 Why narcissists actually have no power? Narcissists don't have any power Because what little power they do have They give away to other people Because they need people They hate being alone They get bored They feel like they're missing out on something There's nothing worse for a narcissist than their own company That's why they hate rejection They always need a distraction They need relief from their unpleasant reality By seeking entertainment and engaging in fantasy Or by having a relationship They don't get into relationships to build something with the other person They see their partner as someone who is meant to serve them Someone who is meant to meet their needs Someone who is meant to support them They're heavily dependent on their relationship partner They need them to validate the illusions of their false self And if they refuse to do that They will be used as their doormat and as their emotional punching bag, which is still supporting their false self It's still telling them that they're superior to you They use people to support their false beliefs about themselves Which reveals that it's a false image Because it's not self validated It doesn't come from within They're pretended to be something they're not And they're receiving false compliments and praise Because they're not really about any of that They're just playing a role to get attention and validation But many of them get so caught up in their false character That they start to believe their own lie They start to believe that the character is who they actually are It's actually a form of psychosis Because they're not grounded in reality They don't know who they are All they know is their false character And that is why their image is so important to them Because that's all they have They abandon their true self They abandon their true identity and when they created their false self It may have created opportunities for success It may have fed their ego Which is what it was intended to do But the character can also change depending on their success or lack of success Depending on who they're around They will tell you whatever they think you want to hear They will show you whatever they think you want to see Because they're very insecure They need acceptance They need compliments and praise The narcissist never loved you They were never emotionally attached to you They have an inability to do that Which is how it was so easy for them to discard you They extracted love from you Because it made them feel powerful When you loved them You were given your power to them And when they started to devalue you And you began to hate them It still made them feel powerful Because it made them feel relevant It made them feel like there was something significant to you Because they were able to affect you If they can get a reaction out of you It's because you're given your power to them You're giving them supply But you can also choose to not give them your power You can choose to not give them supply By ignoring them By walking away And when you do that it destroys them Because their main objective is not to make you love them And it's not even to make you hate them Their main objective is just to make you care To affect you in some way Which is why the worst thing you can do to a narcissist Is to show them that you don't care To act like they don't even exist Because they depend on you to feed their ego They depend on you to make them happy But they don't want you to know that They don't want you to know just how much they need you That is why the first thing they have to do When you begin to realize that they're not bringing anything to the table Is tear down your self-esteem They have to break you down So that you won't realize just how much they need you So that you won't realize how important you really are They trick you into thinking that you're beneath them As though you have nothing that they would want When really, they actually think you're great about them That's why they do it Narcissists do not have any power They strip us of our power to maintain that authority over us It's an illusion of power Because they never look within themselves They never take accountability They depend on us for validation They project their fear and shame onto us Because they actually need us more than we need them Which is why they're so persistent at love-bombing And tearing down our self-esteem They will do anything to get you attached to them To make you dependent on them Because then they can gain control of you They can feel relevant But without having someone to control They wouldn't feel in control So you are the one who has the power Which is why when you stop talking to them And you walk away from them Their false reality crumbles It falls apart And it reveals how they actually have no power at all They just tricked you into giving your power to them They manipulated you They deceived you Because they're heavily dependent on you They need your attention and validation To prop up their false self Because without that they have nothing There's no happiness inside of them Which is why they need constant entertainment To distract them from their unpleasant reality You were given your power to the narcissist But you may not have been aware of it Which is why they stayed with you for so long But when you do finally realize your power over them That is when they will ghost you That is when they will disappear And you may never hear from them again Because at that point They're just going to see you as a lost cause They're not going to have any use for you You're only useful to the narcissist if you're unaware If you don't realize your power Because then they can trick you into giving your power to them Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching Inquiries You can email me at coaching.narksurviver.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll 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