 Okay, so good morning. Good morning once again. Good to have all of you here today. I think before we get started, I just wanted to address a couple of questions that came up last week. And I think I'm just trying to see if the people who asked the questions are on the call. There were three questions. One was about Saragasi. I think that question was by Kennedy, and I think Kennedy is on the call. The question on vows was by Sam. I think Sam's also on the call. Thank you, Sam. And there was a question on when someone is in sin, how do we deal with that? Christopher was also on the call. Great. Okay, good. So we'll just spend maybe two, three minutes. And it's just, you know, I didn't want to leave that off it is as it was. So just want to address that quickly in the first couple of minutes. We'll take on the question on Saragasi. And I think that question was from Kennedy. I'm not sure, but I'm just going to address it. So the question was, is Saragasi right? So for those of us who may not know what the meaning of Saragasi is for a couple who is unable to have children of their own, they take on another person or another, usually a woman, because, you know, birthing happens, I mean, the development of the fetus happens only in a woman. So usually a woman, there are times it can be taken by from men as well. So I'll explain there are two different kinds of Saragasi that generally is seen the traditional Saragasi where the sperm as well as the egg, sorry, the sperm of the married man is, you know, is there's artificial insemination where the sperm is given to a surrogate mother that is a third person, a third party, and not to the wife themselves because there could be certain issues that the wife may be having. So she becomes a surrogate mother. She carries part of the genes of the couple. So that is just the husband's and then her egg is taken and that's where that's called traditional Saragasi. Whereas gestational Saragasi is where it is done in vitro, that is the sperm as well as the egg is, you know, is fertilized outside and the embryo is inserted into a person and that's called a gestational Saragasi. So these two things is what is generally our others also, but I think we will just deal with that here. So, you know, as I did some reading, the certain events of Saragasi that we can see in scripture is the Abraham-Sara Hegar story where we see that Sarah takes Hegar and gives her to Abraham in order to conceive a child because she was not able to at that time. So this was something that was seen at that times in those times when a woman was not able to bear children. There would be maids or other people who were given in so that they could continue the line of the family. So what we see from that story is that, you know, using a Saragat parent, definitely when you look at that, there was in that entire story you see there was a lot of pain, a lot of heartache, a lot of confusion through that entire process, that arrangement. So one thing that Hegar did not want to do was, did not want to give Ishmael over to Sarah when she, when he was born. Okay. And this is something that we see very often happening even today that they discover that they, that the Saragat mother discovers that they have developed such a strong attachment to the unborn child and find it difficult to give it away after it is born, even though there may be financial compensation that that that's there and there are, I've seen a couple of movies in that in on that line as well. Okay, so the Bible specifically does not call out or, you know, say anything about the use of a Saragat mother but definitely I think there are certain principles and certain moral ethics that I think we can pick up from scripture. So one thing that we've been studying is we've seen that marriage is designed to be between one man and one woman only. Right. And so when you bring in a third person into this relationship, there is a third parent. And this, of course, definitely brings about very difficult distance as to, you know, would, would the child know about the surrogate about the surrogate mother, what, what kind of expectations would this would this lead to does the surrogate mother have any rights to the to the child. And, and I think these are also practical concerns that should be considered before someone you attempts to use a surrogate. And sometimes we see that couples also use certain family members and that often can get even a lot more trickier. Because of the strong, the, how the, the, the family member may have a strong attachment to the couple. I think in principle, what we also need to see is, yes, we see that God is the one who blesses, just like God blesses us with everything else, like a job, a wealth, health. So also he blesses us with children. Right. And there are times that the couples do not have children. And we see that children are a gift from the Lord. I read somewhere where it says, you know, the Bible says the children are a gift, not right. Right. But using surrogacy out of defiance or an arrogance against God is something that would be would be sin. But I think it is important to consider to prayerfully consider this and seeking God's will and his guidance and the leading of the Holy Spirit in a couple who would wish to do that. But yes, keeping these principles in mind and the fallouts or the consequences that it could bring about through what we've seen in scripture through the through the story we were talking about. It's something that we see that can cause pain and hardships and difficulties. So