 Hello everyone, welcome again to another NARC Survival Life video. As you can see in this one I'm out at the beach, living my best life and yeah in this one I'm going to be talking about how the narcissist didn't just forget about you. Because I know what it looks like, it's like they just moved on, they forgot about you, they don't care about you anymore, they're not thinking about you. But in fact a lot of times that couldn't be further from the truth, it's just they're watching you from behind the scenes, they may be talking to your friends or family members, they may be stalking you on social media, they're doing all these things behind your back, they may be spreading rumours or gossiping about you, they're doing all these things that you don't even know about. And yet you think that they've forgotten about you, you think that they're not thinking about you anymore. But in fact yes, a lot of times they are, especially if you were the grade A source of supply, it's very difficult for them to replace you. They can't just go out and find another one. What you have is very rare, especially if you are an M. As I've said before, only 1-2% of the world's population are empaths. So just think about how rare you are. It's not so easy for them to go out and find another empath, another grade A source of supply, they've lost you. If you decided to move on and in the cases where they discarded you, that does not mean that they have just forgotten about you. It's that you were no longer susceptible to their manipulation, you no longer believed in their lies and deception, you couldn't pull the wool over your eyes, they couldn't trick you, they couldn't deceive you. So a lot of times they have no choice but to move on. They can't coexist, they can't be around someone who knows what they're about, they can't be around someone like that. It's much easier for them and it requires far less effort for them to target someone else, even though they may not be anywhere near as great as you are. But a lot of times they have no other choice, they can't be around you, they can't sit in a space with you because they already know exactly what you're thinking. They already know that you know they're full of shit. Yes, they're already aware of that and it's too much work for them to try to change your mind, to try to get you to see them in a different. Narcissists like to have it easy and of course they will run off and they'll pick the first thing they can find because at this point anyone is going to be an easier option than you. After everything you went through with them you already know exactly what they're about, you know exactly what they're going to do even if they do come back. So it's likely that you don't even want them around you anyway. And yes, of course, a lot of times they know that you don't want them around you, they don't want to be around you as well. They want to be around people, people who will not judge them. No narcissist wants to be criticised and confronted every day. That is a nightmare for a narcissist. If you just imagine a narcissist's worst nightmare, that is it. Being confronted, being criticised every day. They're going to run as far away from that situation as they possibly can. I'm sure many of you may have seen it, they were running out of there. I mean even anyone, no one wants to be in a situation like that where they're being constantly criticised and confronted. That's no fun for anyone. If you just imagine it for a narcissist it's 100 times worse because they have this false image, this deceptive outward appearance and they want to look good to the world. They don't want anyone to bring their image into jeopardy. It compromises them. It's much easier for them to be around someone who doesn't know what they're about or if they can't get about that at least someone of their own kind, another narcissist, someone who might be able to tolerate them because as we know, narcissists, they thrive in dysfunction as long as they're not being confronted all of their time. But yes, you think they've forgotten about you. A lot of times they haven't. They're still thinking about you. They're still watching you. They've still got their eyes on you and I know that because I've been through it myself. I still get ex-narcissist stalkers. They're still watching me on social media or they're talking to my family. They're still there. I still get stalkers even on this YouTube channel and I'm sure a lot of you, you've already seen through some of the comments. You've seen some things that don't look right. Flying monkeys, gang stalkers. I always see them on here. Typically what they like to do is when I'm doing a live video just before I'm about to say something or I'm going in the direction of a certain topic, they usually like to comment it down below or they'll reference something to it and it's just to kind of distract you and keep your mind off track. I'm sure many of you may have noticed this and they may have done it to you as well and it's like at times you already know that they're watching you, they're stalking you because they already know information that they shouldn't even know. They're aware of things that they shouldn't even be aware of such as on here I see a lot of references but not a lot of references but some people have made and I can tell straight away they're not genuine viewers or subscribers, they're flying monkeys, they're gang stalkers. At times I see people calling me Chris and straight away I think you even see that name because myself, I've always called myself Christopher and even on my Instagram page that's what it says there as well. So sometimes I see in the comments people calling me Chris and I find it really strange because it just makes me wonder where did they get that name from and aside from that there's always other comments as well and their order seems very strange and I'm sure those of you who are my genuine viewers, my real subscribers, you will have noticed some things as well, some strange comments and if you see it it's up to you whether you reply to it or not but I think either way when you're dealing with narcissistic people whether you ignore the comments or if you reply to it they're not going to like it either way, either way they're going to see something wrong with it. With narcissists it's just whatever you do, whatever direction you're moving, they've always got to go the opposite way, they've always got to be in opposition to you so even if they've already opposed you on something and then you go in the