 This is the end of the 21 Comedian 2010 of Stockholm, Sweden. It's our fourth event fourth year We'll have a fifth event soon about a month and a half and this is your Q&A panel It's a tradition like the approach that we did that workshop first night And we basically pull all the remaining speakers up at the event for a 20-minute ish Q&A panel you just ask all the questions you guys want and With this very unique opportunity of all these guys this think tank You can ask anything you want on any damn topic you can imagine Including other topics from other speakers, even if they're not here We're not them, but we'll do our best to answer them. So this is it. This is getting your money's worth coming to this event and Start asking questions man. We're here for you guys and Max two minutes answer from these guys. So it'll be good concise and powerful Of course. He of course. He's are you kidding me? This guy. Are you kidding me? Of course, he's probably got like a hundred written down Go for it. Oh If you could to like if it's directed at someone let us know otherwise, it'll be random who answers it Should I start with a like question or a difficult one? Yeah. Yeah Okay, right Well, then I have a question to Well, everyone who considers themselves in the game specialist this in the game question sometimes I take life too seriously without noticing and I have the feeling it's You know slowing me down or well fucking with me basically so How to go Become more lighter without having objections saying like hey you because I'm having objections because doing it because When I become lighter, I don't analyze everything and I make the more wrong decisions So, yeah, that's the basic problem. So how to become more lighter in that context? Yeah, you're nothing so All right, well, it's kind of a two-part answer the first is to just play right I talked about playing You do things that talk to your inner child, right? Finger painting like there was this bar in Austin, Texas that on Sunday afternoons used to have finger painting And you would sit down with a beer and you drink your beer And you would get finger paint all of your fingers and you'd smear it all over a piece of paper And then they would hang it up on the wall of the bar until the next week like that kind of stuff is Great for you because you you can just get rid of your inner critics No one paints a masterpiece finger painting So you can just set that aside and surrender yourself to pure play But what I'm also hearing from you is the other problem that you have is when you do stuff like that Because I think you probably have some options that you've figured out things that you can do to try to lighten up But then you're criticizing yourself. You're saying oh, I'm doing something that might be embarrassing to me Or I'm making choices that may not be the best choices for me and I understand that You're you're feeling like you have to be inconsistent I you have to be consistent all the time that like you have to in order to be you like you have to be consistent with Who you think you are? I would encourage you to give yourself permission to be inconsistent sometimes Because that allows you for growth. It allows you to expand out at the edges Like you're allowed to be inconsistent You're allowed to do things you would never do and in fact if you trust in your principles if you trust yourself You never have to worry about the choices that you make because you know that they will come from who you are Is that answer your question that have been have them up does next question Hey guys, it's a similar question I'm thinking about We have been here for three long days and very long days. Yeah very long days and we have a really Big glow about us. We really want to change How can we keep this glow inside us this fire? for a longer time yeah, momentum for change and Is it directed at anyone or just no just to these guys who think they have a good answer for For momentum first of all is You should probably sit down tonight Or at some point afterwards and write down what you're gonna do and stick to it. That's the first thing Say, you know where you want to be in like three months six months, whatever What skill level you would like to have and shoot for that? also choose three days a week and make sure you go out if you're trying to Learn how to pick up chicks in like a nightclub Don't be a pussy about it go out and these three nights no matter how How you feel on a particular night do it anyways at one point for me personally My motivating drive was you know to find love But for me what got me going as a pickup artist for the most part where I wanted to really develop my skill Is I decided to do a 30-day challenge which turned into me going out 57 days straight in a row So what you're gonna want to do is if you want to continue the momentum you need to actually make a commitment to yourself to Do that? I Could add in some other stuff like one thing I always notice with people it relates to the first guy's question and your question is A problem is with our society. We are aiming towards this kind of hedonism where we all we never want to experience pain We are always shying away from pain and we always want to like Ignore pain and always, you know pursue the happiness. I don't believe in that. I believe like romance is dead. I want to like re Give rebirth to romance where the most important thing in your life is not happiness It's actually emotions Because emotions swing both ways. No, we talk about all the time. You need to give woman