 Ladies and gentlemen Get this here Set up on here tonight See let me make sure my camera clear on here. All right All right, all right. All right one to pop in for the wins tonight Q&A Almost cancel on you tonight, but I might have to cancel on you tomorrow I got a little work to do tomorrow afternoon, so I don't know if I'll be home in time So we're gonna try to answer some questions here and y'all try to just keep questions in the chat Just put the hashtag Q in front of your question What do men think when we hold them accountable? But after a while they cheat again and we take them back a Man pretty much if a man cheats on you twice Um, he pretty much loses all respect for you He really had lost respect for you when he cheated on you Sometimes a man can turn that around if he really wants to and Can fall in love and change his life But if he cheats on you again, it means he doesn't respect you and you take them back again It definitely means he will never respect you from from there after two times While newly dating if asked why my last relationship ended Should I be honest that he was insecure and controlling or keep it short and say things just didn't work out? um, you could be honest on that because it's not a knock against you and it also Let's the man know That you're willing to walk away for things like that it lets the man know those are a couple of deal breakers without you Having to say well my deal breakers are This this and this that that gets it, you know out the way. Let me see now Can you elaborate on Familiarity content Is this what brings the fear of moving on for some men and women? When wanting to be in a relationship um, I don't know what familiarity Be content Maybe you're talking about, you know familiarity breeds Content um But I but I don't know because that could be something else and I don't want to miss speed Now let me see somebody said Okay, I see I I believe this familiarity breeds contempt c-o-m-t-e-m-p If I'm not mistaken, but I don't know it could be content. So now But what what if it means contempt? I don't know y'all have to google it and let me know I might need to google that but what that means to me is, you know, when you get too familiar with somebody You start to you know have your way with them. You can hate on them disrespect them You know, you kind of start to you know, like brother and sisters They start to get jealous and want to fight and bicker and go back and forth That's what I think that means but I don't I don't really understand What what you mean by that and y'all hold on. Let me see Grab tiffani real quick. Um tiffani god bless you now Tony how soon is too soon for a man to use words of endearment with a woman he is courting well That's really up to you. You know, if if that doesn't bother you then If he's calling you babe or boo or whatever on the first day then you know That's really up to you. Okay. Yeah, it's familiarity breeds contempt. So that's c-o-n-t-e-m-p-t And basically what it means is extensive knowledge of or close association with someone or something leads to a loss of respect for them or it so it's kind of like You know If you get too close to somebody and you really get to know what they all about Other people may see them one way you start to see them another way And you you start to get tired of them. You start to you know, want to fight want to argue the compilations God bless you When I gave to your ministry the next day I got hired for a new job and my channel views went up God bless you now. Hey, I ain't paid this person to say that now these compilations. I'm gonna tell you what though I thank you for sharing that Because I just said the other day when I was talking to my mom. I said listen when somebody blessed me I literally At the end of the night or in the day when I'm thinking I said lord bless every single person That has sent me a blessing. I say pour out in their life I said lord, I know you're real because what you're doing my life So lord, if they saw an enemy bless them open whatever door they need open I literally say that prayer. So I thank you and that's god for me. That's confirmation From god to me to say hey, I heard your prayers Now everybody might not get blessed now because if you're doing it from the wrong reason or for the wrong You know from the wrong place and how you living Everybody might not get blessed now, but If you're in right standing and you align for your blessings It's universal law that God has set in place Let me see While newly dating if asked Okay, I read that one. I try to scroll back up so I can get back in order um And so amber more better Basically what what your question is talking about how this works in a relationship It's kind of like when a man gets real close to you He knows what you will and won't do he know what you bout He know if he can curse you out and you're gonna stay he know if he could cheat on you He know if he could disrespect you, but it's like When a person don't let you get too familiar when you keep a person guessing They can't figure you out. So they don't really know how to how to take you how to come at you Um grown boy Came back. He texted me some dirty videos didn't respond. He then called didn't answer should I block him? Yep, you ought to block them Because you