 Hello everyone, welcome again to another Narc Survival Live video. This one is aimed primarily at women, but men are welcome as well. I'm sure the men on my channel will relate to what I'm about to say in this one as well. I've got a lot of good men on the channel who sadly have been manipulated, used and abused by narcissists as well. But yeah, as I said, this one is aimed primarily at my female viewers. And we're going to be talking about when the narcissist realises that queens deserve more. Now let's get straight into it. What am I talking about when I say that queens deserve more? Of course, I'm not talking financially. I mean, there's much more to a man than that. And this is coming from someone who became a millionaire by the age of 33. I mean, I don't think any woman should really demand or expect to be with a 33-year-old YouTube star, millionaire. I mean, of course that is quite unrealistic. And it shouldn't always be about superficial things. I mean, don't get me wrong, I understand. You do want a man who has a good job, they have stability or at the very least they've got a lot of potential. And you know for sure that they're going somewhere. And not only that, I think it's fair to desire a man who looks good. Yes, I would say there's nothing wrong in desiring that at all. I mean, it's not always about the genetics. It's a man who takes care of himself. He makes an effort on his physical appearance. But what I'm talking about more than anything else is the narcissist's character and how they treat not only you but other people as well. And this is really the thing, because when the narcissist will realise that you deserve more, that is when you finally decide to walk away. And I'm sure many of you may have realised that already. Because just look at how they're behaving while you're around. And it's the saddest thing, I mean, I'm sure you've all seen it yourself. How narcissistic men, they flaunt their wives or girlfriends. Like they're these trophies, these prized possessions. As though they're like the greatest thing that they've ever achieved in their lives. And with no disrespect to any women who are watching this. Is that really what you want? You want a man who... All they really have to show for in their life is you. And nothing more. Like their entire world, their entire life revolves around you. Is that really what you want? Or do you want a man who is on his grind, he's on his purpose? He's working hard every day on something that he's passionate about. Something that means something to him. Instead of everything just revolving around you and just showing you off like you're this prized possession. This fashion accessory. I mean, seriously, you are worth more than that. You deserve to be valued and respected. Not just on a superficial level. Just as I said for us men, the same goes for women as well. There is so much more to you than your physical appearance. There's so much more to you than that. What about your character, your personality? Because I'm sure many of you have spent many years working on yourself. To become the woman that you are today. You've had certain experiences. You've developed certain qualities and abilities. Maybe you've got a good job, you've worked hard. These things should be admired, respected and encouraged. They should not be overlooked and you should not be talked down and made to feel like you're less than who you actually are. That's not to say that a man should put you on a pedestal and worship you. Of course not. I'm sure you don't want a man who does that. I mean that's just the other extreme. Us men, the only thing, the only entity rather that we should put above ourselves is God. And I'm sure the women who are watching this right now that is what you would gravitate towards. A man who follows God. And not only that but a man who is a leader. A man who leads not only you but other people as well. A positive influence. And again that doesn't mean that he has to be on YouTube or TikTok. I mean if you look at some of these videos it's quite embarrassing really how a lot of men are acting today. Especially on TikTok they're doing all these stupid dances. They're making a fool out of themselves. We must respect ourselves before we can expect anyone else to respect us. The problem is as long as you're around the narcissist they feel like it's okay to disrespect you. Because they look at it like if you really believe that you're deserving of anything more then you would leave. And in fact you would have left a long time ago. Now that's how they can treat you in the way that they do. And if you notice though it's like when you're at home it's just you and them. It's like they just completely neglect you. They pay no attention to you. It's like they don't even know that you're there. And then you go out somewhere with them. And then suddenly all of the attention is on you. You become this fashion accessory. They want to show you off to the world. And it just seems so fake. But everyone else sees it and it looks like this man really loves you. He really cares about you. He pays all of this attention to you. But people don't realize that it's all a show. It's all a facade. He doesn't really care about you at all. It's just for his image. It's fake. It's superficial. And he's never really there for you when you need him. Or when it's something where you actually need his support. You need him to validate you. You need him to be there for you. He's never there then. I'm sure many of you. You've had to deal with your suffering in silence. Maybe you've even cried yourself to sleep. Because they're just never there for you. They never listen to you. They're not passionate about you. That's a real problem. And I know that's why I have so many female viewers. Because I'm filling this void. Clearly, you all have or had a man in your life. This narcissistic boyfriend or husband. He just doesn't have that passion for you. He doesn't really care. And again, that doesn't mean he has to care 24 hours a day. Of course, he has to have other passions, interests, a purpose. He has to have something greater than himself that he is chasing. That's very important as well. But with these narcissists, it's like they're just never there at all. They never care about you. They never show up. They neglect you. And it's like you're not even there. You're not even a person. You're just like some toy or play thing. For them to use and abuse whenever they feel like it. But what about your feelings? Your emotions? They invalidate you. And that doesn't mean that they have to be your personal therapist and listen to everything that's going wrong in your life. Again, that's the other extreme that needs to be a healthy balance. But at the very least, if you're going through something, you should be able to recognise it. You should be able to see when you've gone quiet. And he should be there to put his arm around you and tell you that everything's going to be okay at the very least. And I do believe that this is our duty as men. It's like how can you call yourself a man if you do not care for value and respect your woman? You should be there for her. Instead of abusing her, manipulating her, embarrassing her in public, it's like they go out and they've got to manipulate everyone. They've got to put on such a show and it's just so fake and it's so invalidating to you. And it's the way they treat other people in public as well. Maybe they're getting at the waiter in a restaurant. They just have no self-respect. And I'm sorry to say it. But we need to look at ourselves as well. We need to love ourselves more. We need to value ourselves more. And yes, I'm going to say it. We need to respect ourselves more. Because I can tell you that our society is dealing with. I mean, many of them, they are quite physically attractive, maybe quite charming and charismatic, even though it's fake. It's more manipulation than anything. But I'm sure they had other options, not just you. And it's like, why did they pick you? And it's because they knew they could get away with certain things that other women would not tolerate. Other women may call them out on their behavior, the things that they're doing to them or that they're doing out in public. And I know that because I look at myself and I can't tolerate anything like that from anyone who is close to me. I don't want anyone around me who bullies and intimidates me. And not only that, I will tell you that even if they're very kind to me and they treat me right, if I see them treating someone else badly out in public, they're talking down to them in a condescending way, they're disrespecting them. I don't want a person like that in my life. But many of you, you tolerate it. You go out with an arsonist to a restaurant and they're talking down to the waiter and you stick by them, you don't speak against it. But then I understand as well, I mean, maybe you're afraid to speak out or maybe you don't know where you're going to go if you're not with them. I understand that as well. But the purpose of this video is to remind you that you do need to start having more love and respect for yourself. And I would go as far as to say that just being around an arsonist, despite doing that in itself, we are disrespecting ourselves. We're lowering ourselves. We're devaluing ourselves because that is low value behaviour. Being negative all the time, pessimistic. Manipulating people, putting them down. There's nothing positive about that. That is so beta. Sadly, a lot of women these days, they settle for these low life, passive aggressive, beta males, and they're just not going anywhere in life. You need to be with a leader. Someone who leads you and not only that, they have the ability to lead other people as well. Instead of a man who has no direction, he doesn't even know where he's going. He hasn't achieved anything in his life. And there's really no excuse. Yeah, they play the victim, they say there's all these things wrong in their lives. I mean, you don't know my full story, but I've been through a lot of things in my life. And I still have managed to create this YouTube channel with over 40 million views, 170,000 subscribers, inspired millions of people around the world. As men, we should be motivational, inspirational. We should not be holding people down. That's not something a man does. And as a queen, you should know that you deserve more. What is a queen? A queen is someone who is not perfect, but she has self-awareness. She examines herself. She works on her mental and emotional health, her physical health. She takes good care of herself. She's constantly upgrading herself. She loves herself. She values herself. She respects herself. That doesn't mean that she's arrogant or that she thinks she's better than other people. In fact, that may make her modest and humble. And a woman like that, a queen is going to stick by her man as long as he's not a fool, as long as he treats her right and respects her as well. It should be a mutual exchange. There needs to be a balance. The problem with a lot of you is you're giving everything to this narcissist and there's no exchange. There's no reciprocation. And you're wasting your youth. You're wasting years of your life. Your value is just continuously going down the longer that you are around them. And you could have given that to a man who would have loved and respected you, but you gave it to them and they didn't value or respect it. Again, I'm not victim blaming. I understand that many of you have been manipulated. You didn't know what you were getting yourself into until it was too late. They fooled you. We need to be more aware, wiser. We need to pay attention to the red flags that have very low tolerance when we see something disrespectful. And again, not only if it's towards us, but if it's towards someone else as well. Because even if, in my example, they're talking down to a waiter at the restaurant, that shows that they have the capability to do that, to be unkind, to be disrespectful. So you don't think that it's only a matter of time until they start treating you that way as well? Of course. If they can do it to someone else, they can do it to you. The only difference is they already found a way to justify what they were doing to someone else. And then the longer that they are around you, eventually they will find a way to justify doing that to you. It's just a matter of time. I can tell you that a good man, a good man will respect everyone. As long as they're not going out intentionally harming people, a good man will respect anyone regardless of their age, gender or social class, their ethnicity, narcissists are very discriminative. And they're especially like that when they go out with their friends, likely their friends are narcissistic or sociopathic as