Emotional roller-casters. Fuck that. You need to give yourselves emotional roller-casters. That's like people are people are afraid of getting hurt You talked about how love how you're gonna get hurt and when you said that to me. I was like, yeah I mean when when I got hot when I got my heart broken It was actually one of the beautiful most beautiful moments in my life because I was experiencing so much love and Became so real and I think you know every emotion is really important You need to embrace all of the emotions and stop stop stop always, you know Stop putting so much pressure on always, you know, feeling good always feeling, you know, really great Always never having any pain always, you know running away from pain and instead accept that, you know life is an emotional roller-coaster and The worst thing you could experience is indifference And when you start accept this you're gonna realize that changing your life is actually not that hard. It's just you know It's just a matter of You know Situations it's just a matter of yeah experiences next question Let's do one of the more elaboration, but I'm sure Melvin's got a bunch up here Hi This is an kind of open question to anyone it's I think you all started out with What you have been doing for some for a long time for some of you and shorter time for others for all different reasons and I wonder if you Now when when you are where you are right now, do you think you have achieved? What you wanted when you started how do can you say something about it kind of? You had a reason when you started. How do you look upon that now where you are right now? I Think as you go along what you want sort of changes and You know you reach the certain level Where you get some success and like I said in my speech Some of the things that motivated you in the beginning you realize that maybe it's not always what you really wanted It's what you thought you needed to make you happy, but the more you progress on your journey the more you realize actually goals There more for there more as a motivational, you know point for you in the future then actually something that you have to always achieve You know not everything will come to pass but the whole the whole point is as you progress throughout your journey you just You get that more sense of fulfillment and the journey actually at some point just becomes the goal itself That's a little Zen ish. I guess but you know that's definitely been How it is for me and hopefully you guys will achieve that too soon Dude when I found this community first thing in my mind and what I thought I really wanted was just to bang A bunch of chicks but fairly really hot ones and I've hooked up with a lot of girls But ultimately what I've really ended up wanting to do and doing as you can see literally right now is host conventions I love doing this and I think I've become happier person and this is how I express it so dude when I found this It's about banging chicks and now it's about something like Completely different so it's totally changed and I totally relate to what Dylan says So does that's your question? Yeah, sure. Awesome. Yeah, I'll do I once heard that someone said if Was it going to start learning to choose in women or whatever is related Only by ebooks is not possible An experienced guy said that so I actually want to Ask the question to all of you and the question is Did any one of you just so by race of hands or something did any one of you became good with women by? reading text and videos you're watching videos or audios only Okay, and then to elaborate on a question Like How do you say? Did so so so to just make it clear make it clear every one of you progressed by having a mentor Yes Well, right so race of hands who didn't progress by having a mentor Didn't Here's the thing like here is the very important thing right as I said in my speech Everybody I know who's good with women hang with people who are good with women Yeah, but that's what I mean with a mentor that's Depends on how you define mentor really I think that for me One thing that I realized was when I started out in a community the community had just like the whole Phenomenal of game had just found Sweden and I found myself the only guy in Gothenburg that ever dared approaching women like the first week I was the best pickup others in Gothenburg because I was the only pickup others in Gothenburg and So I didn't have anyone to turn to but here's the thing so I didn't I didn't have a mentor But here's the thing I started realizing that even if in an overall perspective I might be better than most people around me. I can still tea. I can still learn from others That's what I that's what I really like when my game started to skyrocket was when I realized that That I could still learn from others that just because maybe if in an overall perspective, I'm better than You know most people I know I can still learn from stuff that they are better For example, like you could say take whatever concept you want to take like comfort Someone else is more maybe baby better than me in comfort. I can do I can learn from him So I think that it's impossible to not I Think it's impossible for anyone to say that they didn't progress without the help of others but to Say that, you know, just because of a mentor or have a like really strict mentor thing That's what divides us. Yes. I think the more you actually start just relying on yourself the more you develop that ability within you and This ties into the whole living in mystery and the being