a decision like that is something really needs to be taken wisely. Right. So that's the stand I have. So to be able to say surrogacy completely right is surrogacy completely wrong is a stand. And I would say take it as a principle where we where we see marriage as that defined by two people only that is a husband and a wife. My next my next thought was if you know a childless couple wanted a child who could not have a child you know naturally the next good option is adoption to be able to adopt is is something that that we see lines of scripture of in the sense of you know being kind to the needy to the poor to the orphaned. So a gesture of adoption is something where you are giving someone a home, a life and also a legacy to follow. I'd say if you're looking at surrogacy and adoption, you know, open your eyes to the to the understanding of adoption that that that seems to be a lot more stronger when when you look at it biblically. All right, I, I hope I address that in the best way possible. I'm going to look into the next question. The next question was. Yeah, so so Sam's question was I have a question on marriage vow that came up during a conversation. It's asked us not to take any vows and I yeses to be yes and no to be no so so what his question was, then is taking a marriage vow, a wrong thing. Okay, so if you look at the verse that you bought by Sam, which was Matthew 533 to 37. I'm just going to quickly read it. You have heard that the law of Moses says do not break your vows you must carry out the vows you have made to the Lord, but I say, don't make any vows. If you say by heaven, it is a sacred bow because heaven is God's throne. And it says, you know, do not swear by earth by Jerusalem, or by my head just say a simple yes. I will or no I won't your word is enough to strengthen your promise with a vow shows that something is wrong. Well, Jesus is not. I think I don't think he's talking about those formal official promises like you make in a contract or in a vow or that these kind of questions do come up even in a courtroom is it okay to make a courtroom. I think it applies to times when people try to emphasize their honesty using a note like you know we may say I cross my heart around my mother, you know mother promise or let me let me die if I if I'm not, if I'm not saying something that is true. You know, or the words that you say I swear or, you know, all of that. So what it implies is that the oath is guaranteeing the person is telling the truth and has good intentions. That's what it's meant to imply. But Jesus flatly says that, you know, let your yes be yes and then you'll know be no. So in other words, that we should be known for our integrity. So as a believer as a person who's known for our integrity, we should not really need to actually base our promises on anything. Our word should be yes and no and that's based on what we stand on. And so Jesus says not to swear on anything, but just make it simple so it does not refer to the formal oaths and bows that you're making there it's a covenant vow that you're making, you know, a commitment you're making to another person in the presence of a, you know, of an audience or of a congregation. So I think it's a little different in what he was meaning to say as against what about it about marriages being being about or a note. All right, I hope I answered that too. The last one was Christopher's question on we were talking I think about people in a live in relationship and what would happen if, you know, in spite of their warnings. Would it necessitate them to leave the church so that that was one of the things I'd want to bring back and I think we had a discussion of this in one of the mentorship programs where we we bought about the scripture on Matthew 1815 to 17. So we take these principles and I'll quickly read this out. It says if another believer sins against you go privately and point out the fault if the other person listens and confesses that you have one that person back. But if you are unsex unsuccessful take one or two others with you and go back again so that everything may be confirmed by two or three witnesses. If that person still refuses to listen. Take your case to the church. If the church decides you're right, but the other person won't accept it. Treat that person as a pagan or a corrupt tax collector. Okay, so just taking this as principle. I think one of the things that we would want to do is bring about correction and discipline and love. That does not mean we overlook sin or one sin. We bring it about go privately discuss fault point out what it is and wait to see if there is a restoration. And if that doesn't happen. Yes, doing it maybe a couple more of times and you know working with others to do it so you know taking maybe a leader or a counselor or a pastor to help to reach reach out to that. And if it continues to be repeated again you know we show as much grace as possible but it also really depends on what kind of issues or reasons it is. Now let's say that someone a person in ministry is into an extra marital affair and they continue to hold on to that. You would need to take a stand and decide to bring to step them down from that position of leadership till they bring they bring themselves into correction or you know anyone who is who is there. Knowing the truth knowing and understanding that what they are doing is sin but yet does not come to a place of repentance and restoration. That's when you know you actively take a call of stepping them down and you know getting them to get their act straight before they can come back into working either in church or you know being a part of the ministry. I think these are certain and scripture gives that you know understanding of how we could do it. So I think basic principles is in love showing grace. Yes a couple of times where you are you do a bit of correction and discipline but depending on where they are the positions that they take. It is important to take the call on whether they continue on with with that place of ministry or not. All right. I hope I quickly answered. Great. Okay. All right. So going on to to today's lesson. You know today's lesson is actually quite a difficult topic to discuss about and it's something that is not often spoken about is not often discussed in church. But it is extremely necessary that we we highlight the specific chapter. So I'm on chapter 13 and I'm on page 143 143 where we are going to be learning about establishing certain boundaries. Okay. So in my in my experience in counseling there are many times that I come across couples who who come together and seek help because there has been either infidelity unfaithfulness and extra marital affair adultery that has taken place. And like all of us do understand a couple being in a committed relationship where there is a third party that gets involved especially in an emotional or a sexual way through a sexual affection definitely can break and severe and deeply wound and hurt a marriage. And going through those sessions and sittings with people who face that you you begin to see the kind of pain the kind of rejection abandonment and the struggles that people go through. Right. And we we understand we notice that marriage in itself is not it's not a pill for you to protect yourself from any kind of you know any kind of intrusions and especially when it comes to adultery or extra marital affair. So being married does not safeguard you completely from not having those feelings. And I think that's something we all need to be real about that that marriage being in marriage does not protect you or does not make you immune to adultery or to to affairs or to emotional entanglements. And just as much as you see this as something that's common in the outside world. It is very prevalent, even among a believing circle, you may. I mean, then there are so many, you know, we don't want to pick up names, but there are so many, you know, in the Christian world and in that we have seen that certain issues like this have cropped up. Often we need to, you know, also see and understand that these affections outside of marriage usually don't happen. You know, all of a sudden it doesn't it doesn't someone doesn't wake up on one day and say okay I'm ready for an affair it doesn't happen like that and it is something that is that takes place very, very gradually takes place often casually. It could be someone maybe a colleague at work or it could be a common friend, or it could be someone that you're ministering to that, you know, get getting into casual conversations. And often it is with good intentions that those initial meetings happen, you know, maybe just to share, or maybe you're just empathizing or sympathizing with somebody. But then slowly those those casual conversation leads into something that is more stronger that can finally lead into a place of sin. So this chapter really is looking at how first of all recognizing what are what are some things that we may need to do to safeguard our marriages, as well as what are some things we need to do to restore someone who probably is in who's already been through a situation like this. So when we look at scripture, we see that scripture has a lot to say about about this it talks about the danger that's there it talks about consequences it gives us warnings. It gives us different reasons and you know, protective measures as to how we need to ensure that we do not get there. So as we go through this chapter, we're going to be looking at a couple of things is yes we look through scripture and see what it has to say about about setting our boundaries. We're going to be looking at certain consequences of it. We're also going to be looking at how we can safeguard our marriages and also what is the freedom from that. So I'm at page 143 and maybe I'd like to read a couple of scriptures and a lot of the scriptures that's written here is taken from either the Good News Bible or the message. And you can actually really see the true essence of what is what is being being said there. So can I request somebody on page 143 to read Proverbs to 16 to 22 Proverbs to 16 to 22 anybody who can just unmute and quickly read please. Shall I read? Yes, Savani go ahead. Proverbs chapter 2 verse 16 to 22 says wise friends will rescue you from the temptress that smooth talking seductress who's faithless to the husband. She married years ago never gave a second thought to her promises before God. A whole way of life is doomed. Every step she takes brings her closer to hell. No one who joins her company ever comes back ever sets foot on the path to real living. So join the company of good men and women. Keep your feet on the tried and true parts. It's the men who walks straight who will settle this land. The women with integrity who will last here. The corrupt will lose their lives. The dishonest will be gone for good. Amen. Thank you Avni. So even as the scripture is talking about a seductress. Okay, we also this is not just with a reference to a woman. It is also we take it in reference to a man as well. We see over here how it talks about the way of the seductress. How the way of the seductress is something that it brings someone closer to hell and to be careful. It says beware. Be careful about what what a seductress or someone who is wayward can do to you to you and to your marriage. Another verse. It's at the end of that page which is Proverbs 7 21 to 26. If someone else could quickly unmute and read Proverbs 7 21 to 26. Can I read? Go ahead. Go ahead, Kennedy. Treat with them as your sister and inside as your closest friend. They will keep you away from other men's wives and from women's seductive words. Okay. All right. Thank you. Somebody can read Proverbs 7 21 to 26, please. 21 to 26. So she tempted him with her charms and he gave in to her smooth talk. Suddenly he was going with her like an ox on the way to be slaughtered. Like a deer prancing into a trap where an arrow would pierce its heart. He was like a bird going into a net. He did not know that his life was in danger. Now then, sons listen to me. Pay attention to what I say. Do not let such a woman when your heart do not go wandering after her. She has been the ruin of many men and cause the death of too many to count. Thank you. Thank you, Sam. So, you know, scripture is very clear and there are a lot more other scriptures that actually tells you that this is something that you would see, something that you would observe all around you. And often, you know, specifically looking at this and in my experience of counseling, I have seen, you know, people talk about how there are people who wait, just like how scripture says, you know, who prowl and who wait for the next victim. You know, the waiting for someone to devour, waiting for somebody to catch hold of to get into an adulterous relationship. And often, there are these, we see, I mean, in a metropolitan city like where we are in Bangalore, the workplace is a very common place that you see people lurking around this way. So scripture warns about it and says it requires our wisdom and our grace to identify and to know how to keep away from the seductions of people. All right. If you look at Proverbs 917, it says stolen water is sweet and bread eaten in secret is pleasant. Now, like I was telling you, you know, a lot of times people do not get into a relationship all of a sudden. It is something that happens very, very gradually. Often they are casual friendships that take on, you know, you may just be meeting in for coffee and just sharing some of your problems. Or, you know, it could be sharing certain, certain, you know, extremities about your spouse. And there you begin to see that the other person seems to understand and, you know, is helping you through it and asking you to stand up and stand strong and that they are with you and they are they're going to support you and all of that. And thereby slowly beginning to see that there are those emotional affections that happen. So, and those affections turn into an entanglement. So how do you recognize that one is into an emotional entanglement? And I think one way, a very clear way of understanding if you are entangled with somebody emotionally is just to check to see how often you're thinking of them, right? How often I moved to give them a phone call or maybe text them. Or, you know, usually the excuses are they are my, they are my colleagues or, you know, they are people who I'm working with on a project or this is somebody, you know, my junior and I'm mentoring them. Often it comes as an excuse like that. But just understanding maybe looking at the content of your text or content of the conversation that happens helps you begin to see whether there is a sense of entanglement that is building in. And when they come tank, it isn't very far that the next levels of a physical or a sexual attraction happens and then falling into sexual sin. So it is, as it says, it is a slow fade into that. It does not. And very rarely, I think the percentage is very rare where people have a one night stand. I'm not saying it's not common. It's not there, but it's quite rare that people have a one night stand that maybe at an impulse. So people are at a party and then they get into something like that. Or, you know, as a result of some kind of an emotional disturbance as an impulse, they would go to someone and then, you know, have a one night stand. But most of the times you will begin to see that affairs and adultery or infidelity happens. You know, it's slow and it is progressive and it progressively builds from something that's casual into something that is more intense in Syria. So it is important for us to also understand why, you know, and that's something that is important to come to the root source of why this happens. However, it does not condone the act at all. It does not condone the fact that someone is being adulterous, but we still need to figure out what is it. Because it's only when we begin to see the reasons are we begin to do we begin to understand how is it that we can prevent it. Right. So some of the reasons why people fall and I think a lot of times why people fall into this this kind of a sin is number one is as a result of just feeling that their emotional needs aren't met. Or there could be a sense of abandonment or a sense of rejection, just feeling that, you know, your spouse is in good enough to meet your needs. Or there may be actual struggles happening within the relationship that is depleting on the emotional tank of the couple. So a lot of times it is because there are emotional hurts or there are certain needs that are that have gone unmet or there are certain expectations. That have not been fulfilled or there is some form of a pain or a trauma within the marriage that has not been resolved and that continues to stand a sense of unforgiveness continues to stand. And as a result, you know, that begins to be a sharing of these issues with someone else. Some of the other reasons could be, you know, just falling back into those those earlier affections or earlier relationships which have not been cut off or which have not been dealt with at all. You know, maybe those those fantasies that the people have had about their teenage crushes, you know, just generally become alive and and they rebuild a connection and then then begins this the slow fade back again. So what we do see is that anytime people are at emotional needs or when there are emotional gaps or lacunae, that's when they become most vulnerable to to an affair. Because let's understand I think let's be real and know that as humans, we, we have a need to be loved a need to be cared for need to be accepted need to feel secure. And when it is not found in these intimate relationships. And, or when you know the focus is so much on that and not on the actual the source of who is God, and that begins you know people begin to look out onto other sources. So, so usually it is that emotional need that causes people to be vulnerable to these affairs. There are other reasons such as, you know, sometimes it may be people just living with very poor moral values, and willing to just compromise on those those values and we also do see that among Christians or believers, you know, who may be attending church who may be reading the word who may be, you know, tongue talking, but yet may not or you know they may be, they may be thinking of how good God's word is but then has not really, it hasn't really set into their heart where their commitment to God and his word is poor, or a commitment to the family or commitment to, to what God's word says. So those, those kind of reasons where the standards, but there are no moral standards that they keep up to. Sometimes also for those who have a low tolerance to, to stepping into sin also, you know, who may not consider this as sin but may consider this as something that is a not really understanding their sexuality is something that God has given them and God would like them to keep it preserved and sacred, you know, and is, and is in an understanding that it can be explored. I mean, I have seen people like that with where they feel that sexuality is very personal and it is something that can be explored even though they may be believers. The other reasons, yes, is a sense of entitlement that may come because of where they are positioned or the kind of power they hold or the influence that they hold, and they just seek for some kind of novelty or excitement and you know, something new to come about. So no matter what the, the, the, the reasons are, you know, we need to look back and understand that it is something that causes a marriage devastation. It definitely causes a deterioration in the way marriage was meant to be. Scripture also, okay, can I stop here for two minutes and just take any questions here. If not, I will go on. All right. Okay, so scripture also talks about. Yeah, is there someone with a question. Thank you. Sorry, I can't hear you slightly louder. Yes, go on. Yes, go on. The first scripture we read from 2016 to 2022, it says that the vows are toward God. So when people, when people are getting married, are they supposed to say vows to God instead of each other or do we, oh, the way we do it is wrong because now we say vows to each other, the husband to say vows to the wife and wife to the husband. But here it says the vows you say to God. Some clarity. Thank you. Okay. All right. So, so I, the vows are being said in the presence. So you're making a vow in the presence of God to him as well as to your spouse that you promise to take your vowing in the presence of God. So you're making that covenant relationship. You're making that covenant relationship with your spouse in the presence of God. So he is witness to it. So when he's witnessed to it, he's, you're also saying, God, you are witness to this vow that I'm making to my, to my partner, to my spouse. So it is something that you, you do like, like a promise that you, you are making a covenant promise that you're making to your spouse in the presence of God. So he is the biggest witness over there. So he stands as witness in bringing this vow to fruition. I hope that I answered that, Mangi. Yes, it does. Thank you. Thank you. Okay. All right. So scripture going on. Scripture talks about what are some of the things that we need to take caution about. So there are, there are a couple of words of caution we see in the next, you know, a couple of scriptures that we, that we see. One of the examples that we, that we have, we can take from is King David. We see how David, you know, was, was, was a person who loved God. He was a man who, who, you know, it says he was a man after God's own heart. And we see his journey from being a shepherd boy to be someone who was, who was being pursued to, to be killed, to someone who, who got onto the throne of, of, of it as a king. Right. And who continues to be someone who's being referred to it as Jesus's line. Right. So we see how David accomplished so many things for himself as a king. And if you look through scripture, it talks about a lot of victories that he had as a