 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, head dating coach and founder at commitmentconnection.com and in this video we're gonna talk about finding a man who will put up with your insecurities and trust issues. But before we talk about that, if you're struggling to attract the right man into a committed lasting relationship, make sure you go to my website at commitmentconnection.com and take my quiz. So today's question comes from a woman in our community and she's asking How do I find a good honest person who can put up with my insecurities and my trust issues? So insecurities and trust issues are a tough topic because they will destroy a man's attraction for you and they basically will rule you out for most men as someone that he wants to be with long-term because it it is just exhausting to put up with a woman who is constantly insecure and doesn't trust you. I mean imagine meeting a guy where you know he... Imagine meeting a guy who didn't trust you and was constantly asking you if you loved him and if he's good enough for you and stuff like that. It's just not attractive in any way whatsoever and most likely you'll end up only attracting men long-term who also have lots of insecurities and trust issues and that is just a usually a spiral of misery that ends in a horrible breakup where both people hate each other and I've actually been there and done that. You know when I was younger I had lots of insecurities and trust issues and most of my relationships, in fact all of my relationships at that time were just horrible. So instead I suggest that you work on your insecurities and that you work on your trust issues and you know that your insecurities and trust issues may never go away completely. But if what you really want to get up to a point of is that they stop running your life and controlling your behaviors because the less that they control you and the more you can control yourself the more you'll have an ability to attract a quality man and keep him in a long-term relationship and if you if you continue to let your trust issues and insecurities run your life it'll be you'll just attract guys that aren't good for you or aren't good for anybody and you won't be good for most men and the ones that you will be good for well it won't end very well and so my suggestion is that you you know find figure out what's going on with you and what's happened in your life where you have those trust issues and you have those insecurities and you do some healing work around it where you forgive yourself and forgive other people for whatever mistakes and things that have happened in your past and and let go of those things so that you Can open your life up to an amazing future With a great man who'll love you and so that's my advice and that's it for this video if you want more information on What's stopping you from attracting the right man into a committed lasting relationship? Make sure to you make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon