 Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Assey of JonathanAssey.com and I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today. Our topic, the six big signs he's into you. He likes you. These are gonna be six big signs so you can tell if a guy likes you. All right, really quickly, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button. He'll bell so you can be notified of new videos. And if any time during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms. Really quickly, my coaching is what I call heart-centered radical honesty. It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. And occasionally I use expletives to enhance a sentence. So if an F-bomb or two isn't your cup of tea, I suggest logging off right now. Lastly, these are my thoughts, my perceptions, my opinions, by no means do I suggest this is the truth. You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a bit of a contrarian, so my advice goes contrary to public opinion and traditional expectations. So once again, all I ask is you give me a little chance. All right, let's talk about those six big signs that guys into you, we like you a lot. Look at the dating process is very frustrating these days. There's no doubt about it. And the fact is is a lot, it's hard to tell if someone really likes you or if they're playing games. And the idea of someone playing games is the narrative for those human beings who want connection, who want connection, but they're not really either ready for a relationship. They have wounds, they have traumas, they have past hurts, there's stuff going on, and they're in their own internal conflict, internal conflict. And a lot of times that's being judged as game playing because men do tend to come on strong because we have this strong biological desire to have sex with women. I mean, quite frankly, what do men think about all day long? Sex, sex, sex, sex, sex. Now, is that absolute? No, it's not. However, when it comes to relationships, that's usually the predominant thought on our minds, especially when we're meeting someone, especially if there's chemistry connection, you feel like there's a strong desire to be with someone. Oftentimes that's built on that sexual desire to be with them without really knowing who they are. And part of the problem with the dating process today is unlike the past, we are meeting total strangers. We're meeting total strangers, we know little or nothing about them. And so human beings, men and women alike don't feel emotionally safe with each other to actually start building the tapestry of a relationship. I'm gonna repeat that. It's oftentimes a lack of emotional safety for both men and women to build that tapestry. I want you to think of a tapestry to build a successful relationship because the vast majority of humans know very little about the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship. And this is why if you watch my channel repeatedly, I oftentimes recommend reading the book, Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. Why is that? Because folks, if you genuinely want a fully committed relationship, then it's important to understand the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship. And the reason why that's so important is because a significant percentage of men are not capable of being in a relationship. They're dysfunctional in a relationship and they don't have a capacity to go much further than something casual. I'm gonna repeat that. They don't have the capacity to go to something deeper than casual. And this is a relatively new phenomenon. This didn't exist 50, 60, 100 years ago. I mean, we backtracked that far back. Oftentimes people got married and they had mistresses and that was their way to solve the problem, but I'm not suggesting that in any stretch of the means. I'm just saying is that it was a lot different 50, 100 years ago because basically people made it for the financial security of being with one another and it wasn't based on their individual ability to take care of one another. In other words, you don't need a codependent relationship which was predominantly what relationships were in the past. In other words, women needed men predominantly to be the provider protector and that doesn't exist as much anymore today. You know, I'm gonna shift gears for a second because I wanna share something personal for a moment. I'm belong to a men's group. There's roughly about 12 to 15 men in our group. It's called the God's group. Most everybody in the group has a spouse or a partner or are in a relationship. So the women are called the goddesses, the men are called the gods. And not in any, you know, well, nevermind. I won't even go down that route. Anyway, my point in sharing this is, you know, I'm blessed to be surrounded by men who are genuinely in love with their partners. They're genuinely love with their partners. And interestingly enough, I'd say in the last six or seven years that I've been part of the group, roughly about six of the men in the group have met their partner in the last six years and they met them all through online dating. Let me repeat that. These are guys that met their partners all through online dating. Three