 Okay, YouTube give me a little update there and see here make some in a neck on Make sure y'all can hear me See here Can y'all hear me okay? Hopefully Cooked up Properly. I apologize had a text message come in right when I was getting ready To hop on here. It's Saturday night last minute. I didn't get to shoot a video today So I said, okay, let me hop on here and do a live cuz I've been traveling been working trying to get the message out and in doing so I um In doing that sometimes I'm not a okay here. I go Look out acting up today. I've got some moderators in here They had closed me out. So I had to come on Almost reset me. Let's see if I got it set up Now yesterday I did a video and I was talking about you know celebrity relationships I had the names in the title then I changed that last minute just couldn't really Bring myself to it every now and then I could put a name in the title But I just know I always try to remember that people are humans and I know how My name in the title I Might be ready for some smoke in the city versus if my name ain't in the title I don't see it. It could be talking about me I never know come name one in the title and so but when you name in the title sometime people just search They name just see what all been uploaded that day or a lot of time people don't think about that a lot of times people forget how regular celebrities are and Because there's so much money being made the more money you make the more time that you have and Yes, you could be busy you could choose to be busy, but that's what money does it creates time freedom because If you do an event and you get twenty thousand dollars twenty thousand dollars pay a good amount of bills So now you got more time. So a lot of times what people don't realize is that People of hot networks or celebrities and athletes like me working with pro athletes. You guys work two hours a day and Just what's required of them? Maybe like two at the most four hours a day, whereas everybody else working eight hours or more They work in two hours. So they got the rest of the day to get in the Anything and so what happens is what people do is I used to notice this on Twitter. I Will see certain celebrities they would be responding to a tweet that didn't act them It just had their name in it So they literally would go search their name to see every tweet that got their name in it And then they would respond to that tweet and not realizing that they just that was a dead giveaway that hey You were not at it like you had to go search this and so that's why I try not to put celebrity names in my Description unless I need to but this a Q&A for the members if you're not a member you'll see where it says join up under the video and Sometimes I forget how to get the link for people to join, but this is a Q&A for the members And so just make sure you put hashtag Q in front of your question And we're gonna go at least an hour. We may go a little more. It's a game on right now, but I Would sit down and watch the game, but It's hard for me to just focus on the game And ironically I played football my whole life and I played football in college and wanted to be a pro football player But it's still hard for me to just sit down and watch a game because I got so much I need to be doing myself and so I'm on here Marquita. Yeah, oh the Jack was lost. Oh, no, I was all room for them. Jack. Why? I'm 29 and I'm losing hoping men should I just give up? If you get you could give up on me and don't give up on yourself what I mean by that is Stop looking for a man and look within and just get better yourself and when you stop You know learn about a man and thinking about a man and you focus a hundred percent on you You're gonna start to look better feel better Globe more you're gonna be jumping off the page and then that's when you'll start to attract different men So with every level that you go up you can attract a different type of man So just focus on you and That's what's gonna help and I'll be honest with you. We are in a I'm supposed to lie to you I'm supposed to lie to you, you know when you are when you're online and stuff you post a lot of people and I wish I could see the game on tony's TV. I love you, too I'm supposed to lie to you But you know, I can't lie to you right now. We're in a sad state The relationship state is in the sad state. That's why I've been talking about business and life and Entrepreneurship and all of that cuz we we It's not looking too good right now. And so it's gonna take more people coming back to the cross meaning just coming back to Purity and living right and doing the right thing for us to turn this thing around But the more and more people jump off the narrow road and jump on to the broad road the worst our relationship situation gonna be Now y'all make sure you put the hashtag cue in front of your question So I don't miss it and we still early. I know folks still filing on here Courtney Johnson. God bless you now. God bless you Tony is there such a thing as Tongue baptism Now they just told me that I Could press a Comment and pin it so I was gonna pin it just so I could see it Reason I asked because God put it on my heart that when going down under The water my tongue was not to be Stationary That might be between you and the Lord sister cuz I do not have a clue What that's that's something that would have the Lord put that on your spirit You gotta talk to the Lord about that one sister cuz I I do not have a clue what you talk about in the lease In the lease I ain't got a clue Regina God bless you. What is your definition of a good man? To be honest with you if you need to sum it up a Good man is a man who is trying everything in his power to please God The sum it up. So what I mean by that is a good man if he's single or if he's not married He's not trying to be in fornication He's not trying to lie to deceive to manipulate So if you meet a man and he said he loves the Lord, but he's trying to get you in the bed He has not stepped into Being a good man. He might be decent, but he ain't he tightened all the way up So a good man gonna try to be pleasing unto the Lord. Do you know someone started YouTube page using your video? I do not know Everybody's sending me that and but what y'all have to understand that's that's just normal like that's normal That the bigger your brand gets the more fake pages is gonna be the more people So eventually it's just eventually it'll be at that point to where any like any other person online So yes, I see it, but they can't really do anything with it because when you post a video That is the same as another video on YouTube. It automatically YouTube picks it up and They'll flag it and they can't monetize it And so and if they get around it by just kind of doing something else with how they rip the video Then I could flag it, but I really don't worry about it It just they disseminating the message and they eventually will be hitting people that I'm not hitting Brittany Sheriff deleted you and so what Sheriff is telling you is don't be in the chat complaining Put your question in the chat and had you put your question right there. I would have seen it So that's a life lesson sometimes Right when we about to get our breakthrough We drop our head and go to pouting when if we had our head up and our eyes on the prize We would have saw our blessing and I want y'all to take that in your whole life Don't ever take time to complain. Don't ever take time to worry. Don't ever take time to stress Don't ever take time to lose faith and start talking about what you don't have because as soon as you drop your head You finna see something Soon as you drop your head Now you delete it you might have you deleted out the share share had already deleted I seen it say share deleted your message. Then you delete it wait that the uh Glen rocks You don't put the page name in here. We want to give them no shine It's just like what I don't I don't reach out to them before like it's a bunch of pages that do it It just y'all don't see them all but I could see them in my dashboard everybody who use in my video I could see them and I done shut one arm down before and they they wrote me From like Indonesia or somewhere was like, please. I'm trying to feed my family these videos They only made like two dollars ten dollars. I'm a single father and I just posting these, you know And I was like a listen Can't be out here doing that But the page that y'all talking about I went to it and they hadn't even got a thousand subscribers yet when I went They're probably get it eventually but then even after thousand subscribers got to get four thousand watch hours So it take a little time so they just help me get the message out I really like my friend grew up together really close to my family really good guy come from good fam I don't know if I should approach him that way. No, you shouldn't approach him that way because a woman should never approach a man You should never approach a man if a man want you you gonna know it You gonna know it even if it looked like you don't want him a man who want you he gonna make it No, he gonna let you know but see a lot of times a man doesn't approach his friend because he see you He sees you as just a friend and he sees you maybe as too good of a person for him And because he knows you and he knows your heart and he knows you as a person and he knows that What he's into could hurt you then he'll just rather leave you as a friend So never set your eyes on your friend keep your eyes on the prize On you your purpose and all of that Tony you telling us to not give up But you're also telling us we're in a sad state of relationships Exactly, that's what faith is faith is knowing that you going through hard times But you still walking by faith anyways what I mean by that is is Being that we're in a sad state that means that you can't go out here Really nearly and all gullible with your eyes with your legs open and just believe in everything you hear you have to move with a sense of Diligence and prudence and you have to be very Mindful and aware when you out here in this dating world because it's a lot of tricks being played I Saw a guy at an event. He started He stared a lot, but never approached. I was always in a group There's an upcoming event that I know he'll be at is it thirsty to go with the hopes of bumping into him No, that ain't thirsty. It's thirsty to go up to him, but you could go with all the hope you want to go with Jeff make sure your face don't get sour if you go and you don't see him Because then you'll be looking sour patch face and another man that could be your husband looking at you Looking like a sour patch kid. So just know that Also know that staring is normal Staring is normal for a man. It does not mean anything. It does not mean anything because as Men we stare at everything. So y'all got to understand that so don't don't don't think too much into it just if a man on approach you then That's all you need to know whether he approached you or not, but staring We stared everything the good the bad the ugly. We stared everything. So understand that Why do some men get so bothered by? Women's kids not talking to them. They speak back, but they don't initiate conversation Well, that's a red flag that's a real red flag because it lets you know that he is a control freak and that he's gonna be Domineering and that he want to come in and he wants to be he want the ground he walking on to be kissed and He wants to be looked up to and he's gonna come in and he's gonna be spanking your kids You're gonna be telling your kids what they can and can't do You're gonna be walking in a room turning their TV off while they in the middle a show and it's before they bed time So that's a red flag a man shouldn't kill nothing by How your kids who are not his kids and who when you are not his wife He shouldn't kill nothing by None of that he need to be focusing on you and understanding those are your kids and that's another man kids and He shouldn't have too much to say about nothing when he understand his place and understand that it ain't his job to come in and be Disciplining and running over and controlling and doing all this with another man children Because that's how one way to lose your life Does the woman need a nice bank account or a nice 401k before marriage? No, you just you don't need to be