 everybody to hashtag LNT episode 26 and I'd like to welcome you guys to a fresh and new episode live from the holy city of Karbala. Now okay you guys remember a few episodes ago where I said take a deep breath before talking about the topic which was risky at that time and intense at the same time. Well tonight we're probably talking about the riskiest topic out there if you already saw the poster or if you're really watching us on Facebook yes you read right now if you're watching us on TV don't go and spoil the fun by checking out Facebook do stay on TV because we're gonna talk about a lot tonight and hopefully we don't offend people and we shouldn't but let's go and jump in what's trending and we back very soon to talk about the topic today. Welcome again everybody for joining us tonight and the meeting with Trump and Kim Jong-un. Kim Jong-un is now on. Trump landed in Singapore along with Kim Jong-un and they're about to meet but as soon as Donald Trump reached the airport as soon as he landed they were the reporters asked how Trump feels about the summit and he says very good and very nice but Trump also said on Saturday a few days ago he said I feel that Kim Jong-un wants to do something great for his people and he has the opportunity and he won't have the opportunity again it's never going to be there again very eloquent again like 50 times but what else is trending this is very sad because it's a few days ago the Iraqi government or the parliament they said that everyone that voted from outside of Iraq their votes are excluded so they're not included in the elections and now what ends up happening an election building where all the votes majority of the votes are in was burnt now they don't know if it was burnt deliberately or not you know when corruption occurs this is what happens you know hopefully we get a good government coming into Iraq but you know this is this is sad to see very sad to see anyways let's go and jump in to tonight's topic before we talk about tonight's topic if your discretion is advised so if your children are there and if some information might not be there for them might be disturbing for them do put them aside you know put your plugs in put their iPods in their ears I don't know what you want to do but and if you want your children to be educated earlier on in their life let them continue watching but the decision is back to you tonight we're talking about a sensitive topic now tonight's topic is very important to the level of importance where and and sensitivity at the same time it hasn't been yet to be discussed on pulpits and face-to-face conversation we're not talking about jokes between friends who joke around with each other no no we're talking about serious face-to-face conversation but tonight as I mentioned very important and if you ask yourself where to look at to talk about this that the riskiest topics you know where to find this hashtag galenti got your back okay now in the teenage years after the youth hit puberty they go through physical and emotional changes now we'll put aside the physical change that's for a different episode but we'll focus on the emotional effect and emotional changes aka the sexual changes that go through the youth's life as they hit puberty now through society internet somehow the the introduction of sex to our youth has increased where we see everyone whether they're teachers whether there are students whether the professors everyone talks about this topic publicly and freely talks about sex now this when it's discussed near a youth it increases their level of hormones there they become hornier so to speak now tonight's topic we're talking about a topic that's very important for us for our youth and especially for those that are going to hit puberty very soon now one of teenagers alone in his room many things go on in his mind while he's imagining all of the sexual activities that he hears from his friends that he hears in music videos that he sees in commercials you know in movies don't watch Angelina Jolie's movies but so on and so forth so that kind of movies results in the youth's mind sexual imaginations that go on then Satan comes in shape on and he tells the comes jogging comes speeding speedway down the down his way and what he does he starts whispering to the to the teens ear put your hand where it shouldn't be putting you know I mean if you guessed right where he should put his hand keep it to yourself but the question for tonight if you're wondering about it masturbation yes we're talking about that tonight and your question is and why was it put so early I don't know but why is masturbation wrong why is it masturbation wrong if you think it's wrong let us know at plus nine six four seven seven four zero six seven eighteen thirty six you can also go on a live Facebook you can comment 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guys tonight is mainly revolving around why it's wrong from a religious perspective if you were to go scientific there are a lot of points that says maybe but we're trying to focus there are also scientific points we'll get to talk about tonight that say you know what masturbation is some sort of you know let's talk about it but why is it wrong that's the question for you guys to talk about and discuss them on your friends now why is it wrong why do people have a negative view of masturbation whether in Islam or out of Islam number one it's addictive the addiction part of masturbation is is looked at to be negative because you know anything that's addictive may result abuse and if you go to the internet there are people who abused masturbation they ended up having severe damage to their organs now erectile dysfunction erectile dysfunction and this is very important to look at at the same time because it's it's among but let's let's just put this out there is exclusively for men obviously we want to get into stuff for a lot okay now this is among the prominent side effects of masturbation men who indulge in this act have an increased risk of suffering from erectile dysfunction and in and this would also affect him later on life as we'll get to talk about it later on now another point or another side effect if you will why masturbation is wrong is premature ejaculation and this is and you know up to now I do repeat again viewer discretion is advised so we're talking about explicit stuff here premature ejaculation a lot of men suffer from that and if you happen to do that act then stop it because we'll get to convince you show a lot the end of the episode now this is masturbation is linked to pure mature ejaculation because the physical action that you're doing results in various dopamine and various things to come out anyways we don't want to talk about that yeah so we got a text message from estimate many for men masturbation will definitely