 That's right, Gigi Gorgeous as well as Patrick Starr have responded to Trisha Paytas coming out as trans. So in this video we're gonna talk about it but unlike some of the other drama channels I promise by the time you leave this video you're gonna be a little bit smarter. What's up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I try to do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community and try to look at them from different angles that other channels aren't. I like to get people's wheels turning a little bit. Alright so if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and if you're not yet make sure you follow me over on Instagram and Twitter at the Rewired Soul. Alright so every video I do 20% goes towards a charity so this video once again we will be donating 20% of the ad revenue to The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is an amazing organization that goes towards helping LGBTQ youth so I will also provide a direct donation link down in the description and in the pinned comment below but feel free to share this video because the more views it gets the more we can donate to The Trevor Project. Alright so yeah this drama with Trisha Paytas is still ongoing. If you missed it I released a video yesterday and even yesterday after I released my video she popped up trending again on Twitter for some of her responses and yeah Gigi Gorgeous as well as Patrick Star have chimed in. I've seen some other people saying that they're going to comment on the situation as well. Alright but again I want to dive into a different aspect of this story so before we jump into that I have a question for you. Feel free to pause it if you need to answer it. Alright but let me know your thoughts in the comments that if someone is diagnosed with a mental illness how responsible are they for their actions? As we know Trisha said this. Isn't that the fun part though about dating someone with like borderline personality is like you don't know what mood they're going to be in are they going to be happy are they going to be mad. So again in the comments below let me know if somebody has a mental illness how responsible do you feel they are for their actions. Alright we'll come back to that later in this video. Okay so anyways yes a friend sent me the video from Gigi Gorgeous I actually didn't know about her but I just went and watched her video but yeah I will link her video down in the comments below or in the description below. Basically Gigi Gorgeous said that she actually did talk with Trisha and long story short she is defending Trisha and talking about you know the the other aspects of being trans and dealing with gender identity struggles and all of that. So if you want to check out her video it'll be linked down in the description. Alright but then Patrick Star was just on Twitter and this is the back and forth he had with Trisha. So he retweets her and says are you effing stupid being trans is not a costume just because I wear a wig and lashes does not make me a woman for the time that I played dress up. Apologize now and Trisha paid us responded and just because I have boobs and a vagina does not make me a woman you have no right to tell me which gender I am how judgmental and hurtful. I've been in therapy for a long time for this you do not know the struggle I've had dealing with how unhappy I am in my gender and then Patrick Star sent out a couple more tweets he said sorry for that initial tweet and he said that he sent a DM. Alright so first let's talk about a little bit of the psychology as to why this story went viral. So let me introduce you to this guy this is Professor Jonah Berger. Alright so he is fascinated and has dedicated his life to trying to understand why ideas catch on why things spread. Alright he's the author of two books one is called invisible influence the other one is called contagious both are great books he actually has another book coming out later this year or early next year but anyways phenomenal phenomenal author as well as teacher and everything like that but anyways he has done so many studies and one of the studies he did they went through thousands and thousands and thousands of articles him and his team to try to understand which ones went viral which ones were shared the most and why were they shared the most so something they discovered is emotion plays a huge role in this alright that might not be news to you but they've managed to narrow it down to certain emotions so first they thought it was just positive emotions that made things go viral right such as happiness or even awe okay so people are more likely to share you know news or videos that will make somebody happy pictures of cats cat videos I'm a fan of cats and corgi butts all that kind of stuff but anyways another one is awe alright if you can invoke the feeling of awe like oh my god this is amazing right that's why a lot of science stories get shared but what they found out it wasn't just these positive emotions that get shared a lot it's also a few specific negative emotions all right one of them is anxiety and the other one is you guessed it anger all right so why are people all talking about this tritipatus coming out as trans well it's invoking a lot of anger in many people because this is a very controversial subject it's a very touchy subject when people talk about it all right but it is inciting a lot of anger in people which is having more and more people share it okay I don't want to jump into the theories about whether or not tritipatus is just doing this for attention or because she has a new music video coming out I've seen some comments about that but anyways I just want you to kind of also monitor your own behavior and understand why you're sharing what you're sharing and why everybody's talking about certain things all right so now into the next topic remember tritipatus said this isn't that the fun part though about dating someone with like borderline personality is like you don't know what mood they're going to be in are they going to be happy are they going to be mad so one of the most popular books on borderline personality disorder that has more research than any other book that I've come across is called I hate you don't leave me by Hal Strauss and Gerald Christman okay now one of the hallmark symptoms of borderline personality disorder that they discuss and anybody with borderline personality disorder may be able to tell you a little bit more about this specific symptom but one of the trademark symptoms is having a lack of sense of self okay so if tritipatus was in fact diagnosed with borderline personality disorder she may have issues with having a sense of self and what you find is a lot of people who struggle with this they will try to latch on to different identities all right they become a social chameleon but when they don't feel like they know who they are they try to find an identity to latch on to now what's interesting is this is actually not all that uncommon when it comes to celebrities people in the public spotlight here are some of the celebrities that have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder you got Marilyn Monroe Amy Winehouse Brittany Spears Lindsey Lohan Courtney Love Angelina Jo Lee and there are many more all right so again the question is if somebody is diagnosed with a mental illness how responsible are they for their actions all right so me personally when I ask myself this question and those of you who don't know me I'm a recovering drug addict and alcoholic I've been cleaning this over for seven years I also worked in a drug and alcohol treatment center for a little over three years and everything like that and this is a question that I always ask myself because as a recovering drug addict there was a lot of terrible things that I did in my addiction and I did use that as an excuse right and eventually it came to a point where I had to take responsibility for my actions and get better right so now I try to empathize a bit more when I see people who have been diagnosed with something such as a mental illness and try to understand so what I personally do and here's a tool that might help you as well if you have somebody in your life who struggles with a mental illness is I try to look at it as a physical illness all right and I ask myself how I would react to situations if it was a physical illness all right so just for example let's say you had a loved one who was going through cancer treatment they were going through chemotherapy chemotherapy can make people very sick and they can throw up and everything like that let's say this person threw up on you all right how mad would you be how responsible would you feel that person was for throwing up all right I just think it's really fascinating how we look at physical illnesses so much different than mental illnesses my theory on that is because we can see it all right we can see physical illness we can see what's happening but mental illness with how the brain functions and how the different brain regions are actually acting we can't see it right so we blame the person okay so again I want you to answer the question or ask yourself how responsible is a person for their actions when they're struggling with a mental illness in Trisha Pate's case something that's been coming up a lot is she talks about how much therapy she's been going through this year all right she's opened up about how she went to a psych hospital earlier this year she's talked about going through therapy and everything like that all right so how responsible do you think she is for her actions and the things that she says and do you think she's putting in the work to try to change this or work on it all right but 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