living in no shelter You need to be able to stand on your own two feet You need to be able to put a roof over your head and to get from point a to point b Whether that's the subway or bicycle a car or Uber you but you need to be Independent and not a dependent That's that's what's important a lot of men from My past have been popping back up some have gotten married. Why what are they contacting me for you? Could be the one who got away or they just want to spend the block But I have a thing that I call the black book syndrome And in the black book syndrome is when a man gets to a certain place in his life instead of looking Outside he goes into his black book because the black book is safer Than the yellow pages So instead of going and getting online and looking for something new which could have HIV Which could have any other type of you know situation going on which can have a lot of issues mentally A man may want a woman that he already knows the landscape meaning just know of you and know about you and know your temperament and A man who's in a relationship really want to have some a woman who comfortable or no good man He want to have somebody that ain't gonna make too much noise and he could have a little situation with Could you talk more about faith for Christians that didn't grow up with a strong religious background? I enjoy your faith talk, but sometimes find it hard to understand Due to the lack of knowledge Yeah, we'll be going through that on on our Sunday sermons as I get to do them So just make sure you check every Sunday for a Sunday sermon To see if it's up there tomorrow. I'm in travel for soccer So I might not get to do one unless I shoot at the night and upload it and it's there But we'll be doing that but it's it's really It's a personal relationship so what I tell people is try to get you a Bible and read or listen to two chapters a day and Read it in different versions. So they'll have you know the NIV Version the King James version is you know, it's a little tougher to understand But the translated versions it make it a little easier to understand and it's straightforward You pray for wisdom knowledge and understanding before reading and just get them two chapters in a day at least Been dating a guy for eight months very genuine attentive Genuine attentive and does all the right things. I'm not attractive to him because he's overweight I'm not attracted to him because he's overweight. Should I stay and work out with him or leave? So here's the thing he was overweight in month one and Now you've been dating him for eight months and you're saying that you're not attracted to him because he's overweight That's the lesson for everybody else is when you meet somebody and they are not what you want And they're not where you want them to be and you don't want to help them get there leave them then Because when you string somebody alone for eight months Especially a man men unfortunately Cannot handle rejection the way women handle rejection So I want you to think about this and I want you to look around and I really want y'all ladies to hear me on this Rejection is a very Sensitive thing for men and that's why so many women we've seen so many women lose their life for rejecting a man so you have to start to pay attention to this and start to move differently and Be careful where you going where you hanging out Who you going with a lot of times have somebody with you? How you some mace or how you your little tool on you get your carriers permit and Just really be ready for the smoke if a man try to talk to you and you also got to be able to do it In a polite way like some women Do it in such a nasty way and not realizing they just poking the bar because this person is Demonically possessed, but even a soft answer can turn away wrath a soft answer can quench anger So if you say hey, thank you so much. I really wish I could but I'm married you might be lying Or I'm engaged, but I really appreciate it if you do that It's gonna be hard for the guy to get mad It's gonna be real hard unless he just crazy and deranged and if you see that in his eye then You might want to take out running as fast as you can But it's getting real out here and it's sad that that's the way but it's getting real out here when we just seen it happen With the Alabama basketball player where they said they said the young lady Turned one of the guys down and that that turned into a little argument a little riff And it could have been her boyfriend that she was with or whoever she was with could have said a watch out And they said oh what you gonna do a Try me and then it probably escalated like that and they and didn't somebody heard a threat and then it went to that next level but they're saying the genesis of it was the woman turning down in advance and so Never string Somebody alone men should not do it to women and women should not do it to men If a person ain't where you want them to be and you ain't willing to help them get there Gone about your business, but here's the thing too If all the person got to lose his weight That that's that's what all of us got to do all of us got to lose weight I'm sitting on here running my mouth every day and got to lose weight So if all the person has to lose his weight, then that should be the least of your worries Because I'm gonna tell you I'm gonna tell you as a man a man who's super fit and He and he of age like it's no longer genetics is his work ethic a Lot of times they have something wrong with them Not every last one of them But a lot of men who you see all super fit is something wrong with them Because it just don't make sense It don't make sense to be working out that hard and to be all super fit If you ain't making money from it just to walk around like that You don't need all that you don't need all that you just need a bill of help. That's all you need so To be honest with you the men who are overweight. I can't speak for women I'm not a woman but the men who are overweight are typically the most genuine men They typically the nicest men They typically Like when you look at a football team the nicest guys on the team are not the skilled players the fit Chiseled Running back quarter by corner by wide receiver the nicest guys on the football team And I play football my whole life and in college is always the offense alignment They always the nicest guys. I mean like just big teddy bears Just the nicest guys you ever want to meet and yeah, they could get down the dirt on that field, but it's just The disposition that having that excess weight puts a man in it makes him Impact that makes him see the world differently He feels people's pain because of the way the world looks at him as if he's less than and so he feels people pain and He's more Sensitive and genuine and open-minded and open-hearted big-hearted. And so a lot of times If if you can have Influencing a man's life and the one thing that you're gonna be influencing him is eating better and working out with you That's the problem. You want to have you much rather have that problem than having to change his whole character and his Situations in the dark with Angela and all of that. I was dating a guy for four months. No Sleeping together only dates conversations and fun We got into an argument about me wanting to get in a pool game with other guys He became upset and now wants to be friends. Why? That's a red flag I mean just metal and men are very territorial we I admit men are very territorial the the the one thing that I don't see often is White men are not as territorial as black men and I'm sure it's a lot of reasons that go into that but as black men I've never really seen a black man. That's not territorial But white guys it is the most interesting thing like they'll let their wife or their girlfriend grind Like twerk on their friend They daddy their brother Like when you hang around white people like all everybody be in everybody face Like if I'm around white people sometimes I feel uncomfortable how close the white woman is in my face But they just different they just different with just I don't know if just a confidence from owning the country And that that could play into it just having confidence and just feeling like this is my home I own this so why am I insecure? Why am I worried but? With black men that is something but typically it should not be a thing before you're a real item but You know men won't they want me to themselves? So you have to think about that Sure on the God bless you sure on this as you're gonna jump in the VIP line Your thoughts on an absent father trying to re-enter your life after you have dealt with Abandoned issues and fully grown not mad at him, but he comments on all my posts and it's embarrassing Hmm Talk to him, you know if you call him and talk to him in real life in person He might not comment on all your posts, but that come with age So, you know or sometimes sure on sure under your age You'll show your age in certain situations certain scenario certain areas and somebody younger than you might look and be like Ronda really acting on age now and I hear my wife and people say that all the time about they mama commenting on their posts Me I'm the type of person I tell my mama hey mama don't be a comment on my post I don't want nobody to know who you is where you at because if they want to do something to me They get a man get mad at me and he know you now he can stalk you now you put yourself in harm's way I let my mama know and so Some people can't do that though. They don't they don't want to say that to their parent and He just trying to he don't want to go to a grave with that on his conscience Make sure y'all put the hashtag cue in front of your question Talking to a guy in the Air Force now y'all realize I'm missing a lot of questions cuz so many coming in now It's a group of people on here. So I'll just catch the one that come right in So if you try to time my answer when I'm about done then just copy and paste your question Talking to a guy in the Air Force. We don't talk daily though He reaches out by text every few days I'm confused if we should talk every day and I should be patient and wait till he comes home Well if he if he don't talk to you every day and he's in the Air Force that mean that he come he on the ground a Lot because you just in the air for a little bit if he actually on the plane He could be in the air for in Air Force fixing computers or fixing the planes So if he's not a pilot Then he got time to talk to you every day and if he's not talking to you every day then that mean He preoccupied with other situations and that's not worth waiting on If you free and he hit you up Yeah, you know you could chat with him, but don't turn nobody away Don't don't be in the grocery store with your nose in the out thinking you got a man cuz you ain't got no man You only have a man when he asked you will you be his woman and he in touch with you every day a Man who's serious about you. He gonna be in touch with you every day Haven't spoken to my kids dad for two years now He has been making fake pages to get on my page only calling his kids on birthdays What should I do? He's in jail and have more than enough money to call You probably you need to get on my mentor dot life cuz see what y'all have to realize I really don't like speaking on stuff. I don't have experience in and I've never had a co-parent So I could throw a random opinion out there But I've never had a co-parent and I just don't know what it feels like as a man to be away from my kids and especially to be in jail away from my kids and then I also don't like speaking on criminals because If you do one crime, you'll do another and and he hear about me out here Speaking on his children and what you ought to do and it's on the world wide well Then he get out that he want to come find me blaming me for the reason he can't talk to his kid So some stuff like that that real deep stuff and you know life and death stuff. That's for one-on-one sessions for one-on-one sessions so go on my mentor dot life and On the filters you could select the filters and on the services select co-parenting and we got some co-parenting coaches on there That way you could go in-depth in because a lot of questions got to be answered and all of that So understand that and also understand the man in jail So sometimes a guy don't want his kids