 So next up, we're gonna go to, all right, go ahead, Crystal and you can unmute yourself. Hi, Kevin. Hey, what's going on? I'm so excited to talk to you. I've been watching from the clouds for a long time. You have such a classy show and you're so respectful. And I am actually learning from you. Really? What are you learning? Yes. Just how to set up a live stream so that it runs smoothly, how you set the mood, the music, the way that you present yourself, the way that you manage your, your callers. These are all things that I've just been noting and really appreciating. So, well, thank you. Thank you. Now, obviously you come from the, what's called the, would you call it, what would you call it? Cause they call it the swirl community as far as I know. What would you call it? Well, I think they call it that because I wrote the book on it and my book is called Swirling. And so they're called swirlers, but it's a loose confederation. I have a little bit of a different meaning if you want me to. Well, how about this? Because I know that there are a lot of black men who have harsh criticisms and critiques of yours. Absolutely. I've watched some of your broadcasts. I don't tend to have harsh criticisms. Now, I think that, here's the thing. Here's what I like to know. What should a woman have to do to get a high value man? I'll ask you that question. That's a question I think there will be fair to ask you. Okay, I actually made a list while you were talking. So, here's the thing. I absolutely agree that women, and since we're talking about black women, black women should be fit. I agree with you that the majority of black women are overweight and it's a problem. I've also come into roadblocks teaching my followers about this and telling them about this to the point where I've had to sort of back off from it. There's a lot of black women. Now, for those of you who are familiar, I want to be clear. Are you saying you're getting pushed back from women even if they're talking about IR dating? About fitness? Absolutely. Now, see, that's probably surprising to a lot of brothers. Yeah, no, it is. I mean, and that's not to say that black women who are interracially married aren't finding men to marry of other races when they are plus size. But I always tell people you have more options when you are visually appealing because men are visual. I do have a list if you- Yeah, yeah, I do. And actually what I would like to do because you're in the chat room on a show, I would like to have you come onto the show to maybe we can actually do an actual broadcast ourselves. Because there are people- I would love that. There are people who would like to see us argue and there are people like, oh, I want to see them cook and turn. I don't just kill people and do shit for no reason. So why don't we do this? Instead of just having you in here, why don't I have you on, let's coordinate and let's bring you on to do your own individual show. Could we do that? I would absolutely love that and it would be my absolute honor and pleasure to do so. All right, we'll get that cake and carrot. All right guys, we're gonna have Crystal and carrots and we're gonna have our own show. I got 13 people in the call queue. Appreciate it, Crystal. But Kevin, really quick, I'm sorry to interrupt. I just wanna go through the list. Go ahead, I'm sorry. Are you right? Go ahead, go ahead. I promise I'll be quick. So I agree with you that women should be fit. But they also need to know what femininity is. So there are four aspects of femininity. There is the courtesan, which is the sexy soul tree sexual part of being feminine that make men go crazy. There is the Madonna, which is the spiritual part of femininity where you are hopeful and that you appreciate nature and that you are introspective. There is the Amazon and the Amazon is the aspect of femininity that is the go-getter, that protects her young, that does what is necessary in times of high stress because you can't be soft all the time. There'll be times that you will have to activate the Amazon part of yourself in order to solve a problem. And then there is the mother and the mother obviously has to do with being the creator of life. And creator of life could be creator of a human being, creator of a concept, the creator of the home, whatever that is. So women need to know what femininity is and really try to tap into those four aspects. I also want, I also think that black women need to know that they have options. Now, Kevin, you're in Atlanta and you're a very good looking man, you're respectful, you are definitely high value. But what happens is that when black women are, and this myopic focus of trying to get the IBM, then there becomes an imbalance. And so what I teach black women is that they should expand their options to all men, including black men. And it has a two-fold benefit in that you have more opportunities because you're fishing in different ponds, but also it changes your energy from an energy of scarcity and desperation to seeing what else is out there. Despite what other people think, I'm not pushing white men on anybody, I'm saying to expand your options. And the reason why I'm on this call with you right now is because of how I've actually observed you for many, many weeks. And so I know where you stand on things. And so I felt like this was a safe place for me. And I want to also say that thank you for granting me the wrench because I know it was done to protect me. And I appreciate that. The next thing is to maximize her assets. So you're an image consultant. I am a style coach, which is pretty much the same thing. So whatever you're working with, you maximize it. You make sure you know your body type, your style personality, your best colors. Be well-mandered, understand the rules of etiquette and protocol. This is very, very important because when you're talking about interacting with high-value men, you're going to be put in places where you are going to be observed by his friends and his colleagues, and you need to be poised. You need to feel comfortable and confident. And the, so yeah, so I mean, that's basically it. And we can get you back on so you don't have to feel rushed. So we can get you back on, but I want to make sure I heard it was the Cortezon, the Madonna, the Amazon and the mother. Yes. All right, so let's do this. Let's coordinate the email and try to get you