the independent thinker because You know, you just realize that you don't In the end you don't need a mentor. You'll take care of this yourself Whatever I don't mean like a mr. Miyagi or something like that's every day But I mean like someone once in a month you shoot a few questions because they're like blind spots or something like that That's what I mean. Yeah, and and I understand that but the thing is, you know, whatever kind of mentor you have They can inform you they can impart knowledge to you. They can inspire you but still that's all information and I would say Learning is information plus action. It doesn't matter how much information you take in unless you are acting on it You're not learning it and the only person who can act is you So ultimately you are your teacher You may take information in from all kinds of other sources, but you have to act on it or it's useless The greatest seduction teachers in the world are women So all the ideas you got this weekend Everything you heard us say I mean, it's just up to you. It's a decision you make it's a choice you make To adopt the courage to take this information and field And determine for yourself what's important what's applicable and what resonates with you through the world of women. I Think those are all brilliant answers and it's important to realize that as men if we really want to become holistic We need to find balance within and it's very easy for us men to fall into extremes So we can fall into the extreme of being the seeker to the extreme where we think that it's the world It's something outside that is going to fix us But we can totally fall into the other extreme and be the stubborn kind of men every average guy Their number one biggest problem is being afraid to talk about those things and ask for help now we can become the worshipper and We put a person that's not us on a pedestal and I mean in any good spiritual teaching It's always been said that don't do that But we can also become a punk that doesn't realize that wait a minute this guy's been at it for all those years There's got to be some value there, right? So it's about finding that balance between internal and external and then I've always started so most like a Diamond where the things that we need we need information without information I mean imagine that the best advice we had ever gotten what was the one we got from our parents Do you think any of us would be here today? Do you think any of you guys would start to make progress? so one person starting to bring information one of my mentors at the time and then From that information We need motivation because you can hear all the information that you want if you're not motivated to act on it It's not gonna go far from motivation. We need application and from application We need repetition now we could debate for hours like in terms of which one do you enter is there one? That's better. I think it's like driving a car if you don't have all four you won't go far And you can enter it anywhere Sometimes you hear somebody and they motivate you and you go home and you put what you heard this weekend into practice sometimes You've heard all that stuff, but it's within you a little voice We'll have that voice of guidance within and you hear it and you go yeah I found it sometimes you read it in a book the book says you got to put that into application and you go That's right, but if one book can tell you that what is the next book able to tell you so I believe in education in continuation and You can ask my wife Amy. We've been at this for 20 years during the course of one week We go through at least three books We go through DVDs videos ours. We create we go into the world. We seek more We attended a conference the I can do it conference with women only I was one of the only guys in the room And because I wanted to have that experience So it's an ongoing process and visit all those four and watch going extreme if you've been extreme in one of them You know if you've been the guy like reading reading reading reading go out if you've been going out going out going out start to read That's the next level. So that would be my take on it. I hope it's okay. So That's the hooker First what was the all-women convention again Perfect ratio Okay, the mentor thing I was actually in unique spot because in my game. I had two years no mentor two years with a mentor, right? Yes, AFC Adam great guy and Here's what I found right The question was can you get good without a mentor? I believe that was your original one. It's been a while since I heard it but Yes, you absolutely can in those first two years. I was getting Really good. I was progressing faster than most of the guys in my layer and a bunch of the people I knew alongside me, right? But however, I didn't have I wasn't I didn't have a mentor I had a billion mentors the whole community was my mentor, you know Just like you're here right now you're getting everyone here listening to these thoughts every time you listen to a product You're getting mentored and you're getting mentored by the other guys in your layer the guys you go out with But then again, it's like the blind kind of in the blind, right? So I was getting mentored Look it is I mean But um, so I was getting mentored but it was very diluted information and conflicting and it was it was just very confusing to me So you can get good doing that But then I got a mentor on the last two years and then my game really progressed real quick because all my information came from one place and It was