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What's up, Paul? Hartford nice them. So you guys we got some great. We're gonna have a great conversation you guys Relationship tips we're gonna actually go through right here. Let me show you guys. So I have on this screen Snap I have 13 can't see it. I have 13 Tips on how to have a healthy and good relationship We're gonna go through them. All right We're gonna go through these tips to see if they really actually good tips or if they just some fluff like some traffic Do these trip tips really work in real life in a real relationship with real black people too? Because I know you know the black relationships is a little bit different than white relationships and Hispanic ones and Asian ones So we're gonna take a look but also we want to invite you guys to man If anybody wants to hop on here with us man, let me know and I will send you a personal link All you do is click that link and you can actually pop on here with us and ask your question live with us on the air Right now or you can just drop a question into your common into the comment section too So either way, it's all good. We're here to address you guys's questions Because we're not pros. 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That's just because I wasn't cooking Okay, that's a piece of That's not the whole piece of the puzzle Anyway, so so we're gonna jump off with looking at these 13 tips on relationships But while we do that you guys once again once again If you have a question of relationship question type that bad boy in the comment section Whether you're watching on Facebook or YouTube Just go ahead type that in right now so that we can get to your question to answer your question because we got some advice We got some opinions They may not always be right and sometimes her opinion and my opinion is totally different Lately on two different spectrum Totally, but sometimes we like this like peanut butter and jelly or like Nutella and No, I'm not tell I'm Nutella Nutella and was like peanut butter Yeah, like I like no like a light peanut butter like a um like a almond butter. No, you ain't almond Kind of I'm in the day Anyway, all right, so you guys let's get this party started So any questions let us know if you want to join the conversation actually be on what it's let me know I'll drop you guys a link to the thing, but here's the first tip you guys This is the first relationship tip. This is from a website called mind body green calm They given us 13 tips on how to have a good healthy relationship and Don and I is job right now It's to determine if these tips is accurate. So hopefully this helps you guys out Maybe even help us out too. You know I'm saying so let's see here we go Tip number one Do the things you did the first year you were dating? Tip number one do the things you did the first year you were dating so the first year we were a date wait dating Okay, not married. All right. Yeah first. I don't know this completely to me We have to like separate things because like you can't do the things you were doing the first year You were dating when you like married with kids Because they put a damper in that like there's like there's like That's the point. That's why it's saying do those things because they say it don't let your kid Don't let life don't let married life in the way you can still have a life and do the same thing So what are the things that we were doing what the first year we were dating we were flying places We were we was jet-setting We was I wouldn't fly like that California we were in Florida Was taking the bus to we're taking the we're taking the DC the New York bus the DC The China buses We ain't taking China's I ain't taking Chinatown bus and I'm But I mean for us I mean, I don't know what people were y'all was doing the first year you was dating but nothing really changed much Like it's not like we was rich and famous and we was doing things we couldn't do now Like we were doing basic stuff like going bowling and freaking we wasn't doing nothing that extravagant to say Distance as well. So it was a matter of like maybe trying like every time we got a chance to spend time with each other We just did some things. Maybe this is referring to maybe this is referring to things like like maybe you guys Bringing together in the beginning or maybe you guys were actually holding hands in public and stuff like that No, no, no, hey, I just got it. Look at Donna. We'll be walking in public, right? She don't want to be holding my head. That is a complete lie. You know, that's because Our daughter a mirror look look she's Just recently try to get us the whole hands walking in public She said kiss on the lips But she went there that's the whole I walked up I walked up and I tried to slide my hand in and she'll let go for a second But then she's always trying to slide out Like the knuckles start to hurt like Like first off, I'm not trying to hold your hand like this like we're kids, you know, like I'm like you're my dad So this is the proper way to hold the hands as a loving couple But sometimes I would like this and I know and it's like but then you're like slot You're like pulling me along like So I don't want that so we hold like this which is fine But then after a while like it's knuckles be like squeeze She was like all I want to let go I was like why are you trying to let go cuz my fingers are turning blue That's when you know someone just don't want to hold your hand if you don't say some mess like my fingertips turning blue You could have just said like babe, can you loosen up a little or something? So But I think also like you know what happens is like sometimes people like they actually go out and go on dates You know like when they're first together and then when you get married or you like have been in a relationship for a long time You don't really date your partner. So that might be another thing that they're talking about James You James said what if they were both unsaved in the first year of dating and they did Was run around If that's not if that's not the life you try to live which first of all we support that don't try to live that life But if that's not the life you try to live then yeah, absolutely You ain't trying to do that you ain't trying to do that You don't want to revert to your first year if your first year was doing Any bad habits that you may have had in your first year of dating Overcome that and sure like obviously don't do that Yeah for show for show All right Thing you said I am Thelene from Brazil Shout out to Brazil Tossin thank you for doing this that I know you're welcome Tosin hope this helps Y'all y'all y'all y'all all right all right So we're gonna go number two you guys so first of all do the things you did the first year you were dating It depends on what you were doing that's number one depends on what you're doing tip number two Do we agree with this? It says ask for what you want To have a good and healthy relationship. It says ask for what you want. Do you agree with that? I mean, yes, I think that it's important to not like be around the bush and like be you know like Don't because I think a lot of times like some people are like, oh, yeah, no, it's okay We can do this or whatever and that's not really what they want to do or that's not really what they want in life and you just go along with it and In terms of that you kind of settle sometimes and then in the future I think it would just be a complete disaster when like there's nothing else in that foundation So you're just like, okay, I'm upset and I'm angry because I've been Compromising and settling this whole time So I think it's important to just be honest and ask for whatever it is that you want like ahead of time So Here's my predicament with that one. Okay. Here we go. Once you get into married life. All right. Ask what you want So if I all right, so here's something to happen. Here's the thing. Here's the thing Here's the thing, right? Let me tell you what happened. Let me tell you what happened. Okay So when it comes to food in our house Yeah Now it says ask what you went. So it here's my predicament. You know fellas fellas fellas listen to me fellas listen to me I stopped asking for what I want directly, right? Let me tell you what you never asked No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Let me talk to you guys. Okay So this is what happens, right? I'll ask for I'll ask. Oh, yo, like Uh, babe, can you can you uh make some rice cereal? All right. Let's say that Because I love rice cereal So here's the problem. When you ask for what you want When you're dealing with Let me not say woman woman when you're dealing with y'all Sometimes you don't really know exactly how y'all feeling at that moment or that day So I may ask for this rice cereal one day. You like, oh, babe. You like, um, babe. Can I have some rice cereal? Sure, baby. I got you the next day, babe. Can I have some rice cereal? Can't you make your own? What's wrong with you? Hey, babe? Well, hold on. Hold on. Can I have some rice cereal? Oh my gosh Like it's never it's never like it's never like a consistent like beautiful answer. It's it's always shaky and I don't want to I don't want to