on. As soon as possible to follow with this show because there is a difference. And I think what you have to bring to the table is important because I do what I do, but I will never try to teach a woman femininity and all the other stuff completely out of my lane. But thanks for coming onto the show. And you're more than welcome. And you will still have your wrench in the chat room because I know how people get down. Okay, thank you so much, Captain. No problem, bye-bye. Thanks, Crystal. Let me make something clear, guys. I think you guys need to remember who I am. If you're a competitive man, nothing that she said should interfere with you. If you're a singularly competitive man and you're a singularly competitive woman, I've said it at the end of the day. I want you to become the best version of yourself and then make yourself available to all the people out of her competitive. If your preference is to be with black people, then you should get the best black man, blessed black woman available to you. See, the problem comes in in relationships where people feel like they're saddling and we have too much underachievement and too much mediocrity on both sides. So yeah, we're gonna have the broadcast. There will probably be some things we agree on, some things we don't agree on. Everybody will probably get everything they want to in the show, but here's the thing, you get nowhere in the world without being able to hear opposing views, listen to somebody who you may feel is on the other side and find some common ground. We don't have to agree on everything, but if you're talking about helping men become the best version of themselves, women becoming the best version of themselves and getting overall better outcomes, I don't really see it down so I wouldn't need that. So next we go to... Hi, good evening Mr. Samuels, my name is Olive. Hi, Olive, how are you? Hi, how are you? I'm doing good, I'm new to your channel and I agree everything what you're saying. I am a baby mother. I am a Caribbean background and I have education on my background and I was raising both parents in the household. How old are you? The reason why I became, I am 30. And the reason why you had a child is what? So we were engaged and my sons, I was still at the time trying to complete my engineering. Oh, you were in the chat room? I sent my... You were in the chat room? Okay, man. Okay, you got... Oh, don't listen. You're the one I spoke to and said, you, for whatever reason, you decided to have a baby before you had the wedding. That's what happened. You had a baby before you had the marriage. And how old is the child? Yeah, I just hit a comment. How old is the child? He's now seven. Okay, so you were 23, right? Correct. So you were not 14 or 15, you were in a baby. You knew these things. Why didn't you wait till marriage? Well, that was the intentional goal. But no, ma'am, there's no intentional if you have an unprotected sex. You're an engineer, you know how this works. I don't wanna go personal. What I... Unless you're telling me, unless you're saying you were using contraceptives, you're on the pill and he was using a condom in both forms failed? Right, the pills didn't work, but the condom didn't work. So I don't believe in abortion. Okay, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. You were using condom and the pill? No, I cannot use it because it didn't agree with me. The bleeding consistent, it didn't agree with me. What do you mean, the condom or the birth control? The birth control. So we used the condom. Okay, so you could not use the nore plant, the patch. They're all kind of things. You don't have to just... Hold on, man, listen engineer. Listen engineer, I know you've practiced your soft story, but let's talk tech. You build yourself in a way to where it can hold up to multiple failures. If your pregnancy routine was stress tested, it would have been a week. You had one form of protection. How effective are condoms? What percentage? In the seventies. In the seventies. That means that there's a one out of four chance, roughly, for a condom to break. You weren't trying to not get, you weren't doing everything you could do to avoid pregnancy. That's the net net of it. And then you say that you didn't believe in abortion. Okay, why didn't you guys get married upon the finding out you were pregnant? Cause he was your fiance, right? He won it, yes. Okay, why didn't you guys go to the courthouse that day? That's what we were supposed to do. And on the day of that, he just had a psychotic break because we both came from a broken home and I was not trying to do that. So let me get this right. How long were you guys together? We were like almost two years. So you were together, two years. Everything's hunky, fricking dory. That the day you get pregnant. Not always, no. Oh, no, but the way you told the story, everything was okay. The condom failed. And the day you were supposed to go to the courthouse, then all of a sudden, he became Hannibal Lecter. He hoked out and what happened? You know, you're fast forwarding and I didn't say. Well, I said, why didn't you guys, I said, when you find out you were pregnant, why didn't you guys go to the courthouse to get married? And you said, that's what we were supposed to do. Okay, so if you find out you were pregnant on a Tuesday, it don't take very long to get to the courthouse and file that, don't take long. I know that, but he didn't want to do that for whatever reason he had his conceptions of why he didn't want to get married. Okay, so let me stop you right there, ma'am. Hold on, let me stop you right there. But he was your fiance. All right. But he didn't want to get married after finding out his fiance was pregnant? Yes, it was more to the story. I don't know, ma'am, I just need the, I get there's always more to the story. I just need the, I need destruction. Right. You're saying that you guys are together two years. Decrack. Okay, well then why'd you have the man who's cracked baby? I mean, a man, you can see a man, they can act all tough all day long. I didn't ask you, ma'am, I'm asking you a question. Ma'am, you were together for two years. You found out you got pregnant? He didn't want to go through with the marriage. That's red flag. Why didn't you terminate the pregnancy or put the child up for adoption? Because I grew up with the whole value, like I don't believe in the