it was concise. It was you know, tailing it into me, right? So can you get good without a mentor? Absolutely, however, when you have one who's find it because there's another thing you can't see yourself game You can't watch yourself. You can't know. Oh, yeah, that's what he's doing wrong. I can fix it, right? But when you have a mentor he can do that for you So you so the difference between having mentor not having one is with a mentor your game's gonna get really good really fast I Progressed more in that one year of having a mentor than I did all two years without one Could I have done it without ever having mentor? Absolutely. It'll just taken a lot longer and also I loved what Jason said here The ultimate mentors are women That's what that's what I'm using right now as my personal mentors I kind of showed everything else out, you know from guys the only thing I'm trying to take in at this point is Every now and then I hear something like oh, that's pretty cool But um for the most part my mentoring now, I guess is either up to myself or The women I start myself with I listen I listen to their stories, you know I listen when women here talk about how they never get approached and you know What would that would do if they did get approached and how the typical reaction would be you know? I interview them and because it is useful to help you, you know, you'd be surprised. It's one thing to hear a guy's Lr. It's a much cooler thing to hear a woman's you learn a lot that way The only thing we need to get a lander When I want to add real quick it's been a very on-gun question My mentors have constantly changed over the years to varying varying extremes from guys like Marcus Aurelius Anthony Robbins Genghis Khan guys like Jason Savage Adam Lyons Steve Topo from the convention in the United States Just huge and you know what even more than that man. It's not just guys like that I always keep myself open to learn from anyone Especially guys just like coming to the convention that the camera guy Matt Matt McCar I've seen him Be super dedicated to this event and really take on an independent role because last year He didn't do it on his own. He was an assistant to a senior and he did on his own this year here It did an amazing job and guys like William who is helping just helping Matt this year is like a grip or like an assistant This guy like he came to this event and he did an awesome awesome job helping that He was super professional about it and I didn't know that about him and that really that was such an expression about His dedication to this event and what we're doing that I see that and I learned from that That's just something random and next week who knows what it could be It could be some it could be a girl to club or it could be someone on the street Who knows so you can learn from anyone my mentors are constantly changing throughout my life There never too many either like like kind of like Jared said you don't want to get diluted and I'm always open to learning from anything or anyone But let's take next question. We've been on this for like 20 minutes Yeah, I know how well you said you guys have done a lot of traveling I was just wondering do you like do you find it easier like your home location or do you find it easier when you're like traveling to different places? Yeah Well, here's the thing you live here, so you're gonna get the opportunity to Be submerged in the culture that you're in so you're gonna learn the ins and outs like I've had the pleasure of being able to live in Mexico for a little bit and in Costa Rica and it taught me so much about the way that those cultures were and the fact That I was submerged in it. I was able to backwards You know engineer how to game those places now for me personally I Can game the best in like the United States for me now you guys You guys are gonna understand the women a lot better you're gonna understand how a lot of this culture works and You're gonna able to find your own methods of how you're gonna go about and do it Here's the thing I've always said that When you're home You're like your game shouldn't be mainly cold approach. I mean cold approach shouldn't even be You know a huge part of your game if you're tea if you're learning game, of course, it's a very good way of Learning but once you're done once you feel like okay. I've come into a certain level You're like most of the women you meet should not come from cold approach. You should have a lifestyle that you know That constantly brings you the kind of women you want. I Mean, why should you every time start from scratch? I mean if you're traveling you don't have any other choice But if you're home if you're not one location and you're established you should develop some kind of lifestyle that you know automatically Brings you the kind of women That you want and without any like huge effort Otherwise you just you know you it's it's stupid because you you have the opportunity No, because you have the opportunity. You're in one place, you know, you should develop that kind of thing So in in that respect the answer should be yeah It's always easier home or at least you should make it easier home Just to kind of reinterpret your question like the external advantage to you traveling In relation to women is gonna be You know, you're you're in a new place. You have this new vibe like this sense of anonymity You have like a traveler's aura And like women are drawn to that for sure It's like new a new flavor of ice cream something exotic new genes So and the internal