 I want to read you a quote. It says, Speak highly of everyone or say nothing at all. Tempa your words with consciousness of empathy. Speak the way you would want to be spoken to. Are we together? One more time. Speak highly of everyone or say nothing at all. Tempa your words with consciousness of empathy. Speak the way you would want to be spoken to. Na jen iru sumgumingi, but basically what I'm trying to say is, jipende, sawa na upende wa tuvene. My name is Valent and I want to give a very big shout out to Kayesu and Ian and Georgia who did a couple of miraculous things right before we came. So I hope you're enjoying the show. We had Joanne Aoko for Strength of a Woman. I told you she's amazing. Sinkwambia nani. Sinkwambia nani. And if you don't believe me, you can watch that interview again at 224 channel on YouTube. So Kaibunisana WCW. And we have a meeting. Ngepende kusimani women's conference pashtukuna manome. So wacha konza tu salimi. Ani watu then we'll get to the topic at hand. I mean we'll be running running there to our Facebook and Twitter in them. Hai. Hello. Kaibunisana. Mbonu Jenselme. Hai. Hai. Mnaka kusuri. Transi na wewa Jojole. Yes. Good morning, sir. Good morning, madam. You look like you're about to go for an interview after this. Thank you. Na fana kaza kutafutaka. Wow. What is your good name? My good name is Jojono Diemu. Where can we find you? YouTube Mkenya Halisi 3. No, not YouTube. YouTube, I have YouTube channel called Sky News Media. We do a couple of things there. But important things we don't blog. Tweet Mkenya Halisi 3. Facebook Jojono Diemu. So apoka YouTube ya kutani ambia venyesuji tanasha me atua? No, no, no. We don't blog. Okay, but seem back yenda Rwanda kutafutabidi wengini. Tabidi tumetwami aki. That part is news we are waiting for. You stay, she died to see. Okay. Sawa. Sizi tu na pamanana low cast. Na corona virus. Oh. Bye. Hi, mommy. Hi. What's your good name? My good name is Purity Dinda Muluwa. You can find me in Instagram. At Purity Namaste. Yeah, Facebook. Namaste. Hey. Then Facebook Purity Muluwa. Yeah, that's all. Hi man. Hello. How are you? I'm fine. What's your name? My name is Hilda Nyango. I'm a student of journalism and mass communication. You're so sweet of toys. Yes. Some professions require strong, strong hearts. You can't just enter. You can do this. I can. I believe in you. I believe in you. Satafati. To some of you to see what's up. So Facebook. Hey, we have a question. As you can see. Lakin imbona de manaka akuna makasiriko. How do we fix grudges and conflicts in a relationship? How do we do that? Okay. I see you, Keeta, as you continue. Pia sayatun nezaika komente. Ako we have a rosy baby. Irungus is good morning. It depends on what he did. I can forgive anything else but cheating online. I just can't. I just online. I just let him go. I prefer to be told the bitter truth. Hi from Kajado. We can only fix relationships by the individual faithful to each other and trust each other. Daniela Kaosa's hashtag when the morning loves about trust and honesty for me. Whenever we have problems, we talk about it and forgive. Laitok tok be. Hey Daniela. We have a Charles Ireriwa Shamata. Good morning. I'm watching from Shamata Nyandara County. I see you. Ukiyenda kwa hobat kei. Hobat kei simple forgive and forget good morning. Yaw hapukwa studio hashtag why in the morning. Siprian Kaxi Junior says hello I'm Sipria. We can fix things through advice taught by mentors and by being guided. CW mtapeli mehengam sumali nabigap. Ni pite nawawa. Ah, where was I? Okay. Eman James I see you. Good morning. Good morning. I'm really enjoying the show. Mombasot kunda ni. Nime grope ingine. Nene sis bunyeza. Kibunyeanya pamocha. Cardi boy says if you are in a relationship and you have a grudge with your partner then that's not a relationship. It's just a puppy relationship. Vani young music just following the from pipeline. Hashtag why in the morning CW mtapeli again chaza naraada. And Darala and Angel say zake kumskilzan. No Yorobala from Mexico City Cafe. I have no idea what you just said to me Brobo but I appreciate that you're watching the show. Andrew Maulidi. Mdara says good morning. Wayamesh Morome. Ah! Good morning, Wayamesh. How are you? Hashtag why in