 Welcome to Every Way Woman, so we all love a good profile pic, but are selfies and social media making our lives a little trivial? Anna, you are always on my newsfeed, right? You are live on social media. I knew she was on a community feed. Yeah, right? What do you think about this? Well, who doesn't like a little selfie? I'm just saying. But with what I have to do, I do hair and makeup, so I do do selfies. But the question is, what would it be trivial? How many selfies do you take before you actually post one? Well, I'm healthy right now, Stacey. See? It goes back to the question. What is trivial though? What do you think trivial is, Stacey? I think trivial is minimizing the moment. So we're out to dinner and we're supposed to enjoy each other, and every moment you're... Wait, let's take a picture of what we're eating. Why? Do you do that when you go camping? I mean, do you go camping and you watch TV while you're camping? I think social media has its place, but sometimes we're a little too aggressive with it. See, I'm gonna agree with you. I agree, like, there's a time and place for everything, but being that social media is a future, people want to know what everybody's doing online, on YouTube, Instagram, Twitter. Is that what they're really doing though? Because I know, at least for me, I'm putting up an idealized version of my life, okay? I know I probably look really cool, just kidding. But everybody's day is a little bit normal. Nobody puts up a bad day, a bad hair day. But they post... Let me take a selfie. But you know what, Justin, they're posting everything. Everything is going on with social media. From the time you woke up, now I'm at Starbucks, now I'm at Walgreens, now I'm about to use the bathroom, now I'm going back to Walgreens. And it's not telling a story, it's almost like bragging in a sense. People love that, though. People want to know what they're, who they're idol, what they're doing. I don't go that far. Who wants to know that? I don't go that far. I maybe post five during the week, maybe. But I think it's to keep my followers entertained, because they do want to know what you're doing. I don't think anybody wants to know what I'm doing. I mean, when I think about that, I don't think anybody cares. If I go to Starbucks. The mentality is just post a tweet like everybody cares about what you have to say and what you're doing. And then that's how your followers build up. I don't have to build my tweets. It's like, okay, now I have to plan 140 characters. Perfect hashtag. And it's like that picture, or that song. Oh my God. Is that song selfie? You've heard it? Yeah. And then you have to think what you can hashtag. What filters should I use? There's all these. I think it depends with what you do. Right. Like with what we do. Yes. I find it important to hashtag, to put up a selfie. Hey, we're an every way woman. Hashtag E-W-E-W. You know what I mean? Hashtag ties in everybody. Ties in the world. And Anna makes a good point. I think it's whatever you do should feed your social media. If you're just Joe Blow and you don't do anything, then what does it matter how many followers you have? So are you just doing it to maybe build yourself up? You want to feel important? To build up your brand. I have a million followers. It's to build up your brand, to build up your business, to build up your self image. If you want to build up that following, you have to be there. Okay. And I completely respect that. But don't you think it makes it a little trivial? Tribial to who? Yeah, that's a good question. In general, to your own experience, does it, you know? Isn't that trivial to me? If I want to get one million followers, but once somebody asks me to follow them and I'm like, who this? That's trivial. But I see what you're saying, Joseph. It's like, would you rather take a selfie and miss that moment, that experience, or would you rather be in that experience? And as for me, for example, I met Sophia the guard the other day when I was on set for Modern Family. I took a picture of her real quick. Then I was like, all right, let's put the phone away. I actually want to see what's going on and watch before my own eyes, like this show unfold. So I think you can take a selfie, but then get back into the experience. I always get myself into the experience and then I think, oh, I should really capture this. But there is a moment where it can flip and it's also dangerous. Right, that's true. I mean, you've had people who are almost stalking you. Yes. On social media. Yes. And essentially you're feeding into that. That's why I don't have. That's why I don't have. As opposed to six. As opposed to five. But no, it does happen. You have to be very careful. I mean, I'm not going to post something up here at the movies. Or you at your house. Unless I'm doing an appearance somewhere. I think that social media has its place. I think that we need to be cautious. I think we need to use it appropriately. And at the time that it starts crossing those boundaries, that's when I think it becomes dangerous. What are those boundaries though? Stalking. Or posting things that are inappropriate. Or starting to stalk people. You know, students, girls will stalk other people. Girls will stalk your own boyfriend. Yes. Right. If it is something that will hurt yourself, image and hurt your own life, you need to be careful with it. But I mean, if it is essentially unsafe, why are we still doing that? Because we don't think it will happen to us. You don't think it will happen to you. So, oh, that will happen to Jeslyn. But I'm going to post 100. It will never happen to me. That's why we continue to do it. I used to post a lot on myself until I started getting, like, threats. I started getting threats, emails. What do you mean threats? Emails sent to me, like being rude. Social media can be very rude. People can be so rude if you're not okay up here. Because they don't care. Your haters can bring you down. They're playing a computer. They don't care what they say. What's interesting, too, is that people behind a computer feel like they can say or post things that they would never do in person. Right. Even photos of themselves. I think that a lot of girls often come out a little more promiscuous in pictures they're posting than they would ever do in normal life. It's interesting because I've seen television shows that'll actually bring up pictures of, look, I found this on your Facebook. Do you want the rest of the world to see it? Because now they just did. And that's a whole different conversation about posting things that'll come back to haunt you. That's true. We come back on Every Way Woman.