 Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley of JonathanAsley.com and I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today. Our topic, the three feminine traits, high value men, love love and find irresistible. Okay, we're gonna get to that in a second. Really quickly, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit that subscribe button, hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos. And if anytime during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms. Really quickly, my coaching is what I call heart-centered radical honesty. It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. Occasionally, I use expletives to enhance a sentence and if that's not your cup of tea, I suggest logging off right now. Lastly, these are just my perceptions and my opinions. By no way, stretch of the means, am I suggesting what I share is the truth. You have to decide the truth for you and my hope is what I share shifts your perspective in a way that maybe you didn't see it before. All right, let's talk about those three feminine traits that high value men find irresistible. You know, I need to be candid with you. The title of this video is a little bit of a click bait and what I mean to say is I saw this on someone else's channel, it's got a lot of views and I thought what the heck I'm going to talk about this title from my perspective. So I just want to be candid about that. And what I mean by click bait is I just meant it's designed to get you to click and listen. So my hope is you find value in this. So just want to set the stage straight right off the get-go. So I've observed, as a dating relationship coach for women, that's my specialty and I specialize in midlife which is after baby making years and before retirement. So most of my audience is somewhere between 42 and 69, although it's interesting, I'm getting a lot of 20 and 30 year olds watching my channel and loving my content, so I'm very grateful for that. I do want to differentiate, there is kind of a big difference for people in their 20s and 30s versus those in their 40s, 50s and 60s and older. And that main difference is people in their 20s and 30s are more apt to want to make babies and start a family with someone versus those in their 40s, 50s and 60s on up are most likely that demographic, roughly about 75% of people over 45 years old that are single out there looking for love are divorced. So you can see that there's a big difference. There's the never married crowd and the divorced crowd. So I just want to differentiate that you have to kind of look at things based on someone's age and where they're at in their life. Okay, so before I get into those three feminine traits, I want to share with you something I've observed as that dating relationship coach that I mentioned before. And that is, I've observed that there are basically three kinds of women. I'm gonna repeat that there are three kinds of women. There is the woman who acts very entitled. This is the woman who basically doesn't think her shit stinks. Please forgive that graphic imagery there. But for the most part, she honestly thinks she's highly deserving and highly better than most people. In fact, she probably thinks she's special to the extent that she thinks she's superior to person. So that's one category of woman. And I'm not suggesting this is you, but I'm sure there are plenty that are watching this that might fit into that category. Then there's the other type of woman who's very fearful. She's very much afraid of herself. She's afraid of other people. She operates sadly in kind of a doormat kind of capacity, meaning she completely gives her power away to men and other people. Now, in some cases, this is a beautiful, kind, loving, enabling woman. And yet she's constantly in fear, constantly in lack mentality, constantly in scarcity mentality. And worse, oftentimes in victim consciousness. So there's the entitled and then there's the fearful. And then the third kind of woman is pretty much everybody in between. And to some extent, we all have an ego that causes us to act a little bit entitled in times. And then there's also, there's another side of our personalities that human beings that can be fearful, insecure and whatnot. So this is the vast majority of the population. In fact, it's a very small percentage who are absolutely, absolutely in confidence and in a state of both humbleness and worthiness. I'm gonna say it's a small percentage of the population that is absolutely in that band. Now that's not to say that it doesn't exist in many of us at times, but I just wanna lay the groundwork. So one of the things I've noticed with women, particularly in the dating, mating and relating realm, is that they oftentimes give their power away to men. They give their power away to men. And what I mean to say is not only is the man, the leader of the relationship, but many women are oftentimes fearful of speaking up to a man for fear that the man will get scared and run away. I'm gonna repeat that. They're oftentimes afraid to speak their truth to a man. This is one of the reasons why when I started my coaching practice, I'm leaning into the conversation of what's known as self-love, self-love. And if you're not familiar with it, I wrote a book called What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway? What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway? And why I'm bringing this up at this moment is chapter one is speak your truth, do it with kindness. Speak your truth, do it with kindness. Because if you're in a relationship with a man and you're afraid to speak up about your feelings, then he has your power. I'm gonna repeat that. Because you're basically, if your fear is that he's gonna break up with you, then he has the control over the relationship versus it being a two-lane street or a co-creative endeavor. And let me just say this. If you're speaking sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right guy. Repeat that. You can't say the wrong thing to the right person when it's sincere and from the heart. When it comes from entitlement or fear, you can absolutely sabotage a relationship, but chances are if you sabotage the relationship, you weren't right for him. I'm gonna repeat that. Folks, if you sabotage a relationship, it's not that he's not right for you. It's you weren't right for him, most likely. So we've kind of laid out this scenario of entitled, of fearful, and then mostly everybody in between. Because what we're gonna lean in today is what it takes to be high value, to be high value. So even though the title of this is the Three Feminine Traits that High Value Men Find Irresistible, quite frankly, these three traits, these three traits, if you will, aren't singular to feminine or masculine or man or woman or penis and vagina. This is about being a whole person, a whole person. And a whole person is irresistibly attracted to another whole person, okay? If you're not familiar with the book, where is it? Personhood. I highly recommend checking this book out, Personhood, because this is a great book to lean into a new, a way of thinking that takes us out of this entitlement or this fearful way of operating in our lives. Let me repeat that. When you become a whole person, you begin to operate less from ego or less from fear and more from your heart, more from your heart-centered place. And that's what I want everyone to lean into. Ladies, I know many of you think you operate from your heart, but I'm gonna tell you something. Oftentimes, that's an egoic mask to hide what's really going on underneath, okay? So I invite you to read the books that I'm recommending in this video and all my other videos, because the reality is you can't sign up to some three week coaching program by a dating coach to heal all your stuff in a matter of a minutes. Let me tell you something to truly heal the childhood wounds and traumas or the adult traumas that happen in our life is going to take tremendous amount of effort and work. I'm gonna repeat that. It's gonna take a tremendous amount of effort and work. It's gonna take a daily practice of doing work on oneself to be in a state of actually victor consciousness versus victim consciousness. This is why I recommend all these books. For example, I highly recommend reading the book The Hoffman Process, The