advantage is like it's the traveling is like the best thing you can do with your time It teaches you resilience. It teaches you self-reliance Resourcefulness tenacity persistence, you know, it really helps you get to know yourself For me a lot of these intergame kind of issues were ironed out by traveling long-term on the cheap So I'm encouraged you to travel Yeah Really like if this follows on from what Jason said, of course, we're traveling together So we have similar mindsets on this I want to turn your question on its head and make it about learning because I think traveling is especially good for you When you are learning because you get away from your habits you get away from your friends You get it from you get away from those places where you're gonna feel embarrassed or feel like You might fuck up your your real-world life, right? You get yourself somewhere where you're willing to take risks You're not worried about embarrassing yourself and also you're put in what I would call a learning moment, right? If you're in a culture where they speak a different language or something like that then you're being forced To adjust to cope with that and so your brain is is in this mode where it's already ready to learn things to form new Strategies to form new habits and that can be really good for you when you're in the learning mode Anything you can't walk away from owns you Let it go Oh That was like her cameras it came out of nowhere We got time for one more more answers on that We got time for one more question that's gonna go on for like another hour all right one more question Yeah, so I just have a follow-up question on this traveling thing because I can like I can relate to a lot of things with traveling And I you're in Japan recently. Yeah, I was in Japan recently and wanna go and I got like You know you get to a new environment and you talked about all the things that you you learn and you you get a new place To to be but what I found was the problem was that I when I got back I got back into all an old environment and old habits, too And I just it kind of was just so annoying that it didn't stick Because I had it was like a shift in mentality and I got a lot of things out of the travel But I couldn't express it when I got home because I got stuck in old habits and just everything Kind of shifted back to normal in a way, but then I also have a lot of things that I've learned as well So just how do you get the habits new habits to stick? Real fast because I know Orlando you probably have some good takes on that, but listen to the concept of When I got back or it came back It didn't stick one thing is lacking Self-responsibility in it and if you want this weekend to stay with you, it's very simple Re-enter your life. You don't have to re-enter from the same old door and What will happen is a direct reflection of what we do So I used to be in that place also almost like something magical had happened to me I had glow I was traveling but suddenly the old me would come back or something and That's not accurate if you really think about it so do your best to re-enter it in a new way and Simple shifts lead to greater shifts So make sure that you you when you re-enter your own place re-enter it in a different way Sleep on the other side of the bed move your bed park your car differently. There's so many options It's amazing sell your bed or whatever But I mean make sure you and know that if you go home and it feels that it came back to the old way Take responsibility and say it came back because I did what I used to do Now I have the opportunity to do it differently. I choose to do it differently today You won't change everything in one day, but change the little things There's so many ways the the famous family therapist Virginia Satira found that there was I think 26 different ways to do the dishes Milton Erickson had found that there was something like close to 30 different ways to say no or yes Yes, yes, so many different ways There's different ways to sleep to park your car to do everything start today. That's how you take responsibility in it Actually, you said it's very nice. I was gonna say With all respect you're kind of whining Because as he said you're taking away the self-responsibility. It's up to you. You need to make that change you can't You can't you know be passive and say it came back. You've got to take charge you gotta Control the situation. You're gonna be conscious about what what you are doing and not you know be passive and let the world has its course on you Thinking which I know you and I know you can do that like they're saying so take that responsibility And I know you can man. I've known you for a while. You know, we just met so I would take one more question, but it's got to be for a land. It was messed up eating a dancer Fuck man, so if you got something for Orlando, let her rip Maybe not the right choice of words And this is it last one we could take this we'll take questions offstage, but that's part of the experience But yeah, go this was more for Alexander about like the lifestyle thing like um like You said in your hometown like woman like you should have an abundance of women But like let's say if you don't want to like do a night game Like where and how should you go about getting more women in your life? Yeah, I mean the great part about nightclubs is it's a whole industry Which you know the whole like the heart of the industry is trying to collect hot women into one place That's pretty much the currency so nightclubs are therefore