of the men have already gotten married. The other three men are in great relationships. I believe that they live together. Yeah, all three of them now live together. And why I'm sharing this is, I get the benefit and I got to break bread with some of them over the weekend. And I got to really sit down with them and get a sense of what makes their relationship work. Why is this different than every other? And what I recognized within them is they're with women who are very strong, smart, successful, confident women. And I don't mean successful by a financial means. I think they're successful in their senses. They've got a really true sense of their identity and they're not afraid to speak up in relationship. Let me repeat that. They have a true sense of their identity and they're not afraid to speak up in their relationship. These are women who genuinely, from my perspective because I've got to break bread with them a lot is these are women who love themselves. In fact, what is my book? If you're not familiar with my book, what the heck is self love anyway? What I was just about to share about these women is chapter one in my book is speak your truth, speak your truth, do it with kindness. And so these are women that are empowered to speak up to the men they're with and these men deep dive deep into the relationship. And I just want you to know these men do exist. They do genuinely exist. You have to sort through out of a lot of dysfunctionality men and men who have clinical issues. There's no doubt about it. These men do exist. And one of the reasons why I became a dating and relationship coach is to help narrow the playing field. So you're not dating the dysfunctional men. If you're not familiar with my emotional maturities relationship skills chart, here it is. You can see here, by the way, this is not a fact. It's an opinion, but you can see here, I basically believe that 20% of the population has clinical issues, clinical issues. And while over here, I say 20% of the population is emotionally healthy, I'm probably being a bit generous when I say 20%. Because the vast majority of human beings are dysfunctional and this is true of women as well as men. So as I'm thinking about this group that I'm associated with, these are people that don't have problems. And when we get together and do our group events together, most everybody isn't afraid to be vulnerable, to be authentic, to be transparent. I'm gonna repeat that. Most everyone isn't afraid of being vulnerable, authentic and transparent. In fact, that's where the juice of their relationship lies. I'm gonna repeat that. That's where the juice lies is their ability to be vulnerable, authentic and transparent with one another because once you get past that space in the dating process of getting to, well, let me reframe that. Let me rewind, let me do my Willy Wonka, scratch that, rewind that. Listen, in dating today, there's no doubt we're meeting total strangers. Most of the time we're meeting total strangers which requires to go deeper than the surface by asking better questions because if you're meeting a stranger and you know nothing about them, as I was talking earlier about emotional safety, it's gonna be much harder to start to build that tapestry together. And if you haven't read the book by Malcolm Gladwell called Talking to Strangers, I highly recommend reading this book along with another book about emotional intimacy because it's going to require going deeper than the surface as many of you are in the dating realm. Now, I know you're saying, but Jonathan, men need to be doing this, men need to be doing this, men need to be doing this. I agree, it would be great if men were doing this. The problem is ladies, women purchase these types of books, relationship books, nine, 10 fold greater than men. I'm gonna repeat that. Women purchase relationship books, nine, 10 fold greater than men. Now, what books do men purchase? Most books that men purchase is how to meet women, how to, you know, how to meet women because their greatest fear is usually centered around confidence in meeting someone, walking up to a total stranger as an example is a scary thing, talking on the, look at, even the ability to communicate with our devices is a scary thing for both men and women alike. So this, I'm so tired of the crap. Let me backtrack. I'm so tired of the negativity, particularly from women. And by the way, men too, so I mean, I hear more of it from women. There are complaints about men and their behavior and their inability to lean in. And I'm here to say, I'm here to say, these men aren't bad human beings. If you make it out that men are bad, then you will only attract more bad men. I always say most men are good guys. They're just bad daters, but it doesn't make them bad guys. And so how can you improve this narrative? Understanding the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship, understanding that chemistry doesn't lead to relationship success. If you're not familiar with my relationship iceberg, I'm gonna put it up on the screen as you can see above the waterline is the word attraction and you can see the chemistry is the tip of the iceberg. But can you read here, compatibility, shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity, that's more important to get to know in the early stage of dating. This is why when women reach out to me and hire me for private coaching, by the way, there's a link below to schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you. My whole job is to teach you how to pre-qualify your prospect, how to ask better questions, because here's the new thing that's happening today because the past is prologue. What I mean to say is women aren't dependent upon men, most women, not all, most men, women aren't dependent financially on men to be the provider protectors in the relationship. And this actually has shifted a whole new narrative into mutual partnership, mutual partnership, coming at it from a completely different angle. This is what's going to have to shift if you wanna meet that amazing partner in your life. And that's gonna require the new term is called hardballing, hardballing. I call it radical honesty. In fact, that's what I teach in my program of coaching is teaching you how to ask the right questions based on your personality to determine if he's a right fit for you. So it's time to be radically honest and do this over the telephone before you ever meet the person. Say, hey, can we just, if we're gonna meet, can we spend a few minutes just to determine if we're on the same page in what we're looking for in a relationship? I just wanna share with you, I'm looking for a relationship where we spend three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, both in our personal and our professional life, intimacy, both physical and emotional intimacy that leads to either moving in to getting married. What are you looking for? Oh my God, I just overwhelmed him. Guess what? You wanna overwhelm the wrong guys because the right guys will lean in. But Jonathan, that leads for no mystery. If your whole life can be summed up in a 20 minute, 30 minute coach or a telephone call with someone, then you've got a big problem because mystery happens throughout, friends I've known for 30 years and there's still mystery that happens with these friends. So this whole notion that you have to, I'm here to say lead into something deeper because the passive way of dating, the passive way of dating isn't working. So let's move forward to talk about what are the signs to tell a guy likes you? So you've found, you've asked the better questions, right? And you're afraid, you're afraid because it's natural to feel fear if someone likes you. Men feel this all the time. I'll be candid with you. I'm pathetic sometimes, but I'm constantly asking for some reassurance because it's really hard to tell if someone likes you, especially if you haven't developed the roots to trust. And it takes about a hundred hours of face to face time to develop the roots of trust in a relationship. I mean, it takes a hundred hours to get to just stage level of one of trust to know the roots of trust. So, if there's real trust in this relationship. So let me jump into some of those big signs that I said, you can tell that the guy likes you, okay? You can tell the guy likes you a lot. And I'm guilty, guilty, look at that. I have done everything I've listed here. I've done everything I've listed here. So I want to share with you. Number one, he's following you on your social media and he clicks like on pictures of whether it's Instagram, whether it's Facebook, wherever you are on social media, he's looking at it, he's following you and he's liking you. Now he may be following you and you may not know it. So he might not be liking, but a guy who genuinely likes you is following you on social media. Number one, and it's okay to let someone follow you on social media folks. It helps build that intimacy because again, we're meeting total strangers and we don't feel emotionally safe with one another. So number one, he's following on social media. Number two, he's asking you deeper intimate questions than the surface questions most people are dating today. How's your day going? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. Deeper questions is asking about your professional life. What inspired, like even on a first date, he goes like I met a school teacher recently and my question is what inspired you to become a school teacher? What type of satisfaction do you get out of being a school teacher? Have you had any problem children? It's digging deeper than the surface by picking out the layers below the surface conversation. How's your day going? So if a guy really likes you, he's gonna be asking you deeper questions. He's gonna ask you about your past relationship. He's actually even going to ask you what you're looking for in a relationship. That's a great sign for someone who does that. Number three, he sounds happy when he's speaking to you. He's got enthusiasm when he's speaking to you. He doesn't need to play it cool. A guy who really likes you, you can hear it in his voice. You can hear enthusiasm, you can hear happiness. Is that sinking in? That's what men do. Again, I know we have to get past that. I wanna have sex. I wanna fuck your brains out period of time because that's the way most men operate, myself included, although I do all these things. I am still driven by my penis. I'm a red-blooded male. I can do stupid things. I can have sexual innuendos in the early conversation. This doesn't mean I'm an asshole. It just means we are stuck with our biology and sometimes it clashes with our consciousness, okay? Number four, he remembers the little things about you. He remembers the little things about you. Actually, when I wrote this down, I was remembering my first relationship after my divorce. I'll never forget. I visited her home once or twice before she came to my home. And I remembered she's saying that she liked a particular bottled water. I don't know if they still make this anymore. It was called pentawater. So I made sure to get a six-pack of pentawater so it was in my fridge when she came. And I think I was probably drinking sparklets or something like that. But you know what? Men pay attention to those little things about you. They start to rack up in their brains, not from a conscious perspective. It's because they're genuinely listening to you. They're being present with you. When you can feel that presence, you can feel it just the way they're just looking at you when you communicate from a sense of presence, of curiosity. And we're gonna remember those little things just like I remembered that for her. Number five, if he has, if he's busy, he moves things around to make time for you. This is the biggest one of all. A man who genuinely likes you, if he's got a busy schedule, he moves things around to make time for you. That's a great sign. This is after you've gotten laid, okay? This is a great sign that he's really into you and he likes you. And number six, I shared this before. I'm gonna say it again. By the way, we have some men in the group. So if you agree with this one, please post a comment in the comment section. He's willing to be vulnerable, authentic and transparent with you. When a man genuinely likes you, he's willing to be vulnerable. I like you. He might even say, I'm afraid you don't like me. He might say that. He's authentic in his life and he's transparent. What transparency means, if it's material to the relationship, he's gonna speak up. He might talk about things in his life that may feel like shame, but it might be important for you to know and he's gonna speak up. He's vulnerable, authentic and transparent. Those are six big signs. A guy is into you and he thinks about you a lot. He checks you on social media. He asks deeper questions. He sounds happy when he speaks with you. He remembers the little things. If he's busy, he moves things around. And lastly, he's vulnerable, authentic and transparent. I've already got guys saying in here, I'm already that. In the Q and A box, okay, in the chat box. All right, I think that covers our content for today. I think this will be a great place to stop for our live stream chat. In other words, if you have questions of me, this is your chance to ask a question. You have a couple options. You can write the word question and then post the question there after if you have a me or you can purchase a super sticker, super chat. There's a little dollar sign in the box. All the monies from the super sticker, super chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. That's a picture of him there. That's him with his mom and his brother on his brother's graduation. Actually, that was the last time we were together as a family. Connor passed away in 2018. And in his honor, I started a scholarship fund to defray the cost of personal development for those seeking personal development work, also to donate to charities such as the Hoffman process or insight seminars, which are great places to heal your childhood wounds and traumas. I would be truly honored if you did donate to Connor's charity today or scholarship fund today by purchasing a super sticker, super chat. And if you're listening to the audio portion of this, you won't be able to see any of this. All right, let's jump into our questions. Sheik says, question, what if he does these things and says he's not ready for a relationship? What is it? Well, you know what, at least he's honest, okay? If he does that, okay. Listen, it takes, remember I said it takes about a hundred hours of face-to-face time to build the first layer of trust, emotional trust. It takes doing social activities, hobbies, mutual interest, spending time with family and friends to build deeper layers of trust. So most likely what's happened in your case, Sheik, is that you guys haven't built the trust in your relationship. So again, yes, men can do these things. What's also could be missing is you could be a long distance relationship, you're not spending a lot of time together. This is one of the challenges with dating today is that proximity breeds continuity. I'm gonna repeat that, proximity breeds continuity. And what that means is the more time you spend together, the more deeper roots, those deeper roots of trust that are built. So most likely he could been doing all these things, but you haven't built that safety net of emotional maturity, or this person is deeply wounded from their past. They're deeply wounded from their past. In fact, if you're not