 Okay, today we're gonna talk about is he love bombing or is he serious, okay? I'm sure you've heard the term love bombing and certainly many of you who are seeking a significant, as I always say, juicy, delicious, healthy, happy relationship. You want someone who is serious and we're gonna lean into that conversation today. So I wanna read to you what I've read from Google, okay, when you Google what is love bombing and this is the list of what love bombing is. Love bombing is an abuse tactic used to lure or keep someone in relationship. It often involves intense display of affection, admiration and grand gestures. Love bombing can happen at any relationship stage but is more common when two people first meet. While all this attention may seem flattering, it can be dangerously manipulative, okay? That's love bombing. Now I wanna read to you what serious love looks like and this again is something I read from Google, okay? It says, love is given without expectation, without anything in return, without manipulation of emotions or trying to control the other person. Real love respects each other's autonomy, each partner's autonomy and takes time and effort. It cannot be rushed or forced. It also requires respect and trust as its foundation, something love bombing can't provide. Did you hear that? Okay, real love respects each other's partner's autonomy. It takes time and effort. It cannot be rushed or forced. It also requires respect and trust as its foundation, something love bombing can't provide. So why is love bombing so attractive and why can some men love bomb and they are genuinely serious about a relationship and yet many of them have some sort of agenda? So I wanna differentiate between those guys who have an agenda versus the guys who are excited. You see, agenda means they want something from you. In fact, they push for physical intimacy rather quickly. They want something for themselves. So the minute you establish a boundary, the minute you establish some sort of request, they're not listening to your request because the love bomber only cares about their own needs, okay? Someone who's serious, not certainly cares about his own needs, but he also cares about your needs as well. In other words, your need for safety, your need for trust, your need for connection. See, then they made me think, well, why do women fall for love bombers? Why is it that so many women can fall for a love bomber? And I wrote this down. I said the need and desire for companionship, connection and sex overrides logic. But I also go on to say the need and desire for connection can override patience and trust building. Let me repeat that. The need for companionship, connection and sex overrides logic and the need and desire for connection can override building for patience and trust building. See, I think guys operate from this overwhelming sense for the need for connection, companionship and sex. They'll override any logic or any real protective nature they might have for another human being. And the woman is receptive to this love bombing experience because her need for desire and connection is being overriding her need for her, her, what's the word? Her, what's the word I'm thinking of? Well, her boundary of patience and building trust. Let's call it that way. We'll call it a boundary. But I wanna really lean into the difference between those guys who are serious that might get excited. See, I've noticed that when I like someone, I get rather excited and it could be mirroring love bombing. It could mirror love bombing because in your enthusiasm, in fact, I was reading a quote. Does anyone remember this from the wedding crashers? This quote that said, oh, here, let me pull this up. It says, true love is your soul's recognition of its counterpart in another. True love is your soul's recognition of its counterpart in another. And I think when we feel excited, we feel like we've encountered our counterpart, we can get overly excited. See, the difference though with a man who's serious is he operates with this one fundamental principle involved. I'm gonna repeat that. He operates with this one fundamental principle for his makeup of who he is and that's his character. See, a man of character shows up completely different. He might be overly excited, but his character says the following. See character, I wrote this, by the way, I have my list of notes here. Character is about being an emotional grownup when dating. Their actions match their words consistently. So he doesn't say something like, hey, I'd like to come over your house and let's just talk on a first date and then try to have physical intimacy with you. If he says he's going to be respecting of your boundaries, he actually respects your boundaries. A man of character is both generous and kind. They're generous and kind with their affections. They're generous and kind in treating. They're generous and kind with opening the car door or walking on the outside of the street. They're generous and kind as part of their nature. And by the way, when I talk about character, I don't singularly mean man. I mean, women as well are generous and kind. Your actions match your words. Men who are serious, they communicate clearly without having to be right. In other