king. He had a lot of victories. There were, there were the Ammonites, there were the Edomites, there were the Philistines and there were chunks of people and armies that he fought against. Okay. And, and he was in, in his time was a time of great military success. And you see how in scripture it actually shows of how God made him victorious. If God was with him wherever he went, God, you know, helped and God showed and we see that throughout. However, when, when we look at the time just before David fell into sin, we read in Samuel 11 verse one, and I'm just taking that, just, just that verse. It says, when that time of year came around again, the anniversary of the Ammonite aggression, David dispatched Joab and his fighting men of Israel in full force to destroy the Ammonites for good. They laid siege to rubber, but David stayed in Jerusalem. Okay. And I want to bring two points over here. One is that this was a time where David was at the greatest time of his success. And we see often that in a time of heightened success is often when we do not, we do not keep ourselves guarded. That's a time either at the time of success or at the time of crisis or, or, or, or a difficult affliction are times when we don't, we are most vulnerable at these points of times. And this is this, it is during this time that we may see that our, you know, our understanding is for our, our, you know, we are emotionally either, you know, too, too excited or emotionally too depressed. And as a result, you know, our judgment gets, gets poor. And there is where there are wrong choices that we tend to make. And we fall into something that we may normally not do when, when we are okay. And those defenses are down. And we often get into times of difficulty and trouble. The second point that I want to bring about here is it says, you know, when the time of year came around again, you know, when people went for war, what was David doing? David stayed back. He stayed back in Jerusalem. So I think there's an additional understanding here is when you are called, when you know that you're called to do something, you know, go and show that you're doing it and don't stay back, because, you know, he probably just wanted to relax and have a good time. So when there are certain responsibilities, when he should have been actually out for war, he would have probably been in the wrong place. So keeping ourselves on guard in these specific areas of how we need to ensure that we keep our guard, hold our defenses up at times of crisis or at times of success, and also being in the places where God has, has asked us to be. And I want to take this as an example. You know, often maybe it's a party, right, that you know that you shouldn't be going into probably because, you know, the kind of people who are there or the kind of situation that they may, it may be an office get together or things like that, or it may be something that, you know, there are just three, four people going. You understand that it may not be really right to be there. It says, you know, be careful. It says when David, he was supposed to go and he was lurking around on his status and this, and that's what actually ensued. So being on guard of these two things, the other scripture that it, that we bring about again, which is, which is in Proverbs 5.1 to 23. It's a long portion of scripture. I'm not going to get into it, but I just want to highlight one verse, which is verse 20. It says, why would you trade enduring intimacies for cheap thrills with the whore for dallians with the promise quiz strangers. So, you know, if you can just take some time to read those 23 verses, it highlights to it, it brings about a comparison. It says, when you have something that is lasting, why would you go into something that is a cheap thrill, and that which is momentary, and that which can get you all ruined and dead, right? So it talks, it gives the difference saying that your intimacy with your own spouse, that enduring intimacy, the person that you married is a youth. You know, that she is like a fresh flowing fountain and from her is where, you know, you get all your thrill or your satisfaction as against something that is a cheap thrill. So it says, why do you want to trade that? Why would you want to trade something that is momentary for something that you already have? So it's like, you know, you're telling your child, you're saying, you know, if you don't eat this one piece of chocolate here by the time it's night, you'll get a whole bar, right? It's similar to that. Why would you want to give up something that is so lovely and so precious for something that will give you a cheap thrill for a couple of moments, that it can get you into a whole lot of trouble. So scripture talks about that is that nothing, nothing, nothing else can take the place of the satisfaction that you have within marriage. And it gives that kind of a warning, even though it may look thrilling, it may look momentary, it may look pleasurable. Why is it that you would want to do that? And, you know, looking through that, it says, debt is the reward of an undisciplined life that's in verse 23. Your foolish decisions trap you in a dead end. So it says, these cheap thrills will finally trap you, will finally put you to a place of debt and then to a place of debt. That is the only course of action that a cheap thrill can do for you. So scripture is extremely clear about that. The next couple of verses in Proverbs 6, 23 to 35 tells you what are the consequences of adultery, what happens in adultery. So