 Have you ever thought, how do I kiss? Do I turn my head to the left or the right? So what do I do with my hands? Tongue or no tongue? When do I know she's ready to be kissed? Well, this is what we will be covering in this video. How to kiss and how to do it well. What we're going to break down is simple, easy, and basic. Show you how to be a good kisser and be remembered by it. As a woman, we love a good kiss. Believe me, we do. It is our gateway to intimacy and our connection to you. And we get our first sense of being sexual with you. First, let's cover some things that you probably shouldn't do when you're kissing someone. Sloppy, too much saliva. Not enough tongue. Don't be afraid to use it. Too much tongue. We're not trying to create a lake here. Hard lips. The sneak attack, you don't want to be that guy. The real answer here is that to be a good kisser means you like kissing the person in front of you. You enjoy it and you love that moment together. This means that all of the things above can work. You want to be a good kisser, you need to learn how to like it. You need to express that real you. And of course, you need to like the person you're kissing. This is what makes technique work. First, let's start with the main thing you need to know. You already have everything you need to be a good kisser. You're not missing anything. To be a good kisser has less to do with the particulars and details and more to do with the expression of you connecting your passion, your sex, and your moment that you're sharing with that person in front of you. Kissing is a representation of your sexual expression, your intimacy, and your emotions. There's no wrong or no right way to be who you are. The important thing is, you are who you are. What we're trying to show you will communicate that. First things first, if you're a guy and you want to know how to be better with women and how to have better sex, you have to be a good kisser. Women care about kissing so much, sometimes more than anything else physical. An amazing kiss can melt a woman or a man and send you into a sexual physical state. Kissing will send you into a sexual physical state. When do I know she's ready to be kissed? Here's something to look for, triangular gaze. What that means is when she goes from eye to eye to lips or even better, if she just gets lost watching your lips move when you're talking, it's time to stop talking and time to start kissing. Another thing you might keep in mind is if you're close in a situation and it starts to feel weird to talk and all you could think about is kissing the person that's in front of you, they're probably thinking the same thing. For better or for worse in our culture, men make the first move, but not really. If you're a woman and you feel like the time is right, pull them close and go in for the kiss. I know I did. The most important thing about the kiss is the meaning behind it, take it slow. You need to sync up with your partner. There's no need to get too excited and go in for the kill, use too much pressure, use too much tongue or make some sort of statement. What you want to do is be on the safe side, take things slow, sync up with her, feel her. You're actually creating a language together. Kissing is the fine balance. So stop thinking about it so much and start doing it. If you don't kiss when the time is right, you kill the moment and if you push the moment, it turns women off. If this is your first time or you haven't kissed anybody in a while, don't think too hard about this first step. Once you get to the point that you get to start kissing, that's when you get to explore these things. So feel your partner. Make sure you're feeling her and that she is feeling you. Get this part right and good sex will follow. We have a video on that too. Eyes open, eyes closed, tongue no tongue, wet, dry. In fact, there's no right way, there's no wrong way when it comes to kissing, when it comes to sex, or when it comes to any acts of affection. Here is what I do. I just learn my own language through my own experience. So build your own experience and start doing it. Oh yeah, one last thing. We'll dig deeper into this later when we get into sexual escalation, but you want to kiss someone the way that you would make love to them. Always remember that respect is key. You want to dial in and sync up. If the other person can sense that you're being selfish, most likely things won't go any further. It's important to try and read the person you're kissing. I'm Steve. I am Maria. I'm Caroline. And we are all coaches for the sexual life. We made this video specifically for the 21 Convention. Thank you guys for watching. If you're interested in our workshops, our online program, TSL Online, and working with many of the speakers at the 21 Convention on our workshops, go to the21convention.com slash coaching, fill out the little form, type in Steve Maido or you're interested in TSL, but get on the phone with John who knows everything about our programs. He's attended them and could tell you all about it. TSL is a true community. Join us. We have workshops where we teach hundreds of techniques on rapport, sexual escalation, and just how to be a better man. You work directly with women, with us, and with the best coaches in the world. Come spend five days with us in Austin, Los Angeles, San Diego, or Hawaii, and you'll get to learn how to do this. Besides, we love making these videos. Why? Because it helps the world have better sex. And it empowers men and women. Be social. Be sexual. And live life.