 Sir, how do you know that the person you are with is the right person to you? Oh! Popular, eh? It once happened, Shankaran Pillai was at the family dinner and when everybody settled down for dinner, he stood up at the table and announced, I am going to marry Lucy who is just across the street. I hope that's not the name. Then the father said, What? You going to marry Lucy? She has nothing. She's like a tramp. You going to marry that Lucy? Mother said, What? You going to marry that Lucy? The uncle, uncles always pitch in in this kind of matters, you know. Uncle said, What? You going to marry that Lucy? Have you seen her hair? It looks fake. The aunt, What? You going to marry Lucy? She's always painted. You going to marry the painted woman? The little boy, the nephew can't be left out. He said, You going to marry Lucy? She doesn't even know what is cricket. How can you marry her? Shankaran Pillai stood his ground and said, Yes, I am going to marry Lucy. Everybody asked in one voice, Why? He said, Because she has no family. There are no many opinions to battle with. So, who is the right person? I don't want to take away all the romance from your life. But, let me tell you this, there is no right person on this planet. If you put your heart into something, something may become wonderful. Is it the right thing? There is no right thing. Nobody ever found the right person anywhere, okay? If you get into that kind of unrealistic mindset, I have found the right person. Oh, you will be soon disappointed. You must understand, there is no right person. First thing is to see whether I am the right person. Yes, I am either right person and there are no right people on this planet. If you understand, you have your nonsense, they have their nonsense. They can adjust nonsense to nonsense. Go on. We must understand, relationships are formed for various needs. There are physical needs, there are psychological needs, there are emotional needs, there may be social needs, there may be financial needs, various kinds of needs. So, when you are going to somebody with so many needs, you are going as a beggar and a beggar cannot choose. Bigger is what comes its way, isn't it? He cannot choose. So, if you really want to make a choice in this world, first and foremost thing is, you bring yourself to your place where your experience of life is just pleasant by yourself. You are wonderful. Now, let us see what gets drawn to this one. If you are really wonderful, things will happen in every way, I am saying. In terms of career, in terms of marriage, in terms of relationships, the best will happen to you because you met yourself like this. Instead of trying to work on somebody and fix them, if you work upon yourself and make you so wonderful that everybody wants to be with you, then there is a choice. And this whole thing is an American thing that there is a soulmate somewhere. God made just one more person just for you, but these days every two years he keeps making one more person just for you. Obviously, God is making too many mistakes with you. See, body needs a mate, understandable. Maybe psychologically also you need a mate, understandable. Emotionally you need a mate, a soul cannot need a mate, so soul doesn't need a mate, nor was some person made perfectly for you. Okay? This creation makes all kinds of unique idiots. If you understand you are one kind of idiot and the others are different kind, you will be, you will understand their nonsense because you know you've got your stuff. If you think you're perfect and God has chosen you and he's made another person perfect somewhere else, you're heading for a disaster, okay? There is no such thing. Even you know people today after five thousand years, people are still audulating and worshipping Krishna as the greatest lover, but his wife's are dead unhappy with the guy. Yes. So you're not going to find any perfect person. If you invest a deep sense of involvement, something wonderful may happen because of your involvement, not because other person is fantastic. No. Even if you choose a fool, actually it's easy that way. If they're not stupid, why would they come to you first of all? No, no, no, I'm just being nasty. So even if you choose a fool, it doesn't matter. If you involve yourself, it can turn out very beautiful. You chose the smartest person in the universe, it could be a disaster. So do not think in terms of, you know, whatever this made for each other nonsense. No. You choose the opposite actually. But after some time, after a little bit of time, you slowly start expecting they're just like you. This is a serious mistake because if one more person becomes just like you, you won't be able to bear with them for two days. Hello? Please tell me. If there's one more person just like you at home, could you live there? You're glad they're different. It's wonderful. Nobody is like you, isn't it? Nobody is like you on this planet. Try and see. Nobody is like you. And that's good. Don't look for sameness. Not necessary. It's a difference which makes the... because the difference you tango, not otherwise.