 things narcissists cannot stand hello everyone I haven't done many live videos recently I have been really busy here in Thailand but I've got some really good videos coming up soon over the next few days but anyway here we are in this life things narcissists cannot stand there are so many things that bother the narcissist I'm sure you all have a long list of things that bother the narcissist in your life what really bothers the narcissist is when you think for yourself when you use your own intelligence to decide what is right or true they hate it when you do that they want to tell you what's right they want to tell you what's the truth they do not want you to decide that for yourself because then that takes away their control because then you're not giving your power away to them they hate it when you make your own decisions they want to make decisions for you they disguise it as though they want what's best for you but if you look back all you will see is situation after situation where things went against you and maybe ended up in their favor at your expense and yet they expect you to believe that they want the best for you what did they ever do that was good for you but they do not want you to make your own decisions and it's not because they want what's best for you they only care about themselves it's all about them there are so many things that narcissists cannot stand when you have power over yourself when you're in control of your emotions everything a narcissist does is designed to keep you off balance because they feel off balance but if they can keep you on your toes it makes them feel a bit more comfortable because again they don't even see us as separate human beings everything is just a reflection of them things narcissists cannot stand please share with me now what can the narcissist in your life not stand I would like to hear from you please share your thoughts below and we can then discuss it just out here in Phuket Thailand outside this 7-eleven which is now closed Bolinda says the narcissist and my family can't stand when I say no that's right they hate it when you say no they feel entitled to whatever they want so you're not even allowed to say no they can say no to you even for things that are rightfully yours they will deny you of that but if you say no to them it's a different story they cannot tolerate that they feel like you have no right to deny them of what they want Cheryl says not can't stand my focus on other one other things I think that is yeah they hate it when you focus on anything other than them they demand all of your attention they always have to be the center of attention they can't stand when the spotlight is on anything else even if you're sick they hate it when you get that attention even if it's just for a day they cannot stand it they always need everyone's attention to be on them because they're self-absorbed and they lack the capabilities that you can be able to attend to themselves Android says independent thought it's very true they often target us because we are free thinkers because we do engage in independent thinking but then they quickly want to dominate us because that benefits them to take control of us to make us think the way that they do so that they can then make us do what they want rather than what's doing what's best for ourselves because what's often best for us is not good for them because they need everything to suit them Matt says they cannot stand to be ignored very true they hate being ignored they need all of your attention at all times and they cannot deal with rejection even if it's just you don't agree with something they've said they cannot deal with that they expect you to agree with everything they say or otherwise there's something wrong with you there's something wrong with how you think they always have to make you feel crazy whenever you have your own independent thoughts but some of the things they say that's what's really crazy some of the things they try to get you to believe which is why if you bring it up to someone they're aware of it they will quickly change their story they'll gas like you they'll say they never said that or they'll say that you must have misheared them because deep down even though even they know just how crazy some of the things they say are some of the things they do they know it's nuts and they know that what you do does not justify what they do in response to you deep down these people already know that they're crazy that's why it's all about perception management they always have to change the way that other people see them by hiding the truth distorting the evidence because deep down they do know they're just constantly trying to push it under like a ball under water but it keeps popping up it's like once you're on to them you can't say anything right because it's constantly triggering them to self-reflect they become paranoid because they know that you figure them out deep down they are so unaware do they really know that the narcissist I think most of them don't really know they're doing everything they can to justify their actions they lie to themselves you try and tell an ass assist what they are what they're doing they just get really angry it's that coping and defense mechanism you cannot push through it's too painful for them to do except they've been the cause of so many problems but they have made so many mistakes that they can't even admit the littlest of things because then it would open the floodgates to everyone else but they have done that's right as Rose said in the comments there everyone else is the narcissist and the most tragic thing of all is that if they were just look in the mirror and think what if it's me what if I'm the narcissist what if I've made some mistakes that made people turn against me that made people want nothing to do with me if they could just do that that's what would set them free it would change everything but as we know that is the one thing that narcissists are not willing to do unless they were experiencing a crisis where they were completely alone and no one was there for them but of course that rarely happens because narcissists have so many enablers people who support their false narrative people who validate their false self when if these people would just leave them alone just let them be to figure things out on their own for a moment we could actually see a breakthrough for for a lot of narcissists these enablers are a huge part of the problem they enable their narcissism to continue which then results on them targeting victim after victim who are then made to believe that they are the narcissist when they're just trying to protect themselves it's tragic who really is but this is just how it is this is what these enable do and a lot of them don't actually realize what they're doing while others do and it's too afraid because these narcissists will intimidate you they will do everything to keep you down it's almost like a demon it's like they're possessed by this entity that shuts out who they really are and they just need to let the light in they need to let the light inhabit their bodies so that I can push that spirit out but the one thing they don't want to do is to let that light come within I think there's a reason why people would go to church and confess their sins they would ask for forgiveness I think there's a reason for that because when you do that it sets you free and I think that's something that we should all do even if there's some things that you can't say to other people say to yourself say to God just close your eyes and reflect on the things that you may have done wrong because that's what will set you free and that's what narcissists refuse to do they refuse to look at themselves they refuse to confess their sins and ask for forgiveness whether it's to God the universe or to themselves that is what releases your demons that is what sets you free when you just let it out you release it from your soul but they don't do that and that's why they're so full of so full of shame they're shame based individuals who are doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame when that self-reflection is the one thing that would set them free then they would no longer be living in hell and they would no longer be trying to pull you into that hell truth is narcissists are just very weak vulnerable people who cannot admit their mistakes they could not admit it even to themselves it's weakness that's what narcissism really is when they hold on to their inflated egos they hold on to this exaggerated sense of their own self-important and this isn't just for narcissists this is for anyone who's been narcissistic in any moment something that we can all relate to I'm sure we've all had a moment where we have felt narcissistic ourselves where we let this sense of our own self-importance overcome us I'm sure we can all relate to that I mean I could even say myself I've got over 100,000 subscribers on YouTube I could think does that make me better than someone with 50,000 but there lies the problem because if I have that mentality that could mean that someone who has 200,000 subscribers is better than me so when you explore this mindset you can see how narcissists set them up to set themselves up to fail because when you're living in your ego and you're so focused on what makes you more important to than other people that also means that other people can be more important than you but if you just live within your soul and you just realize that your worth comes from within not from these external things because when you do that you're just setting yourself up for misery and pain because there's always going to be someone better there's always going to be someone who's more intelligent more wealthier more attractive but narcissists are so insecure that when they see people like that they have to pull them down to their level they have to bring you down with them rather than realizing that we are all equal we're just equal in different ways the problem is that narcissists do have an inferiority complex that's why they always have to bring you down they have very low low self-worth and low self-esteem but that's really what it comes down to because of this deep insecurity they have this need to feel superior that's why they're so grandiose but if they would just let that shit go it would change their lives forever they would feel so much better inside to where they don't have to prove anything to anyone because then they already feel whole and complete within and that's why there's so many things that they cannot stand there's so many things that bruise their inflated egos people who are grandiose cannot deal with criticism they cannot deal with rejection because they depend on that exaggerated sense of their own self-importance to make them feel like there's something these dogs are getting a bit crazy out here don't really fancy getting mauled by a dog