opposite direction just give it time and they will oppose that as well. This is just what they do, they're very obsessive, a lot of them they have these addictions, they're addicted to people, they're addicted to past sources of supply, remember they need supply, they have a void and that void needs to be filled, they can't regulate their emotions from within so they have to use people outside of them for external validation or even just someone that they can abuse so that they can regulate themselves because they can't do that on their own. So yeah don't think that they've forgotten about you, I know at times it may look that way, it may look like they just moved on, they're on to something else another situation but actually they are still thinking about you, they're still watching you, they're still stalking you, they just can't leave things alone, they look at it like yeah that's fine for you, you can move on and be happy, you can find peace but what about me, I can regulate my emotions so they see it because for us it's so easy for us to be alone and still find peace, still find happiness and contentment but for them they can't do that, they can't do like I'm doing right now coming out to this beach, there's no one here, I've just been walking here on my own, they can't just come out with no attention from anyone, no external validation and the reason why is because they have no identity, they have no sense of self, everything they think and feel about themselves comes from other people, they have to extract your energy and you will find that the more that you're around them, you will begin to lose yourself, you won't even know who you are anymore but even if you're going through that, just know that you're not alone, I've been through it myself, there's been times in my life where I didn't even know who I was, I just forgot even what I stood for, what I valued, what I believed in and my likes and interests to please the narcissist and then even when you do that, they will blame and shame you for a very much difference even if you are doing things that they don't like where they're still going to be on you, so try not to worry too much about them, yes they may still be there trying to extract your energy away from you, just don't let them get to you, try to focus on other things, things that are more positive, more uplifting, things that are progressive, things that are preventing you from succeeding which of course as we know that is typical of the narcissist, everything they do, they're stalking their flying monkeys, it's all to push you back, it's not to propel you forward into a more positive direction, it's all just to weigh you down and when they weigh you down you end up losing yourself against to a point where you don't even know who you are anymore, sometimes you just got to come out to the beach, listen to the waves, watch the sun go down, just anything to distract yourself, anything to get your mind for these energy-sucking emotional vampires because that's all they really are, that's all they really do, they just drain your energy, they just weigh you down, they know that's not what you want at all, you want to feel good, you want to feel uplifted, you want to feel like you're going to accomplish anything and you can accomplish anything but you'll contact and avoid the narcissist while being very cautious and protecting yourself because of course as soon as you do that it will cause a narcissist to injure you as an extension of them, their possession, this thing that belongs to them so the last thing they want to see is any form of separation, any difference between you and them, yeah they don't want to see that at all, they don't want to see any separation, they want enmeshment, they want to be enmeshed with their target, they want you to feel like there's no difference between you and them but I can tell you already if you found my videos you are very different, you are nothing like the narcissist, you are positive, you're optimistic, you're perfect as well, you're kind, you're generous, you're helpful, you're compassionate while narcissists are the exact opposite, they are nothing like us but they will do whatever they can to try to convince you because they want enmeshment, they see you as this extension of themselves but that is no good for you, being an extension, an attachment to a narcissistic individual, that is not going to lead you anywhere good, it's not going to lead you anywhere good at all, you're just going to sink down, you're going to sink deeper into this puzzle, this maze full of uncertainty and confusion, you're going to be gaslit into submission, your life will just deteriorate the longer that you are involved with them, so sometimes what you've got to do is just let them watch, sometimes you can't really stop them, if you're on social media they could just make fake accounts or they could be watching you through someone else, so sometimes you've just got to ignore them, let them watch but don't reveal too much of yourself or your life, all of these things, they will weaponize it, they will keep it in their back pocket for a later date where they can use it against you, where they can further and mess you back into their realm, because that's all they're really going to do, it's never going to be any different, it's never going to change, the only person who can change is you and I can tell you that you do have the power to do that, you can improve, you can become better, just focus on yourself, focus on positive things, focus on things that make you feel good rather than things that make you feel stuck, controlled, resistant, none of these things are going to be good for you, I mean sometimes you just got to take a step back and look and think, is this going to be good for me or is this just going to be good for the narcissist, and if it's just going to be good for them then leave it alone, step away from it, do not get involved, but yes just know that they don't just forget about you, they may still be watching, they may be stalking you, they may be doing all of these things behind your back, gossiping, and I'm not saying it to scare you, but just so that you are aware of it to protect yourself, anyway I'm going to get back in the car now, I'm going to get something to eat and then go to another hotel, but I hope this message was helpful and as always if it was you can show your support down below by giving this video a thumbs up, it helps to support our community, let me 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