a Really good source for beautiful women. So it's really hard to find Something to replace it with if you want to have you know that That many beautiful women in one place, but they do exist. You have universities You have you know, you have different kind of Like working places, I mean there are always beautiful women in clothing stores There are always Yeah, I mean I would guess that they're beautiful women everywhere like you just that you know that that's up to you What kind of women do you want? You see? People like people who are alike usually, you know, they gather around each other, right? I mean people who like rock music they usually go to constant the same concerts You tend to see the same people on the like on the same spots, right? So you just ask yourself what kind of women do you want and where Where do they go? Like where do they hang most people do not spend most of the time in their own house and If you want to build a lifestyle, you should like you say for a safer example universities I mean, even if you're not a student you could definitely do something You know, you could arrange parties for universities or you could do like you could do a library project Something that interests you because if you're interested in women who are smart and who are studying something in universities That means you have some similar Interests, right? So when I say, you know, you should be doing something you should I don't mean you should do it just because of the women I say it because most likely you have something in common And you should act on that So somebody actually I spoke to someone He's from Holland he said another speaker we were talking about this lifestyle thing and he said I don't remember man But you said something about some other speaker saying something about be the king of your own jungle And that's basically like be the king of your own jungle Try to find out and when I it's a really good expression. I don't know who said it I'm sorry. I can't give out credit, but in this university or whatever where you find these women that you are attracted to Make it try. I mean figure it out somehow. It's really individual. It's hard for me to say as a General answer, I hope it helps you. I'm sorry. Yeah, thanks No, I finally got a got a cue in for this because this is really one of my pet peeves Like one of my real pet peeves is people living virtual lifestyles all the PUA guys all the forum guys All the people playing world of Warcraft and other crap are wasting away You're wasting away your life get a fucking life together and it's I have to totally disagree with that life nightclubs are a good place to Meet women. I mean, yes, like you were saying earlier It's it's geared as a hostile environment get away from the fucking computer get away from the fucking social media Get away from this stupid internet wanking and get out there and actually make some friends We have one program that we've done for a while. It's really still going on even two years after I left those places three years Called seduction for the rest of us. It's kind of like a mastermind group And what we do is like strictly three guys three girls It's like a hexagram if you will like a star of David with like three men three women and Get like a master if you don't know what a mastermind group is look it up on the internet read Napoleon Hill Whatever it is. It has to be administered make three women friends. You don't fuck those girls Those are strictly off limits. Those are like friend girls. Okay, those are like your sisters Those are women in your life and those I don't know I didn't want to call these stupid P way terms like Pua speak like pivots or whatever like wing girls That's all a bunch of shit that's been laid on you guys get a life and get away from the goddamn fucking computers Please pardon my French here. I mean the word computer and Seriously seriously get away from all that mental masturbation or literal masturbation Of just being thinking that you're live. It's virtual life. I've known guys I have guys come to my workshop that I like almost millionaires They're 35 years old and they've had sex three times if that many times with hookers And it's because they've been playing world of warcraft for 20 years Get out there make friends in the real world and get a social circle Whatever happened to parties like I've met more more girls at parties than in all other venues combined And I don't mean club parties. I mean real flesh and blood parties where you're saying, okay? Let's get a kid a good beer Let's get a couple of drinks make some daiquiris and get like 10 friends over and have each one of them Bring pot like one other friend one girl whatever it is and develop social circles Develop a real life and get away from this mental Masturbation of living a virtual lifestyle. It's like second life and all this stupid stuff This is probably one of the biggest message I can give you guys to get away from the goddamn box. All right, please do that And that's all I got to say about that Very well said I actually agree with every single thing you said there Um, he actually touched on something. I wanted to point this out to you guys now. I love the night clubs, right? That's where I did the vast majority of my game because as this guy said, you know, that's where all the hot women are So I want to go to where the hot women are, right? But you have to realize that a night club is designed for you guys to fail It's designed that way Unless you spend a lot of money And because it's