familiar with the book, The Hoffman Process, The Hoffman Process, I highly recommend checking this out. This is a deep dive into healing childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that cause negative patterns and limiting beliefs in one's life. So ladies, you know my narrative, before the penis goes inside the vagina, also purchase eight dates so you can have these deeper conversations because guess what? The wrong guy skedaddles, he skedaddles, he disappears, he disappears. The wrong guy bolts the minute you actually start treating this serious. But Jonathan, every other dating coach tells me to just be in my feminine energy and let it flow and not put any pressure on guys. Listen, if that was so great, why are women so miserable? Now, first let me say something. Whether you're a man or woman, I don't like the term masculine or feminine energy because I prefer something different. I prefer empowered energy, empowered energy. Being your sovereignty, your self worth, your self esteem, your self confidence, you don't need to label it, you don't need to label it male or female. So being your empowered energy and an empowered energy means you lean into getting to the quick because we don't have time to fuck around, especially for those of us at midlife. We don't have time to fuck around. It is time to become radically honest. It's time to hardball. And guess what? Only guys who are weak are gonna bolt or they're just not that attracted or into you. That's what's gonna happen. The right guys are gonna lean in and the wrong guys are gonna run away, but that's okay. And you don't have to judge them run away. Remember I said earlier, most men are good guys, they're just bad daters. So if that happens, listen, it's just, you know what? What do they say? Rejection is God's protection while I don't necessarily love that. If a guy bolts, he's just not your guy and that's okay too. All right, I just noticed some super stickers. I wanna thank Susan for the $20 super sticker. Thank you so much to the Connor fund. I'm so grateful for that. I saw another one here, Grace. Wow, $27.99. Thank you so much for the super sticker. Let's keep those super stickers going for Connor. It's Connor time right now. So thank you so much for that. All right, let's see what other questions we have. Okay, Linda posted a question. Question, serious relationship is seven months exclusive. He has not said he loves me, but he shows me, he loves me. All the signs are there. Reasons why I haven't, he told me he loves me. Oh, great question. So I don't happen to have the book at the moment, but it's called The Five Love Languages, The Five Love Languages. It's written by Gary Chapman and the five primary love languages are words of affirmation, although I'm a Leo, so it's words of adoration. I just love to be adored. Number two is physical touch. Number three is quality time. Number four is access service. And number five is gifts. So most likely he is showing his love and affection through that. Now what's also most likely happening is the words I love you probably is associated with some pain for him. He has some past pain associated with the words I love you. And maybe it was parental pain. In other words, something from his parents which he most likely was traumatized while growing up. That's most likely one reason why and the other reason why he had a probably a very bad marriage or a bad relationship that caused him to fear the words I love you. And the other reason why he may not say I love you is he's not capable of going any deeper into a relationship. This is why I highly recommend purchasing these two books. How to build trust in a relationship and couples communication guide. I highly recommend this because it's time to have deeper conversations with this guy. You're seven months in, you're in your most likely year in midlife. It's time to decide if you're gonna shit or get off the pot. What's the purpose of this relationship? What's the purpose of this relationship? Are we just doing this to hang around or have a good time or do we have a plan? Are we gonna do something deeper? And I think at the seven month mark, that's an okay time to have that kind of conversation. Listen, ladies, whenever you say where's this relationship going? That's a passive way to date. You're expecting the guy to know. How about what do you want to co-create together? What do you, did I bring out the book? Spiritual Partnership by Gary Zukoff. What do you want to co-create together? Even reading the book, eight dates together would be a fascinating, would be a fantastic book because if you're just hanging out and spending time together, that's great. If you want to build roots, it's gonna require going deeper than the surface. And I gotta tell you something, ladies, your passivity in this area is why you're so fucking miserable. But Jonathan, many of the leaders of the relationship they're supposed to plan the dates and pay for everything and blah, blah, blah, that's what we are being told. Listen, that old narrative is ruining the old traditional expectations and God forbid you read the book, The Rules. That will fuck you up like nobody's business. Especially at midlife, it