 to my channel, if you're new here, my name is Sepi and this is my special guest, my best friend ever, it's my dad, say hi, hello, but you guys can call him Fasho. So today I've asked my dad to join me on the channel and he has no idea what the video is about so you guys will know by the title so I'm just going to tell my dad. So dad, yesterday I asked loads of people on Instagram to send me all of their, like, any problems that they're having and that I would answer them as best as I can, yeah? So then loads of people started sending in relationship problems. I was answering some of them on Instagram and people were like, well, you know, you're single, you don't have someone in your life, what makes you think you're so good at giving advice? To which I thought, you're right, maybe I'm not the best person to give advice. Why don't I ask a guy who's been married for almost 40 years, yeah? Happy wife, happy life? Yes, we do. So today you are going to give my Instagram followers relationship advice. Okay. Yeah, are you ready? Yes I am. Okay, so guys, I'm going to be reading out your issues to him one by one and you have to make it short and sweet, okay? Because that isn't, look, there is a lot of issues to get through, okay? So try and be as fast as you can, okay? Okay. So, I think if you see, you can divide them maximum by three groups. Three groups? Yes, because one group, they try to find it and they couldn't, okay? One group they find and they couldn't keep it, okay? And another one, they think they don't want it, but they want it. Which group of mine? You are the, it's because you are, which on that group you are busy and you are not to that come and situation. Yeah. To go for it. Because you should have the situation and the time. Because if it doesn't, you have a good time and you have a suitable time for these important things, you can go for it. Because it's not an easy and it's not a simple. True. It's so simple, but it's not simple. Why is words already guys? We already know that he's going to be given up good advice. So dad, some of this stuff is going to have slang that you won't know, okay? But I want you to guess what you think it means, okay? So a girl has written, this guy and I were talking for a while and it looked like it was going to lead to something, yeah? But then he ghosted me. Do you know what this means? No, explain a little bit more. So it seemed like our friendship was going to lead to something, but then he ghosted me. So slang ghosted means like he disappeared like a ghost. Okay, you think this is bad, but I think it's not bad. Why is not bad? Because if some relationships is going to go through, for example, me and your mom is nearly 40 years. Yeah. From the beginning, it was, it's come on the foundation enough strong. If your relation, it hasn't got the foundation enough strong, you can't put your life on it. It's better if it's want to go, it's better to go earlier. Wow. I've come to my dad for life advice and now you guys are seeing why. Question one, you threw it out the park. He says he loves me, but that he's very busy with work and uni. Is he serious about me? Yes, maybe as I told you, still it doesn't come that it'd be the time for him to have enough time to put for you because he's got on the mind a lot of things he wants to do it for you. But at the moment, it's got something important, not just for him, for your future in the future. Yeah. Okay, I got it. And for this case, he thinks it's better. If you finish that, it's come to you, relax. And he's got something very good for both of you in his back and he can, you can and they can put the relation enough strong and continue. For example, if he's coming now, he's got a uni, he's got so many things to do and his mind is busy and he couldn't concentrate for something you'd say to him and maybe you misunderstanding for you. Oh, he didn't look at me. He didn't put enough time for me. This that is better. Okay, he'd go for a while and back for you, for you, just for, you know, for, for yeah. So true. Can I just say this is the difference between how girls think, like what girls think men are thinking versus what men are actually thinking. Whereas a girl would be like, Oh, no, he's just, you know, playing games. He doesn't have time for like, he does have time. He doesn't want to get that is something some look, we are talking about the people are serious. Not the people. Okay, some people, this is the job for them. They come they want to as a bee, you know, they come and sit, go, sit, go, sit, go. You come, come to them. I was married to someone who went through it all for me, but ended up having an emotional affair. We don't need any emotional affair. It means like an affair, but like not like Robert Tedd, I should wash him off. Like basically it's having like always talking to another woman, but like nothing sexual happens between them. Just like talking. What should she do? Look, I think these type of people, they haven't got enough confidence, you know, because they think if he's come to his wife, he's for him because he hasn't got enough confidence. Maybe he does something, you know, his wife doesn't like it. For this case, he's scared, come and join the wife for the do something. For this case, he wants to show he's important for someone else. But the reality is this, he wants to show to his wife, okay, I'm important for someone else, but I still am with you. Yeah, so this type of people, they have a problem and they should go definitely to someone to direct them to find the best way because this is not the good way. Is this what you think about anyone who cheats? No, it's not the cheating. That is not the cheating. Cheating is completely different. What do you think about someone who cheats? Because I get a lot of questions. Okay, if