words, they've genuinely listened to you and your needs, wants and desires in addition to their own needs, wants and desires. They don't use people. They are clear about commitment. This is kind of tricky because when someone's in a love bombing, they might profess the world to you. They might profess the future with you. But it's not just a professing of it. They actually follow it up with their actions and they genuinely want commitment. So again, those men that lead with, I'm not looking for anything serious. I just want something casual. Let's take it slow. See men who are serious, they'd lead with I want a serious relationship. Men of good character, they have their act together. They have their act together, both emotionally, physically. They have self-control. They don't need to be physically intimate with you on the first, second or third date. They're not driven by their penis. Their excitement might be driven by their penis, but men of character, men who are serious are able to put that at bay because they have a level of self-control in their life. This includes alcohol. This includes the use of drugs. This is the use of overworking can be an addiction for some people. Excuse my slurping. There's a level of self-control, particularly like I said, alcohol, partying, drugs, that sort of thing. They have healed from their past relationships. Oh my gosh, they're not going on and on and on about some past relationship. Did I just smack my mouth? Someone's complained that I smack my lips, okay? I didn't realize I do that, but I guess I do that at times. People that are serious have healed from their past relationships. They're not hung up on their past relationships. They've done introspective work. They are introspective. They work on themselves. They grow beyond their limitations. They might be in therapy. They might be working with a coach. They might be active in personal development, spiritual work, self-help work. They might have read my book. What the heck is self-love anyway? A journey of personal development, self-help, spiritual work. Link below to get a copy of my book under Jonathan recommend books. They've worked on their wounds and their traumas. They recognize that their past experiences are a reflection of their own behavior and they've done some work to heal it. They are protective and they're empathetic, meaning they care about your feelings. So when you establish a boundary, they clearly respect that boundary. And lastly, they believe demonstrating trust is paramount in their life. Trust is paramount. And trust isn't just about fidelity. Trust is, is your feelings matter to me as much as my feelings matter to me? And if a person hasn't done that, if he's not actively working on that in the early stages and it's all a lot of rhetoric, it's a lot of hyperbole, is that what it is? There's a lot of, it's very fluorescent, if you will. In other words, a lot of telling you how wonderful you are, telling you how amazing this relationship, this connection is that nothing like anything else and there's no meat and potatoes to it than the chances are he's in it for himself versus the men who are genuinely serious. And the men who are genuinely serious operate with a sense of character like I just outlined in the last few minutes. Is this sinking in? 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And our goal tonight is $50 for the Connor Asley scholarship fund. So let's collect some money tonight. DeSondra's in the house. Can't limerence be a form of addiction to an extent? You know, limerence, by the way, if you're not familiar with the term limerence, it's extreme infatuation. What's the question again? You know, can it be a form of addiction? I think most humans are suffering on the inside. Men and women alike of, I'm not good enough. I'm not lovable, I'm not likable. It's some of the core wounds both men and women experience. And I think the minute we have an affinity for another person that many of us have been in the desert without any water, might feel like you're in a desert without any water. So the minute you're enthusiastic about someone, you almost feel like you have to covet this person so quickly because with these devices, there's always someone new trying to get this person's attention. So it's understandable that people might get overly exaggerated. Can it be addictive? I think, well, actually I went through a period where I was, I think I was addicted, I was a cereal dater. I was addicted to the new day high. And for over a year after my divorce, I went on one day after another, after another, I was addicted to the high. So yes, I do believe that people could experience that. I know I experienced that for a while. I have grown up from that experience and I don't need that high anymore. So yes, I do believe that is quite possible. So thank you for bringing that up, I appreciate it. All right, if you wanna join the hot seed, let's get someone brave tonight. Sharon Elizabeth's in the house. She says, love bombs that came my way this summer and fall were all three online texting only promises of love and marriage with concurrent requests for $5,000 each. My first and only experience with a catfish. Well, I'm sorry you experienced that. See, I'm a big proponent. Everyone following my rule called three, two, one, three. Okay, no more than three text message or email exchanges after you've connected from a dating site should lead to one or two phone calls. And after one or two phone calls, it should lead to one date and all in a three week period of time. That's my rule of thumb. Three, two, one, three. Three, two, one, three. Three text message exchanges leads to two phone, one or two phone calls leads to one date on a three week period of time. Does anyone agree with that methodology? But Jonathan, we're in long distance and that's all we have is text message. Folks, okay, if you're in a long distance dynamic immediately do a FaceTime with this person and immediately meet as soon as possible. This is, people are dragging these out for months, if not years, only to find out that two people are incompatible with one another. That is a big gigantic waste of time. Michelle was in the house. Why do so many men talk endlessly about themselves and other nonsense without showing any curiosity about their date or asking any questions as if they could be on a date by themselves? I think humans are rather myopic. I think they're myopic. I think they're also very self-centered. By the way, I've got on dates with women that are no different, Michelle. I'm telling you something. I've gone on dates with women who are exactly what you describe, okay? I think humans are rather self-centric. They're rather self-centered. I mean, myopic. I don't think, I think most humans don't know how to really connect with another human being. While this isn't the perfect book, you may wanna check out the book by Malcolm Gladwell called Talking to Strangers. I think we humans don't do a really good job understanding how to really communicate with a stranger. It's very rare that, you know, it's interesting. I recently connected with a woman. It's not romantic, but through a workshop, we've just kinda hit it off. And we just have an affinity for one another. We just easily can talk to one another. But what we both have is a mutual curiosity about the other person. Because I think both of us have done enough personal development, self-help, and spiritual work to actually care about other human beings. I think a lot of humans are so caught up in their own world that they almost are incapable of leaning into a deeper conversation with someone. So why does this happen? I think the why, and by the way, most because every most human beings are deeply wounded and they have a heel past their wounds. And Michelle, it is an equal number of women to the equal number of men, okay? I'm gonna tell you something. As a male that's been out in the dating realm, you women are no picnic either, okay? All right, there I said it, you're no picnic. Okay, Nancy says, what is the difference between love bombing and that infatuation? Don't new relationship always involve that? The difference between, is the difference between excitement and agenda. A love bomber has an agenda. They want you to fall in love with them right away. They typically want physical intimacy with you right away. They want something from you. You can feel it, ladies. You can feel the energy, but if you're deficient, if you have a strong need and desire for connection, it will override your logic buttons of patience and building trust. So you have to take responsibility. You know, if a man is pushing too hard, there's an old saying, men are the gas, women are the brakes. If you're not putting on the brakes and you have to take ownership on your part, but yes, I'm gonna say it's not, men shouldn't be absolved of bad behavior, but you have every right to put on the brakes, okay? All right. Michelle goes on to say, mutual curiosity is so awesome and refreshing. I agree. I wish more women were curious. Okay, KT says, how do you overlook physical attraction if a guy has all other qualities you're looking for and is it possible to develop that chemistry? He said, I really like you and I couldn't answer. You know, I have a client, a client who just finished my six week boot camp. By the way, if you need some support from me, check out the link for a discovery call to see if working with a coach is right for you. Now, she met a man through a dating app. Oh, by the way, she finished, by the way, she's in a full-blown relationship right now. She just finished the boot camp four months ago. And she's five foot seven and he's five foot seven, okay? So off the bat, she was a little reluctant to go out with him, but she met him. She thought he was physically attractive and they had great connection when they met. And she's like, it's five, seven, that big of a deal for her. And she said, no, he's a great guy. Great guys feel like they're in short supply. So I don't need to be holding out for, you know, the Marlboro man when I've got this great guy who happens to be my height, okay? She didn't allow her ego to get in the way of blocking what she wants, but there was a strong energetic connection between the two of them. And she thought he was handsome. I do believe you have to believe that the guy is attractive to you. Doesn't matter, you know, he could look like, he could be five foot one chubby and balding, okay? But if he's attractive to you and there's