is time to look at a relationship as a two lane street, your boat driving, your car is at the same pace. So it's tight. Listen, if you're pulling the car along, you're in trouble. And if you're expecting him to pull you along, you're in trouble. Stop being so passive and naive. And I'm not suggesting this about you, Linda. What I am suggesting for everybody listening, stop being passive passengers in your life. Start taking charge of your life. You have to let go of the old traditional beliefs and expectations because they don't work. It's time for a whole new ballgame. It's time for compassionate dating, not competitive dating. You know what happens on most dates? People aren't showing up from a heart centered space. They're both showing up with their egos in competition to be seen, heard and understood. It's two egos in competition to be seen, heard and understood. And I wanna help shift that narrative. You may wanna read this book, How to be a fucking adult in a relationship. And by the way, it doesn't say fucking in the title. I added that. How to be an adult in relationship. It's time to be grown ups instead of the passive way people are approaching dating. And by the way, Linda, this wasn't all directed to you. I just needed to go off on a tangent there. So thank you so much for that. I appreciate it. All right, what else do we have here? Let's go swim in. Jennifer says, I appreciate radical honesty and say this on my dating profiles. I've had guys not be into me on first dates. And I have felt the same about them. It's refreshing. Oh my God, you know what? I'll never forget. I went on a date with a woman some years back. And she was just right up front from the first 10 minutes we were together. We met for coffee. It was literally around the corner from my house. And she said, Jonathan, I just gotta be candid with you. I don't have chemistry for you. Now, what she meant was I wasn't her type or she wasn't attracted to me. I was so grateful she said that because then we just took off the fucking masks that we're, you know, this crappy mask we have to wear of playing the stupid game, which that's what it feels like. And we ended up having a great chat. You know, we split a couple of coffee between us or I think I've treated around. I can't remember now. But my point is we had a nice chat and we moved on. You know, it's time. Listen, the worst thing to do is go on a first date and not be into a person and sit and endure under the premise where you just never know you might make a new friend. But when you're in a space of enduring, you can't make a new friend. Let me repeat that. If you're in a space of I have to endure this, it's painful. You can't make a new friend that way. What helps you make a new friend? Be vulnerable, be authentic, be transparent, put your cards on the table. But Jonathan, every dating coach tells me not to do that. Well, guess what? It's a cluster fuck out there. You have a choice. You can take charge of your destiny or you can leave it up to the guy. I'm here to promote women taking charge of their relationship destiny. Don't put up with male bullshit and also remember, and by the way, you better not be giving men bullshit because guess what? We have just as many complaints about you as you have about them. Show up vulnerable, authentic and transparent. And you know, who knows? You might find that guy who's liking you on your social media. He's asking you deeper questions. He's genuinely happy when he talks to you. What were my other four things, six things? He remembers the little things about you. If he's busy, he makes time for you. And lastly, he's willing to be vulnerable, authentic and transparent because you led by example. All right, enough of that one. All right, thank you, Jennifer. I appreciate that one. All right, let's go swimming. Wow, we got a lot here. We got a good conversation going. I see we got a couple of guys in the group. I'm really grateful for that. Then this says amen to the fucking adults. I agree. All right, let's see if we, okay, this will be our last question of the evening. Question, what do you do when you don't know who broke up with who? Three months, no contact after four years together. We are planning on moving in together. Well, okay, I'm a little confused. You don't know who broke up with you. So it sounds like you're both participants to this dysfunctionality. So let me come back to this again. Four years together and you've got, you were planning on moving in together and now it's three months, no contact. So neither one of you are reaching out to one another. That to me is dysfunctionality. That to me is dysfunctionality. Ladies, listen, we dating coaches shoot a lot of videos, why men pull away, why men disappear, why men go silent. If you watch my videos, they all, okay, every other dating coach tells you to lean back in your feminine energy, live your life and the guy will gravitate towards you because you've gone the other direction. Hug is what I say to that. Listen, I'm all in favor of being in your empowered energy. Let's not discount that. I'm just telling you, if you pull away and thinking that the guy will come back, yes, some men do, those desperate men who