get shake. I don't want to ask the question Here's the thing. Let's run. Here's the thing. This is what Shaw beat around the bush and First and foremost anything is not know how to cook. No, so I'm the one that's doing all of the cooking in the house Okay, so that's the first and foremost thing So, yes, there may be times when it's like, no, I think you're like, I'm not trying to make some rice cereal right now I literally just spent like half of my day making breakfast and lunch for y'all And he be coming at like 10 o'clock at night talking about it's 10 o'clock at night. Can I make some rice cereal? Like, no, bro. Like you gotta do you gotta figure something else out. So yes, there are times when I'm like that However, this is what no you don't know, but this is what aunt will do. It will be like So, uh, so a babe, um, you know, like you hungry? like What what y'all eat today? Did y'all eat already? Why am I doing so? Um, like you Like you was you was gonna go make some eggs You were gonna me and I'm like And they should say No, but then I asked for what I want and then I get a attitude I get a donna too. That's what I call it not an attitude and a donna too to come right this way because I asked for What I want can I have some rice here? Can I have some and can I hide this or that and then sometimes not every time but sometimes you get the Tude out and I'm not trying to hear the tool. So I slide in real smooth. Like, hey, would you know did you grab? I know it's a mess out of me because I'm like, look, you know, like just ask me like if you want some eggs You want me to make some eggs just ask me like yes Maybe I may not be able to do it right at this moment because I'm doing something But at least like you're just upfront about it instead of coming. Oh, you you you hungry Look, so the tip number two asks for what you want So first of all do the general concept of communicating clearly I agree with ask for what you want Yeah, but sometimes you just have to you have to be creative and how you ask for what you want May you may not always be able to be direct you sometimes you may have to do a little do a little maneuvering No, but if you see that your partner is not feeling that like stop doing that, okay? Like don't get not feeling you're smooth Whatever it is that you just called being around the bush. All right. Well tip number two is sometimes you guys All right, we get going if you just now join us We're just going through some relationship tips from a website called mind body green calm And we're giving our opinion on if these relationship tips are actually true in real life real couples And also you guys we're leaving it open for you guys if you have a relationship question you want to ask us Please let us know we've been married for over 10 years. How many years we've been married over 10 So like what's those things that over keeps trying to think Over 10 Like this right now you guys counting Over 10 years two kids arguments love Laughter joy pain. I mean we've been through it all you guys So we glad to share our our advice and tips a first of all want to shout out Hard in the paint. He said y'all been my favorite couple since 2017 Man, I've been on youtube a lot longer than 2017. I said we we he didn't say you've been his favorite couple He said we've been the favorite couple. I'm just saying like So i'm trying to remember no matter where we whoever you know us from we appreciate that 2017 That's love. That's love appreciate that um Hey, if you said asking Hey, Lyft. Sorry. Is that it? Yeah, hey asking your partner what they ate that day When what you really want to ask is can you make me something to eat? I don't think that's what point two meant Thank you. I don't think you're right I think I think I think you're right. All right, but at the same time But I wouldn't agree with that though. There's sometimes you got to be creative in my opinion You got to be creative. That's all I'm saying. That's all I'm saying. All right, we about to go to the next tip What up Mike? Hey, what's up Mike? What's up? All right, so here we go you guys we back at it tip number three. Here we go Become an expert on your partner Relationship tip how to have a good and healthy relationship tip number three says become an expert On your partner. Do you agree with that? Yes or no? Let me start first of all There is no such thing As being an expert on your partner. I think we're constantly changing. It is an impossibility I disagree with this statement. It is an impossibility to be an expert on your partner you guys You cannot be an expert on your partner first. Maybe maybe i'm wrong. Let's Does it get let's give it that let's find out what the definition of expert is really And what is like let's see and let's see they have a little bit of writing in there. Like forget the writing I want to know what is expert. Let's look up. I'm about to look up dictionary dot com But what is your thoughts on being an expert on your partner? I mean, I think in theory like it's a good thought to actually Know your partner as well as you can possibly can you know, like you're studying this partner that kind of thing Um, but do I think that it's a possibility for you actually become an expert on your partner? No, because I feel like we're consistently Changing like we're growing, you know Us as human beings. We're not static in nature. So I don't think that you'll ever really become an expert Okay, so here's the definition of expert. All right. Maybe this will help change this will change our minds a little bit So the definition of expert is A person who has special skill Or knowledge in some particular field It also says possessing special skill or knowledge trained or practice so From that definition, I guess you can from the definition of a person who has a special skill or knowledge in some particular field Should you have a special skill or knowledge in your in your partner for sure? You should be able to know how to handle it To your partner you should you have special knowledge About your partner that lots of people don't have because you have like the inside scoop. So from that definition, then yeah I still disagree with today's statement An expert when you when you think of an expert, it's more than just a special skill or knowledge First of all, I said then do a skill, right? So it's a person who has knowledge About your spouse, of course, of course, everyone has knowledge about your partner For me, that's that's that's a basic but special in that like you don't say special knowledge It says special skill or knowledge in some particular field Yeah, you could use the distributor property like special skill or special knowledge I don't know what a distributive property is Stop doing this. She always become with these words is vocabulary. I don't know what that means Anyway, look, I think that I think that if we're going off of the definition of what an expert is Like if you're an expert in the field of this So you're an expert in your partner Then knowing your partner like inside and out and continues like experts They study the field that they're in like on a consistent basis, right? And so so they state up to date on all the best and newest information So then I think that that's actually an accurate statement. I changed my mind. Yeah, you can Can become an expert in your partner. I don't I feel like you cannot be an expert In your spouse you can knowledge you can learn as much as you want all the time. Here's here's the thing Maybe this is ah, ah, thank you file. I got it No, this is why this is wrong. Okay When you're studying something right That thing you're studying typically Which becoming expert in doesn't really change, right? Not necessarily like your spouse changes About a millisecond sometimes. No, you can be an expert in the field of molecular genetics and Molecular genetics is continuously changing like any like these fields new information is being made New information is being found like but yet you're staying up to date on all of the new like studies and things So no, I don't agree with that. I am I I am in the middle You've taken me from here to here now. Okay I'm gonna stay here. Let's move on. Yeah, I got some questions on and on the pa. Um, it's they're all right No, I don't see Oh, there. Oh, yeah, there are questions right here. I didn't realize I didn't see it. Hey All right, so let's start what are you trying to Ashley is I think the first one that I see all right So actually he says what advice do you have to keep your marriage strong during pa school? Do you have any advice I can't got advice She asking you She asked Ashley, ain't you asking the don of the pa you ain't asking the husband as a couple I feel like advice for keeping your marriage strong in pa school is Communication and spending time together, right? I think that that is like the main thing you have to actually like Kind of source out some time to spend with your spouse and your partner because you know Like in pa school, you're studying really really hard a lot of your time Like more than eight hours of your day is dedicated to studying Um, so you have to give time to your your partner and she's asking both of us All right, cool. All right. Well, I