to see him like that and to hear from him like that like that hurts Like when I'm on the road, I don't reach out to my kids I don't talk to my kids when I'm on the road and really it's just for my mental health because if I talk to him I'm gonna be missing them and I'm not gonna be able to focus on my work So when I go on the road, I treat it like I'm going to war because I'm the the feel I work in I'm dealing with a lot of spiritual warfare. So I treat it like, you know, I'm in count I don't I don't reach out like that because It just it and now my my youngest my eight-year-old he got a phone for Christmas and now he facetiming me I'm like, oh man. He facetiming me and It's it bless my spirit though. I ain't noted a bless my spirit But for all these years, I never reach out. I only talk to they mama my wife How to overcome comparison online and in person when trying to elevate your life Work harder work harder and when you're doing what you know, you're supposed to do you really can't compare it nobody else You really don't feel the need to compare nobody else If you're not going to the gym and you're looking at somebody who they body is wet is right Then you're gonna compare you're gonna feel bad But if you went to the gym, then you're gonna be able to look at them and say, hey We're on the same thing if you're not working on your brand your business Building something you can't be fired from and you go and you see somebody who they build in something They can't be fired from Then you're gonna feel bad But if you working on yours when you see there's you gonna be like I see you and I'm a spot you too I see you and I'm and I'm coming to get you So when you focus on yourself and you checking your list off of what you need to get done today Did I read my Bible today? Did I pray today? Did I exercise today? Did I work on my business today? Did I talk to somebody I love today when you could check off? What you need to do that I journal today that I get seven hours of sleep that I drink half of my body weight in ounces of water When you could check that off then that's when comparison really is No longer a thief of your joy because you just so joyous in your progress Mr. G. I always reference back to your old videos when I'm going through things God bless you Any books of the Bible you recommend to grow as a man of God the book that changed my life is the book of Proverbs That book of Proverbs is something my daddy had me start reading that as a child I probably was in middle school and I could have been elementary But he would have me read a chapter and then write a summary on that chapter and the book of Proverbs is a book of wisdom and It really blessed my life because as a man and it's written You know by a man and really seemed like it's written for a man because in there It's telling you like listen stay away from these loose booty women like be carefully women who who got them fast talking lips and seductress and Tempest and you know a watch who you hang around watch who you stamping watch who you Investing in you know get on your grind you don't work. You don't eat study the ant like it's so many lessons in Proverbs Just about life that it really just changed your life Why wouldn't a man want to remain friends after a two-year romantic situation? And you seem to have genuine friendship and rapport Because of another woman like you can't make room He can't make room for another woman if he friends with a old lover like nobody wants to do that Nobody could do that and you can't make room for another man if you friends with him So if you his friend and you talk to a man and he see this man named pop up on your phone Oh, who is that and said? Oh, that's my friend. Okay. How long y'all been friends? Oh, okay, y'all ever dated Not really it was kind of like, you know how the other little play-play. So now you either got the lie And which is never good to start a relationship on a lie is never good the man cannot handle a woman lying a man will lose his complete wig ever won the lion and unfortunately So you starting to your new relationship off on a lie Or you living in a lie by hiding this man because you know He used to put that pole on you and now you got another man putting pole on you and the way soul ties work And the way the mind work this you could be sleeping with your husband and be picturing this other man and Filling this other man because you talking to him. So When you cut that out, you know, you got to go on about your business Got to go on about your business I'll do us new members send you a cash out. Oh God bless it. Um How you send a cash out? I'm not I don't know if you saying do it not work or it's um, it's my name which is I share puts it in the chat sometimes and You just have to spell my name, right? Tony Gaskins but I'm imagining Air nine did not get a cash out. So it does work And I appreciate y'all for thinking about me like that I don't put that out there but Shout out to the moderators who put it out there and So y'all know they do that on their own They I've never asked them to put that out there and we don't have a moderator meeting and say hey this how you run the chat like they They do what they do and that's why I'm playing praying blessings over their life How do you feel about child support? I'm mixed I have mixed feelings on child support Because on some sides I see where it's terrible and it's just you know government just using it to be able to punish men and keep men down because The man might be on hard times a man might not have a job a man You know might not be able to afford the payment that the judge decided that the man got to pay and Then the man loses his driver's license Which now if he get if he get caught driving he going to jail And he got do or got to do community service got to pay a fine So it's a lot that goes into it when I'm in favor of it It's when a guy does not want to do right. He don't want to help his kids he's not trying to help himself and That's those type of men deserve a city in prison and you really don't even have to sit in prison for not paying child support But a man who trying and he want to be there for his kids He want to take care of their needs and do what he can do then that's when I see it a little differently when Genuine hard times fall on him and then the system stick it to him because you got to realize With all the fines that men pay Trying to get out of that child support dad and get a license back the state be making a killer You know the state be making an absolute killer in a in a great corporate job But ready to go from building a coaching practice to buying into a franchise because I could sell it in the future Doing research, but would appreciate your thoughts. I Wouldn't get caught up in a franchise because The reason why they available is because They really make the owner of the franchise money It's really building their wealth versus your wealth a lot of restaurants Profit like 60 grand a year restaurant owning is The worst business to be in because it's just so volatile and it has a lot to do with the market you have no control Over it whereas your own business your coaching practice You're never going out of style. You're never going out of business You don't have any overhead and it's so many streams of income that could be created in your coaching practice That is not subject to market volatility Whereas a lot of people had a restaurant and then the pandemic happened and everybody went out of business Huge billion dollar companies went out of business That can happen every year that can happen anytime You know, they could pass a new and then you got all this food coming in and then it's a recall on your beef It's a recall on your chicken now. You just flush thousands down the toilet and then You know food good one day bad the next and it's really no really no real selling a franchise Like somebody could come in and kind of you know buy it from you But that money gonna be gone and then the people who sell a franchise It's a lot of times to invest in themselves to invest in I remember meeting a man who was given a McDonald's End up getting a second buying a second McDonald's Becoming a millionaire selling both McDonald's to become a life coach and a speaker and author And so at the end of the day, you're still gonna be desiring purpose Christina member, I never understood this may be a dumb question But why do couples who aren't married go all the way in and buy homes and property together, but will not get married It typically is the woman settling and it's the man not one Wanting to be locked in because he doesn't trust himself and he says that he doesn't believe in marriage Or he doesn't trust the government, but it's really he doesn't trust himself most men Struggle with the idea of being faithful to one woman for the rest of our lives And if a man cheats and that woman catches him cheating and she gets a divorce now He loses half of his net worth So a lot of guys try to convince a woman to just go through the motions and do everything a married couple does Without having without her having that legal backing without her having the government to back her up if he take a stupid pill Under 25 X came back. Do I go visit? Who buys the plane ticket? I really don't believe in going back to X's unless you feel like like this is your Husband or wife? I Don't believe in going back. So I really can't speak to that and if you a woman and he's a man then The man should buy the plane ticket and the man should come see you if you're going to see him He didn't come back. That's you going back. So if he come into you that he need to come to you especially if he the reason y'all broke up in the first place if Waiting on to marriage is it ever appropriate to do an overnight trip and Share a room or is it best to avoid that? Thank you for everything It is best to avoid that and I know you know that answer and you just wanted to be confirmed because That's like saying hey if I don't want to get burned. Should I stick my hand in the fire? and so You absolutely already knew the answer. So I'm just confirming for you. You should avoid that You wait to you all the way item And then if you do do an overnight trip Then you should have separate rooms if you're waiting until marriage because if you play with fire You will get burned and men very slick. What we'll do is a Taste that peach cobbler and he'll taste that peach cobbler and then once take that peach cobbler You all the way in now your body so relikes. You don't got so much Oxytocin dump in that blood screen. He just climbed right on up and everything ready And there you go. Next thing you'll be you'll go from waiting until marriage to conceiving and And be pregnant on that trip So you got to be very careful Watermen send their friends to contact you when you let the man go Just it's just the same tactic of when we were kids and we ask our mother Can we go somewhere in front of our friend? With the assumption or the hope that our mother will Be afraid to tell us no in front of a friend because she don't want to look me in front of the friend And it actually works my son today just pull a fast one on me and my wife may like he wanted to go to the Choir to see them saying at the at the school at the chapel He got on basketball shorts and a t-shirt going into the chapel And to get that time I always already over it ended vets so fast Can we go to Jeremiah's some on the ice cream shop? And it's like that's where you really want to go and that's probably what they said a let's meet up at Jeremiah's Saturday After the little thing but instead of saying hey, can we go to Jeremiah's this hey Can we go to this thing and so when he get home? I'ma tell him I'ma tell him about that I'm gonna say listen when you going out this house, you know where you're going and you know where you want to go So if you're going somewhere after you go somewhere Then you need to let me know before you leave so I can give you a yes Don't get out with your friend by yourself and then knowing that we gonna look like the party pooper if we say no So I'm gonna check them about that so he know give me the whole itinerary before you leave and that's all it is That's what a man bring his mama to call you his friends to call you because He knows that you might not want to look like a mean person or the bad person or the quitter