 When the narcissist knows the jig is up, when they know that their scheme or deception has been revealed, when they know that their dishonest plan or activity has been discovered, when they know you know, the narcissist already knows there's something wrong with them, they know they're narcissistic, they know they're very insecure, they're not delusional, they're not completely out of touch with reality, they can see that something is wrong with their behavior, but sometimes they cannot control themselves, because they are very entitled, and they use it to relieve their anxiety and stress. But as time goes by, their behavior starts to cause more serious problems, it starts to have an even greater effect on you, it causes greater loss and damage that is difficult for anyone to ignore or turn away from, where it's difficult for them to justify or explain it, so in the back of their minds, they already know that what they're doing is not a good thing, they already know it's not right, but they can't stop themselves, they need to relieve their tension, they need to have something to complain about, they need to have their temper tantrums, but they don't want anyone to speak on it or confront them, they want you to pretend like nothing is wrong, but there is a point where they start to see that you understand what's going on, they know the jig is up, they know you figured them out, because now you're not taking the bait, you're not reacting to something they've said or done as they expected you to, you're not falling for the gaslighting, you're trusting your own memory and perception more, you're not trying to explain or defend yourself, and you're not putting yourself down, which will make them even more mad, because now they know that you can see their insecurity, they know that you've figured out their game, but they need you to take the bait, they need you to be mentally unbalanced, they need to deprive you of your stability and throw you into disorder, they need to disrupt your normal physical and mental functions so that they can say that you're very angry or upset about something and then they can feel better about themselves, so when they know you know, they will get even worse, they will become even more unwilling to share things, they will become even more unkind, spiteful and unfair, they will go after things that are triggers for you, they will have a problem with your job, they will make fun of things that you are passionate about, you may not have believed it was possible, but they will find ways to stoop to new lows, they will find ways to be even more harmful and unpleasant, but you just have to stand your ground, do not retreat or lose your advantage in the face of opposition, and then you will see that they begin to lose confidence and feel dispirited, but before you get to this point, there will be a lot of abuse, there will be a lot of anger and rage, because they know that you're onto them, they know that you're aware of their behaviors and intentions, they may be a narcissist, but even they know when they have gone too far, they know when they have exceeded reasonable limits, they know when they have taken a step or act that is regarded as being too drastic to take, they know when they have pushed someone to the edge, to the point where you have so many problems and difficulties that you can no longer cope with them, they push you and then you collapse, you give up, you descend into a downward spiral, but while they may have some concern over what you think of them, they're more worried if it's someone they admire or look up to, that will really activate their shame, or even if it's just someone at their work, they don't like to feel as though they're being managed or controlled by someone, it makes them feel inadequate, because at some level, they already know they're mentally unbalanced, they already know they need help, especially when you start to distance yourself from them, they may try to show you that they can remain calm and composed, they may try to avoid an overly emotional reaction, or they may insult you, they may become passive aggressive, but all they really care about is control, they want to control how people see them, they want to control the image of the relationship, they want to control their narcissistic supply, so when you start to figure them out, they want to control you even more, because they see you as a threat to their control, which will make them rage even more, it will make them destabilize in an attempt to regain their control, when the narcissist knows the jig is up, when they know that you've figured them out, you can't even exist around them, you can't be yourself, because your mere presence activates their shame, it makes them feel like something is wrong with them, it makes them feel inadequate, so they will try to destroy you, or they will discard you, there's no way for you to figure them out without them being aware of it, they will know that you know, they will notice that you've changed, and then they will act like there's something wrong with you, thank you for watching, I hope this video resonates with you, please like, comment, share, and subscribe, if you liked it and liked it, my PayPal link is in the video description, coaching inquiries, you can email me at coachingatnarksurvivor.uk thank you for watching, and I'll talk to you soon.