the morning. Inabidiki lam tu ashke barabara kama lokaast. Wow. Ham tasumbuana sana. Tushike barabara kama lokaast. Wayamesh. Ay. Atokiam koe badu kwangamfani. Zawa. Naya. My name is Valentine or at Kalamiga. Maloch mongelia. Kuleko of grudges. Although tumisimani relationship apokwani ni. Yundoch tansanayo. But na takatu. To address yote. For example. Kawa na date Jojo vinyem ta fix grudgenu. But kawa we na we we na agiu. Na justi sometimes also can agiu. How we can fix that. Yes. Yes. Yes. Holy kwa chofi. Na kuna sana. Na kuna sana. I say Andrew Maulidi. Good morning to you too. So guys. How do you think? Okay first of all. Mbo na usana tukuna shida. Mbo na twizi say ma'am sorry. Ona Jojo vinyem prai yoko tu ya. Asa that one. Like it's true. Why are we so difficult? Why are we so difficult? Na ni ukueli siya tunewa. Ya. Ukueli. I think niju. Siki. Atuizi ang felt mistakes. Sidi kwa nili bata twizi. Tunatunata ni. It's a mental itunata ni too. How easy kwa siya tunewa una kwa siya yoko tu kahi. But that is absolutely ridiculous. That's it. It's difficult to say sorry. But why are you disturbing your man to apologize for things you cannot hear. Proof he did. Waw na katap samams. Na wana Joa vizuri sana ni wewa. Inu mefanga. Why are we like that? I think it depends. Sometimes he's wrong. He has to say sorry. And sometimes you're wrong. But he's still the one saying sorry. Why? Mawli zama swalingu. But why do you think so? Because of their ego. That's simple. Sidi katuna ego. Really. Musubu ladies utapata. Mama kosa but they don't want to accept. But you're like, where is it? Last time me did kupata daba kosa. Where is it? Sasa say utaki. It's like what a complicate to your issue. You can't even come and like. But they're wrong side. But you're on the wrong side. And then I just want this thing. Sometimes you're just afraid of losing this person. So utakama me kosa. And I accept. Why do you think so? But the men are also egocentric. Most of them don't like apologizing. I think for many just because of pride. So it goes both ways. It's not like women are egocentric and men are not. So where is the solution? Come away wu mejfanya. Tami mejfanya kumukilam tuapa. But sometimes you must just lower our ego. Who is supposed to lower it first? Nani and Afakwa. There must be someone who is starting. But Sasa, that's when we talk about the situation at hand. Maybe you're on the wrong side and you don't want to lower your ego. Jojo, for example, she has caught you cheating on her. So I shall lower my ego. Would you actually forgive? I should lower my ego and accept the situation. I was this and this, this was wrong. Just forgive me. Let me rephrase that question. I've seen that some things that people can be done wrong too. Now we see kubale kusame. Like, for example, nimona cheating, nimona lying, nimona cheating. That is a breaking point. Kifanya tuwe nivo. But you know, like that comment, I was thinking, like, what if you were the one lying? What if you were the one cheating? Ya, so you should ask yourself if I'm the one on the wrong side. Should the person forgive me, how much should you not forgive me? Okay, why do you cheat and want to be forgiving? Sometimes it's easy for me to cheat. Namu anya oki jikuta tuz kumo jake. Ya, how much? How many times do you cheat? If you get to the point where you have to cheat, I think it's better to break up with your kind... Limitily something. These are facts. So easy kitu nimi, kujaku notice. Wasi ano na de. Bichali wa willi. Kuna besti. Nakuna oki jali wa ke. So it's like you are cheating with your besti. Kwa zuta ona, balasai zuna, isu ni alawni. Chats na your besti. Kwa chalana, your besti. Ya, kia wakunaga kitu apa ina nistunas tuwagam. Tuwata ni kupesana. I'm very smart kijana. We don't play like that. Ten frames. Seven out of ten. Wata kubali. I have a question again. Is it really cheating if we are just seeing each other? Na uja nio. Is it cheating? But we love each other. So we should be loyal. Why is it now this loyalty thing comes in? It's not like we don't know each other. Let me move on now. I'm kidding. If you want to know. Wata kwa umdiya eva. Luezi kula mbozi kila zi. Baka mbozi zi. Sometimes kule sama. Luezi kula kwa mbozi kya waka mbozi. But now