things are expensive to do go into the gym is expensive eating healthy is expensive You know Spending all my time doing a nine-to-five. I don't want to do that I'm too good for that or I shouldn't take a boot camp because why why don't girls want to have sex with me? It's like dude There's there's you and then there's the person who's doing all that stuff So if you want to get to where he is you got to do the same exact shit Yeah, and so like for me it was like I had to start with little habits Then once I got the little habits there and also removing bad habits Then once I did that then I started seeking a job got a job, you know invested in myself I took a bunch of different programs that you know pick up guys coaches like stuff like that and then eventually I started investing into my own business education started having skills and then from there you move up and up now During that journey, even though I was still in my mom's basement I started getting laid. Yeah, and the and the reason why is because this is an evolutionary psychology thing Dr. David bus talks about this. He says that Ambition the the when a girl sees that you have ambition She knows that your future trajectory is really good Yes There is a high chance in the future that you are going to be high value because of this ambition So over time when you stack these habits on top of each other And you also remove your bad habits and you start creating little wins that stack on top of each other and to create Big wins and the girls are seeing this as your meeting woman Then they're gonna see that ambition and even if you are in your parents basement You're still gonna get laid a lot and then eventually like because of this You're gonna want to move out of your parents basement and start doing cooler shit You got a good career you make good money you invest in your own education you invest into communication skills or meeting woman or You know business or your health like whatever it is and then it just keeps going up and up The saying that the rich get richer is 100% true And the reason why is because they already have such a high momentum That it's kind of hard to lose and the mindset to also that can help as well Right like they have a they have the abundance mindset, right? They're constantly moving forward and so it's not just rich in wealth, but it's like rich in health rich in Relationships rich in all these different areas. They're constantly moving forward and that's why they get what they want you you touched on a couple things and that's And you know a really good summary of how I think a guy who's starting from nothing Who is starting as like he's a two out of ten in terms of attractiveness towards women? To upgrade himself to be able to come that ten out of ten guy and attract a ten out of ten women So you mentioned one thing that I wanted to touch up on you said getting rid of bad habits What are some bad habits that most guys who probably are watching this channel right now are doing or maybe some bad habits that you Have that they should start to eliminate. Yeah, 100% that's that's an amazing question by the way So some bad habits like for me personally back then I used to smoke a lot of weed. I used to drink a lot I used to Not talk to woman right like just stay in my comfort zone stay in my shell I Used to play a lot of video games spent a lot of time behind the screen for guys today It might be like Instagram and just scrolling on Instagram and Facebook and Having models that they follow and just like that triggers them Porn and masturbation like you have to get rid of that if you want to get good with women Those are those are mainly it like influence of drugs like bad friends bad environments, right? That was a big one for me It's like I had all these friends who were just losers like they were just honestly losers Yeah, and it's like if you have those people around you It's gonna be really hard to level up right now we're at the high status summit and we're around people who are making millions of dollars seven million eight million and They're constantly moving forward the people around us are all trying to move forward And so when you surround yourself around people like this then it's a no-brainer For you to want to also crush it because you're like man They started where I was But they saw their potential and they captured it and look at the amazing life They live and then you start thinking about yourself in that manner. It's like fuck Well, I got potential too like I can do this as well if that person can do it So you start pushing yourself you start pushing your boundary You start pushing your comfort zone and then you start getting into the good habits So the biggest thing for a lot of guys who are watching this like no fap has to be a must Like if you want to get girls like you got to cut off porn You have to stop smoking weed and drinking you have to stop spending so much time playing video games or being behind the Screen or scrolling on Instagram and all this shit. Just cut it all off like immediately like go cold turkey You're most likely very addicted like a lot of guys are super addicted to their screens and super addicted to stimulus To the point where they don't even feel alive Yeah, so that those are like the bad habits that I would say is the ones that you need to cut Absolutely man. Yeah, you talked about porn masturbation Changing your environment. I think too just a little thing. I've talked about this before he mentioned it You know if you're following thoughts on Instagram guys That's not helping you get laid. Okay, even I do this dude I don't the only hot girls that I have on my Instagram are girls that I've dated or girls that I've slept with or friends of Mine. I don't follow them on Instagram. I just don't because I know that doesn't benefit my life So yeah, dude, I think that's really great You also have a couple of offerings right now. I think you're what are you what are you doing right now? Yeah, this sort of stuff if people want to check out more of my stuff Obviously the YouTube channel. We're gonna release a video on mine as well Yeah, so if you want to see that YouTube video the one that we're gonna do together I guess there'd be a link down there and then just hit me up on Instagram if you have any questions Moe Bassey MOE ABB ASSI and Yeah, that's pretty much it Cool. Thanks for watching you guys. If you made it and consider subscribing Obviously, too. I'm gonna be doing a seminar in Los Angeles January 30th. It's gonna be free. So if you guys want to come to that it's gonna be in Santa Monica The details will follow also to add a couple spots open up for my new group coaching program that I'm starting So there's a link in my description below click that link fill out the form if you're a great fit We'll get back to you. Thanks a lot you guys. Good luck out there You