you have to say it's a business, right? Uh The guys who are getting the bottles or the vip area all the they'll get some girls because it's a status The whole night club scene is based on status, right? If you don't get first off, you don't get in unless you got the girls, right? So if you do get in you got to pay Oh, you want the hot ones. Okay. Well, then you got to pay because they're in the vip area They're not with you guys Because the bounds are going to go up to them go you guys want to go in the vip area, of course It's more exclusive. Actually, here's a funny thing vip sucks I'm going to say right now the vip everyone watch vip area sucks The only thing cool about it is the hot girls, but it's exclusive. Honestly, this would be the club Everyone's having fun drinking dancing the vip would be us just sitting going. Okay. Yeah I really don't I don't like it. I only like it when the hot girls around but honestly It's like I feel like I'm in the timeout zone Because we're like sitting here. We feel cool. I got a bottle everything. Yeah, I'm the man, but Kind of want to go out and party where the party is, you know, so they're kind of excluding you. I mean Anyway, so the whole thing is designed to make you feel right? Oh, you want to buy a girl a drink, right? Yeah, they don't let you do that one why it's ladies night So the ladies get a drink for free So you can't even they can't even throw money at them like that You have to buy a 300 dollar bottle for them to bring the sparklers out to get you the attention So that people women start noticing you there, right? Oh, also you want to talk to them? No, it's too loud We're going to make it really loud. So you guys can't chat each other up. You have to pay for it So the whole things that now there's systems and how to cheat the system There's there's great ways and how you can actually beat the nightclubs And I kind of cracked that code on how I can use all these things to my advantage And that's something I teach right. All right, but anyway real quick. We're gonna cut the I'm gonna end it. I know you want to cut it right now. There is a Okay, there there is a place though that has gorgeous. I don't know here Maybe there is a place though at least by me that you can find lots of gorgeous women Best thing about this place. You don't have to pay either. No cover charge No douchey. No, no Like where's heads at? Um There's no there's no bouncers. There's no douchey guys telling you what you can do and cannot do Right the best part is this place. They're already half naked more naked than the nightclub Called the beach right It's not I don't know if you guys have that here, but it's really easy The girls are lying there in a bikinis You can code approach all of them you want there because you as this guy pointed out The cool thing about nightclub is it draws all the hot girls there Well, something about sand and salt water draws a lot of hot girls. I don't know. I don't know But it does Um, actually one of my instructors is a rushing guy a little crazy But um, that's all he does Like that's his heart and soul and he gets some of the hottest girls I've ever seen and as he puts it He's like I like beach game beach like that He's like, why would they do why would they do these nightclubs? I'm on beach game I'm like, I can't even argue on that. It works. So That's one alternative Does anyone else want to tag on to this? Uh, cool. Take time All right, um very quickly Nightclubs have their uses nightclubs are good collectors and terrible filters They get a lot of hot girls in one place But unless your lifestyle is that you're a nightclub promoter who spends all this time at nightclubs It is not gonna it is a total crapshoot whether any one girl in that club will actually fit with your lifestyle She could be a box welder. She could be A lacrosse player She could be obsessed with bees like you have no idea What that girl is all you know She dressed up hot and came to the club the best filter like the best way to be selective The best way to get women who actually fit with your life into your life is like orlanda was saying have a life Do things that you already like to do that women also like to do And if you don't have any of those in your life then cultivate some if you're only doing things that only boys like to do Find some things you like to do that women also like to do That will get women that actually fit with your lifestyle You have less options than you do at the nightclub But the options that you get will be totally compatible with your life. They will be totally pre-selected for you exactly what you want Yeah, um nightclubs are harsh environments Well, when me and Anthony were in Gothenburg promoting this convention Um, I was talking about nightclub game a lot of a lot of things about nightclub game And one thing I kept pressing is If you do not enjoy yourselves in nightclubs, you shouldn't be trying to do it. There are beautiful women Everywhere and I mean even all the hot women in nightclubs. They don't live there They got to go shop. They got to buy all those clothes. They're wearing so, I mean Don't get if you if you don't enjoy yourself in nightclubs. I I grew up in those kind of environments I've always loved parties. I would love high like loud music stuff like that dancing shit like that I am really comfortable everything they said about nightclub all the harsh things that don't apply to me. I'm like, nope That don't apply to me And the reason being is because I like it and that's what you guys should think about