when it's the reverse, when we are actually worried about cheating on you. So now loyalty comes in. What happened? But it's not true. Fade kwa ni wuna nasech na pena managutu. Atatereda sometimes. Naji oval kuna kwa nai this situation also. Naji wuna nazech na tukose kujo. It's common. Nazech na tukose kujo. But it's not true. Look at your face. Girls are so secretive. So kwa mga very secretive. So it's a date or tattoo. Kuhu ni kuzu wa kuzo wa kuzo. Kujo na kuzo. You're dating as many people as you want. We don't judge her. We don't do that to her. But to say me tu wa kukose mojayao. Let's say your favorite one. So kwa nai yo grad. We said we're very secretive. Natu na zaka nai utu kwa roho. How do we come out of being hurt by someone we love? Tuna msa me aji. How do we say, nani wili nifani leka kitu. Nani meski akba ya. I think the first thing we should sit down and discuss the problem. This was the issue. Is this and this. So we should focus. The situation in lefa na ni kafa nai kitu. Kwa ii nai. So forgive me. Onaji o that one will be easy to forgive. Let me put you in a situation where you see now he sounds like he's ready to ask forgiveness. But what about him? What are you denying? It didn't even happen. Now you have all the evils in the world. Like we're visuri wu na jo omizu mechezwa na badona kata. Say no. How do you forgive someone who's not even admitting that they hurt you? It's really hard to forgive someone if they don't admit they hurt you. Kwanzae inamsa kwa kulini ako. Who told you na kwa mbo kwe klingi? You always want. Okay, just that feeling utu aki kukose ya. U na wambanga tu aki. I really want to forgive this person. But u na takatu aku dia ombe msa maha ako. What if they don't? What if they don't say I'm sorry? But when baku wendele na meche ako. Kwa zi shindapu mekasirikia ututu om tu sasa? Well, it's very hard to forgive and forget. Sasa kamaa takiku kumba msa maha. I think to take a break. To take a break forever. Sasa kwa utaki kwa apia na zataftamungi na. Jojo, how would you handle it if they cheated on you? Na kaku darao yanyana cheat na mtu? Very, very close to you. No, I don't know. I'm not sure if the lady maybe is cheating. Maybe she's not cheating. I'm the one insisting that the lady is cheating. I am telling you a scenario. Stop getting out of it. Scenario is. Yeah, the lady is cheating. Yes. With someone very close to you. If your partner is cheating with someone who is close to you and you know and she's know that you know that now is not her relationship. That's so much hard. So you should look out of that relationship. How do you get past it? The walking out is very, very easy. But how do you deal with it? I think for me silence is the best weapon. Sometimes you just sit down. But you just control your temper. Yeah. Jojo, this is not why people are killing themselves. If you are in a womb. Yes. Okongia, the person will know your mind. You don't have to talk to the person. Thank you to me. Thank you. You can talk to someone else. Thank you. So that's also silence. When I discuss something with you about Val and Val is not aware. It's like silence. Val turns up fikiria. Jojo na fikiria ni. What's happening? What's up? Yeah, what's not going on here? Maybe you are doing that thing for me to talk. Ni react for you to get away with it. You are talking out of that relationship. Maybe you are doing that. Niaza kubo mbeza ni. Nini na sema, oh, I mean a violent relationship the way girls are doing it. I bring drama after you react. They walk away. Wait. Would you Apu kwa violent relationship umenistua. What if you found yourself in a violent relationship? I walk out. How do you forgive? How do you forgive? Na forgive mitu vizuri ale kupia veve black eye. After all the melani pia kongezia black ingine. How do you forgive someone like that? I really don't like violence. So if I'm in a violent relationship the best idea is just to walk out. How do you start to heal? Is there a process? A ma kwanza wuna toka and laugh wunanza life kolepole? Yeah, you talk to people you love. People who really appreciate your existence. What happens when the person you're dating is abusing you psychologically? Like to say me, at emotionally. For example, wuni, um, sandapu per example