well. And they find pleasure in targeting people outside of their group. And they think that they're like these gangsters. They should not be the type of man that you want in your life. And I understand many of you didn't have a strong father figure there for you and your childhood. To give you direction, to guide you to the right kind of man. And we've all been misled by social media, music videos, movies, selling us this image of the ideal man. And it's just so superficial, but what about the character? What about how he treats you? Again, it's not just about flash and the cash, buying all of these pointless things. I'm sure any of you who have been in that type of relationship you already know what that's like. Yeah, they're quick to spend the money, but what about your emotional needs? Are they ever actually there for you when you need them? And it's like just as quick as they can spend that money on you, they can go and spend it on someone else. And many of you, you get yourself stuck in very difficult situations when you allow yourself to be so heavily dependent financially on a man. Anyone can come in and manipulate you, sell you a dream, but then what do you do when they walk out the door? For no reason at all, they're just abandoning you. What do you do then? This is why I advise against being completely financially dependent on someone or even having joint accounts or shared savings. I know it sounds nice, it sounds cute, but later down the line that can put you in a very difficult situation. In the beginning you're thinking it's like you're going to be together forever. A lot of people think like that, but then before you know it, a few months or a few years, things change. So we do need to be very careful because in society today, modern culture, and I'm just going to tell it like it is because this is how it is. A lot of women these days, they get in these relationships with these players, these bad boys. And then at the end of it, they're so quick to blame them, but what about you? You have to take responsibility as well. It's like, can you honestly tell me that you didn't know that he was like that? Did you really not know the entire time that you never said anything, you never confronted him? And again, I'm not victim-blaming, I'm trying to help you because if you don't take responsibility, the same thing is going to happen again. You're going to get used, abused, and discarded. And I'm sure you don't want that. So again, I'm saying this in your favor and support. We need to develop the ability to discern and judge people well. This is very important. To prevent us from getting in these situations again. That doesn't mean that they're not to blame or that they're not at fault. Of course they are to blame for what they did to you, but at some point we need to take responsibility as well. It's like how many red flags do we have to see until we realize that this is just who this person is and they are not going to change. Just look back. How much change have you seen over the past few years? Are you willing to wait another few years just to see that same amount of progress? I'm sure for most of you the answer is no. And then you've got to look at it like, what are you doing with him? If you know he's not going to change. And I know many of you may say it's the chemistry, it's the charisma. That man you're dealing with is a fraud. They're manipulating you. They're manipulating everyone around them. They're completely fake. It's a false image. That's not even who they are. They just became that because they believe that would be attractive or desirable. Not because it's what they're really about. That's why they behave the way that they do. So recognize that. You're dealing with an empty shell of a person. That's how it's like they can change from one moment to the next. They're chameleons, shapeshifters. They're treating you badly behind closed doors and then you go out in public. Suddenly you're this trophy, this fashion accessory. They're showing you off to their friends. And then in that same situation or event, while they're doing that, then they're disrespecting the waiter, the restaurant. So who are they? If they're capable of doing something. And that's meant to be their proposed values, beliefs, morals, principles, whatever it is. But then the next minute they can do the exact opposite. So which one is it? Who are they then? This is what you need to examine and identify. Because if a person could just shapeshift just like that, that should already reveal to you that that is not who they are. So forget about whatever chemistry or charisma you may think that there is. That's not even real. A lot of times it's just in your imagination. It's a shared fantasy that they are using to keep you around. It's a false character. They are not really about that for real. It's inconsistent and it's not progressive. When will the narcissist realise that queens deserve better? They will realise it when you realise it. Because if you're still with them, if you're still around them, if you're still just waiting around, expecting for them to change, that means you haven't realised it. You haven't realised that you do deserve better. Because if you had realised that, you wouldn't be there. And I know sometimes these situations can be difficult. It's not always so easy to go into contact. But you need to be making an exit plan. Or at the very least, limiting your contact with them if you have children. You need to be taking steps to protect yourself if you really do believe that you deserve more. So that's my message for today. As I said, it is primarily aimed at my female viewers. I'm sure that my male viewers can benefit from this as well. I'm sure that you will agree with a lot of what I have said. So yeah, I hope you found this video helpful. And if you did, you can show your support down below by giving it a thumbs up. And let me know your thoughts in the comment section. I read your comments every day. Hit the subscribe button and click all notifications so that you will be notified when I upload a new video. And if you would like to book a one-on-one coaching session with me, you can go to my website. It is NarcSurvivor.co.uk. Also, follow me on Instagram. It's NarcSurvivor YouTube. Thank you all for joining me on another NarcSurvivor live video. I do appreciate you all. 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