Hoffman Process. This is a 50 hours of work and it's a deep dive into healing childhood wounds and traumas so you can actually show up more empowered in a relationship. All right, I'm gonna share those three traits that a man or woman is best served to operate from to be irresistible to the person you want to love. So I got my trusty notes. There we go, my trusty notes. I'm gonna put on my glasses. And the first one is, the first one is they have their act together. They have their act together. And what I mean to say is they're not going through, whether it's a man or woman, they're not going through a lot of drama in the area of their financial life. In other words, they're supporting themselves. They're not going through a lot of drama with an ex-partner or an ex-spouse. They're not going through a lot of drama with their children, maybe their family and friends and coworkers. But for the most part, they're not in a state of absolute chaos in their life from the perspective of their life. I was trying to think of something better, but they're not in a state of chaos because when a person is in a state of chaos, we can differentiate extreme chaos versus the minor bumps in the road we have. We can all have bad days at work. We can all have frustrations that happen from time to time. I'm talking about it's a habitual problem, whether it's in their work, their professional life, their finances, whether it's their family and friends, maybe it's their physical health, all these areas. If you don't have your act together, you're not gonna be very irresistible to somebody else. You certainly could be irresistible to another dysfunctional person. But I'm telling you, if we look at high value, one of the fundamentals of being high value is one or both people, well, both people ideally have their act together and there's not incessant drama in their lives. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? If yes, please let me know. Number two, they take care of their physical being. They take care of their physical health. This comes back to having one's act together. People who are more conscious about the food they eat, what they put in their body and physical exercise. By the way, I wanna thank Kathy for the Super Sticker. I appreciate that. Those that take care of their physical health. First off, it's important to want to take care of your physical health. I really do believe this. And that takes a level of consciousness. Now, for some people, they might say they're incapable of that because they're dealing with some biological issues. Now, I understand that. But to the extent that you can actually work on oneself from a physical perspective, even if you're dealing with some physical limitations, and I don't mean that you're disabled or something like that. I'm talking about, there are people that are emotional eaters that have put on an excessive amount of weight, which has caused some health conditions in their lives. Well, that's something we can actually work on if we choose to. We can choose to exercise. People that say they're too busy in their life to exercise. I mean, if an individual can't find a half hour out of any given day to go for a walk to do something physical, then you're not actually living your optimal life. And so if you wanna be irresistible with someone, then your physical life with your health, your physical health, which the food you eat, your physical exercise makes a big difference. And number three, and this by far is the most important of all three. Not that we're grading these, but to the extent that I find this to be the greatest challenge for those of us in the dating, mating, and relating realm, is what I call taking care of your emotional health, taking care of your emotional health. You know, sadly here, particularly in the United States, we are suckling on the nipple of victim consciousness. It's us against them. It's black and white. It's blues and reds. It's mass and no mass. And why I'm using this in emotional health is there's almost this pent up aggression towards people coming from a place of victim consciousness. So I wanna lean into, for the next minute or two, talking about emotional maturity. And I've laid out in previous videos the five signs of emotional maturity that it relates to dating, mating, and relating. And those five signs are a person's actions matches their words. Their actions match their words consistently. Look, there are going to be times we are human. We make a promise, we can't keep it. Okay, that's gonna happen on occasion. Maybe it might be, you know, you're gonna be in an appointment at a certain time and you show up late. Well, that might mean that you didn't live up to your word. But if it's not habitual, and I'm not using late, I'm using multiple examples when I say actions don't match their words. So long as it's consistent, that's a sign of emotional maturity. Another sign of emotional maturity, which I've said repeatedly already in this video, is victor consciousness and not victim consciousness. And what I'm talking about is consciousness is looking like you've been looking. In the dating, mating, or relating realm, folks. If you, and I'm gonna steal something from Dr. Pat Allen. If you don't have to call a doctor an attorney or a policeman. I'm gonna repeat that. A doctor, an attorney, or a policeman. If you don't have to call one of those three things, the most everything in your life is something that you accepted. So when we point the finger at other people, we're oftentimes in that, in that verbiage, we're actually acting like a victim. And emotional maturity is a human being that takes personal responsibility for their choices. And they operate from a place of victim consciousness. Look it, I'm thinking back to my not significant relationship when we first broke up. And I can't tell you how I went into victim consciousness. It was all her fault. It was her fault. It was her fault why the relationship ended. And I gave her my power by saying it was her fault without looking at how I contributed to the challenges in the relationship. And it took me years to really examine that piece within myself. So I invite you to look at every past relationship from the perspective of what did I learn about myself? What was good about the relationship and what am I most grateful for? Because that's a trigger to get you into victor consciousness versus victim consciousness. Number three, we're talking about emotional maturity is the capacity to learn how to do what I call fighting fair, fighting fair. What that means is there's going to be bumps in the road in every relationship. There is no such thing as the perfectly aligned couple. You can be closely aligned, but it's never perfectly aligned. So when there's differences an emotionally healthy person listens to the other person's point of view. They accept the other person's point of view as being true for them. And both people are doing it for each other. That's a sign of emotional maturity. That means you know how to what I call fighting fair. Because without knowing how to fight fair and communicate your needs, wants and desires in a healthy way, most relationships are going to clash with one another. And it won't be very irresistible to be with that person. If you're not familiar with the book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. I highly suggest checking this out so you can learn the tools for the communication tools to express yourself in a way that's seen, heard and understood, okay? Number four, I call this empathy. I call it empathy. What I mean by empathy, empathy isn't just I can feel your feelings. I know so many people claim to be empaths. We can feel everybody else's feelings. Okay, great. You can feel other people's feelings. True empathy is not only feeling other people's feelings true empathy is I care about your feelings. And if we want to take it a step further true ninja level of emotional maturity is I care about my own feelings. My feelings matter going back to that fearful person. You know, if you're afraid to express your feelings to your partner, then you're not actually a really good partner to your partner or to this person you're dating or whatnot. True empathy is not just the feeling someone's feelings. It's also caring about someone's feelings and also most