in a kaji. Someone who, for example, unona ameku kusia, sindio. So you go babe. Ona kenyumefanya, iwi na iwi na iwi mi skupenda. But venyata ichkua te spin ita kwani yo fault. Why you medling? Why you so into my business? You're so clingy. Like nimba na wewe. It's going to be all about you. Legit uli endakam tu mzimasin oki. Let's talk about this. We're grown ups. We're over 18. But they're nae hataki. In fact, they don't have time for you. It's just probably something that you can offer them that they like, that's keeping them there. So how do you forgive someone who's playing with your head? Unona kitu lakina me kwanbea huku ona. So after it's playing to him, piya hataki kusiki ara? In ala kwanbeata, kenyuna semasi korekt. Kamul yon naisimu apa alafu akumbuke. Oh my gosh, na nilisa hau simu. Aende afiche. Sijona simu apa ay simu gani. Okay, here, for such a person, nita kuwangumu kufoge. So the best thing aiki tu ni, to move on. As you know, nuna tu kawna na amside na nilise. Na chana tu nae. But you know, at a certain point you are not supporting this issue of moving on. Because you can move on. You are like locusts. That's my grating from one area to another area. You would rather someone stay in some of the... No, I'm not saying that you stay in a toxic relationship. Why? I would take that back when my queens will not hear this. You should not just move kama korona virus from... Please do not allow ni tambea ni ni wa in a relationship that is not making... So this is my point. Please, please. This is my point. Before you give in, you must know what you are. Why are you giving in? You must know the personality of the person. Because when you give in, when you give in, after some ni ni you are noticing that you are the wrong person. You move, then... I don't think that's a person. I don't think ni mimi na kwangali aware. So let me tell you something. Let me tell you before you tell me. I feel like in that situation, ati, sosa yo storya kusunga, maybe you are with Jojo, then next you are with Kaisu and all these things. I don't think it's a problem with you don't know what you want in a man. Ni wujwi kenyungu na takamunye. Well, wujwi. I think that's the problem. It's not with the guys. Another thing also, the most important thing is you must know the person you are dealing with, the temper of that person. Kuna other people, ati wa kikosa. Jojo, you are acting like this man don't pretend. It's like they don't spend years pretending to be the people. We are not pretending to be the people. We are not pretending to be the people. We are not pretending to be the people. Please, please. But you know, when we are talking about people, sayzit niko na uyu, na dewey am handling other guys inafaijuwe this person a kuiwi na iwi na iwi na iwi. Even ati akama beshtiangu na mini kusia, nisha mukha nimi pegi a beshtiangu na niki tukadoga na fakujo a wu mutu a kuiwi na iwi. Ya. So usikui apu na kawana na kia ui mutu na piga trua to truwa utuna na mibi ui mutu. He will never touch me. Ya. Oh, he loves me so much. Wow. I want to now bring it a little bit to the sisterhood. I hear we are our own worst enemies. Ya ni umnezaku. Mili ambe wa actually ua tu vali machali tunna vali ama demonzeitu. Because hatajua tofautia guchi na prada lakini sista kwa tajua. Sintu, demonza kwa tajua. So are we just doing these things for clouds? Do we look good to make others feel bad? Do we say things to bring other people down? What do you think? How do you live as a queen? How do I live as a queen? Please. Please. Please. Please. Please. Please. For example, ok, shkama kasi rikona mimi tse mimi miku kusia. Are you now going to go ahead and tell people nasty things about me that don't exist? Ama uta kujoni ambe onna vali. Can you leave her? Siyoku anastafil visuri. Why did you do it? Where did it come from? Ya. As for me, mimi miku kini kusia. I come to you, and we know that if we come in a room and you go to kikusiana after some time, we come back together again after. Apologize. Apologize. Hatshweza kusana na wadil. Aika ikwa. I once met a person, a lady, nastia onam tukawi in my life and I really hope I don't have the opportunity to meet someone like that again. As in, ushai onam utwa jifaya kwa rafki ako, but in the end, it's