energetic connection between the two of you, then I would say pursue it. If they check all the boxes and that if the energetic connection isn't there and you're not attracted to them, I don't think you can force it. I don't think we can force chemistry. It's either, there's either an energetic connection when you first meet or not. That's just my opinion. I appreciate the partial answer, but isn't infatuation just part of love bombing? I, you know, again, I think the difference between love bombing is that there's an agenda on their part. Infatuation is just an enthusiasm on their part, okay? But ultimately it's how their actions align not. The love bomber doesn't respect your boundaries. A person who's genuinely serious and infatu or maybe enthusiastic respects your boundaries. I think that's the big difference. Katie says, thank you, Jonathan. Well, you're quite welcome. Lucky Star says, why people talk about themselves? Many are lonely and haven't had anyone to be interested in them. When they talk about themselves, they feel validated, very good point. We have a society that is thirsty, thirsty for connection, especially coming out of COVID. There are human beings thirsty for connection. So a lot of times they're just myopic. By the way, here, hey, Google, what does myopic mean? Definition of myopic, nearsighted. Oh, it's nearsighted. Okay, well, it's tunnel vision, okay? Myopic tunnel vision, okay? I thought there was gonna be a deeper understanding of that. So, all right. Ruth, a man don't wanna talk to no one else and in long relationship is a bad idea to meet. I think he got trust issues. It's not good long-term. I don't see the question there, but it sounds like you answered it for yourself. So thank you. Jack says, my boyfriend is still love bombing me and now we've been living together for three years now. Well, good for you. By the way, do you enjoy it? Jack, do you enjoy the love bombing? Does it feel good? Do you love bomb each other? I'm kind of curious. Why don't you tell us some more? I find out when they talk too much, it doesn't last. I listen and take care of, I see it all as red flags. Yes, I could see how you could see those as red flags. Who wants to join me on the hot seat tonight? Click that link right there. Group, okay. Oh, Michelle's back in the house. So what do we do with those self-talking men? I give them three dates and I'm out. You know what? I think we gotta call people out on their shit. I'm serious. Just say, look, you know what? I'm gonna be candid with you. I'm not enjoying our time together. It seems that you own, by the way, folks, I am so sincere what I'm about to say right now. I think we need to call people out on their shit. Just say, hey, look, I really didn't enjoy our time together. You seem to only talk about yourself and you didn't ask any questions of me. And I didn't feel like you were interested in me. And then you shut up. Excuse my term when I say shut up. You be silent and hear what they have to say. I think we, you know, if you have a first date and the person only talks about themselves, it's not a, by the way, okay, folks, if you're not familiar with the meme that I share frequently, let me pull this meme, okay? This is the kind of first date that I like, okay? I wanna read this to you. I hate small talk. I wanna talk about Adam's death, alien sex, magic, intellect, the meaning of life, far away galaxies, the music that makes you feel different, memories, the lies you've told, your flaws, your favorite scent, your childhood, what keeps you up at night, your insecurity and fears. I like people with depth who speak with emotion from a twisted mind. I don't wanna know what's up. Folks, if you've had an engaging conversation with someone, whether you're talking, okay, I want you to think about this. Someone write this down in the chat box, talking to someone or talking with someone, talking to someone, talking with someone. When you're talking to someone, it's just you're just, you're talking to a wall. You're talking to a blank wall. By the way, I can see myself, so I feel like I'm talking to myself, okay? When you're talking to someone, you're talking to a blank wall. When you're talking with someone, you're engaging with them. It's a mutual exchange. It's an exchange of ideas. It's exchange of curiosity and it's exchange of experiences. It's an exchange. It's like a seesaw. It's like a jigsaw puzzle. It's like a ping pong table. Talking at someone is taking spaghetti and throwing it up against the wall and see if it sticks. And that's what a lot of people do. A lot of humans unfortunately only know how to talk to people because all they care about is themselves. And so when this happens, I say, call that motherfucker out and say, dude, let me be honest with you. I was really didn't like our conversation. All you did to talk about yourself and see how they respond. Who's willing to do that? Let me know. If you are willing to do it, say, yes, Jonathan, I'm willing to call someone out next time. Elizabeth's in the house and she says, is it a good idea to invite a few guys? I've met on an app. Invite a few guys but not in person to my open house party, single woman, single. You know what I miss? Okay, my first year out of my divorce, I