 And another concept that I think is important is to have what I call ruthless self-love. And that's just not this coddling self-love of a spoiling grandmother. Oh yeah, eat the candy love. It's that ruthless self-love like, this is what's best for you. I'm looking out for you long-term. I want you to thrive in your life and I'm gonna give you what you need to thrive and nothing else, you know? My self-love does not talk that nice. My self-love is the get-up pussy. Let's do this shit. Ah! It makes a lot of noises. Come on, bitch. Don't be a bitch. Don't be a bitch. That's why it's ruthless, you know? But it's not cruel. It's not gonna be that. It's not cruel. It's not gonna punish you unnecessarily. Oh, you fucking fat slob, you lazy piece of shit. That can happen. It can happen and that's what you gotta watch. You gotta have that, that's the self-love part of it. You know, the ruthless is that, intense like, come on, do it, you know? Get up, get yourself done. This is what's best for you. And then the self-love part is not to unnecessarily antagonize yourself because we can be brutal to ourselves. I mean, who would we allow talk as much shit to ourselves as ourselves? Right. You know, nobody. Yeah, I think the term self-love is a funny one because people, you love yourself, don't you? You always knew you loved yourself. You know, people, there's a weird thing about, well, if you don't love yourself, why the fuck would anybody else love you? You know, you should be a person worthy of your own love and if you're not, you're doing it wrong. It's really that simple. It doesn't mean worship yourself. It doesn't mean pretend that you're something awesome if you're not. It means let yourself know when you're not awesome. Let yourself know everything you're doing wrong and be completely honest with yourself. And until you do that, you're doomed. You're doomed. You're doomed. You know, you're gonna get it right. You're never gonna get it right. If you don't look at yourself the way other people look at you or even more harshly, you're fucked. And then the other component is forgive yourself for these pasties. We'll rehash these old things that we've done so many times. You are not the past. Yeah, that becomes new resistance. You know, these old pasties that we're constantly lashing ourselves. The way to look at it in my opinion is just let yourself know you are not the past. You are who you are right now and you could have fucked up your entire life but right now you wake up and the way I always describe it to people pretend that you are a hero in your own movie. And the movie just started now. Your life is in shambles. What would the hero in the movie do?