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Why is it so easy to feel stupid, to doubt ourselves or to feel insecure?
To be human is to have vulnerabilities. It’s almost second nature to compare ourselves to others, to see people as competition and to prove that we’re better.
It may not be conscious, which is why can feel like we’re very confident yet not sure why we’re unhappy. It is only we observe our own behaviour that we’ll see how we’re always trying to prove to ourselves that we’re good enough.
Every validation that we seek is linked to how badly we need proof to feel like we’re finally good enough.
This isn’t to say we shouldn’t be ambitious or strive to be better. Being driven is a wonderful thing, it’s being driven by stress and pressure that dilutes our life.
Wanting our family to be proud of us is a wonderful thing, but attaching our self-worth to what people think - even our family - only creates a cycle of mental stress.
Everyone wants to be happy. The question is, does having more validation really make us happier? Or does needing and pursuing validation just makes us compare ourselves more, stress more and ultimately become more unhappy?
If you don’t believe you’re good enough, if you think you’re stupid or if you feel insecure about yourself, it’s because you’re benchmarking yourself against an idea of how you should be.
This is why we compare ourselves against other people, why we measure ourselves by some standard and why we judge ourselves each time we “fail”.
It’s impossible for us to be the best at everything. Sometimes, we’re not as good as we want to be at something, and that’s okay. We can learn and we can grow. And we can acknowledge that even if we achieve everything, it won’t suddenly “make us good enough”.
To be human is already to be imperfect. No matter how much validation, recognition, respect or money we get, we won’t wake up one day and transform into a perfect human.
So stop comparing yourself, acknowledge your insecurities as part of being a vulnerable human and grow as a person but don’t live your life feeling like you’re not good enough. No one can judge you, if you don’t judge yourself. So learn to be happy, with yourself, always!