don't want to pop up you meet your new boo and then that pop up How do men feel about paying alimony from now from what I hear? I don't know. I've never had to do that, but men absolutely hate it From what I hear men absolutely hate it, but that's because a lot of men hate responsibility Men feel the same way about child support as they feel about alimony Men hate being held responsible for their bad decisions Just like people do the crime and don't want to do the time. It's the same type of You know resentment or feelings towards it Should we ever ask a man how he feels about us at any point to be honest with you akua? You shouldn't have to You should be able to tell how he feels about you if you have to ask him how he feels about you He doesn't really feel about you. So that's what you have to realize with that, you know A man will always be trying to show you how he feels about you Every night my wife she lay down She she's facing that way. I'll face that way. That's how we sleep. I'm rubbing her back I rub her back until she falls asleep Every day almost every day sometimes not every day, but just a lot of almost every week I order her for nothing gift, you know, just because I always am looking to show her That I love her. I'm thinking about her and so That's how a man will be doing it Everybody won't be able to do the same thing But he will do what he can do to show you how he feels if you got to ask him. He doesn't feel for you And it ain't no excuse time. I owe some people show they love differently. No, no That ain't no excuse TT god bless you now Is it common for men to lie about their income? If so, aren't they aware the lie will eventually catch up to them and won't work in their favor If a man lied about his income, he's done. He doesn't plan to be with you. He planned the hidden run He don't plan to stay with you Kiki god bless you now. Let me get these here 499 real quick and I'm gonna get that other one there yellow one I watch all of your videos on and hop on every live chat I am learning so much from you and love who you are and what you represent stay blessed on a god bless you Gabby god bless your owner break With fiance for coming home late every day If I need more from him should I give him a chance to fix it once our break is over or move on Now see he was coming home late every day If this your first break then you might be able to do somebody Oh jerry latrice god bless you now for starbucks coffee for you and your wife. Thanks for everything Hey, we just had those starbucks a day. Thank you Got to go back in honor of you tomorrow. Now jerry Is a coach on my mentor Um, so y'all can go on my mentor and book jerry latrice. She's a coach on my mentor dot life jerry also is a editor And she's a ghost writer and an author consultant. So she's been working with my company Um as a author consultant and ghost writer So for those y'all who took the birth your book program jerry might end up being your editor She's real good at what she does. See love. God bless you now. See love bless you And see love. I think we got that book out to you now That was that was special for you. We don't really do that but got that because I always see your name in here Jasmine Wiley god bless you now bless you What is the difference between A soul tie and a trauma bond? They could be One and the same if the soul tie was created in a toxic relationship So I got a soul tie with my wife, but it's healthy a soul tie is really just an emotional bond But it could be a healthy emotional bond or it could be a toxic emotional bond And that's where you will have a trauma bond come in but a trauma bond doesn't necessarily doesn't have to be a soul tie So it's they they they're similar because they're emotional You know it and it could also be physical but With a soul tie it more so excuse towards When you've been intimate with somebody when you slept with somebody whereas a trauma bond that could be Between a mother and daughter So it's it's a it's a little different, but trauma bond is not a Life coaching term. That's more so in therapy and counseling faithful walker god bless you now you mentioned men love less and it's better for man loves his wife more But how can a woman know he love knows he loves her more if men take two to five years to fall in love? How can women Love less how should we act? Well, now see this how women mind work right here When y'all try to understand every little thing You know in a way women mind work it'd be like, okay, so all right now on this cap toning Now is this part plastic? And that part in the middle, why is that actually there? Okay, that goes right there in the middle of the key stuff from coming out And then why did they make this twist off instead of just being able to pull off? You see y'all want to understand every little thing But this what you got to understand is as a woman all you got to do is you go in and you be you And you will know if a man loves you more because love is evident See love is too great to hide so you're gonna know and you're gonna feel it He won't be able to hide that love But you don't and and and a woman loving less i'm gonna tell you how a woman can love less You give the man credit for what he does And nothing more what women do wrong is a man to do one thing