think it's I think for me, um specifically to keep your marriage strong during pa school I think it's important for you both to understand That you what you're getting into right? So you if you both understand going into pa school knowing that there's going to be significant sacrifice Then you're not going to be surprised when that sacrifice has to happen You know, like you there's you ain't going to have the same amount of time to be able to spend together You're not going to be able to do the same things that you were doing before pa school You're not going to go the same places. You're going to have different conversations She's going to come home from pa school talking about A mannequin that she dissected or some crap, and you're going to be like what the freak and you ain't gonna know Never dissect a sim man. Okay. Sim man. Yeah, now remember sim. Sim man was his name sim man She came home talking about sim. I was like who the freak is sim man and why are you touching on? And she was did you have to explain that sim man was the difference the simulation man or whatever So you have different conversations I think if you both go into pa school understanding that things are going to be different and there's going to be significant sacrifice for the next two to three years You'll be fine because you'll both you you'll both have to adjust. It's it's it's a must Um, it's a must have so that's just one piece of the puzzle. I think we can probably go we can do a whole different youtube Uh discussion on this one topic So we'll keep that on the side burn. Ashley will come back to that and probably maybe do another youtube We'll do maybe a youtube video on tips five to ten tips on how to keep your marriage stronger in pa school But those are some of them Good question All right. Oops. Oh Y'all we just like zoomed in on ourselves. All right next one. Here we go. Uh, Mariana G first of all, I love your name. That's dope. I hope I said it right I don't know if it's Spanish or not because I said mariana like that sounds Yeah, a little twang on that mariana g That's a good name. What's your name mariana g? Anyway, how do you keep excitement and joy After many years together in other words, how do you avoid? Falling into monotony. Okay big word. I almost didn't know how to say that. All right Um, how do you keep excitement and joy after years of being together? So So you want to go first you want me to go first? I mean you go first. That's fine So for me, um It's really it's so different It's it's there's no cookie cutter answer because Personalities are so varied in the world It's easier for some people to keep joy and excitement after many years because of their personalities It's easier. I think for us our personalities lend to it being easier um, the joy joy really joy has never Left our life because uh, even even in hard times and rough times there's been times we haven't been happy There's been times we haven't been excited But we've always had joy because for us our joy comes from god And I think our connection with god and our relationship with god is one thing that kept our joy It just never it's solid. We've always had joy even in even in really bad times Hard times we've always been able to find joy So for with that being said though, it depends on your individual personalities Um, and so what I would say is this I would say to be able to keep that excitement joy is to is to tap into each other be communicate Make sure you guys are communicating and find out what it is that you guys find exciting Which you guys enjoy doing find the things that you guys enjoy And make sure that you've never stopped doing it. Yeah It's just that simple and find new creative things if you're not a creative person Then just google a mess. Okay If you don't freak if you're not the type if you or your spouse is not the person Oh snap, let's go. Let's let's just hop on a boat and go cruise across the bay You know just some sporadic fun stuff if you ain't that person fine. That's fine. There's nothing wrong with that Just freaking go and google one type up. What the freak can we do in my city? That's cool and do it So it's a matter of oh last piece. It's just a matter of intent. You have to be intentional and really Uh find out it really be intentional on what it is that you want to do and actually do it because if you don't do it It's just gonna keep dying Yeah, I mean, I agree. I think that you said it all um, I was gonna say the same thing is just do the things that Like give you excitement and bring you joy So, um, I think a lot of times it's just about as you said being intentional and doing it. Um So that you don't fall into the monotony of like everyday life Bet there we go. All right. Mm-hmm Uh another question. We got uh jeru gyron giron presents men a guy blah blah blah blah. Shout out to that Um, did god bring you two together for marriage? Yes on it 100 percent If we didn't we wouldn't be married. Yeah, I think we would but how do we know that? Here's the question done. How do we know that? Here's the question for that one? I mean the answer to that one, right? So yes, obviously for me, it's an obvious question But how do we know that? I know that it was god that brought us together for marriage because we were both Seeking god Before we got each other. Yeah first Sometimes Unfortunate and it's unfortunate, but sometimes there are marriages that happen That and mind you this conversation is for all of those out there who are believers in god and have that relationship If that's not you just bear with us as we get through this real quick But you might find something interesting from it, but if you are not Individually seeking god before you guys Decide to get married Then sometimes those relationships those those marriages happen And you find out that maybe it was not god that brought you two together Why because you weren't seeking him first? So we know for sure was god because we were seeking him first as long as you're seeking god before you get into that Marriage, I personally believe that it's god that brought you together even if Even if within that marriage There's turmoil and problems and issues Why because every marriage isn't perfect and we're human and we do change That doesn't mean god didn't bring you together It just means that there's things that you have to deal with within your marriage So as long as you're seeking god before you get married individually, I believe god put you together Yeah, we weren't even like looking for a relationship like when we got together. I mean It was just friendship at first Me and god I was trying to Just be on I'm upping up with my lord and savior. So I don't know but What I thought you weren't looking for a relationship. I wasn't looking for a relationship. I was looking for you. Oh Oh Yeah, this guy y'all we're good this Uh, actually actually said thanks for the advice. Appreciate it. Ashley. You're welcome. Oh, she looks forward to the video So now that means we you have to be on my channel again Let's see. He's had a good Money on you. Yes, spanish sounds good. Thank you. Thank you. Whoops. Who's this? Uh Good evening gentlemen. How often do you get poo stuck in your beard? Oh, okay Oh, gosh Uh, here we go. It says, uh, you you had said that you were in a long distance relationship How did you handle the times when you were apart? What'd you guys do to make it interesting vague? Um, I mean we so we were like I've always been like super like scheduling in terms of like when I have studying and things like that So I was in so we were both in undergrad. Um So we scheduled out like times to talk, right? So, you know, we had texts and talked to each other throughout the day, but we knew like every day Um at like nine o'clock around that time we would talk Um, and we gave ourselves about an hour or so because I like to be in bed like pretty early to wake up early to study So we would talk about our days. We talk about everything. Um, just to continue To understand like and learn each other And get that connection through just having that conversation because obviously we weren't able to see like Physically each other and touch each other like like just like touch each other And then in the times that we were able to Spend with each other because obviously we'd have like vacations like for christmas break and things giving break and things like that Um, I would fly out or he'd fly out. Um, and we we'd see each other And spend time with each other there making it interesting I think it was just a matter of like any time that we got to spend with each other. I'm an interesting person That's how okay, and thank you I'm an interesting, but this is it right where all is always laughter It's always like light and fun and so that made it interesting Obviously on the phone like we would ask like stupid questions Like I never asked if you got poo stuck in your beard, but I'd be like, oh like what kind of toilet paper do you use? Like how do you um, how do you like how do you like squeeze your toothpaste? You know because I wanted to know things like that because it was just a matter of getting you know what she wanted to know She went Are there any kids in here? What did I wanted to