maybe I would someone like to read that. I'm on page 147, Proverbs 6, 23 to 35. Would somebody quickly read that please? Anybody? Sure, Sam, go ahead. For sound advice is a beacon. Good teaching is a light. Moral discipline is a life pass. They'll protect you from wanton women from the seductive talk of some temptress. Don't lustfully fantasize on her beauty, nor be taken in by her bedroom eyes. You can buy an hour with a hole for a loaf of bread, but a wanton woman may well eat you alive. Can you build a fire in your lap and not burn your pants? Can you walk barefoot on hot coals and not get blisters? It's the same when you have sex with your neighbor's wife. Touch her and you'll pay for it. No excuses. Hunger is no excuse for a thief to steal. When he's caught, he has to pay back, even if he has to put his whole house in the hawk. Udillty is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive. Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good. For jealousy, detonates rage in a cheated husband. While for revenge, you won't make allowance less. Nothing you say or pay will make it all right. Neither bribes nor reason will satisfy him. Thank you, Sam. I think this version really gives it such meaning and it tells you that getting into adultery, it talks of three adjectives. It says it's a brainless act. It destroys your soul and it is self-destructive. It says expect strife, expect that you are going to be beaten up. Maybe not all times physically beaten up, but we have seen that that also takes place. But it kills the reputation, it kills trust, it kills relationships. It says how the cheated husband detonates rage. There is jealousy that detonates that rage in a cheated husband who looks for revenge in a very strong way. It says nothing that you do can make it right. There is any time that somebody enters into it, the consequences can be extremely severe. It may seem exciting, but the consequences are there. Like it says, there are certain cause and effect relationships. It says that in verse 27 and 28, can you build a fire in your lap and not burn your pants? Can you walk barefoot on hot coals and not get blisters? Impossible. Those things will happen. So these consequences, adultery has a cause and effect relationship. You do something, it will come up with some kind of a reaction or a response. So as part of this, even as we have discussed this, when we are looking at the seductress, we are also saying that not just women, but even men be on guard. But there are certain words of caution that we would like to just bring up on women. And the couple of scriptures that it brings about here is in Proverbs 12.4, which it says, a good wife is her husband's pride and joy. But a wife who brings shame on her husband is like the cancer in his bones. So it talks about how scripture is showing us how women also, we can take the essence from here is saying women, how is it that we can be on guard? So one thing that it says here is a good wife is the joy, is the pride of her husband. So someone, a wife who is loving, who is caring, who is careful is a pride to her husband. But someone who brings shame is like a cancer, right? And we know what cancer does. It eats, it breaks, and the foolishness of a wife can bring about a destruction in home, destruction about everything around them. It's also a caution for women to stay on guard in the way that to be careful, to be aware about what the pull is around. Because there are times that there are going to be people who are waiting to violate or waiting to look for those vulnerable people who will fall into that trap. Another part of a woman's defense or protection is also in the way that they appear or the attire that they put up. And we see that again in scriptures of 1 Timothy 2, 9 to 10 and 1 Peter 3, 1 to 6 and that's something that you could also read. And I'll just highlight one or two verses. It's in 1 Peter 3 verses 3. It says, you should not use outward aids to make yourselves beautiful, such as the way you fix your hair or the jewelry you put on or the dress you wear. Instead, your beauty should consist of your true inner self, the ageless beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of the greatest value in God's sight. Now, this does not mean two things. It does not mean that it's wrong to groom yourself or dress up or to use jewelry. It does not mean that it or neither does it mean that by doing so, you are creating a sense of attraction. It's just asking you to be on guard that what to understand in reality that a man is driven by a stimulus, visual stimulus. So it is important for a woman to keep herself adequately well dressed and well covered so that it doesn't create any sense of an issue. So to being able to protect yourself so that you guard yourself. So these are the principles that scripture brings about of how each one of us could be on guard. When you look at the advertisements around, a lot of advertisements have a showcase of women being either scantily, or scantily dressed. Why? Because that seems appealing to in the advertising field. That's the only way that someone would be hooked on and to buy a certain product. So it is important to stay on guard. These are different cautions that are given to both men and to women on being cautious of the way that they handle or work themselves. All right. Do we have any questions? I'm sorry, we've moved four minutes into class. If not, we could come back in 10 minutes after the break. All right. On my clock, it shows 10.54. We will be back at 11.04.