and then you fantasize on the bottom The rest of the night the rest of the day you give him the time when he in front of you When you talking to him when he with you And outside of that you need to be focused on your business focus on your grind Elena gates. God bless you now. I'm gonna be 19 years old in 11 days, but thank you I've never had a man give me this kind of advice. I'm doing so much better mentally God bless you y'all kids growing up too fast. You you finna be 19 You ain't supposed to be on your page Elena We talking about growing folks business and you on here all in the kool-aid Remember they just say they're all in the kool-aid. You know what flavor it is and everything You too young you too young, but hey, I hope this right here Keep you off your back and keep you out of these relationships and focus on your grind Coach Chris God bless you now You spoke about miss Gaskins not giving you everything at first Will a man do certain intimate acts with anyone or only with their wife as their wife It depends on the man. It men totally different than women now. It depends on the man. So men If a man nasty a man nasty, okay And a lot of women unless they were turned Over to a promiscuous life at a young age A lot of women they may grow into it with their With their man, but but what you gotta realize is men are raised different Men are a lot of times pushed and encouraged to get nasty early Whereas daughters are like hey stay pure stay pure You know, you're a woman your body is precious, but men are not taught that our bodies are precious men talk that You know, you know, so you why oh spread yourself then get out there and do your thing You know men talk something a little different. So So you got to understand so It's a lot that goes into that Tony with the question about familiarity is their growth in the relationship should the women Loosen up some A woman should loosen up as the man loosens up So see as a woman in a relationship, you should read and respond to that man's actions Don't do More than what the man is doing Let a man give and let a man lead in love and then as a woman you reciprocate See what women do wrong is women come to a man who has not done anything and give him everything So you got women cooking in a thong you got women sliding down a pole You got women making breakfast lunch and dinner you got women Doing laundry and folding clothes women come and trying to prove that they're a wife And men will try to tell you grown boys to tell you oh, you need to do this Because if you don't do that, how I'ma know you're a wife, man, what you mean? How I'ma know you're a wife A wife then got to cook and clean and slide down no pole that don't equate to a wife What equate to a wife is a woman that agreed to say yes to your sorry, but That's what equate to a wife And but we try to believe that wife means cooking cleaning You know sucking and ducking and sliding down poles and and you know, so d Which is sets on the man. Okay sets on demand. That's what we think mean wife. That don't mean wife and so So you don't have to audition for no man and that's what people get wrong thinking that Oh, well, if I don't cook, how's he gonna know I'm a wife? Then it got nothing to do with being a wife Me and my wife just got done eating from the Thai restaurant So who cooked it the Thai restaurant shelf my wife didn't have to cook last night. We ate something else So who cooked it that restaurant shelf my wife didn't have to cook Now, yes, he do laundry, but she ain't got no laundry every day. She might do it one day a week You see what I mean? That's not a prerequisite to being a wife Adriana god bless you now. Can you give your advice on why men only want S from a woman, but doesn't see a serious relationship with her Sis, that's really like asking why does the sky blue? Why is water wet? Okay, understand that right now seem pray love god bless you Brittany Bowen god bless you cut my ex for good have three kids together He had two kids prior to me that lived with me for 11 years Even when his sorry butt ran in and out our kids are four six and seven Other two are 23 and 17. What do I do with the step kid? Well, um They grown, you know, it's that kid. They're grown You know, so they they could live their life, you know, you could keep in touch with them cordially happy birthday Merry Christmas, but they don't need you, you know, they're grown They they got their own mama, you know, and and if she's passed away, they got their daddy You know, so you don't have to you take care of yours You take care of yours because if you're gonna move on the next man He don't want to see That you still keeping in touch and you still playing mama to your ex kids Especially that they grown Brenda god bless you now bless you lord bless there last one Lady god bless you. Okay. Now y'all talking about what cf mean yesterday Child father got upset with me because he said I made him miss his job interview Now you asked this question yesterday And I guess you got off of here when I answered your question Came to dad's house. I live with him and bust out my bedroom when the text me and called me out my name I blocked him and daughter asked about him daily. What to do What you need to do is go back and watch the video from yesterday Because