importantly caring about your own feelings. Is this resonating with you? Please let me know. And lastly, sign of emotional maturity is transparency. Transparency and what I mean to say if it's material to the relationship or it's material to the process of getting to know one another then it's important to be transparent. Sadly, most people lack transparency. This goes back to that giving one's power away when you're afraid to speak up in the relationship you're not very transparent. And guess what? It's going to backfire. The relationship will collapse at some point if we're not both parties aren't transparent. So let's bring this back to full circle. High value people, men or women alike this isn't the three feminine traits these are the three human traits to be a high value person so you can become irresistible to another human being another high value human being. And that is you have your act together. You have your act together. Now I gotta read my notes again. They take care of their physical health. They take you take care of your physical health. And lastly, you take care of your emotional health. You're constantly investing in your emotional health. And I'm a big proponent when I especially when I wrote my book it's a daily journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work. So you can actually become that empowered person that actually has that actually lives their life from a place of inner peace because when we can operate from in place of inner peace we actually are irresistible to men and women alike. And by the way to get a copy of my book check out the link below to selflovethebook.com I've got a link to Jonathan recommends books all the books I recommend in my videos are in the Jonathan recommends section. Lastly, I just wanna say this. My podcast is called the what would love do podcast that's on Apple and Google and all that kind of places. And I want to begin the process of reminding everyone whenever you're faced with a challenge I want you to ask yourself what would love do and how would love respond? I repeat that what would love do and how would love respond? Because when we can look at this whole thing from the eyes of love we actually lean into greater compassion for ourselves and greater compassion for other human beings. And that's my invitation for everyone here today. All right, I hope you got value out of my short speech on the topic. Guess what, we're gonna get into Q and A now. So if you're on the live stream right now there's a chat box where you can post questions please write the word question and then post your question there after or you can purchase a super sticker super chat to post a question or you can purchase a super sticker super chat just to be generous. Let me just say this all the monies from the super sticker super chat goes to a scholarship fund to defray the cost for those seeking personal development work. The fund is in the name of my son Connor that's a picture of my son Connor there. He's my son who passed away a few years ago. So in his honor and in his name the scholarship fund is there to help defray the cost for those that need a little bit of help when it comes to personal development. So if you purchase a super sticker super chat that's what you can do there. All right, hey Kathy just said purchase a super sticker. Thank you so much, I appreciate that. All right, so let's look at the questions. If you have a question, post the word question. Kathy says excellent, excellent, excellent. Thank you so much, I really appreciate that. Sharon says, agree to disagree. I can only do that with a few people and they are men. Again, coming back to fighting fair, agree. It's basically I listen to your point of view. I accept your point of view is true for you. You listen to my point of view. You accept it is true for me. And yes, we can agree to disagree because it's not about being right. Let me just say this fighting fair isn't about being right. It's really about being heard and that's what matters most. So thank you so much for that, I appreciate it. All right, Leif says this is resonating. I'm so happy to hear that, thank you. All right, Lisa says never be afraid to express your feelings. You can do it with kindness exactly. Carrie says the book attached and what the heck is self-love anyway is a really good helpful to find out what to act like. Yes, the book attached right there and self-love anyway. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, thank you so much. All right, if you have a question post the word question look into essential oils and diffusers to help for lung inflammation. Okay, thank you so much. Carrie says the author that Jonathan recommends is Marianne Williamson's is absolutely fantastic. Yes, I don't have the actual book. I have the CD version of Return to Love, the most amazing book on the planet. It's in my top five right after The Untethered Soul. So check out Marianne Williamson. This is a great book to lean into your heart-centered space food. Thank you for bringing that up. All right, if you have a question post the word question. Oh, here we go. Lisa bear with me a second. All right, Sunshine says, how can I change my victim mentality? Which books do you recommend to start to change? Hold on a second, I was just looking at a book. You know, it's a great book, one of the books to start. I haven't mentioned this much before but it's Loving What Is by Byron Katie. Loving What Is by Byron Katie. And what I like about this is she has the four questions to ask yourself. I always butcher this, so I'm not gonna get into it but I highly recommend these four questions whenever you're faced with a problem is you ask yourself, is it true? Second question, is it really true? So for example, all men are commitment phobic. Is that true? Yes, all men are commitment phobic. Is it really true? Well, not all men. What would your life be like if it wasn't true? Kinda like the idea is to shift perspective. Really, when we shift out of victim mentality, we're really how do we shift to deeper love? And so Return to Love, that book I mentioned before is a great one but if you really wanna do ninja level work, I mean ninja level work, then I highly recommend, this is a book I haven't talked about in a while, I highly recommend Grounded Spirituality Grounded Spirituality by Jeff Brown. This is an intense book. I actually recommend purchasing the book and the audio version. Listen to the audio version while you're reading the book but this is intense and I highly recommend it. This is ninja level spiritual work and these are just some of the things, oh, going back to Personhood is another great book too or just some of the books I recommend for helping one shift from a victim consciousness to more of a victor consciousness. And again, The Untethered Soul is another great book. Here's another great book, How to Be an Adult in Relationship. I can go list is on and on but thank you so much, great question. I wanna thank Carol Rojas for the $10 super sticker. Thank you so much. All right, let's go. Susan writes, question, what if after eight months you haven't been to his house? Think he may be a hoarder. Okay, this is a great question folks. Have you ever experienced somebody you've been dating? It's been one or two months. At that time, most likely you've been intimate with each other, I mean physically intimate. In other words, you've had sex with one another but you haven't been in their home. It's been six months, it's been eight months, it could be years. I think there could be a couple of things going on. There could be, hey, the guy's married and has a wife or he could have a girlfriend. And that's, by the way, might make sense to do a background check when someone doesn't invite you to their home. Do a background check on them. Might be one thing worth doing. The other reason why some men wouldn't invite you to their home is that they're ashamed. Maybe they're ashamed of their living arrangements. Maybe they're a hoarder just like you suggested. Folks, I, after my divorce, I lost my quarter million dollar a year job. I got wiped out in the market crash of 2008 and I used to live in a 2.2 million dollar home. I had to move in with my mom and dad at age 47, okay? She used to make a quarter million dollars a year, had a 2 million dollar home, 2.2 million