 if he gives you the keys to his house but never calls you to come over and when you say you're coming he always says it's okay is it bad must he always say come over well i mean what kind of a situation are you in you know are you are are you what are you looking for here you know he gave you he gave you the key all he all that really means is that he's given you some of his trust right he trusts you a lot you know if he gave you the keys to his place and he's basically saying come on over whenever you want what he's probably hoping is that you end up moving in with him which i suggest that you don't you know or spending all your time over there i mean you know you don't have to only come over there when he says to come over but it's one of those things where it's like you know it's it's such kind of a you know slippery slope that you're getting yourself into here right you're in a situation where i don't know if you want marriage ultimately or not but he's giving you his key which is kind of opening the door for you to come into his world as much as you want to go into his world but it sounds like you don't have a ring and that things aren't moving in that direction and that he hasn't talked about it and what you need to do is you need to sit down with yourself and figure out what it is that you ultimately want here and figure out whether you know you hanging out over there all the time is ultimately going to lead to what it is that you want which if it's marriage it probably won't if you're not you know if he's not giving you a ring or something and so my suggestion is that you don't spend all your time over there if what you want is to get married and have a real relationship and you know like figure figure out and and you ultimately want to do whatever whatever that is right and so i don't know i need to know a little bit more about your situation are you guys in a relationship or you guys just hooking up together you know like what's going on there