know? She wanted I don't want to know If when dudes poop their penis touched the water I did And I also wanted to know if like you think if you guys wipe you're like the tip of your penis Like if you like clean it off because what what freaking woman wants to know are you kidding? Who who you guys who what is wrong with you? That's not a normal. What is that normal? I think that's a general question. Is that a normal question woman had did y'all normally Want to know or is that just like is that just like your medical because that sounds more of a medical like question I don't know, but I wanted to know because I thought like that's kind of a little grossy. So Yo, okay. So, um, I would say I would say as far as the long distance part of the question Um, first of all, I would say this long distance relationships for a short period of time. I think are amazing I think I think they can they can be very amazing if you can be in a long distance relationship For a short period of time that means that all you guys have to do For that period of time is work on communication It's all you can do because all you can do is communicate with each other That's it. Now things are a little different now because when we were uh an undergrad undergrad there wasn't as much like Zoom and FaceTime and all stuff. It was just like talking on a dang phone But in google chat and things like that Yeah, but with that being said you're just consistently communicating with each other and it helps to develop your communication skills It helps to to get to know each other. We talked about being an expert on the person Well, you can at least get to know each other a lot more Um, when all you can do is really just communicate and talk to each other all the time So I'm a fan of for longest relationships, but again for a short period of time For a long period of time, uh, it it can be harder Um and more difficult to maintain. Um, but how do you handle the times when you were part? You know, I don't answer all that. I don't that was great. That was about my baby answered that question So I'll leave that at that. Good stuff. Good question. Um Archie birdie, you said is it a red flag if a guy that calls himself a christian follows a lot of instagram models Wait a minute Let's talk about it. All right. This sound very personal. This sound like a very personal question Is it a red flag? Let's help archie out here. Let's help archie help archie out Is it a red flag if a guy that calls himself a christian follows a lot of instagram models and girls I mean you the man. Why don't you take this away? Take this away christian man ZPG Lemon squeezy Okay, let me hear it. First of all every christian man is at different Uh different walks in his in his walk. I mean different places in his walk with god, right? So That christian man, he's not less of a christian because he follows instagram models or girls As much as the next christian who the elder in church who was following church girls, you know, it's just it's Everyone's a different walks, but what I will say is this Um, I would not say it's a red flag I would say it's a yellow flag. Yeah, okay I would say I would say it's something that It's a caution because It lets you know that Y'all You like went into my brain and took out everything that I was thinking like the years Because we are We're not pros. We just love a lot. That's what I think now, but I would say the reason why it's the yellow flag is because Even as a christian First of all, I would say if he's caused himself a christian that he does have a relationship with god at some some form of fashion And the thing is is that as you have a relationship with god that relationship Hopefully is going to grow. So as his relationship grows He's going to begin unfollowing people, you know, because to be honest with you following instagram models the instagram model an instagram female As we as we Define it is really one that's really about just that, you know, she she just showing her to her body y'all She's just it's a very lustful sexual type of a Thing not too many instagram models are on there to teach you different books that are coming out, right? So if he's following them, he's following because they they look good because they dress certain way blah blah blah And that's obviously as you continue to grow in your relationship with god. That's obviously not Particularly something that you want to keep following as a christian man So it's a yellow flag to be cautious about and see if he has a a change or if there's growth In his walk with god, but if there's no growth Um, then it becomes a red flag. Yeah, and I think it's important to also like just ask him You know, like, I mean you can open up a conversation and be like, yo, you know, like why Even though you may already know why but like just open up the conversation Me like, yeah, like why you follow all these like instagram females and then you can go from there and see What um the answer is and then you guys can actually have a conversation on like if you feel comfortable with it or not And you know, you open it up to now Get an understanding of where you guys stand initially and where you can move I'm going forward and sometimes we get caught up you guys ladies Look, sometimes it happens like a strong man of god A strong man of god can get caught up in a in a second. So it happened to me you guys I got caught up scrolling through big booty. It wasn't big big. No, I wasn't Hey, I wasn't scrolling through big booty h's. I was scrolling through my friends friends list Of course My friends friend list. I won't shout them out But on his friends list, there was a link. It was a a friend. He had called big booty h's Oh, and aunt thought he knew that friend, right? I think I knew big booty So you just wanted to scroll through big booty h's I wanted to see if I would see someone I know because sometimes Sometimes And I will want to reach out to them and say hey, you might not want to be on the side So and got caught up y'all and I'm like and And I oh this and I was like looking for something that I was on the computer for in the past and I went through the history And I was like, you ain't living on history. Yes, I did. I didn't hide It was in the history. No, but I wasn't hiding You didn't say nothing. You wasn't like, yo, babe. I saw these big booty h's on Facebook That's not a cop. You don't come home after you cooked the meal my day. Yeah, by the way, I was looking at some big booty h's It was it was a mistake I had messed up Anyway, I messed up. I think it's a normal thing for guys to get caught up But again, if they have if they're following a lot of these instagram accounts I think you should just open up the conversation to see exactly like why that is and and How that will like work in your relationship Got you. All right, so hopefully I answered your question arty Well, we went off on the tangent. We did. All right, you guys. So, uh, we got a few more of snap. Where'd it go? There we go All right, so we are going to continue on here Um, we're gonna continue on we still have these relationship tips once again If you just now join us we're answering your questions for relationships um It can be any sort of a question on relationships as well as we're going through a list of Relationship test tips on mind body green calm to determine it from our perspective if we agree with these tips or not So we're going to keep it going a little bit longer if If you have a question just type it in the comment section We'll be glad to answer your question if not oh and or if you want to actually pop on here and join us live From wherever you're at just comment down below I want to join live and then we'll send you a link and then um, you can pop on here with us And ask the question so all right next one. Here's the next one Relationship tip. Do we agree with it or not? It says Ask questions beyond just how was your day? We'll get past that. I mean that's just communication. Yes, obviously you should definitely do that Five create a weekly ritual to check in with each other So let's stop for a second. So I guess so this is like dating So the question is remember these are tips for a good healthy relationship. It says Create a weekly ritual to check in with each other Here's my problem with this tip If you need a weekly ritual to check in with each other You need your your way You're way off in your relationship If you're not checking in with your partner spouse boyfriend girlfriend every day If you don't want to Like I mean like how do you go through a week and not check not check in? How was your day? Which was like we like even if it's just a little text message is like, hey, I miss you Like what like you are with this person you want to know what's going on every day You guys come on. Yeah weekly ritual and it's a ritual like it needs to be something like a like a witch spell or some crap It's it's it's you just freaking check in which is partner every day Multiple times a day not some creepy stuff like every five seconds, but just creeping it like for example I'll give you an example right like adana. So adana works a 24 hour shift As a pa at the hospital, right? So when she's at work, there's some there's sometimes it doesn't have it often but there's actually sometimes where she'll literally leave at six o'clock in the morning And she won't contact me the entire day going into the night and mind you I get a little worried Because she don't never do that. She'll hit me up at least shoot me a little text or whatsapp or something But like if she don't contact me all day, I'm like what's going on. Is she good? I'm thinking about her If you you don't need this shouldn't even be a tip To check in a weekly ritual to check in check in with your partner all the time and if you if you don't have a desire to We talking about flags. Yeah, that's that's a that's a That's that's that's that's a huge red flag if you don't have a desire to It is if you don't have a desire to check in like then why are you why are you guys even together? Like if you don't even want to know what's going on It's a red flag now Let me just say this real fast because if we saw flags A red flag doesn't always mean it's cut stuff for a cent a red flag. This means there's an issue That is a significant issue that needs to be looked at. All right So if there's a red flag that's something that you need to look at within yourself and or your relationship All right, that may lead to a cut Or not something so negative if it's a red flag. I think it's Nancy cuts Or like the yellow flags. Oh, you're a red flag doesn't always need to cut I think I think they might though. I think they might a green flag needs to cut then Will you talk about because look if you don't want to Bring it check it on me and know how my day is going like I'm not trying to be with you It doesn't need to a cut it leads to a check like check yourself and see what the issue is Okay, because this red flag's here left and right, but you don't just cut people left Another red flag that you wouldn't cut somebody for right away. There's a lot of red flags Fartin on the first day, that's not a red Like I just allowed nasty nasty on the first day That's red is that's that's red is crap if you bold enough To fart on the first date as a female That's not a that's not a green. I'm not looking at you. That's not comfortable with that. That's not comfort That's not comfort. That's ignorant and stank That's a stanky stank thing adana. That's a red flower. I'm redding you you getting banged right there Oh, gosh. Well, then red but that doesn't mean but doesn't mean the black colors are relative But that don't mean you get cut. It just means like whoa Hey, you good What's happening because is this a consistent thing? We need to talk about it. Do you do this often? Is this is this a thing that happens all the time? We need to talk because that's a red flag if it's all the time We need to get cut if it's too often All right, you guys. Oh snap artsy you said Oh, baby, read that John. Thanks for answering my question. I've been really pondering about it I haven't spoken to the guy yet because I'm trying to be observant first and he hasn't approached me either Is there more or that's it? Okay, um, well, yeah, uh, you know I don't know if he's gonna approach you and be like, yo, I got a bunch I want a bunch of iji bottles that I'll follow Um, because I like their fits like I don't like his outfits. I don't think he's gonna approach you Is that like a thing you you say fits for outfits People say fits for outfits. Yeah Oh my gosh anyways, but um, but yeah, definitely Definitely stay observant. All right next tip you guys here we go. We get through these next tip. Do we agree with it or not? Tip to keep your healthy your relationship good and healthy tip. Next one says keep it Sexy nice. Do you agree with that? I mean, I agree. I think that you should always like sexy and sexy and just in general like, you know Nice, like I think it's easy to become complacent. We really gotta talk about this one I think it's easy to become complacent in like your look and stuff So I think it's important to make sure that you like when you guys are going out even after you're like you've You've gotten each other and you're dating and you've been there with each other strong like make sure that you look presentable Like your representation of your partner, you know, and so you want to look good feel good for yourself and them That's what I think So Keep it sexy, right? What what are you? What are you? What is sexy? I mean, I think just looking nice Okay, like obviously like so we can translate sexy into You know like married like bedroom stuff and like you can translate it. That's six Is a different thing Okay, well, you can But also I think um, you know, obviously different people's Definition of sexy is different. So what you can have like this is good outfit Like if you want something that's low-cut and that's what you used to you This is good for us because this is something this is this is like I said Sometimes we gonna be talking about stuff when we gonna learn something for our relationship, right? So check this I would say this sexy Needs to be defined By the other person as far as what that is right So like the person that you're supposed to be human and sexy for if this says keep it sexy. Okay Well, what's sexy to you? What's sexy to me, right? It's like I need to tell you what's sexy to me Ask him for what so you can keep it sexy and then same thing. She needs I she need to say ask me I mean, she she needs I need to tell her what she need to tell me what's sexy to her from me And I need to keep it sexy. Um, that's what I think. I think we've never really done that We've never been like me. Oh, let's what are you sign sexy to you? What do I need? Yeah, we've never done that. So maybe we'll have that conversation. Um I know it's sexy to me Um, we so yeah, we agree with that one keep it sexy we agree with that one but find out what's sexy that person next one Get creative about the time you spend together Yeah, that just goes back to So, uh, yeah, we agree with that. Of course get creative about the time you spend together. Once again, if you're not a creative person Google it google it Figure it out. All right next one Says get it on get it on How do you keep a good relationship and get it on? Yeah physical I mean, we're we're meant to be physical people. I think it is important to um have that that physical touch and um experience Because if not it's gonna be a lot more instagram models Hahaha Me and follow What matter fact, let's pause that for a second. So, okay, we need to talk about this So if and i'm asking you and i'm asking y'all this is for the ladies the question for girls, right? So we know okay the guy all right the guy the guy Oh, he's following instagram models or instagram girls because he finds them sexy and all this stuff. All right, cool We get that we get what dudes do What is it that the girls are looking at? When when the girls what what there's no Is there instagram guide things? If not, what is it that? I'm sure there are what are y'all looking at that you shouldn't be looking at Not going to we're not going to like porn awesome But just like what are you looking at that you're like that's taking you away from Your partner mentally I mean, I think I think that there are there probably are like instagram model men But I think for females What their attraction might be initially might be like oh this guy looks good Like he's cute or whatever the case may be and then if you like go through and you see them in like nice outfits Like maybe like looking more dapper than anything like i'm sure there might be some people that like the Bodybuilder types, but if they're like in a nice suit Um, if they are like what are those what's the word i'm looking for successful Maybe that's what they kind of look at on instagram and stuff I mean, i'm not on instagram like that. I'm not looking through y'all go to ceo's Like It's about good looking men. I think it's not necessarily like in suits and ties and stuff I think that's what it is. I think I don't think it's more so like oh, he needs to be But I want to know who out there is listening to the donna I will show you We're fine. What I don't know, you know, you find somebody, you know, good one, you know, exactly what you're about to go to I need to check your service fine, but let me find somebody who the freak you pulling up Let me look right now. Wait a minute. Look There go This is a search. This is a search. He popped up right on your search This girl with no shirt in ads ads for days popped up on your search. Yeah, that's go back to him I want to go back to who that's that's trey songs. That's a celebrity. Oh, so you following trey track I'm not following. Do you be singing you be singing his song? I do sing But I don't say his songs and I don't follow trey songs, but that's the thing like I don't follow people like that So my room's random. I don't know. You ain't found. Anyway, I don't follow people like that on instagram and stuff But what I'm saying is that I think that you would Y'all ladies if you watch this please help help me out because the donna ladies help too I want to know what is it that y'all be looking at that because we are what the dude is looking at What are y'all looking at? So I'm curious on that. Anyway, let's go. What we got here I've got to cover you guys's comments Um, don't kill a what the donna did classmates did in your pa program and it's a date in my pa program Um, yeah, I did have some classmates that dated each other and dated like people in the Like classes above and below. Um, is it weird to do that or nah? Um, I mean, I don't think so. I think it's just like dating somebody in undergrad I don't think that it's weird. I think, you know, you you find somebody and y'all are both moving to that six-figure salary job in career Like you're you're planning you can have a built-in study partner But it can get weird if it gets if it gets messy if it gets messy It can get weird and crap because I I would assume you tell me pa classes Like once you get to p-school your class is a pretty intimate class. Yeah, like you're always with each other You're always around each other Like you're always studying together. You you find groups and pockets of people you study with some of you guys same friends So if you guys are dating in p-school and it don't work out you gotta go Everybody else and you're there with them for the next like year and a half, you know year of schooling So if you dated p-school hang tough till you graduate Just fake that mess until you get that diploma. Just so it's not it's not crazy. All right, uh James James James said tic-toc videos take a take away woman's attention from your man Just random tic-toc videos Yeah, that's I mean, I was gonna shoot where I'm just now getting on messing with tic-toc. So that's a whole nother world I'm about to uh dive into Arts you said uh, hello, I don't I don't always I don't willingly follow any attractive guys because I want to keep myself pure if I happen to stumble upon a picture um What's fyp? I admire their looks but don't know what where their heart is what their heart is like Okay, see I'm attractive guys like that's it's you and that's just like what just happened I've opened up my instagram and I stumbled upon a picture of some Celebrity that was like in shirtless. That's just what it is like. That's what happens You tell me that all the time Anthony will pull up his facebook and then across the top. It's a bunch of like Facebook models Just popping up. They're not and then he'll try to like he'll try. They're not a facebook. You'll try to like click They're regular people. I know And then it's just another one And I'm like, uh, he's stupid. Oh, no, this is not and he'll like click click click and I'm like But it's still the same thing. So it happens like that Time out it is when I didn't get to that. I just want to know Aren't you said but I don't know what their heart is like So that's a thing like y'all be wondering what their hearts are like Some people do I don't think most women are sitting up here wondering what like what the guy's heart Is like I think initially it is like a physical attraction the physical part of it and then and then you you know Then you're like, okay Like is this person successful and then you follow them for whatever reason that you know You want to see them and they're pretty face or whatever the case may be Got you got you. All right, cool. Here we go. Let's keep going you guys once again Filling rounding out this list. All right. We're almost done with this list. It says number nine Take a mental vacation every day. Take a mental vacation every day Again, this these are tips on how to maintain a good and healthy relationship We're determining if we agree with this tip or not. It says take a mental vacation every day I mean, I think you take a mental vacation when you're like playing chess, right? Yeah, I mean I agree. But is that like is that for a relationship? Say Is that just to just get away? It's a it'll help your relationship. Maybe be for yourself, you know like individually you need to Get away from the kids from your spouse from the whatever that's a physical Everything in the house more than a mental like that. I mean, maybe that'll be the next one But the mental the question is do a take a mental vacation every day. Do you agree with that? I guess I mean, like I'm looking for some hard concrete things that will really help this relationship I don't know if that one like sticks, but well, I think that sticks for people who it applies to Because there's people who need a mental vacation every day. You need a mental vacation because Well, you need a mental vacation because maybe things in your life right now is just really tough Maybe you're going through some stuff and your your your kids or your spouse or just the house in general Whatever case is just taking care of yourself mentally Will benefit your relationship. Sorry to be with that. All right Next one take fight breaks when you need them What does that even mean? Let me read what that one says it says when conflicts inevitably come up Remember to approach them thoughtfully and with a lot of kindness Towards your partner and yourself if you see the stress be beginning to escalate during the conversation about conflict One of both of you can call a break So that cooler heads can prevail and hates that And cannot do that at all Like he is not the he is not the type where it's like, okay If he has something that he has to say or like something that is on his heart or on his mind at that moment It's how he can't like take a break until everything if we're in an argument I don't want to take a break Like I want to get that mess done like I want I want to like I don't I don't like I don't I don't like this fully. I don't like this take fight break So I don't like the idea of stopping your argument. Let's take a break. Let's go to our corners Let's just let's just have so let's take 30 minutes. Do you have to say it like that? That's how it is. That's what people be thinking. I can't We've been doing this like we do like a Tuesday like better communication relationship day like where we you know delve into like our marriage and Get better tips on how to like better our marriage and communication and such and I think um part of One of the things that we've learned and that I feel is kind of in conjunction with this is Not necessarily arguing but learning how to have disagreements. And so I feel like um argument just has such a negative connotation to it Like there's no winners in an argument. Like everybody's feelings are like heard all emotions are high But when you learn to disagree like effectively Um, I think that that is a better thing And so with that being said if you're just in a disagreement about something I think it's easier to just be like, all right Like let's pause in a disagreement than if you're high and heated in an argument. So maybe that's What they're trying to Convey no, they're saying to take a break. They're saying to stop the argument go let cooler heads prevail and go take a break Do you agree with that? I mean, do you want if we're having an argument? Do you want to stop and go take a break or do you just want to Work the argument outright. I mean, I think sometimes I do sometimes that it's like for me Sometimes it's like look like we're not getting anywhere Like we've had arguments where it's just super cyclic Like we just go around in the circle. We come back to what the argument was Sometimes we don't remember what we were arguing about in the first place because we've gone off on a tangent for so many Like times and I was like, okay. Well, what was I saying? So yeah, I do think that it's important sometimes to be like, okay Like this is not getting us anywhere. This is not beneficial to our marriage or relationship Let's just pause for a second and then come back to this Even if it's in like five minutes ten minutes, whatever time limit you want to give to it You do that so that you can like reconvene and understand like, okay Well, what did I really initially have a problem with and then go from there? I don't think it's hard. I don't think it's easy for some people to do but I think that it can be Necessary it depends on who you are in your relationship All right. Next one. We're almost done with this you guys When when in conflict? dig deep To unearth your true feelings I mean, sure. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I mean you're in conflict dig deep to unearth your feelings So I I think this one really applies to people who Don't like conflict and like to try to steer clear of arguments and stuff, you know, there's certain people who just don't Don't like they can't hit take it. They don't want to argue. They don't want conflict They'd rather just be like, okay. I'm a fight. Everything's fine As opposed to digging deep to unearth their true feelings. Like, what do you really feel? Why what are you either hiding or trying to set aside or whatever the case is and this is saying no Don't do that talk about what the real issue or issues are Um, when you're having that conflict and I agree with that I think you should definitely dig deep and really tell your true feelings about stuff even if those true feelings Um, may hurt the other person is better to be honest and and tell your true true feelings about something Then to just ride that surface thinking everything's going to be fine. Yeah, and it's not Um, so I agree with that. I agree with that. Yeah All right. Boom. All right. Here we go two more thing. Here we go Seek to understand Not agree. Yeah, we've heard that one. I think that that's important recently. We've been talking about that I think it's important a lot of times You know in when you're getting into the arguments and stuff It's about like who's right who's wrong and in that you're like, okay. Well, I don't agree with you or You know, you disagree with whatever it is that that person is saying But I don't think that when you have like the conflict it should be about I agree or disagree with you. It should be about the understanding Like you just want to understand where your partner or your spouse is coming from And it's fine to disagree And I think we should all be okay with that Um, I think that's another step because sometimes like if If you don't agree with something that I say or vice versa Like it makes us irritated because you want us you want the other person to be on Like to realize that you're right But it's not always about being right Yeah, and I would also say just to piggyback off that What it also what we also learned was a lot of times in arguments You're not just not seeking to understand something a lot of times. You're actually looking for a moment in that argument To disagree with almost it's like you're you're you're waiting for that person to say something Just so that you can come in With with your own opinion or thought you're not trying to understand them You're just waiting for your moment to strike And it's and it can be something so stupid in miniscule like oh they may have said like Oh, yeah, you said this on tuesday, and then you come in and say no, it was wednesday. Yep. Yeah, it's like Nope, you're wrong. That doesn't even you're wrong. It doesn't even matter. I like what day it was. This is what you said, you know So, um, yeah And we've done that many times We've done that many times you guys if this is you if we're talking about you You're not alone, you know, we've done that many times and many other people in the across the world. It's just Human nature, you know, it's just human nature. But once you understand it, you're able to begin working To to fix it and to correct it Um, so all right We're gonna read this last one here and then we're gonna address some of you guys's comments to questions And then we're gonna wrap it up. So here we go the last one. It says make your apology count Let's talk about that for a second Make your apology count. This is a tip if you want a good and healthy relationship. It says make your apology count I would say this. This is my biggest Thing about apologies Never apologize If you're not sorry I don't care what anybody said. I don't care. Just apologize. Just let them just say i'm sorry that'll make everything better They'll be fine. I'm not that person. I'm not a fan of that. I disagree with that Never apologize if you're not sorry. Even if you feel that that apology would just make things, right? I'll just apologize. I'm sorry. But you ain't really sorry It's fake and you're lying. You're sinning center. You can't You can't Apologize if you're not sorry even if it to make if you think so make things right because it's just wrong And so i'm about being real. I would rather have realness and honesty over fakeness Even if you feel it's going to make me feel better. So for my opinion, this is my opinion you guys If you're not sorry Then you need to talk out Your issue whatever it is that happened, right? Because you need to you need to help Even if the person that you have the issue with that that they feel that you need to apologize to Even if they don't agree with why you feel With whatever your issue is as to why you're not sorry Even if they don't agree with it at least you can be honest and have that communication about it Like this is where I come from. This is where i'm standing I'm not sorry. I'm you know, I'm not sorry I believe that this is what I did was right Whatever the case is be honest about that and talk about that and let that person deal with How you're communicating for it. Yeah, but If you know you were wrong And you're sorry Apologize and make it count like don't let your don't let your pride take over if you know you were wrong But your pride is like i'm apologizing sure whatever But you were legitimately wrong and you do feel sorry about it But your pride is have you got a problem you got to apologize Because you are sorry and you were wrong and you need to let the person know that because when you let a person know that You are sorry. I've learned this from adana If I let her know that i'm legitimately sorry She legitimately it takes a millisecond for her to change in that situation Like she will literally change from fray kruger to freaking Angels in the outfield if I just if i'm legitimately sorry for something and I apologize to her She'll change quick because That's if it doesn't feel good to know that hey, yeah, like he knows he was wrong validation Yeah, yeah, so I feel like apologies are great as long as you mean it and I mean I think it's important like in terms of the making the apology count to apologize in a way that your spouse understands You know like um, I I think that's something that i'm still learning and learning how to do it And because you know the way he apologizes in the way that I apologize is like two completely different things Um, and but you have to be able to speak in that person's love language You know like you're super like grand and stuff like it's all about like that's because I'm sorry I'm so sorry when adana When adana apologizes, it's like a passing fleeting moment of like I really like It's not it's not I'm sorry. I don't feel like I'm I don't I'm legitimately it says make your apology count Right your stuff don't be making it count for me like if she's sorry, but if she does something wrong She won't apologize. I don't feel like she's genuinely. Sorry all most of the time because I only apologize when I'm sorry I don't apologize if I'm not sorry about something and so again, it's about Speaking your language speaking a language. I need you to make your k I need you to stand on the top of a mountain sign Anyway, is that that was the number 13? Yeah, okay. All right, you guys. So that's that let me do Jumping to get some of you guys's comments and questions real quick. Uh, then we'll wrap it up with you guys. So bam, let's go right here artsy, you said oh, I'm sorry James question How to start a relationship with someone who's a fellow christian, but a different Domination denomination I'm assuming he says and won't convert to your specific faith like for example sda Got you. So james. You want to know basically? Uh, how do you start a relationship with someone who is a different? Denomination than you christian faith-wise or even if it's not christian, but specifically yours Well, first of all, I would say Um, you said and won't convert to your specific faith. I would I would I would say this Um, hopefully you or nobody else would be looking to attempt to try to convert anybody To anything right because it's not our job, you know, it's not our job to convert anyone It's not our job to convict anyone It's gods and god will convert them god will convict them all we can do is Live that example and pray and be that person Who is seeking that relationship with god for themselves? um, I would say this though, man, um About us about starting a relationship with someone If you if you and this is a personal thing if you individually don't feel comfortable that You can have a relationship with someone who is of a different Denomination or faith Don't do it Don't fight that don't don't even fight that or if you're looking if that's what you desire That's what you're looking for if you want somebody to ultimately because he's talking about specifically Converting to your particular faith, but that to me that just shows the underlying desire that you want somebody that is in your faith So that's what you really want that true true, but at the same time I understand Okay, the idea of okay We'll keep in keeping your options open and keeping your mind open to this person because we don't fall in love with people Of this because they're part of this faith or because they dress as what we fall in love with just that spirit of a person Like you just enjoy this person like you love they love their laugh You love the conversation you just enjoy the person and that person can be a totally different Denomination or faith, but you you develop an attraction toward this person So that's normal and that's fine. The thing though for me is If if you if if within yourself you believe that you cannot Be in a relationship with someone who is of a different Denomination or faith don't fight it Just don't do it. You can't do it. The reason why I say that is because You can't force someone to change so you you'll get into it It can end very bad because you're getting to a relationship And maybe you have expectations that maybe they will change or convert or maybe they'll have expectations of the opposite It never happens and now you guys are going through a life of just unequaleness When the bible wants us to be equally yoked Equally yoked