boy. Right, so I get it, ma'am, so here's the thing. I get it, and I'm not saying that's what you should have done, but here's the thing. You take everything that comes with that. Because that's the man you picked. That's the man you picked, and here's the thing. Why would anybody want to, why would a high value man want to deal with that? Why would a high value man want to insert himself in this situation? Well, he's not in, he doesn't want to be in the picture, and I don't come here looking for my mind to fill up my pockets of money or whatever I'm coming here to do. Why would a man, okay ma'am, why would a, the father of the child, is he still alive? Yes, he's still alive. Why would a man want to marry a woman with a crazy baby daddy? Okay, but he don't want to be around. Why would a man, again, ask yourself, stop talking about why your story makes sense and ask yourself, why would a man want to marry a woman with a crazy baby daddy who had a psychotic break and went violent? Why would he want to do that? Much less a high value man. That's what I'm talking about, high value man. Engineer, why would anybody want to do that? See, what you're not trying to understand is your situation is dangerous. That's who you chose to reproduce with, ma'am. Sorry, that's just the net net of it. And it would be, and a man would be a fool to walk around and build himself into something and then get with a woman who has a psychotic crazy ex. I don't think so, because I have- Okay, so tell me about your fiancee. So he's not a matter at this moment. He's what? So I am building up, he's not a matter of meaning anything. He's not a matter of what? He's not a matter, I mean, he's not something that is gonna be like, want to come in and interfere with what I believe. I don't understand what you're saying. Do you have a fiancee right now? No, I do not. That's what I asked you. Do you have a boyfriend right now? I'm dating, yes. But do you don't have a committed relationship? Exactly. See, I'm getting all the way to the end. I don't, look here, ma'am, I'm gonna ask you the very net, the simple thing of it. Baby mamas can be side chicks. Baby mamas can- Okay, whatever. Baby mamas can be wives of what we're talking about, ma'am. That's the program. And you asked the question, is there any hope for you? And I told you not to, let's go back to the question you asked and I gave you the answer. You just don't like it. No, I do, but I just, I'm watching your channel and I'm caring and you're not saying about the woman. Who are you? I'm not saying what about the women. I'm not saying about the woman. I'm not saying about the women. Hold on, don't over-talk me. Dumb, dumb, baby. Hold on, hold on, hold on, who do you think you're talking to? What do you mean? Trying to over-talk me because you screwed your shit up. That's why the God, these people. Super Chat, Olivia, God's gift. I'm 30 single-mind, one child, I work for a tech company in college completing an engineering degree, seeking to be married. Seeking to be married. Seeking to be married. My son's father, who I was engaged to, became violent and had to leave. What can you advise me on that? That's what I'm doing. This is the woman that's on the phone. And what she keeps trying to tell me is how her situation is just so, it's just different. All right, it can be different all you want to. But like it or not, man, why would a man want to marry into this? See, that's what you mean. Ladies, you never think about this. It's all in what you want. And then when you get pressed, you start getting heated. So let's do it this way. If you can calm yourself down, I'll unmute you. Are you calm now? Okay, good. Hold on, the first don't talk to me, man. Please don't do that. That's always gonna be an out-start. You're 30, right? How tall are you? I'm five-four. Dress size? I'm a nine. How much did you weigh the last time you weighed yourself? 145. Okay. You want to be married. That's what your super chat said. How much, and you said you're an engineer. What kind of engineer? Civil engineer? Civil engineer. But I'm going to school. I'm in the intro position. Okay, so when you become an engineer, you're going to be making high-five figures, low-six figures. What man who's making that to high-value man? Why would he want to marry a woman with this going on? Because he will see my character that then shows the tragedy I had in my past. No, no, no, it's not, man, because it's not in your past. It's not in your past, it's not in your past, man, because your son's father is still alive. Are you saying, when was the last time, does he see his child regularly? No, he doesn't want to see him. Okay, when was the last time he seen his son? I brought to him to the family to try to make him see his son. When was the last time he saw his son? Okay, when was the last time he saw his son? I would believe that was in February. So, and what about the time before that? No, he wasn't, he didn't see him. Okay, so have you gotten your child, your son, any counseling or therapy for the impending daddy issues that are there? Yes. Okay, see, so I need you to understand something. Ma'am, your relationship past with your baby daddy is chaotic. Your child is in therapy and there's no financial support for this kid, so that means a man is gonna have to come in and pay his portion for you, his wife and this other child. Why? Listen ma'am, you answer my, see, you don't want to hear it. Best of luck, ma'am. I do. No, you don't, no you don't because you have fucked your situation up and now you're trying to fix it and the reality of it is ugly. The situation is ugly. Are you gorgeous? Yes, I am. Really, came up? No, I'm not came up. Exactly. See, gorgeous women don't have these problems. Oh, I do, I am gorgeous. Yeah, of course you are. She's just, you're gorgeous, they're all gorgeous and let me guess right. Let me guess, let me guess right. You also got, you got engaged this week, right? Yeah, you got engaged this week too, you fat bitch. See, I'm sorry. I'm sorry you made such a mistake of your life and you're gonna take it off on me. Again, you can't make this up. Ma'am, you can take your little angry ass off to wherever you are and cry and lick your own tears. You screwed this situation up. No one wants to deal with this. Again, get mad, this is what you get. Shut the fuck up. I'm overweight and I'm gorgeous. The delusion is real.