you asked that question yesterday and I answered yesterday and because I'm authentic My emotion that was in that answer yesterday. I can't do that again today because I'm not a actor Okay, so I gave everything I had and I went off on that answer. So go back yesterday. You'll see What it's called. It'll be Tuesday night live And it'll have the date on them watch watch the video. I answered your question in there yesterday So y'all be asking questions and then go in to sleep and ask a question and getting on the phone and all that Y'all gonna be here then be here now when y'all ask y'all a question y'all need to be listening y'all got me Oh here doing all this work and I'm talking to myself y'all posing question didn't leave Come on, nine Breathe fillers god blessing now my husband is losing his hair and it is messing with his self confidence How can I reaffirm him? Well, we all losing our hair So what you could do is just show them every man they're losing their hair The thing I got their hat on losing my hair We all losing our hair, you know, I need celebrities right now. They posting they pictures from you know the from the lockdown So just baby you look good. What you got to do you got oh, baby, you look good every day Baby, you look good. I just I love I actually love the way your hair is standing It is just it makes you look better. You're growing you find like wine You know what I mean? You got to go a lot to him So that he'd feel comfortable, but honestly at the same time They got hair treatments. So when mine started then I went and got a hair treatment It's called foe and they taking they pull hairs off the side of your head and they pluck them in there And then it and they grow on in so mine and grow back in now I keep my hair cut ain't got no hair cut and then at the barbershop if you got an african-american they got hair spray So what we do is they they hit you with some spritz And then they got hair spray is like hair fibers and they just And it's a little miss and they make you look like you got a whole head of hair You'll look like this right here. So we got stuff out there for that Nine don't let them just you know stuff in silence Go on get that foe treatment And then after that till it grow all the way back in get to get that spray on there. That's all You better preach god bless you nine when a man loves a woman, it's clear She could mess up and he'd still love her. How can women avoid being the one a man tolerates? And become that he loves Now i'ma tell you right here I don't know who told you that Men don't tolerate women Ain't no man tolerating on women That that men be the first one to leave and and if you think he tolerates he's cheating all on you. He's cheating all on you So, you know, that's why I tell if you cheat on a man, you better off leaving If you cheat on your man, you better off leaving and women need to do the same thing But women don't do that women let a man cheat on them and they stay and you keep loving that man You keep loving that man You should never revenge cheat, but that's exactly what a man gonna do if he stay I i've never met a man that let a woman mistreat him and he was not getting back If he stayed he would get back at her secretly And not even letting her know what he's doing. He was doing it for his own ego So yeah, I don't know where you've seen that at not and if a man told you that he lying Believe me when I tell you Just can't go out blessing now. He told my mother. He wants to marry me one day, but won't answer my calls. What does that mean? That he's a liar That he's a liar. It don't mean nothing deep. Don't mean nothing special. Just mean that he's a liar Okay Now I want y'all to understand it don't be deep as y'all trying to make it now It ain't ocean deep. No, this kiddie pool This kiddie pool deep. It just means he's a liar want blank period How should I respond if at all to their kid's dad? Who's asking about job hunting slash interviews when it's like an interrogation Who looked at you? Did you say hi? What you wear is very draining. Okay, miss angel You asked your question last night and I answered your question last night Now y'all need to start asking the question and then Going and watching your sole purpose. Okay, so you got to watch last night video Now y'all see what I got to go through Y'all see what I got to go through when I be on here And I'll be asking the same question over and over. All right And y'all want to be a life coach. All right You better know what you're getting into dealing with this human nature I just started talking to this guy but had to cut him off because he got ruled with me After I confronted him about his red flags. Is it possible that we will reconnect? He still watches me on ig Yeah, it's possible y'all to reconnect But do you want to reconnect and why do you want to reconnect if he is disrespecting your first time around What you want to reconnect for versus moving on and meeting a fresh new man? You know who might be right for you and respect you the first time around My ex of 22 years has been separated have been separated for two years I found out he'd been sleeping with other women and A prostitute and I cannot get over it. I've had counseling for two years, but cannot ship It might be time for coaching Okay And you might have to go on spraying and and do some coaching with somebody like myself Because it's really like when you going and you seeking affirmation and you seeking confirmation and you seeking closure It really comes down to the words that you hear Because them words are going to be like the key to your lock So if you doing counseling, but this person ain't gifted see some people just came and some people is called So if this person ain't gifted and it's just a career and not a calling Then they just in there and they just giving you what they books say give you But when you get on the phone with somebody who is called to speak into somebody's life and to help somebody overcome In them hour long sessions. That's when you really going to get some real instruction So when you trying one thing and it's not working, you need to try something else. Okay, so you need to go to my mentor dot life All right and get you some coaching Because you did the counseling for two years Sierra god bless you now. He always initiated until recent Silent I text him. He responded hours later asking. What's up feel silly. Should I respond as he is As he is showing low interest um He's trying to let you know gone about your business. Sierra. He's trying to let you down easy And he's hoping That you will get the hint So don't make yourself, you know Look crazy by chasing a man that don't want you A man ain't gonna do you like that if he want you T. Let's shake up bless you now. Finally a member of the bless try tony. Thanks for everything that you do Hey, thank you. God bless you now Hi, tony. What are your thoughts on giving men soft? automatums um It could backfire it can backfire. So instead of giving an ultimatum because honestly I may have said in the past about giving an ultimatum maybe a long time ago. I don't think so, but You really don't have to give a man an ultimatum. So if you come and you say hey, you know You either marry me or i'm leaving that means he don't want to marry you Because a man gonna have a natural progression So now ultimatum in a sense of like listen If you keep coming in late, i'm gone You keep saying you're gonna be here at seven and you showing up at nine and ten I'm not dealing with that. I'm out of here Now that's something to where it's more corrective to let him know like look, i'm not boo boo the fool But now so the real ultimatum what you could be talking about or if you if you talk about that example I just used that that's okay The worst ultimatum a woman a woman can give is about marriage Don't ever try to force a man to marry you if he ain't making that move and he ain't trying to marry you move on about your life On the sheet true God bless you now God bless you. Thank you bro. Tony. I'm 53. Why do men ask me? Why am I still single? And they are my age and single too. What are they looking for? Just some conversation, you know just some conversation He already have his assumptions and he already know it's only one of a few things So it's really just conversation just it's just a bad question that we ask You know and you can say the same thing. Well I have my reason. Why are you single? Just flip it back home. Then if after he answer you if you like his answer You say well, I just have not met a man on my level. It's just a lot of grown boys out here today And that might give him a little shot the way he like, okay, let me get my stuff together. There's one on another level Actually, I see your question here. I'm a 26 year old virgin with the With the state of african-american men right now Do you think I'll find anybody and now the quarantine thrown in the mix What to do? Stay abstinent You know remain remain a virgin just remain a virgin and then what you need to do is focus on you You know, where's your money at? What's your job looking like? You want to work for somebody else? You got a career or you want to build your dream? Focus on you keep building build this build and build and build and when you too busy to be looking for love That's my love gonna find you All you got to do a beat you could be walking in the grocery store. Love could find you But see as you build and guess what you gonna build so your money gonna start to look different so buying a tolyota camera equivalent to your earning It'll be the same equivalent when you raise your income now buying them a satis bands might be the same percentage of your income But when you in the camera, you're gonna attract different men than when you in the bands Because when you elevate when you go from a bachelor's to a master's you're gonna attract different men When you go from not at your goal weight to your goal weight, you're gonna attract different men So you never worry about the man. You got to worry about you When you fall in love with you and you take care of you to the best of your ability You're gonna attract the man. That's for you You're gonna get on the level and you attract what you are not what you want now. I say when I say attract I mean who you end up with who you accept who you settle down with That is a reflection of you. I'm not talking about who walks up to you So understand that right there now Lonnie love he said he was a narcissist. So I left he said he's glad I caught his red flag Didn't act it like we didn't break up always said I had too many rules and morals Go on about your business sis. Um, we uh, he's wasting all our time. Okay. He told you who he is. Believe him. Keep on going Um Chanel hi Tony, where do I contact you to request video topics in the comments of a video? So you the last video that you watch Put it put your topic in the comments You know, I scroll through the comments every time I get opportunity because I just love blocking people, you know, I just have me a block party and Because see I'm not the type to where I could cuss people out. I don't curse I'm not gonna fight nobody. I'm not gonna go back and forth with nobody. But one thing I love If you have no block Okay, all right, I'd be over here like, okay. I hope that comment felt good to you blocked All right, got your one and last comment bought so I love going into Them comments you hit me. I get me some good old blocks. So when y'all see my videos with the thumbs down That's who it be It'd be the people out on block. They can't comment no more So they have to make a whole another page A whole another gmail account to come comment and if I and I'm gonna see that comment and blah And so when you see the thumb down It's not that they think it's a bad video is that they hurt They're in a feeling because I'm hitting with that block button And people always try to tell the people like me Oh, the ignore the haters. Oh, just ignore them. Oh, don't worry about it. No I'm not finna internalize all of that Blah Just like that. Hey, you better ask somebody How long How long do you give A marriage before you give up? I feel like marriage is forever Marriage is supposed to be forever But what you have to understand is that Until death does us part does not mean Until someone drives you to an early grade So it's a difference Now when you come into my space It could god could be sending you here for a reason So before you give up on your marriage I typically say you need to have about four sessions with a seasoned professional It could be myself or somebody else. Of course, I'm gonna recommend myself Okay, because I really don't know what nobody else doing on these sessions But I know when you talk to me, we're gonna get clarity You have me it's gonna be crystal clear and you're gonna know if it's worth staying and working or if it's time to go You're gonna know You're gonna if you came before coaching there make sure you read my book make it work It's called make it work. It's up on the hill over there Um z z god bless you nine Hey, y'all i'm on here for an hour of the night now I want to spend some more time with my wife and I started real late tonight I started an hour later than I did last night because we got in late tonight. So I had to push it back So tonight i'm just doing an hour. Okay So, um get your questions in Why we need while i'm here now ZZ god bless you my boyfriend keep asking to get married But I feel like he's not ready because he's not consistent. Should I wait till he matures or just get married and work through it No, if he can't be consistent in dating He ain't gonna be consistent in marriage a piece of paper Don't change nobody. Okay when you sign that piece of paper. Yeah, it's a covenant under god But he can't see god. He can't shake god hand So a lot of men ain't gonna really change for that right away until he's spiritually inclined but For most men he's just signing a piece of paper. That's not gonna change him He's still gonna be inconsistent in marriage So what you need to do is pay attention to the red flags And you might need to be going on about your business instead of staying with this man Because it's not hard to mature. That's what you got to understand It's like look at everything around you. Look at everything around you. Look at this cell phone. I'm on Look at this chat that we on you hear me Look at this house. I'm sitting in where you sitting at That's all created by the human mind. Look at this old water bottle that I'll be drinking out of you You hear me look look at this that hold this this lotion You see what I mean? Look at this here remote that I hit the power and I turn on the flat screen tv flat screen tv. You see what I'm saying Look at them golf clubs behind me that I only use one time The human mind is so Powerful look at the spaceships going into the in the space going to the moon. You see what I mean It's not hard to mature If a person don't mature it's because they don't want to mature and it's because they don't want you So what you got to realize is oh You don't want me because you're not changing Let me go on about my business. That's how you got to get y'all just sit there and don't get don't get the lesson Come on now Come on now. My wife had to tell me one thing one time. Everything I did wrong. She had to tell me one time I ain't never have to do it again Because the human mind Can adapt You know, I bought my son a little dog. This dog is two and a half pounds This dog is probably Four months five months old this dog to learn how to kick her leg and open her crate Unlatch the lock open it and get out with her leg You and that's a dog mind. They ain't human mind. The human mind built the crate And the dog to learn how to get out of it. You see what I mean? Unlock it and walk right on that Four months