for yourselves Is if you don't like it, don't do it. It's not worth it. I just want to dress that And yeah, do what you love And to finally answer your question, I came up with a really good answer. The best way to meet women is through women Actually, I just like It's a very simple jet genius way. The best way to meet women is through women get female friends No, I have a I have a long monologue I have to give on the now I have a dream like you can tell everybody here has like really conflicting views on everything Uh, but generally if you feel like you have a lack of women It doesn't really come down to like the place you're at or if you go to a club or if you're women are everywhere, man They're on the street. They're in this room, you know, right, you know But if you feel like there's a lack and you just can you can't approach women Then it's more something like inside you. It's not the club or You know the mall So look at it from like that perspective. Is it something that you can fix or Do you have to really go find the hottest club or whatever? So internal Because there seem to be more questions and there's so many answers I just thought I would quickly share that idea of a great way to start Anthony began this convention by saying you got to do your own thinking. So this is a way to do your own thinking It's called a four point Question meaning for example, we take clubs. So ask yourself. Could somebody go to a club and do well could they? Yeah, and like them. So could somebody not go to a club and do well Yeah, could somebody go to a club and not do well and not like it. Yeah and It's been a long time by now. You can you guess what the the fourth one would be But any question you may have this helps you to go to the core issue something deeper something deeper. So cool All right, that happens every year we just go on like for a million hours But it's cool because it's awesome content. But you know what? We're still here. So after the video ends We can still answer questions But we can't do this for like the next 10 hours even though it'd be cool. We just can't do that So now I got to end this event and I admit, uh, I got actually a few butterflies in my stomach A little bit sweating, but not too bad. Sorry a little bit hot all on this was saying that on the first day of this event I I was kind of down on myself I was beating myself up mentally internally. I don't know if you guys noticed it or not Maybe maybe not I was really tired too But I was beating myself up on the attendance, you know, we didn't pull like a bajillion guys like in the united states I had tied my self-esteem to that and I realized though at the end of the day that's total nonsense If we if we had five people here or 500 It doesn't matter It took me a whole day to realize that but once I realized that and I thought about what mattered I realized that you know what matters helping people helping individuals Getting this footage online and helping people forever permanently And pulling some men off in Europe taking over the world And quite possibly not only helping individuals change their own lives But changing the course of generation because I really believe and I've said this before I'll say it again and again and again until it happens But that's what this event's here to do Like not only us in this room and people watching but like your peers too Everyone's seeing this and hearing me right now. That's what this event's about It's changing the course of generation I think we're we're getting there year by year Piece by piece step by step speech by speech minute by minute question by question for a bajillion hours To wrap this event up once and for all kind of shaking Uh, I like to thank all the speakers. You guys all did an amazing job Including the guys aren't here right now that just couldn't make it had to fly out charismatic revolution from sweden did an amazing job up in me pull this off Because it was really really close But we did it Uh, he's shout out especially to the guys who run at gustave and serje always mess his name up Huge thanks to all them huge thanks to the you guys who attended I didn't realize this in the first state because I've I've done this I'm not crying so my I've done this four years in a row and it seemed like and it is the fourth event and it's the fourth year What I didn't realize is like this event is actually just like the 2007 event the first year when I was 18 You guys just like those guys in 2007 I'll never forget because it's the first one we did in europe and it was a really really big step I didn't see that again because it was the fourth year in a row But it really it's like a whole new event And I really thank you guys for coming. I can't tell you how much enough I appreciate it to the bottom of my heart. So thank you for coming. You guys are bad asses Lessing let's say is that if you want to donate to help cover the costs because we kind of fell behind in money You can do that to felicia in the back Anything you guys want to donate nothing's too big or too small the redhead. It's pretty cute Uh met her on the way to gothmerg actually who I thought she'd come to this event But if any of you guys want to donate, uh, you can do it, you know and give it to her And uh, we're actually going to use it to pay off the film guy Which is basically who we owe at this point because they actually came out here and did it for In the meantime free Anyway, enough selling you guys shit. Thanks for coming and I'll see you next year in Amsterdam, london Cheers, mate