dollar home. And I had to move in with my mom and dad. And I met a woman who, she found out on her second date, I was living with my mom and dad and she still allowed me to pursue her and we eventually entered into a relationship. But it was a year or two before I invited her my home. Now she knew my circumstances was I was quite ashamed. So she knew my why and accepted my why. Plus we had many mutual friends. We were both in the personal development world. So she knew enough about me not to judge me for it. But I'm here to say, I think it's an important conversation to have to understand the why. At some days, at some point, you also have to say, look, if you wanna explore something with me, then I need to go to your home to know you're legit and you have every right to ask that. Now this gets a little difficult for those of you in long distance relationship. So if you're more than a couple hour drive from one another, it has to be more intentional. And if it's a long distance circumstance than this question, it's gonna be a little bit harder. In fact, people that are long distance have a greater propensity of cheating on their spouse. So I highly recommend going to the other person's home if that's the circumstance. All right, great question. Thank you so much. All right, let's keep swimming. Hey, Lisa, Lisa says, question, why are women so jealous of each other? That is insecurity and low self-esteem. I have three sisters and they're always been jealous. Well, you just globally nailed it. Insecurity and self-esteem. As I said before, most of us are suckling on the nipple of victim consciousness. People are either doormats or fearful personalities or maybe they have entitled personalities. So the fact that people act jealous, women are men, it's because of insecurity. I mean, this bottom line is that, you know, when I recognize that within people, I actually have a greater amount of compassion for them. Folks, I will tell you that one of the leaps of faith I had to overcome within myself is my judgment of other human beings. And I recognize that, listen, back when I lost my money and I was, you know, after my divorce, I was an emotional train wreck. I was a basket case, I was a basket case, okay? And I'm grateful that a lot of people saw me with the eyes of compassion. People who are insecure, you know, people that have low self-esteem. Remember this, hurt people hurt other people. Jealousy is to hurt someone. So hurt people hurt other people. But you don't want to trade, you don't want to trade shoes with them. So you have a choice. We can judge the hurt people as being bad or we can have compassion for them. It doesn't mean we have to have them in our lives. It doesn't mean we can't establish boundaries. I'm a big proponent of that. At the end of the day though, love comes from a place of compassion. That's what love would do and that's how love would respond. So my invitation in this particular case for those of your sisters or those is to come from a place of compassion and gratitude that you're not in a space of jealousy. Be grateful for yourself and hold space for the others on an energetic level that they find their self-esteem and they find their security. That's my invitation in that particular case, Lisa. Thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. All right. That's that super sticker from Kathy. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. All right. Lisa says, boundaries are a blessing, exactly. All right. If you have a question, post the word question and then write out your question thereafter. So it's easier for me to find. By the way, the live chat bar, it's very hard for me to see when people post questions. So if you have something to add. Oh, deep diver. Yay. Yay, just because I recognize your name. All right. Question. Should you enjoy the moment and experience the love in the moment with someone you enjoy or wait for someone who would match your relationship status needs which might or might not happen? So great question. Living in the moment or holding out? Why can't you do both? Why can't you live in the moment and hold space or be in a space to attract your ideal partner? Why can't you do both? Now, I guess we could live in the moment and say, oh, I just want to have a one night stand. That's one way of living in the moment. And that's great. You get an or hopefully you get an orgasm out of it. Hopefully, it got it really sucks. When you have a one night stand and you don't have an orgasm from it. And by the way, men also can have a hard time having an orgasm too or ejaculating, I mean. Oh, by the way, really quickly, my mug says, I make the world go around. What do you do? Listen, a friend of mine gave this to me, kind of apropos being that I'm a Leo that, and I jokingly say the world revolves around me to the extent that I'm sometimes a little arrogant that way. There is truth to it. I'd like to think I'm also empathetic and compassionate to other people's needs and I'm there for people. And I do admit when I am wrong. Okay, so coming back to, now I went off on a tangent. What's the question about living in the moment? So here's the thing. I think learning to be present and enjoying experience from a place of being present is absolutely a necessity if you wanna have a fulfilled life. So being present is absolutely necessary. Can you have short-lived experiences purely for the pleasure of fun like the sex we talk about or just meeting someone out for a date? Absolutely. So long as you're not coming from a place of entitlement. So if it's merely to just, and especially from a woman's point of view, because men typically pay for dates, if you're just looking to have someone's company and he pays for it, I figure that's kind of an entitled way of approaching it. I'm not a big fan of that. Unless you put your money where your mouth is and then it's fine to say, I'm just gonna have a good time with somebody and you both contribute to that expense of having a good time. I think that's a little bit more genuine in my, from my perspective. But ultimately being in the moment is about learning to be present. The sad thing is we're oftentimes in our monkey mind. We're in our monkey mind. Our mind is all over the place so we can't even be in the moment when we're searching for ideal person. In fact, many women along with men are over thinkers. They're over analyzers. And when you're overthinking and over analyzing, you can't even be present and receptive to love. So I love this question from that perspective. I believe be present in your everyday life and hold space for the relationship you desire. But if you want to have a fling, who am I to judge that? Go for it, have fun. All right, let's keep going. All right, Lisa says, yeah, my mom was a victim. That's where it comes from. Oftentimes it comes from our family of origin. All right, let's go swimming. If you have a question, post the word question. Bump, bump, bump, bump, bump, bump. Let's go, oh, here we go. Weijin, hey! Question, is being professional at the workplace with the, with, I don't know what WT stands for, workplace, a man who dated a year ago, the only option, I dated him for two months. I broke up with him, with him. He made at me after a year. Now he wants to be friends. I'm sorry, I'm actually confused by your question. Is being professional at the workplace with the man I dated a year ago the only option? Well, okay, so does anyone know the expression, be careful where you, be careful, don't shit where you eat, okay? So when it comes to, if you dated someone in the workplace, provided you're looking at your sexual harassment laws within the workplace, because I'm sure there's some human resources, rules regarding dating someone from the workplace, I suspect here, especially with corporate America, I think what's most important is if two people date from the workplace, and then they've transitioned out of it, that it's best to be professional with one another. That's the whole narrative of what the workplace represents, the word professional. So I'm a big proponent of treating someone, if it doesn't work out, to do it, to basically from a kind, loving place, is to separate yourself from that person in the relationship, and then operate from a place of professionalism in the workplace. That's my invitation for everybody. But I