negatively affect your health it is an act that is selfish okay thank you very much estimate many for joining us once again in tonight's episode now yes it is selfish but we are saving a few Facebook comments we'll get to talk about that read them out later on and ash as as Matt mentioned it is selfish so don't do it just go and do something else anyways now it reduces the the firmness in some subsequent ejaculations for me I'm I'm just you know going into this very smoothly so nothing slips out and people may you know use that against us now one of the points that we need to keep in mind you know scientifically speaking if a person does ejaculate the next time he wants to have sex it won't be the same as if he it was the first time he erects now this is this this is scientifically proven now masturbation doesn't have the health benefits that sex does and this is very important to keep in mind this is recording to web md.com so it's not just random knock off website that's mentioning these points a validated website credible website that's mentioning these points and it doesn't have the health benefits as sex does why because studies show that the benefits of sex are a lot the benefits of masturbation is less although people say it's it's a form of relaxation that's just nonsense it's it's it's a sense of jousiness that a person feels and then they confuse it with relaxation and you can go into the psychology of that and learn all about that now one of the most important things to keep in mind when when discussing this topic is expected that the correlation between sex and masturbation even and as scientists have proven the semen that comes out is totally different from the semen that comes out during sex and that's what a lot of people don't understand about this sensitive topic now another we should throw a joke in right now another side effect of masturbation is hair loss we're not you know next time you see a bald person I just ask him why have you been doing your life no I'm kidding but according to some websites masturbation does result in hair loss maybe not to all but you know just to throw the out there according to some websites now another one is aging men who masturbate more than six or seven times a day so we're talking about a lot in a day that will result in them aging you're you're gonna have the wrinkles on your face wrinkles on your hand definitely so it will result to aging now let's jump in very quickly and go to look at the Islamic point of view now what does Islam say about masturbation Islam is very firm when it comes to and it's it's very straightforward when it comes to masturbation the Islamic term for masturbation is called Istimna Istimna means the person who you know plays with their organs we don't want to get into you know it's private organs you know it's it's it's self-explanatory we don't need to go into how and when they're where and why so it's the stimulation of their sexual organs before we continue talking about the Islamic point of view I just give you a gist of it I want to go and ask Sayyid Hussain Qazmin who has joined us tonight as the expert for tonight and how he thinks masturbation is wrong Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen wa sallallahu ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa alayhi al-tayyibin al-taherin qalallahu ta'ala Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem wa aladheenahum lufroojahim hafidoon illa ala azwajahim awma malakat aymanuhum fa innahum ghayru maloumin fa man ebtgawaraa azalika fa ulaika humul aadoon sadaq Allahul al-Aliyul al-Azim Allah asma wa ta'ala has put in every human being sexual desire this is something very normal very natural something that it's put into every human by Allah Azawajah and Allah himself has put avenues in how to satisfy those needs just like the way he put in hunger and thirst in human beings he put rules and restrictions that you may satisfy your hunger and thirst through lawful means through halal food and halal drinks when it comes to sexual desire Allah who has put these desires in a human being has put the right avenue that you may satisfy these desires in the right way and that way is through marriage there's no other way there's no other lawful way of satisfying those desires so this crosses out the ideas of fornication adultery and masturbation fornication and adultery we know why this destroys families it destroys social relationships it destroys the community but why masturbation? it's very simple when a person is accustomed to self gratification will this person be in the need of a partner in the future? will this person think of getting married in the future? no if he or she has self fulfillment and self gratification that person will not be in need of a family will not be in need of a spouse in fact some people have this habit and they entered into a marriage and they did not give up this habit that marriage was destroyed if a marriage is not based on mutual interests if a husband and wife are not there for each other to satisfy their needs then that marriage will be destroyed so many marriages were destroyed because of an old destructive habit either with the husband or of the wife and they could not take control of this habit and this habit is addictive how the mind works some habits are extremely addictive and very hard to give up so when a person has this habit and goes into marriage and self suffices that means he is not in need of his wife or the wife is not in need of her husband this will definitely disrupt the stability of the marriage and can ultimately lead to divorce think of it this way if this habit was natural and everyone were to practice this habit no one would be in need of marriage and the human race would go extinct that is the biggest proof that this habit is unnatural and unlawful because it would lead to the extinction of human beings if a person has sexual desires and cannot control those sexual desires and sees himself or herself continuously being tempted by shaitan and this person needs to go and get married and satisfy those desires either hopefully through permanent marriage and that is the desired marriage or if that is not accessible then perhaps through temporary marriage this is a habit not just for males even for females and it's addictive for both but it's a habit that a person can overcome with the help of Allah Azawajal and praise be to Allah and peace be upon Muhammad and his family Thank you very much for joining us tonight and clarifying a lot of points that many may were not aware of the side effects of masturbation one second we do think for joining us tonight he mentioned a few points regarding masturbation but we'll get to them right after we read this Facebook comment that we got on Facebook he says from the wisdom of Imam Ali peace and blessings be upon him