doesn't always mean the same denomination equally yoked is is just really about your your level in relationship with god together um, I personally believe that if you are not Filling within your spirit if you're not convicted in your heart to do that Don't fight that just don't do it because if you fight it and say i'ma try to do a relationship anyway You're gonna hurt yourself in the future in the short term You'll be fine. I think it's important also just again like this goes back to communication is having these conversations Like before you really get deep into a relationship when you're just getting to know the person like you talk about like Oh, well if you know like if you were to supposedly have kids and things like that because like all of like these like denominations like spiritual stuff like that kind of Conversation makes a lot of sense when you have like a family, right? Like how are you raising these kids who like what are you gonna have a problem if they go to church with me on? You know on this day and you don't want to go like how will you feel about that? And once you have these conversations, then you can better make a decision like okay Can I really see myself building a life? And a family with this person when we're just so far apart. Yeah, and lastly I would also say this Um, that doesn't mean that you can't have a relationship with them A relationship meaning a friendship with them Um, because the thing is is like you don't want to cut people out of your life Especially if you have a connection with someone and they're just a good person You just enjoy their company Like you don't cut that person out of your life Even if they're part of a different denomination, remember you don't cut them out of your life You just understand that you at the moment Can't have any sort of intimate or or relationship or couple relationship Because you guys are just on two different fields And so you can't at the moment, but that doesn't mean things can't change You just can't be the person to think that you can change them You just have to let God work throughout your friendship And be patient with God and see what happens My opinion All right last one here Ashley good, babe Um, Ashley says Worst piece of marriage advice ever given don't go to sleep angry I've been married for 20 years and sometimes the best thing to do is get that sleep And then reserve the discussion in the morning So this is another example of of individual What works for what works for individuals and individual couples? because Man that that ain't gonna fly with me I've even done that before though But that doesn't mean it was great It doesn't mean that's just because you cannot you you're in the motive. I don't want to stop things Yeah, that's that's the thing because I'm I'm individually different Um than that so Don't go to sleep But I get it though. I think that it like but it's not tired and you're just like again It's just about like this whole like sick like thing like to me I feel like when you're in an argument and you're just sitting up here. No one's listening. There's no understanding You're just trying to disagree with each other You're you're not really having trying to have a discussion But you're just trying to point out why you're right and the other person is wrong that it's important to just again Like stop You know, so it might be it's it is it could be very beneficial for some people to just be like yo like I gotta I gotta rest like we gotta pick this up in the morning or in 10 minutes So whatever the case may be so right and also I would also say actually because I am a christian I would say it's not the Worst marriage advice because it's biblical Like it's a bible verse. So for me personally, this is the verse it says Ephesians 4 verse 6 Uh, excuse me 4 verse 26. It says do not let the sun go down while you are still angry I mean if the bible said I think it's pretty good advice Do not let that your anger Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Um, and I think it's important because I mean it and I mean for me personally if the bible says I believe it's because Staying angry is actually a sin Getting angry is not Being angry is not wrong, but staying angry is wrong And so I just think that it's encouraging us not to stay angry and I think if we you know Take that throughout the night It could be wrong and I think again I think it goes back to my point about not necessary like not Having these arguments where like where it's a matter of like anger is the thing that's feeling it You know, it's a matter of like understanding and having discussions and disagreements because if you can Agree with somebody and like sleep peacefully, right? You know, you're not like sitting up here tossing and turning in your bed because you're angry at this person for whatever it is They said or they did to you. Um, and still again go back to that conversation later Yeah Are you say is it true that if a guy is really into you he will approach He's been staring at me for the past two months at church very outgoing around other people girls But doesn't acknowledge that I exist Um, isn't it true that if a guy's really into you he will approach? Uh, no, I don't think so. I think it's like a different breed of men out there as well Like to like nowadays like, you know, like men are like the hot commodity And so like there I think they've gotten used to like women who are interested in them approaching them as well So it depends on the guy. Yeah I just I just want to Emphasize the last part of she said which is it depends on the guy because I mean, there's just some guys who wouldn't do that You know, that doesn't mean they're not really into you. It just means that he's really into you But he's not the type of guy that would approach you um, and so That would be something that you would have to decide as a woman or individual is that the type of guy you like You know, who wouldn't do that? Um, sometimes it's just a matter of making that initial connection And then people are a lot more a lot more free and a lot more, you know, more themselves Um, so no, I don't think it's true that he will approach you Um, if he's really into you, he might be really into you and not approach you No, he might not be really into you. He might not be You know, but you don't know until there's just a connection may you know, I mean that approach is just It's just the initial contact communication. Like a lot of people are also in a, um in a uh social media world, right because in social media Like it's it's just different, right? We're developing a different culture of how we can approach people how we approach people because I'm assuming you're talking about approach physically at church, right? Because that's different than being on a computer and just typing something Hey You know what I'm saying? But actually at church people may have guys may have developed this this different type of Feeling of oh, I can easily type something but approach them in person's a little weird for me And I mean, okay, if you think that he's into you or he's been into you for the past two months And there's no connection that's been made. He hasn't approached you then you go ahead and be like, hey Here's the real question. The real question is the real question is are you into him? Okay, yeah, because she is he's very outgoing like she's I mean, please she's into him So you can go ahead and just be like, hey, you know, like Whatever, I don't know what your initial like Meet cute thing will be but whatever it is you can go and introduce yourself and try to strike up a conversation And go from there and that kind of goes against your personality too. Are you that person that would Approach them like are you are you an approachable person? There's a lot of females who are just friendly people Hey, how are you doing? Especially in especially in a church setup Hey, there's one right over there. No, there's one right here That's a different kind of bold You can literally just just introduce yourself. Hey, I've seen you around church. How are you doing? My name is uh, artsy. Where's your name? Oh, nice to meet you. Nice to meet you How long you been coming here? You know that type of thing if it's that new of a situation or whatever your strike up conversation is I don't think in 2021 There's it's wrong for a female to approach a guy It's totally fine and a friend because everything is a friendship level Just be a little cautious because guys Can tend to think that that girl Eat whether you're into him or not. They're gonna automatically think Potentially that depending on how you approach them. So it's not just making sure you're not approaching him in a flirty way Just in a church. How are you doing friend way? You know, if you can approach them the same way you would approach the old lady That's in the corner You're good You're good All right, here we go. Ashley. You said thanks for the video. You're awesome with dana. Yes, but I understand your point And okay, I forgot what conversation that was but it was the angry one It's going to be angry. Got you. Got you. Got you. All right, you guys man. We appreciate you guys. 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