didn't go on, sometimes I didn't go on dates. I sometimes said, hey, I'm gonna be at such and such bar with a couple of my guy friends. Why don't you bring a couple of your girlfriends and we meet up? As a way, it wasn't a date. It was a meeting. And I've invited, Elizabeth, I've invited people, I've met a couple of women in the past that I invited them to a party where I knew there would be single men, single women, and as a way of connecting. I think it's a great idea. I think we need to throw out the expectation of a date and go back to a little bit more informal way of connecting with people without all the pretense of a date. How about we just meet in this environment with a group of people and if we hit it off great, if we don't, we just got our friends to hang out with. I think that's a better way of approaching it. Elizabeth, tell me what you think, okay? Regarding calling them out, I would just say, how come you talk about yourself so much? I would preface that, I wouldn't preface. I disagree. I would say, you know what? I'm feeling, I'm be candid with you. I don't like our conversation. It seems that you're talking mostly about yourself. So rather than make it as an accusation, how come you're talking about yourself, you go in and saying, I don't like this conversation because it seems all you're doing is talking about yourself. Do it as a question, but not in an accusatory way as an actual inquisitive way or how you felt about the experience, okay? That would be my suggestion. Brandy wants to know what the hot seat is. This is your chance to be live with me right now. We've got a few minutes left before we're gonna end tonight. You could actually click that link and join me live. Renee says, I love the idea of just meeting low stakes and fun. I agree. I think we need to go back to a less formal way of connecting with people. And that takes all the angst out, who pays, who doesn't pay, all this kind of stuff. It's men's job to do this because I'm supposed to sit back in my feminine energy and he's supposed to do all the work because that's what I've been told works. And yet most people are so fucking miserable and the divorce rate is 65 to 75%. I have no idea what to do anymore. Okay, we've got Rosa in the house. Are you ready for the hot seat? Hi, Johnathan. You're there. Are you up for some tough love? I'm just kidding. I am. All right, you're a little bit. Okay, so what do you wanna ask me? Seems like there's a delay. Can you hear me? So I'm 46 and nowadays, I can. Okay. You're 46 and nowadays. And nowadays, you can even get guys to look at you because they- Because what? Can you hear me? Yes, I can hear you. Okay, just keep talking. There's a delay, so I'll just keep talking. Okay. So you said you can't get guys to look at you. Finish the sentence. So I can't get right because they just stay on their phones, they're looking down. So they don't have a gym crush and I just can't get this one to look at. Okay, so you, okay, so let me understand. There's a man at the gym that you're interested in, is that correct? But he's on his phone, he's doing his workouts and that sort of thing, correct? Is that correct? Okay, why don't you walk up to him and say hi? Because I'm just as scared as you are. Okay, so then who do you blame here? I mean, not that there's blame here, but I mean, nothing, by the way, to the victor goes the spoils. I mean, if you want something in life, by the way, the fact that you have a crush on him simply means that you find him attractive and you're curious. So you can simply walk up to him and say, hey, my name is Rosa. What's your name? You're like, that's it. Let's start a conversation. Now, he could be married, he could be in a relationship, he could be, you know, he could be gay. I mean, there's a hundred things that could go on that might mean it's never gonna turn into anything. But just waiting for him to do something, then you're creating a story about what he's not doing and possibly making him, why do guys, you even started this conversation, why do guys afraid to walk up, you know, like, why are they this way? He's not anyway. You haven't done anything either. You there? Well, I'm just as delusional as most women. We don't want the guy to come up to us. Okay, well, that's called being single. Ha, ha, ha, ha. By the way, I was with some girlfriends, this is about a decade and a half ago, one woman threw an ice cube at a guy. He goes, what's going on here? She giggled, he walked over to her and they had a three year relationship just by throwing an ice cube. So maybe throw some, ask him to help you out with the weights. Why don't you say, hey, could you help spot me? Could you ask him a question and then be bold? Are you single? Go ahead. Well, what I've been doing is I've been showing my intentions by staring a little bit here. He could be in a relationship with someone, okay? And by the way, by the way, I remember once, this was some years ago, I was at a bar, this was St. Patrick's Day. And there was a woman at a table, like two tables over, she's looking at me, I'm looking at her, she's looking at me, I'm looking at her, she's looking at me, I'm looking at her, she's looking. This went on for two hours before I fucking had the balls to walk up to