someone cheated on me, should I forgive them? No. No. Look, I told you one thing in the beginning. Some people maybe mistake. If they mistake, they understand they mistake. That's you mistake this. What is the mistake? You know it was wrong and you don't want to do it again. That's the mistake. Yeah. Okay, mistake, forget it. Yeah. But this is some people, this is the way always they want to continue. Yeah. They want to show it's a mistake, but it's not the mistake. This is the people used to it. Yeah. And these people, they don't value to put your life for them. So true. You heard it here first. But how would you know? How would you know that like the person who's saying, oh, I'm sorry, it was a mistake. How do you know that they're being serious, that they know it was a mistake? It's showing because for example, if the people mistake, they definitely, definitely by the act they do, they show they are very, very sad. They are very guilty. They feel guilty and they want to do something to repair this and for this one, if you forget, and one thing I tell you, if you forgive, you should forgive and finish it. Not always you're back to him and for something else, you're back to him. Oh, you mean you do this. Yeah. And I forgive you. Why you didn't wash the dishes? I forgive you. Why you didn't clean it? Basically, you're saying, don't use it. Like, don't, if you forgive them for something, don't bring it back up again. Like you have to forgive them completely. Yeah. Okay. Got it. That clears up cheaters. Next, I'm talking to this guy and he's really good looking, nice, and generally a good guy, but he's not my usual type and something is just pulling me back from him. What should I do? Okay. The first thing I said you wanting about the good looking for a man or for a woman, if you've been in love with someone and he's, and she is very good looking and something happened for him and by accident or something happened for him or for her and he's lost his sight and for his light he's lost his beauty, you should finish with him. No. If you love him or her, that's nothing with the face. Face, it's for the start, but you should go for something inside is good. Something you like it inside because after maximum two or three years, everybody is the same. But not that some people is very ugly. No, that's something else. You know, and these type of people, not just ugly face, they are ugly inside husbands. Okay. Ugly personality. Yeah. Yes. For this case, it shows is they are not good, but, but I tell you one thing, after when you see these type of people and you continue, you continue with them, you see, oh, they are very nice. That is nothing because inside they have a lot of things is connected, just cover that is, is bring a lot of beauty for them. So what you're saying is internal beauty is much more powerful than external beauty. But that face beauty is important as well, but not all for a starting. Okay. She's saying, but he's not my usual type and something is pulling me back. What do you think she should do? Why are you starting? You haven't got anything else you want to play with guy with disguise for that's real. Stop playing games on is what he's saying. Okay. So basically, don't text someone because you're bored. Yeah. Yeah. What should I say when a guy that is nice, but I don't like him asks me out without hurting his feelings. Again, is this look if you don't like the guys, be honest and don't let don't play with him. Okay. Because it's in the if, if you don't like someone play with you. Yeah. That's when they look if you don't want to play someone play with you. Yeah. Don't play with someone. That's true. True that guys because like you have feelings that in the day, you're a human. If you don't like gameplay, but how do you say it? Like to someone where I've had this issue. Okay. Personally, I've had this issue where I don't want to upset someone. I will tell them like really politely we're just friends, whatever. Yeah. And then they're pile like they don't let go. And it gets the point where the only way you can you can come and be like, come on, just let it go. I don't like you is you kind of have to I can you wanting they are not they are not the honest people. What do you mean? Because if they be there, because they if they are honest, they understand they should understand. Okay. If you don't like them. Yes. And they should respect you if someone if you like someone you should respect him. Yeah. And I love you. Okay, I should respect you. So I always say that too. I always say in my opinion for a relationship to be good, you need trust. You need respect that you have to respect each other and respect each other even when you're not around each other. Like if someone comes up to you and tries to be important things from the beginning. Maybe you was a very small child. I tell you this. Go with someone is your type. Yeah. Your type is what is your type, your education, your family, your group, everything. But I tell you, this is my advice to everyone. Yeah. If you want to go for relationships is continue. Don't forget this. You should go with someone. It's from your from your side. What you mean your side. For example, some people is not I don't want to be bad. For example, some community, they don't like them go with another community. If you go with this community and you break the rules from the beginning, maybe they accepted. But in the future, you see, they don't accept you. And they put you out. And this is very harmful. It's harmful. And it's very bad. You broke on that time. And it's very bad. It's hurt you. You should go with someone definitely is your type, your group, your the same education, the same as anything you want, they want. So what my dad is saying, basically when he says your type is pick someone who has the