like me coming to talk to you only for the reason that I want to use this information that you give me, that's personal against you. Ya. How do you forgive someone like that? I think first you have to take time to heal from whatever it is you're hurting, because you might rush into, okay now let's talk this out, let's forgive each other, but then you're still hurting, so your relationship won't be mended. But then first you have to take time, first you heal from the hurting, then maybe you can talk it out with the person who hurts you. And then you talk it out to the person who hurts you and then they start crying, because now they are the victim and in fact it was all your fault. Is it to do exist, Tafavali? They exist. How do you deal with a person like that? I think Sila Zima. Sila Zima? Sila Zima to force you. We can't force issues. So how do you start forgiving yourself for even thinking of having a friend in the first place? I think you can just say things happen, it's live. Miljia mbea kiwaal. Kuchu ya niskasi. I want to call him. Contribute. He's a good friend. This is Joseph. Joseph na jwa kumasen mo. He's my good friend. Akil kuchu kongu kani in box. So I don't know. Nowadays we talk, we are good friends, we are mabudis na jwa. So what's happened? Joseph kanza kunia mbea, kumbea kona unge na nemyangu. He's a good friend. We are both friends, I love him. Kkutu kuna nise hi? I want him, I will love him. When they tell the truth. I was scared, I wanted to take pictures for them. I was scared, he was in a group, we were said to be friends, we were like in the field. So I don't know Joseph. He was scared, he was suspicious, he told me. Praise the Lord! That is a real man. He's a real man. The likes of Benson are watching. They know this story. So after some days, I don't know. Whom say na kansakun kya bibaya, then I can notice there's something that's not right here. So after some two days, story kakuja. These same, same group. Devin Mr. Nanakana yembia, she's in Rongo, Trongo University. Kansakun yembia. Sendo yembia, you see, I post to you. Whom say na, I'm like... Discussi kitu na, you say. But I have all your screenshots. So it's normally happening after that. How did you move on? No, mimi, I'm not this person like... Ni kwanza ni ma naume, grade ni. Nini, nini kutia ni kanyamaza. One of my friend kansakun solve izu witu. I don't want to comment about that thing. Because we talk to youse. Izu witu, umisana na se ma nili fanya. Nili, mimi nili nili. Nili yembia, youse, fanya. It was my fault, but youse, nili danganya. At first place. So I was thinking, youse, it's my friend. It doesn't feel so good. So why do you lie also? So mi ni katulia, after two months. Ni kawana mi nitu mi na long text. Ni kami jibuji. Okay. Akani mi, can we meet? Ya, we can meet. Because by that time, also I was avoiding conversation. Ni zakuna conversation nani. We met, we discuss issues, we solve issues. Ya, na yu relationship li kufa. Both of them. I thought it was going to happen. I thought it was going to happen. Me too. I thought it was going to happen. Why Jojo, why did you feel like that you needed to terminate the relationship now? Sometimes you need just to avoid other things. If you have a certain point, you are feeling like I did a mistake, I should accept my mistake, and then this person now knows me. Kama gemi ako yume pachekana like. So you are like, you just need to start a fresh life. You just want to start a fresh life. That's what I did, I just need fresh life. But even the lady, we still talk, even yesterday, I have a question. It's very hard to find two guys who have not talked to you for three months. Why? I really respect that code. It's never that serious. These things we do online, it's never that serious. So kids, it's your personal, they'll affect you and people are moving on. It's never that serious. And then maybe we live in this, some simple fights, they doesn't work. Like, we are in a grand fight and we are living our life. You are living your life. You are living your life. You are not living for someone else. We are living our life. We are not living our life. You are not living for each other? No, I am not. I am happy. Please talk to me about it. About it? Yes. I am happy. Sometimes