think that's rather obvious, isn't that? I mean, isn't that pretty obvious to everyone? I would think so. So hopefully I made sense, and by the way, Weijin, if your question was different, I just didn't understand it based on the way you posted. So please forgive me on that one. But thank you for that question. All right, let's keep going. Okay, Lisa says, this is related to Weijin. I made it a rule a year ago, not to date men at work, too much drama if and when you break up. Some people have a rule of thumb that might be an appropriate one, but then each person to their own. I'm not here to judge. Although I'm not here to judge, but boy, am I fucking judgmental. So believe me, I have plenty of work to do myself. Okay, Leah says, question, how do I respond supportably to a man disclosing erectile dysfunction, please? Well, I don't think there's anything you need to say per se, if someone's disclosed it, just be receptive to hear, and then from the bit, but ultimately in the bedroom, most guys can still have an orgasm through oral sex, even though they may not be fully erect. Now, most men use the blue pill, especially in midlife. Most men use the blue pill. It's just, I mean, that's pretty much, SOP, standard operating procedure for most men to use the blue pill. So how can you be supportive? Just energetically be supportive. Just recognize that we all, as we age, our bodies start to deteriorate, and one of the things is, erectile dysfunction is partially, could be psychosomatic, it could be circulatory, there could be some other body functions going on. What's most important is you don't need to bring it up. He's brought it up to you, so there's nothing really more you need to do. And in the bedroom, you can talk about how to please one another. Folks, by the way, I oftentimes bring up the book Eight Dates by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. And one of the topics of discussion centers around sex. And I think human beings are better served to talk about pleasing one another in the bedroom, rather being naive to it, and just hoping that magic fairy dust will actually make everything work out. Because magic fairy dust always works out. And by the way, magic fairy dust is the space where we all shove shit under the rug, hoping that by not doing anything about it, it's all gonna magically work out. That's the magic fairy dust, is sliding it under the rug, hoping that somehow, if you do nothing about it, it will solve the problem. I'm here to talk about a different narrative, and that's to lean into talking to your partner about things. And it's through the conversation that you build greater intimacy with one another. And when you have intimacy, you have a stronger relationship with one another. Does that make sense? I hope so. All right, great question. Thank you so much. Bum, bum, bum, bum, bum. Oh, shoot. Just saw a question. There we go, Hannah. Question. What's the quickest way to find out if a potential partner is a misogynist? Ooh, that's an interesting question. You know, I don't have an answer. I think time will tell if someone's a misogynist. If someone's a misogynist. God, that's a tough one. I know some people from a religious perspective believe in a one-up, one-down type of dynamic in relationship. I know that's true in Middle Eastern cultures. A lot of cultures operate from a place of one-up, one-down, meaning the man's here and the woman's below her. So that's kind of a form of misogyny, if you will. Certain religious beliefs, certain cultures. So I think it's indicative of certain cultures and religious beliefs. That's probably the closest clue I can give you, but I don't know a quick like that. If nothing comes to mind, so it's a great question, and I'm gonna do a little bit of research on it, so I'll try to answer that in the next live stream. So thank you so much. Lisa says, Jonathan True, psychologists say, never have a friendship with your exes separate fully. I'm not in agreement with that. I believe that two people can uncouple consciously. If you haven't read the book, Conscious Uncoupling by Catherine Woodward Thomas, I highly recommend reading this book. She is a best-selling author. I do believe two people can consciously uncouple and maintain a friendly relationship after the relationship ends. Now, I don't believe it's healthy to have an intimate interpersonal relationship with a past lover. I'm gonna repeat that. I don't believe it's healthy to have an intimate interpersonal relationship. What I mean is your past lover shouldn't be your therapist going forward in your life, okay? So I'm not in agreement of that, but I happen to be what I call family with my ex-girlfriend. And to the extent that my ex-wife and I are friends now, I mean, we're not friends, but we are friendly to each other. So I'm a bit, by the way, you know a sign of emotional maturity to me is people who can end relationships in a healthy way and still have some sort of healthy relationship with a past partner if it's possible because you're coming at it from a healthy place, meaning you're not talking about emotional needs with your ex-partner, you're not fantasizing about being physical with them and you're not fantasizing about getting back to them. People who fantasize about getting back with their partners that talk emotionally with their ex-partners, those usually blow up. And certainly men have a propensity wanna have sex with their past partner. So if a man isn't feeling that desire to wanna be sexual and wanna be friends, I think it's absolutely possible. I'm saying it is absolutely possible, highly unlikely because the vast majority of human beings are emotionally immature. And when emotionally immature people and relationships, the best thing they can do for themselves is to separate themselves for that person and do personal development work to heal from the ending of that relationship. That's my invitation for everyone. All right. All right, thanks for bringing that up, Lisa. All right, let's go swim in. All right, Kerry says, what do you do when a boyfriend tells you that he feels we're not perfect match and he doesn't see me in his future? You say thank him. Okay, great question. Let me repeat it one more time, everyone. What do you do when your boyfriend tells you he feels we're not a perfect match and he doesn't see me in your future? I think this is a great question. Here's how you respond. You say thank you. Thank you for being honest. Thank you for being transparent. That's a very vulnerable thing for a person to say to another person to actually be transparent. It's a sign of emotional maturity. Listen, the dating process for those under 45 years old, it takes a good two years to get to know another human being. It takes a good two years to decide if you wanna be partners with this person. As you get to be 50 or 60, it should be shorter period of time, hopefully for those who have done personal development work and are emotionally, emotionally mature people know rather quickly. They know rather quickly if this person is partnership material or not. That's what emotionally mature people, mostly immature people fantasize and they actually walk around unconsciously in the relationship most part. So what I would do in that particular case is thank them for their honesty, thank them for being forthright. And the relationship is obviously over unless you just want a casual relationship. If you want a casual relationship with someone, go for it. I'm not a big proponent of casual relationship. I'm a big proponent. I'm spitting now. I'm a big proponent of empowered partnership, empowered partnership. So that's my invitation in this particular case is to end the relationship unless you seek something casual. And you're welcome to keep casual. By the way, folks, casual relationships are good fillers. And by the way, you might just have nothing but casual relationships. I'm not object to casual relationships for people. I'm just more of a proponent of people being in partnership because I think that's healthier from the long-term perspective. But certainly living in the moment could mean you just have a casual relationship. So thank you so much, Kerry, for that question. I really appreciate it. Lisa says, you can't use a blue pill if you have a heart issues. That is not true. I have talked to my cardiologist. I