her, okay? And then I found out she was 20 years younger than me. I had no idea she was, well, not 20 years younger, she was substantially younger. And I'm like, you're probably gonna wanna make babies someday and she said, yes, and I said, have a nice life. I did this whole stupid dance because I was chicken shit too. So I'm waiting for the delay and then I'll start talking. Okay, you can talk, you can talk. The other problem is that us 40-year-old men over were also very different in how we looked at age, because we have 40-year-olds coming up to us, but I don't want the younger person, I want one my age. Yeah. So what's your question with that? So yeah, younger men approach you and does that create a false sense of attraction? I mean, do you think it creates a false sense of who you are as a person? I'm just, I'm not understanding what that question really entails. It does, it does because they want us, but in fact, they really don't, they just want others. So why don't, you know what? Okay, you have this guy at the gym, ask him to help you out with an exercise, ask him to spot something, ask him to ask him if he's single, okay? I know, and by the way, one woman says, most women are not delusional. Let me just put this, sorry, most women are not delusional. I happen to be one of them. I think most human beings are rather emotionally stunted at best, okay? And I think we have a lot of humans that are uncomfortable walking up to a stranger. So if you don't walk up to him, most likely nothing will happen. So the question becomes, to the victor go the spoils, make the effort, if nothing happens, then you can check this off your list and you can go find another guy at the gym to stare down. And I'm being silly when I say that. Hey, Rosa, it looks like our connection is four. So can I give you a big hug of appreciation and thank you for being on? Bye. Thanks a bunch. We appreciate it. Hey, everyone, I'm sorry. I guess the connection was a little bit poor. There was a delay, but that was fun to have her in the house. Listen, folks, listen. I said this a moment ago. Well, most of us are strangers to one another and many of us don't feel safe. You know, I feel uncomfortable walking up to a complete stranger who I know nothing about. Their backstory. I know nothing about who they are or what they want. I understand the same thing. The question is, she's the one who has the crush. So she can either do something about it or I would say she move on from it. Because if you have an unrequited dynamic going on, she's the only person suffering. He's not. And there's nothing wrong with him that he hasn't walked over to her. But as Rosa, please report back after you say hi to your gym guy. Yes, just walk up them say hi and then let us know what happens. All right, we talked about love bombing or is he serious? I thought I'd have a short conversation about this. Listen, we're swimming in a sea of uncertainty. We're swimming in a sea of dysfunctionality. We're swimming in a sea of human beings desiring connection but incapable of making commitment. It is a mess out there. I get it. And yet I went to a party last week for a couple who met from match.com three years ago. They were in their early 60s when they met. They fell in love and they got married. And I have story after story after story after story like that from both my personal friends and from my clients. The thing is it starts with the inner work yourself. It starts with getting clarity on who you are and what you want as a person. And then what I do is I come in and teach you vetting techniques so you can check out, put the odds in your favor. May the odds forever be in your favor, a little hunger games and check off the wrong people much sooner so you can invite the right people in much faster. Elizabeth says, Jonathan, I love your idea, Jonathan, of just making it fun. No pretenses just have fun in an organic way. Back to the good old days. Exactly, exactly. And Rosa, we really appreciate your bravery being on wait a minute, Rosa just popped in and she said, when you call in there, wait, when you call in there is a crazy delay. It's hard to listen because you hear Jonathan twice. It is like he talks over himself at your end but it was fun coming on. By the way, that's because you were probably had two devices going on at the same time. That's probably what was happening. All right, folks, you know what? I've got a webinar to do. By the way, folks, I've got a group called Midlife Love Mastery. Hold on, do I have a link to it right here? If you wanna join me live in about an hour from now, you can ask me questions directly. Join my VIP group called Midlife Love Mastery. You can go to my website, jonathanasley.com. Hit that group coaching button so you can join our fantastic group. We have a Facebook page where we interact on a regular basis and we have a once month webinar where you can get on the phone and talk to me directly. So check out the group called Midlife Love Mastery. All right. All right, folks, we're gonna wrap up today's broadcast. Like, oh, first off, if you found value, please post a comment below. I'd like to hear your thoughts. As always, if you find value, please hit that like button. 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