 beautiful people it's Ashley here and today's topic is all about today's subject is all about love the sweetest and warmest feeling known to mankind needless to say I love love I write one too many romantic fan fictions I received a tumblr ask to do a video on love or relationship so here we go now this video is going to be broken down into two parts first we're going to talk about love styles and then we're going to talk about the triangular theory of love let's start with love styles now they are modes of operation of how people love it was originally developed by John Allen Lee he identified six basic love styles or colors of love and these are what people use in their interpersonal relationships real quick interpersonal that is of or relating to relationships or communication between people love style number one eros now this is a passionate physical and emotional love of wanting to satisfy create sexual contentment security and aesthetic enjoyment for each other this also includes creating sexual security for the other by striving to forsake options of sharing one's intimate and sexual self with outsiders the next one is laudice now this style is used by those who see love as a desiring to want to have fun with each other to do outdoor and indoor activities teasing indulge and playing harmless pranks on each other the acquisition of love and attention itself may be part of the game this style is used by those who see love as a game and want to win as many partners as possible the focus is on having fun in the moment and therefore relationships of this sort tend to be very short the third one is storage this style of love grows slowly out of friendship and is based more on similar interests and a commitment to one another rather than on passion number four is pragma now this love style is based on the perceptions of practicality and realism people who prefer the style approach their relationship in a business like fashion and look for partners with whom they can share common goals the next one is mania this love style usually flows out of low self-esteem and a need to be loved by one's partner lovers of this sort usually become very possessive and jealous and the last one is a gate in this style of love the person is willing to sacrifice anything for their partner it is based on an unbreakable commitment and an unconditional selfless love all right that was love styles now we're gonna go on to the next part of the video which is called the triangular theory of love this theory was developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg love has three components intimacy passion and commitment intimacy encompasses the feelings of attachment closeness connectedness and bondedness is that such a word oh yeah there is passion and compasses drives connected to both lemurance and sexual attraction and commitment which encompasses in short term the decision to remain with one another and in a long term plans made with the other so based on these three components of love you can actually have seven different varieties of love well there's actually eight but the first one is not included the first one is non love it consists of none of the components non love categorizes the large majority of our personal relationships which are simply casual interactions the second one is liking or friendship this consists of the intimacy component of love it refers to the set of feelings one experiences in a relationship that can truly be categorized as friendship one feels closeness bondness and warmth towards the other without the feelings of intense passion or long term commitment infactuated love consists of the passion component romantic relationships often start out as infactuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time but without developing intimacy or commitment infactuated love may disappear suddenly romantic love what do I mean by romantic love well romantic love consists of passion and intimacy romantic lovers are not only drawn physically to each other but they are also bonded emotionally but it's without sustaining commitment the next one is empty love now this one is categorized by commitment only and there is no intimacy or passion but for example in an arranged marriage the spouse's relationship may begin as empty love and develop into another form indicating how empty love need not be the terminal state of a long-term relationship companionate love now this is an intimate non-passionate type of love and a stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment this type of love is observed in long-term marriages where passion is no longer present but where a deep affection and commitment remain this love ideally shared between family members is a former of compassionate love as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship the next one is factuous love this is passion and commitment factuous love in the sense that a commitment is made on the basis of passion without the stabilizing influence of intimate involvement and the very last form of love is consummate love now this has all three all three components of love intimacy passion and commitment it is the complete form of love representing an ideal relationship which people strive towards of the seven varieties of love consummate love is theorized to be the love that is associated with the perfect couple and there you have it the triangular theory of love and they have it love who said it wasn't complicated obviously love is a very very wide topic in this case I only talked about interpersonal love so I hope you guys enjoyed it nonetheless well that is my time thank you so much for watching this video the link to all of my sources are in the description box below