 Other things deal with celebrity gossip or anything going on right now. You have to understand this. If your only understanding of women comes from porn at home and cold approaching in a night life, you don't really got that much to talk about, do you? You have to understand their mind. Personally, what I do is I try to collect a ton of female friends, girls, whether or just, in fact, if I stop sleeping with a girl, I just make her a friend. I bring her to my soul circle. I keep them around. I don't want it to stop. I always want to have insights in the female mind. I always want women around me at all times. I don't want to be the guy that's going to be 40 that has no female friends. It doesn't have anything going for him. But he's got his, what a big man, and they're doing the predator look, walking around clubs like, oh, there's a girl, where's the set? I want that one, yeah. I don't want to be that guy, all right? So I want to cultivate that and learn about women by being around women. Even as a friendship capacity, if you don't have three to five female friends, I see that's a bigger issue right now than, oh, I'm going to be this SNL guy, you know? All right. Commandment number nine, thou shalt use the receptive girl. Now, usually, it's a pretty good idea if you see a group of girls, you want to open the one who looks the most receptive. You've heard a lot of stuff like, no, go direct. Go right to the girl you want and say your stuff, right? We've also heard other confusing stuff like, no, no, no. Never let her know you're interested. Talk to her friend, and then sneakily get her, okay? Honestly, think about what you're doing, right? Either way, it doesn't really matter. What really matters is, can I get into this group? Will they talk to me? Will I hook this? And if you're going to do it, the thing that makes the most sense is, she looks like she'll talk to me, she looks like she'll bring me in, I'm going to go talk to her. And she'll introduce me to the rest of the group. Think about that. If a girl introduces you to her friends, their friends can't really be like, oh, hit your line, what, just getting introduced by my friend, right? I know that pick-up line, it's like, it doesn't, you can't work that way. She can't just knock you off like that. It's a very easy way to get in. But with that said, we can use a receptive girl in another way. We can get the receptive girl to get the indifferent girl talking. We can use her as our wing woman in a weird way. The reason this is, because if there's a receptive girl and a different girl, if I try to talk directly to the indifferent girl, she can just blow me off. Even I'm doing all this stuff I said before, you know, just following my own leads, just constantly talking to her. She can just look at me and go, no, I don't want that, no, yeah, yeah. Like she can just keep on rejecting me and pushing me away. She can't really do that to her friend though, can she? Unless she'd snub her friend. If her friend asks her a question, she can look at her friend and go, right, that's her friend. So all I have to do is get the receptive one talking to me and then subtly hint at ways to get her to bring the friend in, in a different one in. I'm not doing it, I don't need to talk to the different one. The receptive one's doing it for me. So you could do it really subtly or you can be playing about it. I tell the girl my opinion on something. I get the receptive one's opinion and I go, you know what? Ask your friend what she thinks, I bet it's different. I bet you're wrong, ask your friend. Well, now the girl wants to know, is she wrong? Do people think like her? She'll turn her friend and go, well, yeah, what do you think, Sarah? Sarah's in a bind, right? Sarah can't go to her friend. I don't want to answer his question that you're secretly doing for her. Like, she doesn't think like that, right? She's now, okay, well, I don't think I like it. Like, she now is committed to talking. But if I asked Sarah that same exact question, she could have shrugged. She could just completely blow it off and be indifferent. And I'll just keep using the receptive one to drag out more investment from the indifferent one, all right? Now, these nine commandments alone should pretty much get any different girl to start opening up. You're not seeing it, you're rejecting that strong, friendly frame. You're basically, you never run out of things to say. You're constantly talking, following your leads. You're baiting to invest in social trap questions, baiting her with intrigue, you're using the receptive one. You're doing everything right to get this girl to talk to you. However, sometimes there's even the hardest of cases. Sometimes it's just not enough. And when those times, we then use commandment 10. Thou shalt use risky moves if all else fails. Now, when nothing's been working, okay, it's time to bust out a Hail Mary play. I want you to understand that I would rather a girl be angry with me, or upset with me, than indifferent. I want to just clue to you, the opposite of love is not hate. I've heard of love-hate relationships. The opposite of love is a difference. I've never heard of a love-in-different relationship. I've never heard of a girl that's like, I'm obsessed about you, it's you all the time, too, wait, I forget your name, sorry, I don't know who you are. It never works that way. So I might not be able to work with indifferent. I have to turn that around. But if I get a girl hating me or angry with me, she's still committed to talking to me. It's still an emotional reaction. She's still getting stimulated. And from there, I can play off of it. You watch any classic romance movie. A lot of times, you're going to guy, what? What's your best drama or best love story? They end up hating each other at first, right? And then it starts turning it around. Now, again, in real world application, that's not ideal. But I have done it, and it can be done again and again. So by using these shock tactics, a girl will sometimes reevaluate you. Because remember, if the girl's giving you a difference, there's a reason why. You didn't come in strong enough. You didn't come off confident enough. She didn't like your look. She made a snap judgment about you that said, this guy is low value. This guy is a wuss or whatever. I don't want to deal with him. He does not do it for me. But all of a sudden, you do something a little incongruent and you just shock her. She has to reevaluate. Maybe it was wrong. Whoa, where the hell did that come from? Yeah, she might get mad, but cool. Again, anger is better than difference. So remember that. It's better to have her angry with you. So let's go over some of the shock tactics I've used. All right. One was a lot of times when you're talking to a girl, she's indifferent, she starts looking away. She won't make eye contact with me. I'll just wave my hand in front of her face, block it off, and go, focus. Point of my eyes. Another thing, it's rude if a girl's literally, like you're talking to her and she's just texting away. If a girl's just doing this, I just put my hand over it. Focus, all right? I made it enough for the both of us. All right, the other one. If I'm talking to this girl, and she's being completely indifferent to me, and again, I'm doing all my bating stuff, it's not working, nothing's coming out, I'm doing my friendly vibe, but she still wants to ignore me. Okay, I'll do something she can't ignore. I'll just start touching her. I'll just start touching her more as I'm speaking, then all of a sudden it starts rubbing the back, then I put my arms around her. I'll tell you what, I'll just keep escalating until sex if I have to. I honestly don't care. Like, she will notice something's happening, all right? Because it's very easy to ignore someone talking. You can ignore like, I don't hear you, I don't hear you, but you can't say I don't feel that, I don't feel this. It's not happening, like, that's not ever gonna happen. So Lily, go it, get blown out. I'd rather get blown out for over escalating than just being like, I just got nothing to say, she's not feeling it, I'm just gonna walk away now. No, push it. A lot of guys, I tell this to all my students, all of them, I would rather when it, they all send me their fear reports, or they send me audios, or they're set that I'm breaking it down with them during our personal training, I tell them again and again, I would rather hear you get blown out after two minutes of pushing it forward than hear this 20 minute long interactions going nowhere where you're literally just vibing with her more and more because you just don't want this set to end. Let this set end. I'd rather you take risks, and this is one of them. Another one is I'm not four necks, I'm not a big proponent of them, but they do have a place sometimes. Necks are false qualifiers. Again, if a girl's acting this way, I gotta rattle her up a bit, and this might be a way to do it. Something like, you know, you don't really get out much, do you? Or, false qualifiers, something like, all right, let me ask you something. Do you have any friends that are like the exact opposite of you? Just by curiosity, right? Gonna be like, what does that mean, right? I want that, I want her, what does that mean? It is what it is.