in front of other people I want a relationship, but I'm pretty busy with school and will be for some years I honestly believe school will be easier with a spouse rather than casually dating your thoughts. You're right You is right and then and you could keep school a priority And just keep your just keep your eyes open, you know, I got I got two sister-in-laws who vary studious and Both of them One is still in school like still in she in residency and she got her full-fledged man and Not a other month. She had her man all through undergrad. There was kind of like friends She really ain't call them her man, but they was pretty much there and then when she went to law school still there Graduated law school and now they just got engaged You know, she and her third year as a lawyer and but she hadn't had the man all the way since probably freshman sophomore year of undergrad And so I say that to say you could do both The man just got to know where he fit in and that was the mistake that me and my wife made because It was a little different and I think that's why her sisters did it so well because they saw what happened with us We came in and we didn't have our priority straight So we fell into the bed and we fell in the love and that thing, you know we having a son and neither one of us had a degree and So we having a son and getting married with no degree. So the man just got to know where he fit in Broke it off with a guy who I found out had a as with at least two women over five years ago How long should you hold a person to their negative past? Seeds of it is typically always there Like once we don't been that guy and I was that guy in in relationships in college the seeds still there You could change but it's no different than Somebody like a it's no different than a drug addict coming off a drill It's still in there. He just has to make it a choice every single day And you got to look at what has he done if he say oh, I just woke up one day outside. I'm done with it and That's it Then it's like Okay, well, what are some stress punch you in your mouth what you gonna do? But if he say I got a counselor I Got a accountability partner I got a life coach. I don't wrote books about it I don't turn it into like a brand to help other people now. He got a lot in place. So for me, although I was trash Because of what I have going and what I have in place and the people that I'm helping that helps me That helps keep me on track. It don't mean that I can't get off track Don't mean that I don't have weekdays the way I'm stressed out and the web me and my wife We ain't seeing out of I like you gonna go through that year one year five year eight and so on So it's one of the things where you could get to know a man for who he is and just see if he has done the work to change Why am I so heartless after dealing with men and not ending up in a relationship It's easy for me to play with men's feelings and not actually have feelings for them. Why am I like this? Just cuz you operating from fear You're afraid to get hurt. You're afraid to fall in love You're afraid to be vulnerable because in the past you being vulnerable has gotten you hurt and technically the definition of Vulnerable means open for attack open to attack You're open for an attack on you. So you're afraid to be vulnerable because You don't know if you can handle another heartbreak So you'll rather be the victimizer than the victim That's all it is Somebody asked about the translation. I like the new living Translation I think it's oh This right here NLT. Yep new living That is what it stand for I like the NLT is more, you know playing English But I read all love I read in King James and I read in the another translation another translation I read in several translations just to see if how different it is How long should a woman wait for a man to ask her to be his girlfriend when dating I Used to say three months But that was like before social media was so prevalent and men had so many options right at their fingertips So now it's six months six months to be the deadline and I know some people try to say oh No, three months still need to be three months. Honestly If you his wife, he will ask you within three months But if he hasn't asked you within six months, it's still it's not the end of the world If you haven't asked you within four or five months like I would say give it the six months Give it that six months and and kind of see, you know how it goes Should a woman ever have to ask a man to Call her I get that people would rather text and call nowadays But I would rather for a man to call me or even FaceTime um You shouldn't have to but it's okay to say call me when you're free. I don't like texting and see what they do Sometimes a man may not You know a man may not Call you because he doesn't want to intrude. He don't want to be ignored. He don't want to be rejected So he made text. It's kind of like knocking Like I do not like when people call me without texting me I'm not a type of person to just answer my phone off a call like text me and say hey Can we set up a time to talk when do you have time to talk? so then I could put you on my calendar and Skeletal that in I do not like unannounced calls And so being that I don't like an unannounced call I don't call anybody Without texting them first and I pretty much text everybody I don't even like getting on the phone and so that's how some people are but if somebody tell me Hey, I want to let's get on the phone. Then I find the time Tony, do you feel that authentic white people who are Christians are a part of your tribe? I know my questions are not politically Correct, but I am curious. I mean, it's not an unpolitical correct It's not anything wrong with it Anybody who is in Christ is a part of my tribe even people who not in Christ a part of my tribe But what white people have to understand and look like you might be white is You got to get that hat the side of your face. So you don't look like Charles Manson on here See, I'm saying get your regular have-do So that way you ain't coming on here. It looked like they have covered up this eye So when I see you look like you're in a rock band and You know on here posing so and Then to what you got to realize is that my truth as a black man It's gonna make some white make white people feel uncomfortable at times But it also make black people feel uncomfortable at times because I just call it like I see it. I'm an umpire So you have to realize that when I talk about the racism the systemic racism the discrimination All of that is real All that is real and I don't make it up. I'm talking from real life So as long as you understand that your people if you white I don't know if you're white or not. You could be black, but as long as you understand that white people operate in A large part a lot of white people are still prejudice and still racist even the Christians Still prejudice and or races and that a lot of white people in slave black people in the name of the Bible Because the Bible have a scripture about You know slaves obeying your masters then as long as you understand that Then you are right It's long hair. That's all not Charles. I could take the truth. Okay Yeah, well son on there in the picture small now So it's just the way of the leg cross the look was to scare me Scared me and pull that back in the ponytail or let it hang on both sides. So I could really you know, see you but Yeah, that's scared me though But these pictures ill look really a con man Tony thank you for all you do blessing the gas and family. Appreciate you. Hey, God bless you And we got about six more minutes When I be talking on be breathing right I need to get a breathing coach I've been trying to take singing lessons to teach me how to breathe With my word so it helped me as a singer But I mean as a speaker But don't nobody want to give me no singing lessons. I'm like man. Y'all don't love what y'all do I especially if I'm getting paid I train and I if you want to do what I do and you gonna pay me You might be terrible, but I'm told for the feed my family That's good Rocky and I appreciate you being here and we need more people like your black and white across you know cross that line and go into the mother areas and You know be a positive light and representation and that's why I say all the time I shift the culture because I know the stereotypes of black people so I do the opposite Intentionally so that when this person of another race whether they whatever race Meet me. They no longer can say all black people this So when you come and you come with a good energy and a good spirit and good attitude and you can support somebody who? don't look like you and all of that then We can't say all white people like this or all white women like that We can't say that hi Tony after you've made a difficult decision To leave a five-year relationship. No ring. Why is it? That a man will all of a sudden want to do all the things you wanted during the relationship Because he finally realized your worth a lot of time. I have a quote that says If you want to keep a man, you got to be willing to lose a man And a lot of women understand that but what I mean is you have to show that man That you willing to walk away if he won't Love you and treat you the way you need to be treated in order to keep him But if he feel like that he don't have to marry you. He don't have to love you right He don't have to do right by you Then he's never going to elevate you to that next level So people often times sit down to listen when you stand up to walk away Christina God bless you jumping to the VIP line And let's win the recession right now So it used to be a lot more than my VIP line jumpers now But two or three I said, oh the recession is whoo the recession got people Got people pocketbook in a chokehold choking the life Pocketbook some of y'all be calling the bank line Guga What is Guga? $1.99 $2.99 good. That's fraud That is fraud and they're like, uh Ma'am, it's been coming out for the last 12 months What you mean a fraud just cuz you got this 35 dollar overdrive fee Google beyond man Google get Google what Google did is they because of black people They don't implement anything the way you could pay for the whole year up front or the whole six months They like listen, we know a lot of y'all ain't gonna have this $1.99 every month Just here you go pay it up front while you got the tax return Just take care your membership up front cuz we tired of dealing with your bank with your line Tom might you don't recognize that charge and now we got to be going through all these fees, but and They might take it back from me. I don't know. I don't see that kind of accounting Not into online dating but social media has become like it and lots of scams going down there What are your thoughts? You got to be careful. You've got to be careful and Christine I really don't like talking to answering questions people who ain't got no picture they face now I really want to be talking to the little doll Doll cute and all I really want to talk to no doll So for me, I like my social media to be real cuz you're looking at my real face ain't on here with no avatar So y'all gonna be on here asking questions y'all need to have a real face Okay, so Christina get your real face up. They're not get your real face up there You don't put your real face up there Then you ain't supposed to be on social media So you just have to be diligent and you got to have some rules in place So what I want you to do is get you some rules in place so that you say I'm not giving a man money That's a rule. Never give a man money. I'm not giving a man my address Never give a man your address if you're gonna be meeting men online get your back phone Get you a little side phone number so that they can't trace your actual number You just got the little messenger app where you messaging them through your Google voice number and it's not your actual number Because by our actual number a lot of people can find our home address They can find a lot out about us with that actual number so if you're gonna be meeting people online then get your little Google voice number and just have some numbers see the thing what a lot of women do is they go into Social media dating and online dating without any rules and they talk into a man and all they could hear is his voice and not