 hi guys welcome back to my channel today's video is another adoption video and i know i don't do a lot of adoption videos and i'm coming out with a video about why um it's nothing super deep or maybe it's deep but i want to just share with you guys why so that's coming out pretty soon i wanted to drop this video before that just because it wouldn't like make a lot of sense but if you guys have any suggestions ideas questions leave them in the comments down below because i would love to know and it will give me some inspiration about what to film next if you guys are new here make sure you are subscribed and turn on the little bell icon thank you guys so much for being here and clicking on my video it means the absolute world to me and i guess without further ado let's just get on into the video so in this video i'm going to be talking about what it's like telling people you're adopted and the reactions you get so this is what it's like telling people you are adopted so typically i tell people i'm adopted from the get go because i don't know i just don't want them to be weirded out or just i don't know make assumptions because i am with two white women you know what i'm saying so i just like to be straightforward and it is kind of big in my life again i'll touch on this in the other video but it's not that big of a deal to me it's just it is what it is and it's my life so it's not anything crazy but i like to be upfront with people especially if they have an issue with gay people or adoption which most people are okay with like adoption but i don't know if you're gonna hate me like i want you to hate me from the get go like i want you to not like me from the start not like you know develop some sort of friendship or something and then have the person be like oh i don't agree with that or whatever so i'm just really straightforward i always have been so when i tell someone i'm adopted they typically go like oh wow like that's cool do you want to meet your real parents and it's so interesting because i always get this question and i always have to correct them it's like birth parents like come on people like i don't know i feel like all adoptees that's again kind of weird because i don't necessarily think of myself as adopted half the time so again fellow adoptees can relate to this but like do you want to meet or find your real parents is a big question and it's just really annoying and just don't ask that if you want to ask that just typically say oh would you like to meet your birth family or anything like that because you never know how someone might take that another thing too is they always seem to be really cool with adoption and they think it's really cool and then they also ask like do you remember anything from china and i'm all like no not really because i was a baby now some people actually do so that's a good question maybe to ask but again i wouldn't like ask that sorry the lighting is changing i film with natural light so that's just what we get today the next thing that people ask adoptees is do you know your medical history and i've got a lot of comments about like oh you should find out your medical history blah blah blah and i don't fully disagree with that i think that's great but also i'm at the point where again i don't really care to know that i already have like higher level cholesterol and i think that's hereditary because like i'm pretty healthy i'll just blame the genetics the next thing that people always ask really is do you speak chinese and the answer to that is no um i feel like you shouldn't be obligated just because you look a certain way to like speak a certain language um so no i don't but some people might speak the native language from where they were born because their adoptive family um signed them up for classes or felt the need to incorporate them more into the culture but the thing is like i'm american like i'm going to embrace like more american culture sorry um but a lot of people have differing opinions on that which is totally fine um but i'm kind of glad that my parents didn't do that with me another question i always get asked and it's just really annoying when i tell people i'm adopted is well actually i don't even need to tell them that i'm adopted because i always just get this question in general and i don't think it's rude but it's just annoying and i'm gonna just flat out say that because like to me it's annoying but they always go like oh where are you from and then i go like columbus ohio and they're like no like where are you from and i'm like oh well i was adopted from china and then i go on my spiel about like i was adopted from china when i was one out of two gay moms you know all of that but like come on just except the fact that i'm am really from ohio and that like that's kind of like where i associate being from my hometown though is definitely like obviously celebration because i grew up there but like the where are you from question just like is crazy like you wouldn't go up to some random like i don't know someone who looked hispanic or someone who looked black someone who was just a plain white person and be like oh where are you from and then they say like minnesota and you're like no where are you really from like you wouldn't do that but i feel like i don't know being a asian person in america like they're expecting some like exotic country like china which i am from but still like no not really because i don't associate with that you know what i'm saying so that's definitely a question it's not even like i have to tell someone i'm adopted to get that question but it's just like so wild to me another reaction i get when i tell people i'm adopted is oh i'm adopted too which is like so cool because like i have already found a connection a something something in common with someone to develop a friendship a level of um familiar familiarity i don't know if i'm saying that right but you know something you talk about and then we always well not always but like from when i've met other adoptees we always talk about like the things that i'm telling you like what people ask or the reactions we get which is kind of funny a lot of people say oh i'm adopted too so then it just like already there's a connection there which is super cool another question i always get when i tell people i'm adopted is do you ever want to go back to china like to see it and my response always is well if i could afford it yeah like that'd be kind of cool like i mean if you want to front the bill that would be great um but uh as of now that's not my top priority of where i want to go in the world if i got to travel and see places but there's always a question like do you want to go back to china that's something that's like always brought up as well when i tell people i'm adopted another question i always get when i tell people i'm adopted is do you want