are operating from codependency, they temporarily come back but they go back to their old patterning. Do you know what changes the narrative today? Being radically honest, it means picking up the fucking phone when you haven't heard from someone in a couple of days. In fact, I was just working with my Pilates instructor about this earlier today. She's with one of those aloof kind of guys. She put her cards on the table in a text message and it scared the shit out of them. Sadly, in the wrong way. Let me reframe that, not sadly in the wrong way. Well, happily in the wrong way or what I mean to say is she was upfront with him and he just wussed out. That's the sad part. He wussed out, okay? You know what? I've had women put their cards on the table, some of them I'm into. I will lean in. When a man genuinely likes you, he's going to lean into the relationship when you put your cards on the table. When a guy's ambivalent about you, he's gonna run away. However, what I see the biggest mistake of all is not enough social activities, hobbies, mutual interest, spending time with family and friends to build the deeper emotional safety so everybody can lean into the relationship. This relationship was four years old and they were living together. So if someone goes no contact for a couple of days, then fucking pick up the phone and say, where the hell are you? Call them on their shit. And then if they don't respond, then you know you're with a person that couldn't go any deeper and basically their silence was their decision. But stop being passive ladies. Stop this narrative of passivity. You were in charge of your relationship, Destiny. Don't give it to the guy. And sadly, many of you women are suckling on the nipple of I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. By the way, men and women like to do this. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to like me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to give me attention so I feel good about myself. I'm here to say when you feel good about yourself, you don't need it. You want it, but you don't need it. Does that make sense? I hope so. By the way, my coffee mug says, I make the world go around, what do you do? This was a gift, so I'm not a total narcissist. Maybe the girl was speaking for herself when she gave it to me, but anyway. All right, hey, if that last comment made sense, give me an amen. Ooh, I don't like the jiggly parts there. Ooh. All right, well, let's read the comments here. Let's see what we have. Lisa says, amen. Thank you so much, I appreciate that. All right, Nicole says, amen. I appreciate that. I feel like a preacher when I do this. All right, Ally says, amen. Cece says, amen. Renee says, amen. All right, hey, there we go. All right, folks. I think this will be a great place to wrap up today. I hope you got value from the six big signs. He thinks about you a lot just to refresh you, just a quick refresher. He's following you and liking you on social media. Number two, he asks you deeper questions about who you are in your life. Number three, he sounds happy when he speaks with you. He doesn't have to play it cool. Number four, he remembers the little things that you say. Number five, if he's busy, he moves things around to make time for you. That's a big one. And number six, he's vulnerable, authentic and transparent. He's willing to go deeper than the surface. That's a great sign. A guy wants something more than casual with you. While there's not any guarantees, these are all really good signs. All right, this will be a great place to wrap up today. Don't forget to purchase a super sticker super chat before we wrap up today to give to the Connor Asley Scholarship Fund. That would mean a lot to me. I do wanna thank those two folks, Grace and Susan for doing that earlier. And if you found value in my channel, please refer my channel to your friends. Please like this video. Check out the links in the description to a discovery call with me, my group called Midlife Love Mastery. And you can follow me on Instagram. And if you have a personal message to send me, you can send it through Instagram. All right. Oh, we'll just wrap with this last question. Marianne, she has a personal question of me. Jonathan, do you have a thing for your Pilates instructor? Let me tell you emphatically, no, she is like my sister. We drive each other crazy. She drives me nuts. She's a sweet soul, just like my sister. I do love my sister dearly. But we are, our energy is very brother sister energy and I'm not going there. So Marianne, thanks for asking that question. I appreciate it. All right, everybody. I'm going to wrap up this video as I always do. First off, give myself a big, gigantic, Jonathan Barrett of self love. I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm going to ask you to turn to a friend, a pet, a teddy bear pillow and give Iter them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I want to thank Lisa and Marianne, Renee, Linda, Theresa, Nicole, Jordan, Nuba, Natalie, Sandra, all for your love and support. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart, giving you all, wishing you all a super-duper, wonderful day. Thanks a bunch. Bye now.