his face They don't know if he got a voice changer out and it's really a woman and Sounding like a man. They don't know if the man looked like somebody to chewed up bubblegum and spit it out and then walked in it They don't know what the man looked like. They just hear a man voice Then FaceTime the man and then the next thing you know two months in and I remember talking to a educated woman educated you know Nice looking woman her body was not where she wanted it to be and so it caused some Insecurity and this I've heard this story countless times when a woman is not where she want to be and she start dating She dating with insecurity into the a we don't with the Q&A. I'm just wrapping up So y'all whole y'all question. We don't with Q&A. I'm just wrapping up and the woman is not where she want to be That's why I tell you work on your three bees your brain your brain your body She's not where she want to be and she start dating and so she feels insecure So she feels like oh, I need to do more to keep this man because he loving me with this foopa He loving me with the you know, breast touching my knees He loving me with the edges and I'm struggling with the edge of cuz I ain't got with sister Lisa and He loved me with this hill bad credit cuz I ain't got with so feel and so now She she start the field in secure About where she's what she does not have and she overcompensates and I remember women Telling me and I'm talking about one lady 90% of her savings another lady Gave a man six or seven thousand dollars within two weeks of knowing him So he could buy furniture for his new apartment But the thing about it is the relationship was like Idris Elba Dayton Tammy Tammy Faye Tammy, you know the the comedian lady It was like it wasn't they weren't that far apart, but it was like that I felt like that's how she felt She felt like he was such a catch That she wanted to show I got a bag to me and I'm coming to the table with something and I don't need no man I just want a man and I could do for you. I'm not no hand me down. No hand out Take care of me. No pic Misha I got my own and I could be a blessing to your life and that's never a woman's place You never should have to feel like that's your place to prove to a man That you could take care of him or that you could provide for him or that you could give him money And I feel like if women would take money and sex off the table Meaning any sexual act oral intercourse Fangering hand job Take all sexual acts off the table and take money off the table giving a man money and Giving a man money is also letting him use your car Let him stay at your place If a woman if women will require that men have to be independent Independent of her he got to take care all his own bills had his own place to stay and and not sleep y'all not sleeping together, but you're getting to know each other and you're building as Friends with romantic interest you it's a mutual understanding that you are attracted to one another romantically romantically but You are building on the foundation of friendship meaning you really get to know each other and You take everything else off the table Because we live in a society that women are so desperate and so gullible Gullible it just it made me throw up in my mouth Like the stuff some of the stuff I hear and reading my emails and here on coaching sessions I'll be ready to throw up it made me just want to break the phone I'll be ready to just break the phone and Honestly, you know it made me mad cuz I'm like man on my hill sacrificing on my hill living right doing the right thing And you know what I'm talking about You know what I'm talking about when you live in writing you doing the right thing and you see somebody who? Ain't living right and not doing the right thing and look like they get in the head I'm like I'm like here you wills got this hill money and You didn't gave this bomb $20,000 But now you coming to be a life coach you want to be a life coach and you asking me for a discount So so you coming to take food out my children mouth But giving all your money to this man But here I'm is providing the opportunity for you to make money and you want to discount for me But then want to get him alone No, don't come over here with no discount mouth over here. Nah You were doing other things with your mouth. Don't come over here asking for no discount And so listen to me Women got to take money off the table Take money off the table take sets off the table and that's when you gonna see a man for who who you for who he really is And the thing that women don't understand the thing that women don't understand that's so sad that's so despicable is So many women today don't believe that there are good men Every man can be a good man every man could be a good man But here's the thing even good people Become bad people when the bad is too easy to be gotten So understand what I'm just understand what I just said If you know you could be God fearing you could love the Lord But if you know you could sit down in tax season and you could tell a lie that you break hell And that you made 15,000 but your expenses was 12,000 or 18,000 And that to change your taxes the way you finna get an extra 3,000 or $5,000 back in your own your return on top of your child tax credit and whatever else Oh, you finna. Oh, you finna doctor them numbers You can know the Lord like your shoe size And you finna duck cuz I don't see you passed to sit down in our in that chair with a tax prepare and lie I'm seeing devout the Holy Ghost feel Tongue speaking Christian sit down and lie on them taxes But then we forget about that but then so we forget about how easy it is for us to sin and to do wrong and then so many women expect a man To have low hanging fruit dangling in his face and expect him to say no I'm too much of a man to grab this low hanging fruit I'm finna scrap up to the trunk of this tree and I'm finna climb up this whole tree and Ain't gonna eat no fruit or get no fruit till I get to the very top where the branch can't even hold me and I'm About to lose my life and I'm gonna pluck me off a piece of fruit at the very top just to prove to myself that I Could work hard for something Absolutely, not if you love if you love hanging fruit you finna get plucked You finna get plucked and you finna get stopped and you finna get stuffed And he finna take you for everything you got and it's so many women that get so mad Tony gaskins See, this is what I'm sick and tired All y'all want to do is tell the woman what she need to do You just want to tell why you don't tell the man That big just because I'm over here with a Brazilian wikes and I got this monkey in his face that he posted Peep that thing up and put it back in his pants and walk away if he planning to sleep with me and leave me Why you don't tell him that I don't care if he got blue balls that even if he got blue ball He posed to not sleep with me even though I'm on his bed spread eagle with this thing in his face And I'm like listen That don't make no sense. I'm telling you get off your bike Because if you own your bike He finna power drive you and there ain't nothing that I could tell no man With a harp dangling in his hand that he's going to hear he ain't gonna hear nothing from me If you ain't got the game if you don't know what game he playing he's not hearing me like I don't have no But Diana to get his man So he don't care what Tony gaskin got to say if you finna have That thing down there clapping He finna be down there I could sit on you to all day every day and Tell these men listen fellas keep your thing in your pants Do not try to sleep with this woman if this woman try to put that thing on you You you you taking you deal with them blue balls and you put that thing up and you go about your business That's why I don't do them kind of message because I am a man and I know me and I'm not finna be on here wasting my breath So the reason why I tell the woman is because the woman is the receiver The woman has the final say so the woman get on her bike So the woman get the yes or no It don't do me no good to tell the person who going to do the power driving don't do it Because he's gonna do it every time if it's available So I can't tell a man a But your butt and work hard for a woman and you climb to the top of that tree and you get that fruit And you ignore the low hanging fruit and you you risk your life getting to the top to get you some fruit I can't tell him that if it's fruit hanging right in his face So if you're gonna be all scantily clad and you swinging Your headlights in his face you got a head in between you You got a head in between your breath and you want to look all sex and you you don't think you met the Style and and you want to be twerking in the man face, but then want to tell my oh you can look but you can't touch But you want to be a temptress Ain't no I can't ain't nothing I could do to help you Ain't nothing I could do to help you but if I tell the woman a listen stay off your bike And I'll tell the man a if this woman if you feel like the one with your wife She worth the wait don't try to coerce a woman and talk her out of her morals and value So now if both people do their job She knows she ain't supposed to be on his bike and he know he's supposed to be coercing her into the bed Now we got a win-win situation But if I'm telling the man a don't try to coerce no woman into the bed and the woman just finna be a spread eagle Trying to be a temptress and this is this the thing On one hand a woman get mad that a man shoot game and asleep with her Just because she horny and she want to sleep with him She get mad that he'll sleep with her even though he gonna judge her for sleeping with him so fast so it's kind of like It's like going into a store with no cameras and saying because this story got no camera I'm finna steal but then get mad when Somebody seen us still and call the police and we get arrested so it's like It's so many women or jump in the bed If they think jumping in the bed gonna keep that man And then when they realize the man taking judge them for jumping in the bed, not a man Are you gonna judge me by having a one-night stand if you had a one-night stand? And he just like this. That's my prerogative. They're one of my tests and you feel the test That my prerogative. It's all fair and love and war. That's what he gonna tell itself That's what he gonna say. So you got to have your standards and you got to stand on what you stand on You can't say oh, I'm finna go come off this thing and hope this man Don't judge me for coming off this thing. No, he going to judge you. He's going. That's what humans do human gonna make a Assessment now it not literal sense of judge because he can't sentence you now He can sentence you with his absence and saying a you jumped in you jumped in the bed The only thing that calls a man to abstain is his love and reverence for God Or his love and reverence for that woman who is abstaining? That's the only thing that's the only thing and abstaining also mean abstaining from adultery abstaining from pornography and So did I'm gonna tell you me personally and this why I try to help women understand Now I said I'm doing our Q&A we passed the Q&A part now I was just a teaching part this one. I try to help women understand The reason why I abstain from adultery and that I'm not out here doing like buddy The other relationship coach that got caught cheating on his wife. Don't put a name in the chat I'm gonna do names if you don't know I'm talking about you don't know I'm talking about it Just get the analogy get understand the reason why I'm not out here doing what buddy was doing is because I fear God Because I know that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord. I Have received favor from the Lord in an abundant overflow that has blown my mind I Do not want to do anything. That's gonna cause God to remove his hand from my life So often a little right. That's why I don't watch pornography I don't want pornography because although my wife don't have to know Although my wife would not know because she don't check my phone My wife don't even have my passcode to my phone because I got a new passcode a new Reset on the phone. She ain't got a pass. She didn't even ask me for the passcode She didn't ask for the passcode. So I could be doing anything. I want to do on that phone She would not know and so guess what the reason why I'm watching pornography is because I know God see me God see me Because because of what I do in the dark I'm blessed in the light So I'm not feeling to change what I do in the dark because I don't want my light to change You hear what I'm telling you and so that's why I try to tell women. That's what I was saying on that video Well, I said a smoking woman ain't cute and then I said what a lot of women don't understand That love is a moral act So if you smoking as a woman, you only gonna attract men who gonna be cheaters You're not gonna attract no faithful man because a faithful man has to be extremely disciplined with the highest level of moral morals possible So if you a smoker You gonna attract only cheating men. Oh, I know somebody who's smoke and her man on cheek You don't live with them it take five minutes for a man to cheat I work in the group home and a man had a man had a wife and kids and was in the group home sleeping with The lady that worked at the group home put a rat on top of that washing machine in the larger room and was Yammer down and one of the clients caught them now his wife at the house thinking her man is an amazing man He work in the gray yard shift. He working overnight. He provide for this family And he had that job putting hard dangling on the woman who worked right out there It's easy to cheat. It's easy to cheat for a man So a lot of times women look at a man and they so you think this man who do lean is faithful On the way he faithful the thing don't get up But it's time still work and if he if he willing to put lean in his body He definitely wasn't the lick on something because he nasty Just point blank period. You think this man who do ecstasy is faithful. You think this man who's doing all this smoking is faithful It's like if he willing to risk his whole life Cut his life short the easiest thing for a man to do is is to have sex So whatever a man morals is out of whack That is a red flag on the risk assessment chart Because if he willing to do that he gonna be willing to do this The easiest thing it is for a man is stick his thing in some So if he willing to put some in his body that's gonna alter his chemistry alter his brain Ruin his life risk his life shorten his life. Then he definitely willing to put a hard pole on him a woman He definitely willing to lay that thing on somebody and it might not be a random woman It might not be a street walker It might be a Woman from his past a woman who? See him as him as and she won't him because he see she see he willing to settle down and get married So she just want him to settle down with her and she believe in his lies that his marriage on the rocks It is on the rock because he putting it on the rocks and she won't Him to replace his wife with her so she coming off that thing and he just used them And she don't know no better Because that's the other thing about women a lot of women who the other woman think they're gonna be the main woman and Don't realize that the other woman you was always the trash can you was always the trash can oh Then women say what on it my my man my ex left me for the other woman Yes, because he realized when you find out you wanna having it you got standards and he realized she a trash can And he realized he is trash So he want to put his trash in her can and that's why he it ain't that she won It's that a trash can got some trash point blank period art So you actually you actually won because you're not no trash can and you when you found out you got bite it bite it write it write it No limit soldier and now he realized that he realized. Oh, they want me ain't playing and So he go over there to the trash can because he get exposed for cheating and now He got to go through with it because he got to make it look real with the hopes that people will say oh well Him and you just weren't a fit and y'all got got together prematurely, but him and her is a fit That's why he go through with it but a man Cannot fully respect a woman who will sleep with him while he with another woman He can't respect them because if a woman Will sleep with a man while He is with another woman that woman don't respect herself Because that woman don't know if the woman he went got something that she could catch Don't know and so that's why men never respect the woman on the side Even if he leave and go get with him and and what I want me how to do is shift your mindset and be like, okay Good riddance good riddance. I still want but today. I was not today, but forever it's a quote that say God made women beautiful and foolish and Essentially what that's saying is what it's saying women are very Foolish when it comes to men and You got to find a happy medium. It don't do you no good to be foolish or angry You got to be at peace and be confident, but yet be strong so Don't feel like you got the hate men and you got to be nasty and crass and crude and rude in order to protect yourself a real Killer can look you in your eyes and smile Still stitch your throat So what I mean by that is is you need to be able to tell somebody that you finna leave them with a smile on your face You need to be able to tell somebody Don't try me like no basin Because there is a price to pay with a smile on your face You shouldn't have to yell and scream and cuss and get our rate to prove that you tough or that you strong You need to be able to look somebody in they face with a smile on your face with your peace joy and happiness And let them know that you are not to be played with and that's where you got to get to that happy medium And so I it's a it's a guy the other day. I think he a white guy He'll be writing me and the way he'd be writing me. I'll be reading it like Like he think I'm done like he talking down to me. Oh, yeah, I think you should just do this I think you should just do this. I think it's just a great deal I just think it's just a great idea. You just should do it. Just go ahead and do it Just go ahead and do it like ain't got no thought process like I can't think through nothing So I'll write them back and I'll tell them like listen. I Got a brain. I got three and a half million followers online I'm not finna just go jump and take my brain over here to this to this outlet to this network But and ain't no check attached to it because I'm bringing credibility today today situation So somebody getting paid and you need offer me no money So you must be getting the money and when I talk to him like that He get offended and so he wrote back the other day and yes This is professional relationship and you need to write me a little nicer and I wrote him back I say listen here. You talk to a black man from the streets and my words are my words I don't come from where you come from so I don't know how you used to being talked to but I'm not demeaning you And I'm not cussing at you Direct if you don't like that then give me a call and when I get on the call with them I talked to him just like that the same way and I talked to everybody just like that if whatever I say I'm direct and My son don't like it sometimes my wife don't like it sometimes my mama don't like it My sister don't like it don't nobody like it But I'm gonna tell you like it is is without raising my voice and without cussing But I'm gonna be direct because we play too many games in our world We play too many games and we too flip floppy and and me if the answers no the answers no and this is why the answers no Point blank period art But see we live in a society where I ask a man a question a bro Can you do this right here and he'll just ignore it because he's not man enough to say no I'm a tired person. I'm gonna tell you no and here go why and That's where we have to get to in our relationships. You got to get to the place the way you could say no and The answer is no That's that that's that the answer is no so as To the women Don't walk around With your tail tucked between your legs a scared afraid of men scared of men and feeling like you got a frown You got a mean mug and you got to be honest with you When you go into that space, that's actually what is Triggering these demons So when when the demon when that man walk up to you with that demon in him and he shoot his shot and you spazz on You go off because you feel like you got to show your fangs in order to protect yourself Instead of being able to tell him know with a smile. Oh, thank you so much. That's so nice But unfortunately, I'm Unavailable I'm I'm unavailable, but I really thank you for the compliment Know with a smile service with a smile know with a smile just like that right now So now you told him just like what it is It's gonna be hard for him and say oh you old stinking bee you thank you all of that but if you What no I'm good. I'm I'm I'm straight You all of that now that's poking the valve now that that insecurity he got he already insecure Now you just took a jet right into that insecurity the most dangerous Being on the face of this earth is an insecure man That is the most dangerous being on the face of this earth So you got to understand how to disarm him without putting yourself in harm's way So here's the and this what I mean by that and then and I ain't just saying this just what women do This is what we have to do as men too. So I'll be direct with a man But I'm gonna be direct still with respect. I ain't gonna call him out his name I ain't gonna talk down to him, but I'm gonna be direct with him. So I'm a little no a broad I really can't Speak at that event just because if I speak at that event if I speak at your event I got to speak at everybody event who I know on the same level as you and I really don't know you like that So it's a long list of people that I know just like you So if I speak at your event now I got to do that for everybody because I don't do favoritism and all of that and then he's oh Man, I get it. I get it, but if I would have said hey, bro You're peon man, and I don't really rock with peons like that, bro Cuz so please don't ever try me like that again in your life peon That's totally different Nah, that's totally different. So it's like for men approach a woman and what The nerdy man and you do all that listen if that man got a demon in them that could cost you your life but if you said No, thank you. Um, I Really appreciate that, but I'm actually not available But you know you you look like a great guy and I know your wife right around the corner Boom, you told him know the same way. So move with confidence move with confidence in your life Know what you know get the knowledge and set your rules set your rules set your boundaries and move with confidence because We we losing today Because men have been turned over a lot of men have been turned over to a reprobate mind men is worship in the devil Men is Giving in today lust Mean so many men today what I call porn babies and what that mean is they just to gave in to lust so much They don't lost they righteous mind. They don't even know how to act don't know how to act don't know how to carry themselves and and then The men are seen as the leaders The men seen as the head So women taking and priding themselves in submission so When you submit to a man Who ain't got no mission who don't know what he gone now? It's the blind leading the blind So when a woman who full seeing 2020 2015 vision Close her eyes and follow a man just because he got a thing swinging between his legs He gonna leave her right to destruction And that's why we lose it is men bumping their head and then women closing their eyes and following the man and bumping their head to instead of saying a Bro, you know bump your head Not yin. I said like that, but sir, you know, we're not there yet You know, I appreciate us going out on dates and us talking But we're not there yet with the butt grabbing and with the with the tongue and all the tongue kissing and all of that We're not there yet, but it's I'm enjoying getting to know you But we got so many women today. They see a man that then lost his mind Then took a stupid pill and they like You know, I'm understanding that a man's gonna be a man and that you know I'm okay with a man having other women and a man talking to other women just as long as he tells me That he's talking to other women just so that I know like and I can be like, okay. Well, let's wear protection And