 Marie Kondo told me not to do these things and I did them anyway. Keep watching to find out what book I'm talking about today. I'm Kyla Denango and today we are talking all about tidying up, cleaning up, and getting your life together. So today's book that we're talking about is the life-changing magic of tidying up. The author of this book is Marie Kondo. The genre of the book is non-fiction. The theme of the book is cleanliness. I just made that up let's see. The theme of the book is housekeeping, home economics, okay? So if you're a little bit older like me you remember taking a homex class when you were in high school. We had to learn how to sew, we learned how to like make basic, basic recipes. Now when I started reading this book I was like I wasn't ready. I started reading it and then I was like I don't want to get rid of my stuff and I literally put the book down and stopped. I did because you're reading it and she goes through why is she so passionate about this, how at five years old she started cleaning up and tidying up and she just thought it was fascinating. I read this because Austin Cleon mentioned this in his book uh still like an artist and so I picked it up because whenever someone mentions a book in a book I pick it up and read it but that's an aside. All right so let's get into the most important lesson number one don't talk about it. Okay you know how in Fight Club the number one rule of Fight Club is we don't talk about Fight Club. Marie Kondo says you're gonna start cleaning, you're gonna start organizing, you're gonna tell people and they're gonna say but you love that shirt but you look so good oh don't toss that. So don't mention it and then the rest of the evening I'm like dang should I take that dress out? Man I really should have kept that. No don't tell people. Now I live in this house with my husband and my daughter so he saw me doing stuff and that was amazing and that leads us into point two which is does it spark joy? The entire basis of this book is that you are keeping things that spark joy. When I come down here to record and I see these signs on the wall it makes me happy. It sparks joy, it makes me want to be around, it makes me want to be in this room. That's the same way for your clothes but the big thing that does it spark joy for me was that you can't toss other people stuff. I live in this house with my husband and my toddler daughter so my husband saw me going through my winter clothes looking at things do I like this do I like that. I was tossing my daughter's clothes which was really hard. She is three years old and we've been talking about having another one but Kyla are you gonna keep these clothes for six years until you have another baby? That's silly because we had mountains of clothes all right. This is a clip of everything that we donated. It was literally 10 boxes of men's clothes women's clothes and baby clothes. So I needed to go through this stuff so I'm going through it I'm not touching my husband's stuff and he's watching me and he's like oh I'm never gonna wear those pants oh I'm never gonna do can you put this stuff in your pile with you right and Marie Kondo says that she says you cannot toss other people stuff for one because you don't know what sparks joy and for two they will see you and they will want to separate out their things and only keep things that spark joy for them when they're ready which backs up point number one which is don't tell people what you're doing just do it and either they'll be motivating and encouraging or it doesn't matter because they don't know what you're doing so the third most important thing that Marie Kondo says in this book you have to do the steps in order okay Marie Kondo talks about going through your clothes first and the first step of going through your clothes is getting all of them we have clothes in the basement in tubs we have clothes upstairs in our closet I have clothes and my daughter's little dresser and and so Marie Kondo says take the tags off your clothes let the clothes be welcome into your house and I was like oh because now you feel like they're inviting when it's time to wear them they're just ready love that as I'm tossing things on my daughter I'm thanking the clothes right you learned that in the book thank you for providing comfort for my daughter thank you for keeping us warm and there were some clothes that I I did thank and I still gave away and there were some things that I kept and we just put on teddy bears for my daughter this was so important that you go in order because the clothes are usually going to be the hardest thing for you to tackle because you have memories with your clothes oh through paperwork and then you go through old receipts and then you go through instruction manuals you're not going to look up the manual for how to use this camera Kyla you would just google it so why don't you toss it toss them let go of the clutter and it is life-changing magic it absolutely is you see here the book is not huge okay but I will tell you this don't pick it up if you're not ready this is not a book that you casually read and you're like that was interesting because the way that she writes is so it's so provoking it will make you get up and start looking at your stuff I understand the magic of this book because it was absolutely phenomenal and it will make you get up and get active all right so here's another video about being active being provoked which is all about radical confidence okay this book is all about what's it gonna take for you to get up and get that thing done that you always wanted to do including tidying up okay so take a look at this video and I'll see you there