 My husband is watching porn while having sex with me. We've been married for nine months, it was an arranged marriage. All these days I thought he was using his phone just to see the time but recently I found out that he's watching something as well and I feel very broken because he has never had sex with me without his phone in his hand and when I try and see what he's doing he either switches off his phone or he pushes my head away. I don't know what to do and I don't have the courage to say anything to him either. He's otherwise a very loving and caring husband but this is intolerable. Yes I agree it's absolutely intolerable. I think somebody just picking up the phone while you're having sex is bad enough but to watch porn while they're having sex with you is absolutely awful. So I do have a couple of suggestions for you. Best thing of course would be to suggest that you both leave your phones in another room while you're having sex but I understand that you may not be able to say this to him so if that doesn't work the next best thing is you know a lot of couples watch porn together as part of their foreplay. Maybe that's something that you could suggest to him. Maybe you could watch porn together as part of your foreplay before you start sex and if he does that that might stop him from wanting to do it while you're actually having sex. Or finally and this might just be the easiest thing in the long run for you to do change your position. Try a different position where either you can see both his hands or he has to use both his hands to hold you. I know that it's going to take a lot of courage for you to put any of these things into place but you know what your mental health is at stake over here and that is not worth jeopardizing for anyone or anything so find that courage inside yourself and put something into place fix this problem while you still have the strength to do it and before it destroys either you or your marriage.