that's what women doing today. Well, you know, it's it's one of the things like if you cheat respectfully And I like I like now here go this lame man done grew up Then got one muscle Then got a job making like Tom out. He made 200,000 a year and now he want to get it rocks off and Now here go the women want to be taking care of so bad Just close their eyes and just get led right into a brick wall Now like come on now. Come on now Men need to have sense But if you see a man ain't got no sense, don't lose your sense right behind them like let him know like in In a roundabout way, uh, sir You're barking up the wrong tree. Uh, it really don't go down like that. Oh hell And then he was like, oh wow, okay. So so I'm wrong I'm wrong. Yeah, cheap respectfully. That was the latest said that Later said that on one of them podcasts where the women be sitting there giving each other bad advice. I'm gonna tell you something If you ever see a podcast with a group of women Just a group of women giving each other advice from relationship run And the same for the men if you see a podcast with just a group of men Giving each other a relationship right just run Especially if they not in nothing happy healthy and whole now they in some happy healthy and whole then okay okay, but I've seen some of these podcasts With all male or all female cast and then even ones with the male and female. It just ain't nobody got no sense Everybody is a heathen. Everybody is Just doing whatever whenever high level and they sitting there giving advice from destruction They giving advice from the pit They giving advice from the bottom of the barrel. They giving advice from a lost mindset They don't compromise their self-worth. They don't compromise their values and they sitting there giving advice And so yes, so what I like to do I like for a man to pee on me Yeah, there a golden shower And I'm like Keep that to yourself That man might be peeing on you with a urinary trach infection That bodily fluid, what if that man got something in that fluid And not a pee that on your skin And so now a woman to sit down and say that on the podcast. This is real now. I just read it later sitting on the podcast celebrity Celebrities sitting on us. She liked to get peed on I say what in the R. Kelly? Oh my goodness But see that's how the perversion work. They to see R. Kelly pee on that lady Now they're like, oh, they look like a good idea because R. Kelly could sing and lose her freak Because he would trap in the closet wearing that thing out And so now R. Kelly peeing on people. So now women so now they're like, oh, well, you know She she's sassy A woman should never call another woman sexy. That's why y'all getting in trouble Is y'all getting too far y'all letting that spirit start to take over y'all letting that spirit start to take over that spirit of lust And well when you starting to look at other women as sexy And gorgeous and beautiful and you starting to process it like that thinking that that's just that's fine Just because y'all a woman all just like you don't want to hear no man sitting there calling another man sexy A woman shouldn't be calling another woman sexy And then we sit here and we doing this and then So you see somebody who you think they got sex appeal You think they got somebody you you think the man wanted and she said she liked to get peed on So now a woman will go into her relationship Have you heard of a golden shower? Oh, I was just wondering if what you think about that you want to try that Child if you don't get out of here, you're gonna mess around and have a cataract in your eye Little piece of that pee flap up in that drip in that eye mess around to be blind How about a golden shower you finna have a dark shower? You ain't gonna be able to see nothing And so listen to me And i'm gonna tell y'all the truth That's not a good thing And and as a man we we We appreciate a woman who got some morals values and standards A good man and this is what women have to understand. It's two types of men grown boys and grown men It grown boys and it grown men Grown boys they open to anything they all grown boys today. They want a woman to shoot. They shot I seen a lady talking a lady telling another lady that She should have shot her shot To this man in the grocery store And here go this lady. She a pretty lady. She says she in the grocery store And she says she see this man. They make eye contact or whatever. Maybe they said hello And the man ain't say nothing Me looking at this lady The reason why that man didn't say nothing is because he got a girlfriend or a wife Because a man not finna see a lady who looked like that And get any kind of attention from her and not shoot his shot The reason why Because see sometimes i'm holding my phone sometimes i'm out and i'm holding my phone So if i'm holding my phone in my hand And a woman over here on this side of me she can't see my ring So i might look at her and i might see her and we might catch eyes I might be looking and and she looked right at me and we make eye contact And then she might look at me and and i could be her type And she might be sitting there wondering like man, why he don't why he ain't shooting the shot? That sister i'm married That one ain't shooting the shot and then sometimes i might be out and they ain't got no ring on I ain't got no ring on because i just come out the gym. I just come out the sauna Well, I just got feeling working and you got the ring on because because marriage ain't a ring Marriage is a covenant with god. So Not every man always gonna have a ring on and not every woman always gonna have a ring on sometimes My wife ain't got her ring on she got up. She was rushing. She made breakfast Her ring was sitting over the thing and she was running late. She out the house with no ring on Same thing happened with me sometimes. I always take mine off because they heavy They they real heavy and then from working out my hands start to kind of swell So I take it off before I work out And so a lot so women telling women a shoot your shot No, don't shoot your shot at no man Because a real man do not want no woman shooting her shot I'm here to tell you coming from a real man Who done been him who done had multiple and many women who done been a womanizer even a womanizing man A man who want to be married and faithful a real man sees himself as the head of the household the leader The one who gonna lead his family out of poverty into prosperity He gonna love his woman. He gonna respect his woman. He gonna hear her mind But that he is submitted and in surrenderance to god He hear from god and what god say do he tell his family just the word from the lord This is what we need to do and he want a woman that's going to respect him And be able to submit to him because he submitted to god See women submitting to men who have not submitted to god And that's where the word submission is becoming filthy and dirty Because women getting taken advantage of under the guise of submission But you submitting to a man who is not submitted See a submitted man gonna hear his woman He gonna hear her thoughts. He gonna hear her mind and he really gonna listen and he and he gonna see like, okay She's stronger than me in this area. She wiser than me in this area. Yeah, let's do that. Let's do that Submission is is a two-way street But see a lot of people don't realize and understand that And so now we got women telling women a shoot your shot And the only and then I seen a guy in the comments liked the comment Because and I'm like, come on now you send them here Doing all this talk about men need to heal and you send them here with all these muscles And you want a woman to highlight you? If I'm a single man and when I was a single man any time a woman Shot her shot. It don't matter how pretty she was. I thought up in my mouth I felt throw up in my mouth Because the woman is the prize. That's why the man got to pay dowry In africa. That's why the man got to get on one knee That's why the man got to go to her family and say can I have your daughter's hand in marriage? So what do it look like? the prize Coming from the finish line Up to the starting blocks and putting up and putting a gold medal on the neck Of the one who finna run the race before The gunman went off the man didn't even took no step and and the woman who? Holding the holding the trophy who holding the favor who holding the prize She gonna come from the finish line where he got to get to And come right up to the to the starting blocks and put a gold put a gold Medal on his neck Oh, I can I'm coming to you Because you look like how I like them I like what you got in your grocery cart. So I'm coming to you That's nasty That is disgusting. It just it's unattractive and it's and see women today And a lot of times I'm gonna tell you it'd be two type of women talking about shoot they shot a lot of time They'd be loose booty or they look like Just they mama love them and I'm like listen I understand your look ain't in style right now but don't get Don't get weird and well doing Keep the faith Because the tide will change your look will come in style But don't get desperate and go to shoot your shot at men Because your look ain't in style right now. They just wait your season You can't well summer clothes in the winter wait till your season to put your hot girl short song It's the winter right now. It's not your season when your season come Okay, you can let that little dark piece of meat under the booty hang out if you want to it's your season It's the summer. Okay, and so this one. So I see two type of women saying shoot your shot loose booty 901 loose booty 305 loose booty 3103 23 And then the lady who it is not her season And she huffing and puffing blowing the house down because she ready for a man And it's like listen, so if you don't sit your desperate behind down somewhere and get you some gatorade and quench that thirst I'd be ready to just throw up ball of gatorade at them old thirsty women Like even as a married man if a woman don't see my rain like not tip top. That's the wild wild west I'd be on tip top. I don't went on tip talking seen in my comments women saying are you married? Oh, we That I throw up off a comment. I throw up off the comment. I like And then the neither unfortunate thing and this way I want y'all to understand The unfortunate thing is with them forward comments. I ain't never seen a cute woman with a forward comment And what I'm just saying is when I say cute. I mean that Cute to me. She might be cute to somebody else I ain't never seen a cute woman with a forward comment And the ones who you you will say is cute You go to their page and they lose like uh, come on I Never seen no cute and classy woman with a forward comment. So if you Go to feeling like you need to be forward you need to look yourself in the mirror and say am I classy Am I classy? And the answer nine out of ten times is no, but we live in a society. I'm gonna tell you all the truth now We live in a society men don't want to hear the truth women don't want to hear the truth Men say talk to the women women say talk to the men and can't nobody handle the truth Can't nobody handle a honest observation? And that's what we got to get past so I'm gonna tell y'all a Don't get we're in well doing Don't get we're in well doing I'll be talking to women Don't I just waiting on my man Don't you wait a moment I ain't got I ain't got no but 200 more pound loot I'm just waiting on my I just got a little 200 more pound But I'm kind of like Lord I'm like Lord. I know I got a little 200 pound, but Still why can't meet my man rat nine? We get fit Totally skewed man. You know how long why don't want which but And why but like I said, I got a little 200 pound one even fruit right now And I'm like, uh, okay 80 pounds. Okay. I get it. I get it But that's a long way to go if you talking about me the husband rat nine Because that's two different type of men That two different type of men The man that could lift you up rat nine That ving rams Okay, the man that gonna be able to lift you up later In your season That's a whole another built kind of man So you need to pause and just just keep working. Just keep working. Just keep working on yourself And I have to tell the men the same thing Oh When my homeboy told me Oh big don't like big What you what you want me to get a big one