 If you are blaming anybody or anything else in the world for your unhappiness Despite how valid it is. It might be very valid. So many may have done something very legitimately upsetting disturbing violent, but to the extent that you continue to blame Anybody or anything for your unhappiness you disempower yourself to access the solution You don't find happiness in the world by focusing on unhappy conditions and circumstances and people So as a victim you're focusing on the unhappiest parts of your life and your existence in the world And you will never find happiness that way right when you're putting the flashlight on the wrong things Yeah, you can't see everything else. It's in darkness. That's right You just become an expert in problems by focusing on problems not an expert in solutions. Yeah