 One of the aspects I was talking about was filtering is not necessarily always in the derogatory sense of things you want out. Filter and screen for those attributes and abilities you want in. What are the attributes you're looking for? What are the elements that you find desirable? Go looking for those. Don't always do it in a negative aspect because it's going to jade you. Go looking to find the superior woman, not necessarily in all ideals, but look for those elements and those gifts that each individual woman will actually have in exhibit. If you can find those and identify those with an individual and pull those out, I think you're going to find a gold mine in many cases. In stocks, it's looking for a pullback. When people aren't necessarily projecting a particular thing, you can find it. It's like buying low and selling high. That's ultimately what you want to do in an economic sense. But with people, you're having to look at abilities, resources, and values. How they do things, what their skill levels are like. How they relate to everyone else. You're looking for the rare find. Trust me, guys all over, we're competing for that. But I don't think we're actually looking for the same thing. In many times, I think in many cases, we're going to overlook some high quality stock. We're going to overlook some high quality people. Don't just screen the negatives because it's going to jade you. Go looking for the value. Ultimately, that's what I think you should be doing, is looking for the value because it's a measure of integrity. It's going to do you as much good as it's going to do them. It's not going to bring your energy levels down. It's not going to warp your sense of the world. The last one on the filtering screening is something I do on a regular basis these days. It's going to sound a little odd. I do two things simultaneously. And I have no problem communicating this with the women I'm dealing with. I try to remove their beauty as far as what they look like and the validation I may receive by being around them. And I try to throw sex off the table as fast as I can. Then I sit down and look at the individual and I go, what am I dealing with? How do you think does that work with women these days? The women that were downtown last night. Dressed up, looking good, acting in a particular way because they're entitled because we taught them they've been able to be entitled. They can act in a particular way. They can demand drinks. A couple of weeks ago, a woman was saying, would you mind picking up our bar tab? I don't even know you, didn't even spend time with us. And her response is, I'm cute. I'm saying, you're ugly on the inside. But that doesn't come out until you open your mouth. And the issue is if you can remove a woman's beauty and not have to deal with that and train yourself. It's going to be hard, trust me, it really is. And remove sex from the table. So now that you're not interested, that's just not your point. That's just not your goal. Too often I'll talk to my friends and we'll sit down and say, I think the pussy gets in the way of the girl. The girl's the prize, not the tail. Don't be falling for it. What's your objective? What's your real goal? Is it the quality of your life, the quality of the part in you you want to have in life? How much does sex really play into that? Or is it a hell of a lot more? Are you screening for it? Now, the flip side of that is, let's say you do want to go after the tail, by God, go out there and do it. Don't get confused with trading, with investing. Don't get confused with chasing tail and having to have a good time, with trying to have relationships. Don't negotiate between them. Negotiate your time and value and spend it accordingly. The second major skill set I'd like to talk about it is about boundary setting. And that is gonna be about defining your values through a course of actions, defining your beliefs and values through a course in actions. And that is basically taking up a measure of emotional space. And don't be fooled by the fact that this is really negotiation. And like negotiations, they typically are ongoing. Just because you come to resolution on a particular issue doesn't mean it comes back up. You can't whip out an emotional contract and go, says right here, we agree to it, it's gonna change. And part of setting and establishing emotional boundaries is to actually understand what yours are. And they're gonna be different for each of you. They're probably gonna be several common of them, but they're gonna be different in each case. The biggest one is gonna be a measure of self-awareness. What do you find is a deal breaker? What are not? What are issues you're willing to tolerate? What again are not? And again, being in a relationship, being with an individual is gonna be vastly different than sitting on the sidelines and thinking about it. But the idea is if you have an idea of what you're gonna want, how you're gonna live your life, and what you expect others within that relationship frame to behave and behave like is gonna be vastly better than if you have no game plan at all. The second aspect of this is actually setting the boundaries in the first place. Actually having the skills to sit down and define what's appropriate behavior from inappropriate behavior or how to guide that. And there's gonna be many skills on dealing it. You're gonna have to communicate it, both verbally and non-verbally. You're gonna have to have that measured express. You just can't sit down in your head and go, I have a boundary. And when somebody crosses it, feel bad about it. It needs to be expressed. Unspoken boundaries tend to get violated. So if you have a boundary and it's an issue and it's a prime one, communicate it. But you're gonna need proper communication skills to do that. Another interesting aspect is the fact that just because you have a value system and have established a boundary, don't expect the world to have the same boundaries. It's kind of what makes it interesting. In many cases, somebody's gonna have an opposing boundary view and they're gonna clash. You're gonna need to be able to take up emotional space and defend those boundaries. You're gonna need to be able to do it on the fly. And this is always gonna be spontaneous. It's gonna be difficult when you do. It's gonna be uncomfortable. The more familiarity you have in doing this, the better your odds are when you have to do it, when you're highly invested in a relationship, probably the better success you're gonna have. Another interesting one, and I was taught this by my bulldog, who is notorious for finding the boundary, pulling off kind of body rocking away and then coming right back in and making you renegotiate that boundary. Cause the reality is a boundary that gets renegotiated, that wasn't really the boundary. He'll move it again. And people are like that. People will actually agree to something, behave it, and then they'll slip. And any of you who have met my dog, he was