 The narcissist doesn't recognize your worth once you've separated as a person but the way in which they do recognize your worth is as an object They look at you for how they can use you For what advantages and benefits you could potentially bring to them, but they can't even see you as a person They can't even recognize you in that way Because they're not real And you've got to be real to recognize real The narcissists could never accept themselves Not as they were They abandoned their true self and created a false self and when they did that They were left unable to prop up They were they were left unable to validate themselves Which then made them dependent on other people to prop up their false self Now they require external validation They need other people to validate them to feed their ego To boost their sense of self-importance The problem is Even when people do that it doesn't matter It doesn't make a difference Because they know it's not real When you Who gave a narcissist compliments and praise it makes no difference whatever Because they know deep down That those compliments that praise They know that they are not deserving of it and They know that it really has nothing to do with them. They know that And that's why it doesn't sustain them it doesn't last for long You could give them a compliment But then they're running off to someone else They're looking for that elsewhere So they hold no value to the compliments And the attention and the admiration that you give to them It doesn't even matter But they way the way they look at it is They could find a hundred other people who are going to do the same thing What they do value though and what they May never forget If they cut out your level is the money the connections The power wealth and success These are the things that If a narcissist leaves you when you're down and then When they're gone you come back up. They are not going to forget that They might try and discredit you they might try and invalidate your success because they can't be a part of it But deep down it is killing them inside They cannot stand the thought of someone moving on With everything that they want everything They wish they had They can't stand that So those are the things that they will and even that person isn't even real Because that's just their false self The narcissist's false self isn't in real It's a fabrication It's something that they invented and who they think you are isn't Even who you think you are they project this fantasy on to you of everything They want and need you to be To satisfy their existence To complete their fantasy. They couldn't see you even if they tried And that's why it's so easy for them even if they were with you for five ten twenty years They can walk out that door like you never existed Because you did never exist You never existed to them. It's not just like one day. They decide that you're dead to them You never existed to the narcissist From the day they first met you they had this fantasy in their minds and When you couldn't fit into that mold that they created for you That's when they wanted nothing to do with you That's when they devalued you because you have to reflect back to them either a mirror image of their false self Or you have to be willing to be their punching bag Where they could devalue you and put you down This my little summary there of the premiere if you haven't checked it out yet Does the narcissist recognize your worth once you've moved on? It's a really good video. So definitely check that out Definitely check that out but onto the Discussion now Let me know about your situation when the narcissist Moved on from you What were they holding on to? Because you can usually tell They will usually reveal it to you They're always going to present something to you Which displays what they value? If you want to know what a narcissist really values in their lives It's so easy to figure that out Just look up where they spend all of their time Look at where all of their money goes And then you will know What narcissists value the most that will reveal it to you straight away Because the person isn't going to give All of their time energy and money to something Unless they value it Unless they think that it's going to benefit them Unless they think that it's going to give them a return on that investment Something to think about One hope for heaven says He just wanted a sugar daddy Or mama in this case Exactly a lot of do They want someone to take care of them. They're like Emotionally immature children It's regulate their emotions To give them a sense of stability and security Which of course will include Money and a place to stay That's what narcissists are looking for They want to climb up the social Ladder and they will step on people to get ahead. They will use you They will manipulate you There's no satisfaction For a narcissist with their current situation they always want more They're never at rest zero says like a puzzle You have to figure them out That's right because normally healthy people They take it upon themselves to figure themselves out and figure out who they are and what they want But because narcissists are like emotionally immature children They don't do that They want you to figure them out Hasheel says he is trying to come back to my life I'm falling for his ways. I need help Yeah, they will try to come back That's why it's so important to figure out What it is that they did value in the relationship What it is that they wanted you to do for them Because that's probably the reason why they're coming back The difference between narcissists and toxic people there are clear differences There are traits that are outlined in the DSM 5 Narcissists are self-absorbed and they lack empathy the grandiose They're arrogant audacious and entitled They're manipulative Exploitative but a narcissist doesn't have to be all of those things Actually as long as a person satisfies just four or five of the nine traits That is enough for them to be a full-blown narcissist Anyway, I hope this discussion video has been helpful for you. 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