we are not ourselves. We try to be ourselves. We try to be ourselves. There's a difference between being yourself and trying to be yourself. I am trying to be myself. It means you are someone else and you should not think about yourself. But you should not think about yourself. You should try to be yourself. You should try to be yourself. So you should try to be yourself. You should try to be yourself. You should try to be yourself. It's almost out of time. Imagine, it took me almost 10 minutes. It's almost out of time. It's almost out of time. We'll still see you in next 10 hours. We will see you in 10 hours. My friend. Please talk to me. We can have a part 2. We can have a part 2. I have at least one last question. Izi general too, and I hear these cases happening to other people, so maybe your friends Muske, your bestie here is very, very dangerous, so he's your boyfriend but her bestie So you already know what's happened, bestie has quiz, is he best friend? I don't understand this before Sasa, ashranza kujingizu yo foam, then kido go jojo me wukahi sa edu sasa So now you hate her for the rest of your life because she stole your man inyofu inyofu inyofu I can see ready with Anasa, it's actually you I was going to ask So how would you get over that, how would you forgive someone who was close to you, who's done something like that to you? If my friend starts dating my boyfriend I think that's really hard to come out of that And she's not even sorry by the, say atia na kuja kwa mbiam No, it's like I won Apu na skia makasiri kwa ingina ya kwa Guys, I don't want us to die After some time, you see after Ono joa, if a man lives as a manami aki kuwata Haizi kuwata evo, kuna kitu, kulefanya, amaze, something he wanted Batu kakata, stim na joa So, aki enda, oe joa tu Maybe he's being treated better upo I like it too But kuna wana penda tu wito For me, maybe Okay, if he decides to move on with my friend Okay, but ratua niya mbiam apema By the way, I don't feel it Apu na kiki za maio You'll see evidence Eh, ono na tu Bez, kwa zahimali, miwantemu Enda, ala kuna mbata tuwa mekali abe Bano na joa kuna topi Then, na kuna kula zimi Sasi gine, ude miya, ude miya kwa Besti, kwa niya kwa introduce na na kwa Lao ube bestia miya evata kumili kwa Where's the mistake some girls are doing outside there Na introduce kwa besti, kwa niya nimrembo kwa kulinko To your boy And then, ono na show your besti That your boy is treating you I don't like this angle for you I want to show you Yes, I love me to show you something And then, you are showing your besti That your boy is treating you well So, which means your besti will start admiring Oh, your relationship So, ono na kumambi Oh my God, he did it Eh, eh, eh So, I'm trying to learn to have a Oh my God, he does it like this Yeah But there you are Mtu na shkashkati So, time umetoka Eh, nae na kumangia This is your boy, you are her besti And I gather that men don't talk about their ladies Atia li faniye vijano usmiku We don't We don't have the besti We besti what you Stop talking about it If you must talk about your man Go to the Lord Are we together? Yes Please Please discuss with your mam Discuss with your mam Mam You are mad There are some things that cannot be discussed with your mam Eh, eh, eh What one anyway But you know kumangia Me, me, I believe There's only two people in your na kutakia mazuri Yeah Your mam and God Yeah, right So, remining her But I had it with she So, to Sameriana and Sindio But apparently we've not even got close to the surface of the topic So, we will bring you that same topic But two Okay We'll be at WhiteFive4 On Facebook at WhiteFive4 channel On Twitter hashtag Is why in the morning us Sez maliza elika blani kwambia form Oya na ni Teniwa Am keni, am keni Wa ikona form On Friday the 6th We will be at Mary University So, kwa na roadshow All the way from Emble Ending at Mary University Na wakona gala night On that Friday For Mr and Miss Mary University Don't want to miss it All your favorite presenters, DJs And all these people will be there So ita kwa live piya So, manzeuki usipitwe Apondotambia ni ni watu Okay But meanwhile you have an amazing week And an amazing date When I repeat from two to around four This is where we say bye guys Bye