same mentality. Definitely. So if you are open and you don't mind what the other person's religion is, for example, like we are open, we don't mind what my partner's religion would be, then pick someone who is the same. If you are family is open and doesn't mind if my future boyfriend, husband, whatever is not Iranian, then I should pick someone who also doesn't mind if I am Iranian. Yeah. Yeah. So what he's trying to say is pick someone who has the same mentality as you. And another thing my dad always says is Iranian saying kabutar, kabutar, boz, boz, konad, hamjans, bohamjans, parvoz. So we said birds of the feather flock together. That is very important. And educated. Your family and their family should be the same level, not a lot different. Yeah. Because if it's a lot different in future, you get the problem. Your children, your child going, for example, for auntie's house and their aunties is, for example, they are not educated the same as uncle. Yeah. And what's happening? They, they, your children see different class. In their house, they find, is find something in that house, they find something. And you are in between. And your child is between as well. And they come, you come, those mix it together. Yeah. Doesn't mix. Yeah. It's come a big problem. Always you've got to argue. And the argue is starting from small things. And you think it's small, but it's not small. Okay. Someone said he's a really good person, but when he gets angry, he's the worst. And he can be so mean and so rude. What should I do? Okay. He say he's a good person or everybody else say he's a good person. Yeah. That's what I thought as well. Like what do you mean? He can't be that good of a person if when he's angry, he's mean and rude. But I think what, and what, what the good point it is for this guy, he know what's a big, what's a problem with him. And if you know you're you can go and you if you know what your issue, if you know what your problem is, so what you're saying is the most important thing is if you understand what your problem is, then you can fix your problem. And this is very good for him. He knows what's the problem with what's wrong with him. And he, it's my first thing and biggest step for him. And my advice to him it is, first of all. It's a girl. She's saying how boyfriend is mean and rude. Okay. Try to ask him to become and every time he's angry, let him be alone. Yeah. When he understood he and and tell him, okay, I leave you because when you are you are angry, you do something bad. For this case, I leave you alone to be cool and understood what you want to do after if after five, 10 minutes or half an hour, he's cool down. It's still, it's still he does wrong. He's not a good person. He should, he should live in my advice to everybody. I know because I was a police officer in Iran and police officer on time. I was very young. The people have a problem family problem. They came to the police station and I saw from that time the people have a problem. Women, men coming, argue, fighting, men shouting and meeting the woman. And this happened. I saw so many things and it's hurting me is a lot. But my advice it is, you know, you have one life. If you understand your partner is not your type and is not change, you should finish it. Not go with everything, any easy problem. Oh, finish it is not my type. First of all, before you marry, you should team, you should try everything, but not very, but with something you for you understand this is not your type and you waste your life with this person. You should finish it because your life, if it's still you are 90 years, one year left from your life, your life for one minute has got a value to be nice and peaceful. Honestly, I feel like you should write a book. I swear I'm not just saying this because you're my dad, but I feel like you are so intelligent. I remember in secondary school, my friends would call up me and my dad for advice and we used to call him Socrates and I feel like now you my English is not good enough. No, your English is really good. Your English is so good. Okay, we're going to do the last one. Okay, last one. I went on a date with a boy. He kissed me. He texted me the next day and then I haven't heard from him since. What should I do? What? She went on a date with this boy and he kissed him. He kissed her. Yeah. And he texted the next day like, oh, how are you? Whatever. Yeah. But she hasn't heard from him since. So she texted him. She just leave him. What should she do? She should forget him. Why? Because the guys was something wrong with it. Because how it's possible you play with the feeling of someone. Yeah, I hate that. I hate people who. Why? These people, they wanted to bully someone and they should go with someone, do bully them. Definitely, the life is bring someone to bully him as well. But don't worry, girls. You find someone is love you and the love is important things. I love you. I love you too, you three. Wait, we have to say bye. Okay. Okay. First of all, I just want to say you guys have to give this video a huge thumbs up for my dad. He is incredible at advice and tell me, tell me he needs to give more relationship advice on my channel. I think he does. So give this video a thumbs up, talk to us in the comments, tell my dad because he's going to read the comments, what you thought of his advice. But I love you so much. Thank you for doing this with me. I've always wanted to do this with you. Don't forget to check out my socials. They're always linked down below. But my Instagram is Persian Bunny, which is where everyone sent in the questions that we just answered. And my Snapchat is sefi Samai. I'll see you guys in my next video. Bye. I tell you one thing by goodbye. Goodbye. And if you want to change the world, start from yourself. Okay. Socrates.