a stimulant from the private basically what he's saying is the cause of being in such an act is loneliness when a person is lonely a lot of things go through his mind so the solution that we'll get to talk about later on insha'Allah now Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala mentioned chapter 3 sorry let's write his name down I forgot for a sec read thank you very much for joining us tonight your name is going into the bone insha'Allah now going back to the topic now Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala mentioned chapter 23 verses 5 and 6 he says the believers are those who protect their sexual organs except from their spouses therefore whosoever seeks more beyond than sexual gratification then they are the transgressors the last line makes sense because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given us guidelines has given us a straight path to walk down and one of the important things to keep in mind when walking down that path is we don't need anything that deviates us from that path now what do I mean by that yes now a lot of scientists are coming forward and saying that you know what there's nothing bad about masturbating it makes an individual relaxed now I don't care about what science says for me as a Muslim if science goes according to the Qur'an according to the Ahlul Bayt A.S I would take it but in a case where Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given me guidelines whereas Sayyidi Hassan mentioned if this was a natural thing which scientists say it's a natural thing that humans do if this was so natural and so straight forward that everyone can do then why do people do it behind closed doors why do they keep it a secret because everything that people do everyone knows about if two married people if a male and a female are married people right away know and if they have children then they're having sex if a person is alone they don't know if he's doing that or not so with that we need to keep in mind it's not a natural thing because it has destroyed marriages and one of the points that Sayyidi Hassan did mention is that if this was so natural then people would not really need to get married but Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala then goes to chapter 7 verse 179 he says like cattle they are more astray they are the heedless ones now this verse is trying to say that a person shouldn't be heedless a person should refrain from such acts if a person wants to be on the right path but we just received a text message from Rismi Turner from Australia he says I think self-pleasure is not a sin you don't hurt anyone you don't hurt anyone in process as long as you do it in private and not being vulgar with camera and watching porn thank you very much Rismi for joining us tonight your opinion thank you very much and you're not hurting anyone technically but you're hurting yourself and I'll just stop it right there Rismi okay thank you very much Rismi Turner from Australia now going on to the cure for masturbation it's easy to say that fornication involves two individuals involves a man and a woman but for masturbation it doesn't really need to involve another person just involves one person so a person really needs to learn the ways as we'll get to talk about it inshallah learn the ways on how to cure that addiction that he has and I did mention it's not only addictive to men it's addictive to women as well so let's take a look at some of the ways that you can overcome masturbation one very important point to keep in mind is strengthening willpower if a person really can comprehend the idea that in order to stop an addiction ask a smoker if he wants to stop smoking he needs a strong will if a person if a person tries to stop masturbation he needs commitment he needs strong will and that's very important to keep in mind for tonight the second way you can cure this addiction or you can overcome this act is staying in company of people of other people you don't have to do it if a person wants to refrain from something or get attached to something let him do it 40 days 40 mornings or 40 nights so basically 40 nights and mornings let him do that thing and then he will be able to gradually overcome whatever he wants to overcome or get into whatever he wants to get into so keep in mind always stay around company so you won't fall into that sin text message from Farhad Aziz from Canada Farhad says you should strive to refrain from masturbation if you are married then you should be intimate with your spouse not with your husband okay thank you very much Farhad Aziz for joining us tonight and letting us know what you think very true very true I don't know why it's unfortunate that we see married men actually masturbating but if there is and you have a wife and if you have kids that's even worse so just put an end to that because you don't need that now another way that you can cure this addiction that you can overcome masturbation is adopt sports go play sports when you start thinking of sexual activity in your mind when those images pop up in your mind right away do something go play sports play a game on your phone play PUBG as the guys play here do anything that you want other than masturbation try to change the way you are thinking as you're thinking it I know it's hard the mentality of a person who is addicted to something is very hard to overcome so what a person needs to do is occupy his time occupy himself or herself at that time by playing sports by joining even a fashion club you can go join that if you think that's going to overcome masturbation another one and the final cure for masturbation is get married get married isn't your hand tired stop that you don't need that in your life go get married and if you think your testosterone is hitting the roof then what you need to do is but what you need to do is temporary marriage if a person they shouldn't be or they shouldn't allow themselves to fall into a haram situation so what they need to do go find a temporary marriage and not just for sex but for that relationship to overcome that to overcome masturbation well my dear viewers the act of masturbation indeed is forbidden with the religion of Islam and look down upon in every society and trust me when I say that even if you're living in the west if you go up to your boss and tell him or if you have like a conversation you won't have a person talking about masturbation because it's a sensitive topic and a topic that people really don't want to talk about but hashtag Elinti chose to talk about it to bring to you the proofs that masturbation is wrong thank you very much for joining us tonight this is Ahmad Ali coming to you live do stay tuned for the upcoming episodes 2am Karbala time 12am London time 7pm Washington DC time Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh