 Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm Jonathan assay of Jonathan assay comment I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic do that wait do this To awaken a man's heart you got to do this to awaken a man's heart Really quickly if you're new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button hit the bell write a question post a comment Let me know you've been following my work by the way I shoot about three or four videos per week. All right, you need to do this to awaken a man's heart. So Gosh, I mean I could go by the way as I'm I'm extemporaneously doing this one I'm a better fact. I barely write any notes when I shoot videos. So I might be all over the map here But I've been thinking about a book That I've been reading by Joe dispenser called breaking the habit of being yourself breaking the habit of being yourself and Why I'm talking about this book With respect to do this to awaken a man's heart is Ladies you've been so condition this book has nothing to do with relationships by the way This is about this is a self and self-help personal development empowerment book And it really works in conjunction with my book. What the heck is self-love anyway? By the way, check out the links below to Jonathan recommends Recommend all these different books, but it starts with shifting yourself. It starts by awakening your heart How do you awaken a man's heart? It starts by awakening your heart and That's my invitation to you now I know a lot of you ladies think that your heart's awake because your women tend to be more emotional and women tend to be more Relational, okay, I get it. You're more emotional. You're more rational relational and Men have a capacity to be To express their emotions to open their heart and men have a capacity to be relational But we need guidance and so why I want you to break the habit of being yourself is I want you to break the Traditional habit that you've been so bought into that men are the leaders of the relationship And I'm here to say you're always giving the job to the wrong person because you are in charge of your relationship destiny and You are the emotional container and leader of the relationship So how you're going to awaken a man's heart to love is by leading by example You need to do this you need to lead by example But it starts by breaking the old habits of being yourself and then leaning into self love To be prepared to be the leader of the relationship now in previous videos. I've also recommended this book Oops, I put it way over here Is making love all the time by Barbara DeAngelis making love all the time by Barbara DeAngelis Why this is such and by the way, look how thick that book is I've brought this up in a recent video and I'll be bringing up more often because when you Understand how to genuinely make love to a man and I don't mean love in the bedroom Okay, I mean make love to his heart when you understand it You can actually be the leader of the you will you will be leading by example because you are the emotional leader of the relationship We men have no fucking clue how to be emotional leaders of a relationship. This is why I know I say this rhetoric over and over and over again But this leaning back into your feminine energy and letting the guy do all the work doesn't work it only Temporarily works for that anxious needy guy who will come back But if if he's fucked up he and he pulls away He disappears and goes if he comes back He hasn't coming back healed and if he comes back chasing you it's because he might miss you Temporarily, but he'll go back to the old habits This is why you have to be the leaders of the relationship and lead by example lead by learning this material So when you understand it, you can introduce it in a loving way and if you're not familiar with the book Nonviolent communication by Marshall Rosenberg. I talk about this one all the time Most the time ladies you're you're speaking your truth in a confrontational way And by the way, let me pause here guys aren't doing this isn't this may seem like I'm saying do all the work No, I'm saying introduce men to this work and if they don't step up. He's out the door Man any man who's watching this video. You should be reading these books as well. You should be doing this work One of the reasons why I wrote my book what the heck is self-love anyway It's a journey to personal development self-help and spiritual work and my invitation for all of you is begin to do the inner work Instead of getting caught up in this rah-rah rhetoric about masculine feminine energy Now it's good feminine energy because it doesn't work what works is Understanding because when you understand the mechanics of a healthy happy relationship You can predict what's going to happen next and when you can predict what's going to happen next you make better choices It's not about energy it's about being aware of the mechanics of a healthy happy relationship and nobody taught us this ship when we were younger nobody taught that we wasn't taught in school wasn't taught by our parents and I gotta tell you women that go through my private coaching By the way, there's a link for a free discovery call if you're interested in private coaching But I can tell you this happens so many times women fill out a questionnaire describing their ideal relationship Then they go through my proprietary program. It's a five week boot camp that I put together In this boat boot camp we go through all these modules to get you better prepared for relationship And let me tell you what happens every single time. I mean every single time Woman finishes my course and they go. Oh my god. Why didn't they teach us this in school? Why didn't my parents teach me this? Why didn't I learn this 10 years ago? And what happens what blows me away is literally the minute they make an investment in themselves the minute you make an investment in yourself Great guys start to come out of the surface because you're already leading by example because you've been re educated from the inside out Because you've been empowered with knowledge And you've been empowered with taking charge of your life. You're breaking the habit of being yourself. You're loving yourself You're learning how to make love all the time and you're learning a a compassionate way of communicating Compassionate communication. That's the way the book should have been titled Ah Look, I get it. It's frustrating out there It's frustrating because Men and women are clueless Men and women are clueless It's not and we are so caught up in the chemistry That we forget what it takes to make a healthy happy relationship And if you follow my channel if you read the recommended books, I recommend My hope is that you shift your perspective and you find a better way to date mate and relate for yourself Please let me know if my work has made a difference in your life Please post a comment below. Let me know that this work has made a difference If you've been a binge watcher, let me know. I want to say thank you to you personally And I just want to say Look at we can all find great relationships. It starts by breaking the habits of the old self and begin start a new self Uh, okay. I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do first off getting myself a big gigantic chocolate bear hug of self love I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone and give them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love And we can all use more love in our lives. Thank you so much in wishing you a super duper Full day. Bye. Bye now