to adopt too and i'm like no not really and the thing is like being on one side of it like is great like obviously i'm so blessed in life and i'm so grateful but like no i really want to bear my own children which i don't know why i guess because the i think it's called like the white savior complex is all like oh well you were saved so like do you want to save save another child and whereas i will always donate to organizations like adoption agencies and everything like but that shouldn't automatically make you or the adopty feel like they need to adopt you know what i'm saying i feel like that's a big misconception in the world of adoption in the world of like people just not knowing like no you do not have to feel obligated to adopt another child because like you shouldn't have to do that just like you know adopting an animal like i mean even though it's probably better to adopt children and animals like people still obviously bear their own children and obviously shop for a dog you know what i'm saying so i don't feel like anyone should feel obligated just because they're adopted to want to adopt obviously i want to make a positive impact in you know it sounds horrible to say but like orphans lives or children waiting for um their adopted families you know what i'm saying or families in general so um i definitely think that you should give back in ways that you feel is right for yourself and your financial situation your time obviously um but you shouldn't feel obligated at all to adopt a child you know what i'm saying so like i don't know i've been wanting to make a blog post about that just because i feel like i want to say more but like i don't know how to be interpreted by like the average viewer um but yeah like that's really where i come from and like my viewpoints of like i think if you want to adopt and you're adopted like that's so cool like you can relate on so many levels and i don't know be there for that for your child at that time you know if they're going through something but you should never feel like obligated just because you're adopted to adopt that question always presents itself as well um i don't know if i'd ever want to foster that would be like a cool opportunity and like i would hope to make a positive impact in a child's life like that but i don't know if i would actually be like the best like foster parent especially when the child you know was reunited with their biological family and stuff so i don't know i'm still like thinking about that i think that that would be a good opportunity and i feel like i would be a good influence on a kid that was in foster year hopefully i don't know but that's a different question like i don't really get asked like do you want to foster the question more is do you want to adopt and um the answer would be no um just because i want to have the experience of varying my own children another response i get when i tell people i'm adopted is oh i know my cousin sue is adopted oh my dad was adopted or my mom was adopted so there's also another connection built and some similarity um when i meet someone because they know someone that's adopted that's really cool i always like when people say oh so and so that i know is adopted because it's like cool but then i don't really know what to say after that so it's kind of awkward but yeah they always say that they know someone that's adopted though it's kind of funny a lot of the times when i tell people i'm adopted they are a little bit hesitant to ask questions but i'm always the person that's like yeah ask the questions because i feel like i can inform in a nice way so if they say something then i will just correct them such as like real parents versus birth parents so i just reiterate or restate that question and then end it with like not end it but started with my biological parents you know what i'm saying or the people that donated the egg and sperm um you know just like that so i correct them but i'm always willing to ask questions and even though this video is kind of like funny in some sense to like oh my gosh it's so annoying when i get the same questions like as an adoptee i still want to be the one to give true information and like my experience so i'm not hesitant or um i it's not like i don't want questions but like it's just funny and i just wanted to share all the reactions that i do get when i tell people i'm adopted i also answered this question in another video so check out my adoption playlist um in my playlist section if you want to see it but i always get the question when i tell people i'm adopted and i have gay moms they always say like oh were you bullied in school for like any of that and like what was it like growing up and i always say surprisingly i have never really gotten bullied for having two moms like there was only a couple instances i can actually remember when um like girls in my elementary school would be like oh that's kind of weird but that was as bad as it got so and i didn't really care because like i didn't really hang out with those people really know them but like whatever they're off living their lives now so i really don't care and i didn't really care back then because again i wasn't friends with them or hang out with them they were just like kids in my class you know what i'm saying so i didn't really care back then but the surprising thing is when i um tell people the answer to that question is always it's more about my race it's more about like being asian you know like having you know smaller eyes it's not necessarily that i have two moms or that i was adopted it was more like not like people when i was like younger making fun of my eyes but like i i still joke around about my eyes today because i just think it's funny and so do my friends in high school and like middle school you know like i don't care i'm not that sensitive but it was more so focused like my difference was that like i was chinese rather than i was adopted or that i had two moms so if that answers any of your questions then um that's definitely one that i always got was like what's harder and i did answer that in um that video but that's another question that i wanted to share in this video so it was more so my race than how i grew up and where i came from i think that's all the things i can really think of like the questions that adoptees like always get if there's anything else that i can remember that comes up when i tell people i'm adopted i will leave them in the description box down below i wanted to just share because i did have this this is my last like video idea about adoption in my notes section so anyway um i hope you guys enjoyed it for what it was i hope i could start some conversations and you guys enjoyed it so if you guys enjoyed make sure you give this video a thumbs up don't forget to subscribe to my channel and i'll see you guys in my next video bye