have heart issues and I can use the blue pill. So that's at least what my cardiologist said to me. Anyway, question from Aime. How do I support a guy who disclosed his HIV status? He left seven days ago, no reply. I don't intrude if he needs time. Interesting. So I'm assuming he's expressed that he's HIV positive. I'm assuming that's what you meant. And he's now gone off the reservation, if you will. Listen, I can't imagine how challenging it could be for a person who has HIV, let alone any baseline venereal disease, but more so whether it's hepatitis or HIV, that's got to be emotionally taxing. So I can understand why someone might retreat if that happens. In that case, I just suggest hold space for that person to have a heart issue. Send energetic love. If you don't wanna be in a romantic relationship with someone who has HIV, then the best thing you can do is send energetic love and hopefully from an energetic perspective, wish them well. And if they circle around, then have a conversation about it. But in this particular case, I can only imagine how emotionally challenging that would be to have that and then have to tell somebody that. That has to be, oh my God, that has to be emotionally painful. So my heart goes out to that person that I send. I send them a lot of love. And I hope everybody here can do the same. We should send energetic love to everybody who is hurting. Everybody is hurting. And basically everybody is hurting. So how about we send energetic love to the planet? Can I get an amen? By the way, I'm gonna reserve the last 10 minutes of this live stream. If you have a personal question for me, please let me know. By the way, on Instagram, we have a question. Is it a red flag when a man talks about sex on a first date? Is it a red flag? Okay. And by the way, if you have a personal question for me, write the word personal question and then write the question thereafter. So listen, I've talked about sex on a first date. We met our fishers. We fish, you know? We wanna see, you know, sometimes we throw out trial balloons. I think if someone is incessantly talking about sex and not getting to know you, that's a big red flag. Okay. And as a matter of fact, that could be just a deal breaker. That could be, actually, that's most likely just simply a, you know, an old good old fashioned turnoff when someone talks about sex incessantly. Now, I throw trial balloons as sexual innuendos oftentimes on a first date just to see, you know, where someone's at in their sexual prowess. So I don't consider that a bad thing. I mean, most men do it. We're just, we are sexual creatures. Let's face it, ladies, what do men think about on a first date? What's the one thing you know they think about on a first date? Every man thinks about wanting to have sex with you if they like you. So it doesn't mean they want a relationship with you. It just means they wanna have sex with you. So is it a red flag? It's only a red flag if it's incessantly about sex and not about actually getting to know you. But a guy who throws out a sexual innuendo here there, that's no big deal. That's my perspective on it. You have to decide for your, going back to Judy here, you've gotta decide for yourself, but that's my perception on it anyway. All right, great question. Thank you so much. All right. All right. If you have a question, post the word question, bump, bump, bump up, we have personal question. All right, here we go. Are you dating casually right now? Monique asks, are you dating casually right now? So I date with intentionality. I date with intentionality. What I mean to say is I only choose to invest in people that I think we have potential for a long-term bit. So I don't date casually. I actually date with intentionality. And I'm very forthright. I'm very vulnerable, authentic, and transparent in my communication when I'm talking to someone from a dating perspective. So I actually am on most dating sites. I'm on hinge, I'm on bumble, I'm on match, I'm on a millionaire match. I have a free membership there. I'm on hinge, bumble, oh, I'm on Tinder too and the league, okay? So I spend about 15 minutes a day swiping, seeing if there's any matches. Most of the time there's the occasional person that I'm attracted to, but they're not attracted to me and there's occasionally where I connect with someone. We communicate maybe via text message a little bit. Sometimes it goes nowhere. Sometimes it leads to a phone call. It leads to a phone call and I think it's a fit. It's gonna lead to a date. I did speak to a woman last night for a bit of time for about an hour and a half. And at the end, we realized we weren't a good fit for one another. We asked each other a lot of questions and we were just kind of like, we just weren't a fit for one another. And so there was no need to actually meet for a date. So to the, I'm not casually dating. I'm in dating with intentionality. I'm dating with intentionality. I want a life mate in my life. And this is one of the reasons why in my private coaching program, by the way, there's a link to a free discovery call in the description to schedule a call to see if working with a coach is right for you. My whole coaching practice is centered around pre-qualifying your prospect, helping you determine who's truly compatible with you and how to ask the right questions based on your personality to determine compatibility and how to vet for emotional maturity. I'm gonna repeat that. How to vet for emotional maturity. So if you need some help in that, that's the way I date. I pre-qualify my prospect because I don't wanna, listen, listen, I know you've all fallen into this trap. Everyone who follows my work knows my relationship iceberg, relationship iceberg, and above the waterline is attraction, attraction. And the tip of the iceberg is chemistry, chemistry. Below the water is shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity. That's compatibility. And as you start checking the boxes of shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity, the waterline of attraction drops to where you become more and more attracted to the person. And ultimately when you're totally attracted to each other from these four areas, you no longer have an iceberg, you have a mountain. And when you've ever heard the phrase men will move mountains, it's because there's chemistry, there's shared values. Your lifestyles are blendable and there's emotional maturity. And when you're experiencing that, boy, you have a mountain of a relationship. Sadly, people are missing the shared values. Sometimes their lifestyles aren't blendable. And most of the time, because the vast majority of people aren't emotionally mature or weak at emotional IQ, they're weak at emotional IQ, makes it very difficult for them to be in relationship. This is one of the reasons why if you've ever heard the term relationship take work, they take work because when emotionally immature people get together, they don't know how to work at, they don't know how to actually be in a loving relationship. So they're constantly butting heads with one another. And that's why it's a clusterfuck out there. So anyways, this is why I recommend the books that I do because I want you to shore up your emotional maturity so you can attract the right guy. Thank you so much for that personal question. I appreciate that. All right, any more personal questions, go ahead, lay them on me. Hannah says, what should you do if your partner doesn't like or care about any of your interests or hobbies? What do you do if your partner? So one of the ways we bond with our partners is through social activities, hobbies and mutual interests. Now, let's give you an example. What if his activity was golfing and you don't like golfing? That's very common. What if your activity is, listen, so let me use my mom and dad as an example. That's a picture of my mom and dad when they're in their 20s. They were married 66 years before my mother passed away a few years ago. My father now is 96 years old. He's living in Istanbul, Turkey, living along the Bosphorus. I hope he lives to 100. That would be so fucking awesome. But my mom and dad had their own separate interests. My mom was a champion poker player. My mom was a champion poker player. By the way, how I got my lunch money when I was growing up is because my mom