notorious, absolutely notorious for it. And he taught me a lot by just watching Analystic Nature dealing with boundaries, something he wanted. If there wasn't anything vicious about what he was doing, it was just natural. People are doing the same thing. I don't think there's a lot of malice intent. Sometimes there are. I don't think there's a lot of cases, but it plays out. And what we wanna do is to create a better life and a quality life of our own construct. And part of that is that having proper boundaries, having established boundaries, making sure they're established, defending them, and then making sure that you're vigilant. So it's another way of renegotiating boundaries. It's just make sure that the boundaries are, you're visually maintained, that there's maintenance going on, you're aware of it. And when there's an encroachment, it needs to be brought up. The last is that the notion that boundary setting is actually a skill set. And like all skill sets, they're perishable. These need to be practiced. They need to be maintained. Just because you learned it a year or two ago doesn't mean you're gonna be as proficient as you are today as you were then. They're skill set and they're gonna perish. It's not that they're gonna go down to nothing, but the ICA that you can master boundaries or any other skill set for the rest of your life probably is not gonna be there. So the idea is you're gonna have to be able to maintain these and look for opportunities to do such. Look for specific opportunities to sit down and say, okay, I'm gonna do this. Very much like, for example, if you wanna be social and you don't wanna have approaching anxiety, you talk to everybody. And you just get in the habit of doing it. And it's just something you do on a regular basis. Same thing with any skill set. Boundary setting is no different. The last of the three general skill sets I would like to talk about on interpersonal relationships is gonna be kind of a novel one. And that is literally about your brand identity. And leave no mistake, you are both a product and a service provider, you know, specifically in relationships. Everybody is. You are communicating that brand, your identity. What are you offering? What are the values that you have that women can actually see and perceive and they can come to expect from you again and again as they have dealings with you? All right, a lot of guys don't realize that. They think of their own image, but they don't necessarily think what is their behavior doing? What are the relationships aspects? What am I like? What's the customer satisfaction response to any engagement you have with people? I literally had a friend when I was living up in DC, kind of the Lark, had a little four by four card. There was a customer satisfaction survey of every woman who spent the night with him. And it was kind of a joke, you know, he left a mint. You know, and one of the stupid question is would you recommend me to your friend? You know, very much like what you'll find in their hotel rooms. And it was geared based on that. Now the interesting thing is women actually fill these out and they actually became comical, actually have a notebook that he had on his coffee table and flipped through these. Some of them were enlightening. You know, I was expecting a quote. I was expecting better turn down service, you know? And so you get some relatively interesting feedbacks. And then he actually actually integrated these into what he was doing. And so he had this idea of brand recognition. And I suggest you guys do the same thing, not necessarily in that form, but realize you're making a promise to everybody that you have a relationship with, that you're employers, your friends, your family. What's your reputation like? How well do you guard that reputation? You know, are you promoting that reputation? That's a form of advertising. Another aspect that I would be really kind of intrigued with is the fact is, do you know how to market and have brand placement? You have a particular identity. Are you putting that out where that's gonna be bought? The best way I could sit down and say this is to sit down and say, we all wanna meet women, right? Go where women are at. That would be the ladies' room. I don't expect anybody to have any success. Somebody out there is gonna prove me wrong. Of cold calling and approaching a woman in a woman's bathroom on a regular day, all right? Having some relative cognizant ability to sit down and say what's appropriate, where are they looking to find me? Where are women that I wanna relate to that are looking to find me and are looking to purchase my service and products? Where are they looking to make that take place? That's where you wanna go, all right? Again, this is about a relationship. Not only just between you and a specific individual, but you with everybody you come in contact with. What are you promising the world, all right? And it's also another aspect is people value sometimes what they don't have, all right? I joke with a friend of mine. I actually was a speaker last year, right-hand man, Tim, who gave, I think it was 20 things to not do in your 20s. And I'll be honest, I was probably the individual that he rolled model that speech off for any number of reasons. It was true, it was harsh, and he was pretty much dead on on a lot of it. I could argue with some manics, but the issue is that he was presenting certain aspects and I can sit down and say that I can look at him in a number of ways and come up with this statement is that women understand special when it's bought at Walmart. Nothing says special better than Walmart. The quantity guys are marketing themselves. He's a quantity guy. He's a great guy, he offers other things, but he's known for doing quantities. It's numbers, okay? And don't get me wrong. Quantity guys put up the numbers and they're staggering. They have some amazing stories. I'm looking to do something different, all right? I know what I would like. Understanding how to place out, how to put yourself out there, what type of client tell you what, what type of client tell you wanna avoid, what type of client tell you wanna have word of mouth with. Terribly important, all right? I would like to see the difference between, for example, the women that mystery is being with completely as an individual, for example, who knows his brand, who's been very successful going after the type of women he wants to be involved with compared to George Clooney, who's also been incredibly successful, has a great running brand as a male, all right? Notice the two different worlds. And I'm not saying one's better or wrong there. Both are highly successful. Both are self-made men. You have the same opportunity here as well. What type of life do you wanna live? What type of individuals do you wanna have in your life? What type of employer do you wanna work for? Do you want an employer? What type of woman do you wanna have in your life? And what type of wife do you wanna have in your life?