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I'm Jonathan as I have Jonathan as a calm And I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic the four things high quality men secretly want from you Real quickly before I begin if you're new to my youtube channel Please hit the subscribe button hit the bell wherever it's at and certainly I would really appreciate if you post a comment if this content resonates with you If you have something to say hit like or post a comment All right, let's get started those four things high quality men secretly want from you Real quickly before we talk about high quality men because I'm I'm not sure I love the term quality But what I think we're leaning into when we say quality and I think most women would appreciate the idea of what I'm about to Share and the following is that quality man is someone who's emotionally mature They know what they want in relationship and they're certainly going to put the effort into creating a Healthy happy relationship. So when we talk about quality, we're talking about someone who knows what he wants They're going to put effort into the relationship and they're basically an emotionally grown-up person They're emotionally mature and what they're seeking in the sense is the same thing from a woman So these four things that high quality men secretly want from you starts off with boundaries Now what I love about boundaries and if you're not familiar with Brene's Brown's work Go Google Brene Brown after this video, but she says it basically like this Boundaries is what's okay, and what's not okay for me. What's okay, and what's not okay for me and What we we actually appreciate boundaries because in a way it says that you are Independent it says that you have a line that we can't cross and we men will sometimes push the line and a Boundary says hey, we're not going to you know You're saying we're not going to cross this line, and I'm talking about immature behavior But what we appreciate about boundaries also is that element of what's okay, and what's not okay, and I think that's one of the Healthy ways to approach your love life with having healthy boundaries for yourself and for him to have healthy boundaries of What's okay, and what's not okay for him? Okay, number two is that you take personal responsibility for your choices, and you have victor consciousness and not victim consciousness Sadly, I see this with so many women that if you've been hurt in a past relationship And I can understand how that can be frustrating But I've gone on dates where I could literally see behind the woman I'm going sitting down at the table every guy that's ever hurt her So she's feeling practically you can feel that energy of victimhood and then it shows up because she's oftentimes Talking about what went wrong and blaming the other person without taking personal responsibility For her own part in the ending or a failure of a relationship and while certainly men can be culpable I think when we take ownership on our part and say hey look I'm not a victim of this experience. In fact, I learned and I grew from this past relationship When you can say you can learn you learn and grew from your past relationship You're actually stepping into one of the sexiest qualities both men and women are attracted to and if you're not familiar with my book What the heck is self-love anyway? I go into this concept of personal responsibility quite a bit more Now the third thing men really appreciate no woman is a woman who can express her feelings Who can express her feelings? However, it's in a non-confrontational way Oftentimes we that one of the fears Men have from women is that you're going is the old adage health have no fury like a woman's scorn But let's take it a little bit deeper. It's that oftentimes when you're expressing your feeling It's coming from a confrontational way and not a conversational way And if you're not familiar with the work of Marshall Rosenberg He wrote a book called nonviolent communication Nonviolent communication that leans into how to communicate how to communicate your feelings so you can be seen heard and understood I repeat that it basically helps teach you how to express your feelings in a way that seen heard and understood And I highly recommend if you're choosing a relationship with a man that you both get this book You start reading it together learn how to develop these healthy skills Because whether it's like, you know, when I'm talking about a high quality man I'm really talking about any man who's really set On choosing to be with a partner and those men will actually invest into the work that you recommend Because that's what a high quality man does. He listens to you He listens to he wants to hear your feelings and he's also open to exploring how to build the relationship much stronger So check out that book Okay, the fourth thing The fourth thing Is that we are attracted to a little bit of a naughty side In other words, you have a little bit of a dark side You have a little bit of naughtiness to you in the sense that you're playful from a sexual perspective Certainly from a complimentary perspective In fact, even a little dirty compliments And I want you ladies know something we men get about this many compliments in a day We get literally no compliments where women get compliment all the time what great pair of shoes. Oh my god, I love your dress I love your coat all that sort of thing. We get zero So when you can compliment a compliment us even with a little bit of naughtiness associated with it It is actually highly attracted and this is what we secretly want from you And that's what this video about is what our secrets are that we don't necessarily share these publicly Okay, I'd like to hear your thoughts on this Please post a comment below if you like this video if you've got something to share if it resonates with you I'd like to hear from you Again, if you'd like to have a little bit of a personal touch Check out my link to schedule a call with me to see if working with a coach could make a difference in your life And I'm going to sign off this video as I always do giving you a big gigantic joth and bear hug If I have your consent. Oh, thank you Wishing you a wonderful day. Thanks so much. Bye. Bye now Thank you