was a champion poker player. My dad hated gambling. My father was into, he started the Turkish Israeli Foundation. My mom hated that. So people can have different hobbies and interests, but what they shared in common, for example, they loved to play backgammon. They used to play backgammon every night for hours after my dad came home from work. We had dinner with the family, my mom and dad. So it's important to have shared hobbies and activities but not every single hobby and activity should you share. So it's okay to not like something. And it's important to find where you do have common interests, shared activities and hobbies together. So I hope that little story helped out. Thank you so much. All right. Oops, Regent, I saw you posted a question. Let me go back. Bear with me, everyone. Regent says, do you have a specific age range what you're looking for? So I typically, my age range is about, I'm gonna say egotistically speaking, I'm gonna be transparent here. 10 to 12 years younger than me, a few years older than me. That's about my range. I think my ego wants someone 10 years younger. That's just, I'm owning my truth, you know what? My ego wants someone 10 years younger. Not much more than 10 years younger. I mean 12 years younger, but that's my ego talking. Now I'll tell you, part of that is because the older people are, the ones who haven't done emotional, personal development, self-help and spiritual work, the more wounded they are, oftentimes I notice this and it's very difficult for me to connect with them. So I think the sooner people start doing this work, I started this work a decade ago when I was in my 40s. So, but to answer your question, my range, and by the way, I've been in a significant relationship and she would kill me for saying this publicly, but she was, I'm not saying the number, okay? But she would, because she'd kill me, but yes, I've been in relationship with someone. And by the way, very much in love with her and she was older than me. So, thank you for that personal question. Vivian says, Jonathan, you're so honest. Thank you so much, I appreciate that. All right, let's see, let's see, let's see. Oh, here we have another personal question from Weijin. If you have only 20 minutes to jump on a call with a woman for a first time, what are the questions you usually will ask? Interesting. So, you know, I've been thinking about this lately and it relates to a post I recently did. I think I wanna know a person's politics and religion right off the bat, let me tell you why. I believe that people's, our politics and our religion is a reflection of person's values. So, if someone's ideology is extreme from my ideology in those two areas, then it's not a good fit for me. It's just not a good fit for me. So, those are two things. I know most people will tell you never talk about politics and religion and I'm the opposite. You absolutely wanna talk about politics and religion right away because if your ideologies are different, then it's gonna be very difficult to get to know one another and let me just say this, folks. Look it, going back to the relationship iceberg. We often, most people get sucked into the belief that chemistry equals relationship success and if two people love each other, we can solve all the problems in the world if we just love each other. Think of how many people loved each other, got married and got divorced, okay? Think of how many people loved each other on the first, you know, the first few months and then it blew up in relationship. How much love does not solve incompatibility? And to me, politics and religion is a reflection of a person's values. So, when I recognize that we kind of share the same values in our politics and religion, I do believe there's a greater chance for success. And by the way, that woman I spoke of a moment ago that we had a telephone call that went for an hour and a half, we absolutely differed in that area in our lives and that just, it was a contentious conversation. Now, did I provoke it by talking about politics and religion? Here's the thing. When you're dealing, here's the thing. When two people are aligned, it's actually a much easier conversation. Now, that's not to suggest, you know, this belief that opposites attract and yes, you know, there are Democrats that fall in love with Republicans, absolutely. But most of those people are probably highly emotionally mature and can express their differences in a way that can be seen, heard and understood. And that conversation I had, I wasn't being heard on my point of view. And so then I just realized I don't wanna be with someone who can't hear my point of view. So those are two questions I ask along with, you know, just some basic questions to determine, you know, are they an empty nester, for example, because I'm an empty nester and I prefer someone who's also an empty nester. That's another question I ask. But those are the two top ones because it gives me insight into their values. Weijin, thank you so much for that question. And by the way, again, I know people will disagree with me, but that's how I operate. So, and I'm very happy the way I operate. Sadie says, do you like Turkish breakfast? Sadly, since my mom passed away, I haven't had a good Turkish meal. And my sister tries, but she just doesn't come close. All right, I don't see any questions. All right, all right, Julie says, what's your favorite type of travel? First class, that's my favorite type of travel. First class, I love flying first class. I love that you get on the plane first. I love that you get bigger seats and I'm a big guy, I'm six foot two and weigh 202 pounds, I'm a big guy. So I love that. I love that they give you those roasted cashews right off the bat and they give you those face towels. And I love the ego of it too. I love first class all the way. That's the way I like to travel. Can I afford that? Not all the time, but that's what I do like. So thank you for asking that question. I hope you appreciate that. All right, let me scroll to the bottom. These are gonna be my last two. First from Lisa. So you only date empty nesters, not ladies. Oh, empty nester of people with no, so going back to your question, either empty nesters or no children. I don't discriminate against that. The idea is that my lifestyle is very flexible and if someone is actively raising children, actively raising children, then it's probably not a fit for me because I'm not in that space. Secondly, I wanna be able to come to my girlfriend's house and walk around naked and not have to worry about her children popping out. So that's just how I feel. Thank you so much for that question. Boy, we're getting a lot of personal questions now. Nanya, Nanya Business says, I'm feeling frustrated with online dating, so many injured souls. Yes, the vast majority of the human population, men and women alike are wounded, jaded, bitter, hurting inside. It's not online dating, it's just humanity. We can hyper focus that it's online dating because that's where you're most likely meeting people. The reality is is when we're in our 40s, 50s or 60s, we're not, our social circle isn't surrounded by single eligible people. So it makes it difficult to meet and that's why online dating happens to be the popular place. So if that's how you feel, I understand you and guess what, 50% of all new relationships today are happening online. I have very, I have several dear friends who are absolutely emotionally mature and they met their partner online. And I'm talking, I have dozens of friends that way. So you can look at the glass half empty or you can look at it full. It's my invitation for you anyway. Thank you so much. Lisa says, first class to Seattle was awesome. Yes, I agree. All right. Hannah says, do you believe the 36 questions to fall in love, have you heard about it? I have briefly seen it and I preferred this book way more. So I don't, here's the book I recommend. These are eight dates. These are eight critical conversations. So falling in love doesn't happen on the first, second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth, 10th, eighth. That's not when it happens. True falling in love is you're going through chemotherapy and you're vomiting and I'm going to wipe the vomit from your face. That's true love. So I don't think it happens on the