if uh I'm like because you big you got weight on you. So I'm like if you're not attracted to weight What make you think the woman is going to be attracted to weight? Oh, you're trying to have me start a grease fire I was like, huh? You trying to have me start a grease fire I was like, what I'm like, hold on, bro. What you talking about? You like big don't go on top of big I'm like, well, why should big go on top of love? I'm like you climbing on that one. That one can't breathe I want to You think it feel good. No, she's running out of breath I'm like, you don't care that one a real being Oh, well, it's other positions. You ain't got to be ain't got to be right on top of I'm like, but bruh still though you still need to be able to see that thing You need to be able to look down there and see that thing before you start talking about you want you away It's not your season yet. Just keep doing the work Keep doing the work And we get too antsy we get too antsy we get too greedy and we want to have something before it's our time We got to keep doing the work And we're not ready yet We're not ready yet And then it's it's so many women. I'ma tell y'all listen ladies Don't don't get caught up in what the world doing Because it's so many ladies walking out here with four lips Be walking out here Hey, how you doing? I'm falling about to die so many ladies be going. Hey, how you doing? uh-huh Yeah, and if they ain't got no lips on Then it got me be like, hey, how you doing? Oh told I follow your line Yeah, I'll be seeing your line. I love your video I'll be a Oh my god Oh, what's wrong? You got a excuse me my bad. I say right now. I go to water Did lash out my eye Listen do not give in to what the world doing This is in god made you perfect and what you can't change in dr. Jim dr. G y g y m Then it ain't meant to be changed It ain't meant to be changed what you can't go and just do And yeah, you could get some. I like lashes. I like, you know lashes fine Uh Microblade eyebrows. Yeah, I get it. I get it. But you got to do things in moderation You got to do things in moderation because see listen it do not make sense If your ponytail look like this And then your lashes like this if you can have more hair On your eyelash then on your head That don't call the girl because god not gonna do you like that god not finna have You can have with a gold bird up here and then You're trying to pinch that ponytail back there that god ain't gonna do you like that that do not make sense So if I could look right here and I could see all scalp Don't have that ponytail to your booty Don't do that if and then how about you waiting on your husband you cannot have All this scout showing and then ponytail to your booty that them two don't don't go together that don't go together Just get just where you're low cut where you're low cut. You got to understand where you're at You got to understand where you're at. I remember seeing a guy And he probably looking for him a woman He had on $10 he had on Claire's $10 earrings And he was buying and he bought a $25,000 I stock Cartier watch At The a-rap jewelry store I watched them I said sir in my head. I said sir that don't go together You're not finna buy a $25,000 watch And have them $10 Claire's earrings in cloudy dirty jeans was dirty Shoes was dirty And he carrying a camera. He got a camera around his neck Hey, bro, somebody asked a bro. What you do? He said oh, I'm a photographer Boy if a boy Michelangelo ain't got enough money for that $25,000 boy. That's a PPP loan Man, if you don't get out of here with that PPP loan for the police take both of us But me standing here with you Man, come on now We're finna get raided with this PPP you in here with And so listen to me we have to know where we at For y'all singles that's out here dating you have to know where you at You got to know your season. You cannot get desperate. You cannot get weary in well doing You got nowhere yet and i'ma tell you Talk ladies talk to your sisters and just say no desperation. Stop being desperate Stop being desperate And because I I'm seeing a lot of ladies I'm seeing a lot of ladies led like this right here Got a leg like this right here And then got a booty cheek like this This don't even go together man Now this booty this not finna be your booty cheek and this your leg That don't go together So if you're not ready went to dr. Jim j im At least go to dr. G ym and start doing some squats Start doing some squats So that that leg Could fill up and come into that booty and it looked proportionate You can't be walking around on stilts and then have no basketball sitting back there that don't go together It don't go together And so this what i'm trying to say and and and we seeing men do the same thing Men walk around leg like this here And got all his chest and arms It's like sir if you don't go by a squat rack and just sit down do the squat But if we coming into a vain society Where everybody is so vain And we worried about what everybody else is doing and then we saying I won't love I won't love And we're not working on us You got to get in position Before you can receive What is for you? I'm telling you you got to get in position And i'm gonna tell y'all this right here sound It sounds facetious But this is what you got to understand men are visual creatures A holy man a man of god A faithful man Is visual creatures And I I talked to so many women That they don't need nothing else but a hundred squats a day I'll say sister the only thing you lacking in your life is 100 squats a day You got to get you got it. That's that's the last thing You got a degree you got the house you got the job But that man He gonna see your presentation your package before he see your personality You just missing a hundred squats a day That's it And the other thing it be I'll just be like sister you got to take off somebody else lashes You got on enough lashes for you and The 12 women with the oil And that's it That's it You got to take off everybody lashes you got all y'all lashes on just put gold when you go through your lashes you tell the last lady I want classic Single volume one to one All you need to do is enhance what god gave you don't go get three four women worth of lashes put on your eyes And I just be walking around through the airport just wondering How do these women think this look good? I'd be like man, you look like a horror movie Like you literally look like you got on a halloween costume And that is why you single as a dollar bill Because the man can't even look at you and have no quality conversation with them eyelashes I'm trying to tell you In the overdrawn lips like this and just put your lipstick right here You ain't have to have your lipstick way up here Trying to look like a Kardashian. You're gonna have a lipstick way down there Listen just put that lipstick right across your lips. That's it. If your lips look like a paper cut. That's how god made you God gave you thin lips. Be be fine with that Be fine with that and increase your conversation see the thing about it is We becoming somebody else and we missing our blessing We missing our blessing. That's why I came back to just being me. I'm country I'm country and this who I am When I was on here trying to talk like such and such and such and such Trying to sound all proper and sound all educated and all of that. I'm educated. I'm smart. I got plenty of sense But I'm country When I became me I got what for me. Listen You can't get what's for you if you're trying to look like somebody else I'm gonna tell you that right now. Hey, we're finna go in five minutes Five more minutes. We got five more minutes You can't get what's for you if you try to look like somebody else unless my phone go dead I don't like go dead before the five minutes up So understand what I'm telling you okay And just get into that position where you can love yourself and you keep working on you And you get the knowledge you need the three B's brain brand body Brain brand body get the knowledge Build something that you can't be fired from and then work on your body And you do that diligently I made the decision yesterday and it's gonna be so hard. I said Tony you got to get your body, right? Got to get your health, right? So it got to be non-negotiable that every day you get up and you go to the go into the gym And you do something no matter where your energy at you do something That thing gonna be hard except for my day off Hey money god bless you god bless you She said for the comedic relief. I ain't telling no jokes now. I wasn't telling no jokes. So if y'all Got your laugh. Hey that like they say Or imitate life. I want to tell them now joke. I'll be dead serious and I'm gonna ask y'all a question now What'll happen to me What will happen to me if I start going up to women? And I say listen sister You're a beautiful lady, but them lashes is Where you got no from right a oh no Sister listen sister listen google lash Tech near me or whatever the title is and find somebody with at least 4.8 stars and you go down I can't afford all of that Listen, sister. I'll pay for the first appointment. What y'all think will happen to me? Will I live will I live will I make with a with a with a women get mad with me? Now the women with the booty done and it just looking like It's it's it can't nothing be done. You can't say nothing about that. I can't say like In the same with the men who walk around And ain't working on themselves, but won't a dime piece they want this woman to look like God just finished chills on them And he looking like the bottom of somebody's shoe The same type of thing. I just wonder could I get away with it and just in love I ain't gonna say nothing to nobody like hurtful like a you look a absolute mess I ain't gonna say it like that. I'm gonna just kind of whisper and just be like listen I'm gonna just tell you as your brother who love you. I'm married. I ain't trying to haul at you But molasses is blocking your blessings And your eyesight. I know you can't see that good, but what you're also missing is your husband because of the molasses And that's and the thing about it is people Sit me down on the podcast and they say Tony. What is wrong with relationships? People just ain't what they need to be it ain't a lot of times It ain't all about character just how we packaging ourselves as men and women It just was was holding folk back The man with men wearing booty shorts with their back out And I'm like, how you how you gonna expect a woman To be ready for you to leave the household And you got on booty shorts with your back out as a man Got a slit going across your chest Got your nails painted Got on spikes on your shoes and Can't put now water cash in that pocket You got a your card can't even fit in that pocket without looking like you carrying a vcr because the pants is so tight So how is a woman finna entrust? her life and health and wellness and future in your hand When the pants is that tight And the shorts is that short Them shorts so short you let you you letting the world know you really ain't got nothing down now You really ain't because It's sundown now them short too short for that You're short too short for that And to be honest with you that it get down to the point to where it be that simple We could be a diamond in a brown bag And we could get by we could get by if we was cuba's arconia in a tiff in his box We got to work on us And when you work on you that's when things gonna change. I'ma listen listen to them I'm gonna tell you even in my marriage. I'm working on me I'm working on me. I'm working on my mentality my communication. I'm working on my mindset I'm working on providing better. I'm working on being a better husband being a better father Even married going on 16 years of marriage. I'm still working So hey god bless y'all. We just hit our time god bless y'all appreciate you Thank you to the moderators. Thank you to those who sent a blessing on y'all They didn't put the thing on all the videos now these super things So thank y'all when y'all do that super things. I see air nine then I really appreciate it and But the person who sent me a cash out God bless you it mean more than you know it really do it mean more than you know God bless y'all. We'll talk soon y'all watch this again tomorrow if you missed any of it Thank you moderators. Thank y'all. Bless y'all Thank you