first, second, third, fourth, fifth, second, ninth, 10th date. However, those who watch my channel know before the penis goes inside the vagina purchase two copies of this book and talk about what's in this book. This is way more to better serve to determine shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity because you already know whether or not you have chemistry. So invest in this book and the 36 questions is a good, that's a good first, second grade version. If you want the university version, go to here. If you want, excuse me, not first or second grade. If you want the junior high school version, do the 36 questions. If you want the university version, go to eight dates by doctors John and Julie Gottman. That's my opinion anyway. All right. I saw trendsetter here. Hold on a second. Bear with me. Bum, bum, bum. Personal question. What if she has no interest in speaking about politics or religion? Would you still insist on the topics or give up on getting to know that person? Actually, so great question. First off, I didn't say I'm interested in politics or religion. I said I ask about those questions, big difference. And let me explain why. I've said this in the previous live stream. I really have no love loss for any politician. I have no love loss for Democrats and Republicans. I quite frankly think the system here in the United States, as great as a country we are, there's a lot of things broken about it. So to that extent, I don't operate. I operate as a moderate, number one. As far as religion, I am spiritual, but not religious. So I'm not a good fit for someone who prefers to go to church five times a week and they're really in love with Jesus. That's just not who I am. So I try to ask those questions, determine where they're at on the scale. If they could care less about politics, hey, I'm with you on that. Doesn't mean I don't care about social issues. It's just, I think it gives you insight into a person's values. And let me reframe the word, I don't care. What I mean by that is I don't invest overly a lot of time on what's happening in Washington, DC, because I'm letting them do their job and hopefully they're letting me do my job. And that is being a dating or relationship coach. And on the spirituality question, yeah, when I meet a woman who's spiritual but not religious, amen to that. There's a lot of juicy stuff to talk about. And if they're into personal development self-help, even way more thumbs up for me because that's where I like to live. So I think I answered your question and thank you so much because it helped me clarify what I said earlier. Thank you, Trendsetter. All right. Montell says, can being open and on edge damage the relationship you are into? Absolutely not. It can only end the wrong relationship and it actually helps build in, I'm spitting, deeper intimacy when you're being vulnerable, authentic and transparent in the right relationship. It only ruins the wrong relationship and it enhances the right relationship. Great question, Montell, I appreciate that. By the way, can I get a thumbs up and amen on that one? Can I get a super sticker and super chat on that one? That's really, you guys have to understand this. This is big to be open, transparent, vulnerable, authentic. What's it that? Vulnerable, authentic and transparent. Can I get, yes, that's what we need to be doing. All right. How do you, oh, Samantha says, how do you keep dating fresh, feel fresh and novel when it takes so many first dates to find connection? Well, I wanna look at this question from a different perspective. How do you avoid not being bitter, jaded and negative about the process? Well, my belief is that you look at each person with beginner's mind, beginner's mind, be open and receptive to the possibility. Now, I'm not here dating from a place of I need to collect new friends. I don't need to go out, at least for me personally, I don't need to go out on a date to make a new friend. Okay, that'd be great if that happened. Let me say, I'm not doing it, in other words, if something doesn't work out with someone, I'm just gonna let them go on their journey because I have a hard enough time meeting the friends I have. But there's the, over the years, I've made some really nice acquaintances and some have turned into very dear friends in the last decade and a half. But going forward, I don't need that. Now, while I'm sharing this with you is going back to your question, is how do you keep it fresh, beginner's mind, be open and receptive to love and remember that while love is a risk, it's still the best game in town. Love is a risk, but it's the best game in town. All right, thank you, Samantha. Oops. All right, this is gonna be the last one of the day. Personal question, do you think you may get tired waiting for a potential and opt for a deeper casual who you enjoy yourself in at all levels or who you may not be able to be in life partner with? Interesting question. So folks, over the years, especially in the last four years since my significant relationship, I've certainly had a few friends with benefits. But the last few times I've connected with a friend with benefit, it's had no fulfillment for me. I'm actually learning to enjoy my own company. So I hold space now that if the right person enters my life, great. And if she doesn't, that's okay too. I believe this journey is we get to revisit this life. We get to revisit our spirit, our soul comes back many times to try on different hats. In this particular hat, it may not happen. However, I'll let you know a secret. Well, not a secret, I'll let you know in on something. I know my life mate is out there. Most likely she's watching YouTube right now this very moment and she's going, I wanna meet Jonathan Asley. That's probably or at least she will maybe come across a video in the near future and say, I wanna meet you. And if I feel like it's a good fit, I would wanna meet her. So I hold space that it is absolutely going to happen for me. And if it doesn't, that's okay too. Because look at my son, Connor, who passed away. He never got married. He never got had children. He lived his life to the fullest to the moment he died. I'm gonna live my life the fullest. And whether I find the life mate or not, it doesn't matter because both in his honor, I wanna live my life to the fullest and I put myself out. Let me repeat, I'm gonna say this twice. I put myself out there to be seen by single eligible women. That's the only way it's going to happen because magic, look at my front door is right there. She's not gonna be breaking down my, well, maybe she might, but I don't expect her to break down her front door, my soulmate. So it's gonna require putting oneself out there. And the people that are afraid to put themselves out there, it becomes monumentally hard to be seen by single eligible people. So my invitation, just like what I'm doing is I'm putting myself out there to be seen by single eligible people. So Deep Diver, thank you for that question. I love my fro, thank you for the $10. And from Trendsetter, you're great. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. All right, folks, I think this would be a great place to wrap up for today. Those three feminine traits that high value men find irresistible. What makes you high value is you have your act together. You take care of your physical health and you take, most importantly, you take care of your emotional health with emotional maturity. I hope you found value in this today. If you have, please hit that like button. Please share this with your friends. Please tell more people about my channel. I'd be truly grateful. I shoot live streams on Monday, Wednesday and Fridays. Tessa, thank you for that super sticker. I appreciate it. Folks, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for allowing me to enter your life today. Deep Diver, thank you. I do hope to meet my soulmate on YouTube. And lastly, I just wanna, again, thank you all. And if you're watching the replay, post a question below, I do my best to read them all. Okay, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do first off, giving myself a big, gigantic, Jotland Bear Huck of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, a pet, a teddy bear or pillow, and give it or them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch. Bye-bye now. Bye-bye.