old Men who say isn't it important to know if we're sexually compatible first before marriage thoughts That's a great question And that's one of the most hot wash questions in the world because guess what if he got one of these Okay, and you got one of these Okay, y'all steps compatible y'all compatible If he got one of these and you got one of these y'all steps compatible See what people be trying to get at they want to act like it's you you on a A paddle board in the ocean like he got to have oh when I groove like this Oh, you grew like that and we grew and like this and oh, oh, oh, oh, yeah, we don't know What make you compatible is when you fall in love Because when you fall in love this intimate when you fall in love That right there it take about 90 seconds It take about 90 seconds when you fall in love if you ain't never been there If you ain't never been there you better get down when you fall in love you compatible because they made the work together So you ain't got to have no class. He ain't got to have no class You got to fall in love because the largest sexual organ is the brain It's not this and it's not this those ain't the largest sexual organ the largest sexual organ is the brain So when a man make love to a woman mind and vice versa, that's when that's what make that there A1 Okay, and that's what grown boys don't understand So really that's his way of getting you in the bed Because he don't plan on marrying you because if he feel like you his wife and he and he plan on marrying you Y'all could be building all that y'all could be working on that in marriage because you're not marrying for this You marrying for this for this you see what I mean? So that's that's a grown boy that you got them Vc. God bless you. He asks what type of guys do you like or do you have a type can't stand that question? All right, don't answer So when he when a man asks you that what you got to say to him is I know when I see him um Tim Henson, which I think there's a woman under the name of tim henson now because the way the question be tim Well, the question you asked me yesterday Mr. Blocky gassings is Modestly still important See women like kim Kardashian are winning women like This are still getting married and flocked after Now, I don't know why women think that now. What make you think kim Kardashian winning? Do you desire to be with Kanye West? Dude, who who who want to be with Kanye? Well, listen to how great he is all day you know They didn't want to believe me when I said that I am a billionaire And I am a genius. There has never been another mind like mine. I am a genius. You want to hear that all day Where you see Kim Kardashian winning that? Okay? and with all that come on now I gotta chat to my book say they are not winning Y'all think they win. I don't know what make y'all think that Um, how to get my 20 year old to grow and earn legal money You're gonna have to get your 20 year old a mentor You're gonna have to set it up and get your 20 year old a mentor if you if you ain't been able to reach them in 20 years Your 20 year old gonna need a mentor Andrea god bless you now. It says I'm his wife Met a year after husband passed We broke up when I got saved. I started saving myself for marriage. He said one more thing now he says He saved and wants to be friends But we both played games for seven years. Yeah, it says go about your business Go about your business. He's wasting all our time go about your business You don't take no seven years go on about your business. This time go about your business Sharon god bless you if a man shoot his shot when you were in a relationship But now it's broken off. Is it wrong to give the men on the back burner or update? No, it ain't wrong. It ain't wrong. It ain't wrong if he shot his shot and you had to reject it And he's still around and you don't see him with a woman on facebook You know pictures of him on facebook and all of that then Nope, it's not wrong to say Hey, just checking in I you know me and my ex broke up and I just want to check in on you see how you doing That's what my wife did to me, you know and our first met her she was in a situation. She up getting on her way out So she really ain't talked to me. But then once she got out of it We had each other. I am she just I am in one day. I was like, hey You know broke up with my boyfriend. I said, okay, praise the lord Wealth of the wicked stored up for the righteous. I'm gonna slide right on over there. I'll be over there And we sat down and talked six hours and I fell in love Some occurs. God bless you. I legit just wanted to say hey I just started reading the woman's influence and I'm extremely excited My halo for everything you do god bless you now. I don't my halo. I guess that means something good now God bless you Jamie bless you now. Baby daddy did 15 years fed time got out in 2018 Told him we can't be together till I see he changed He now has two girls pregnant. This hurts bad How do I move on and let go because he could care less our son is grown now. Love your work You're gonna have to move on one foot at a time You might have to get some coaching to talk about it talk through it And really what you're gonna have to do is hear the perspective to understand because see what you think is you think you lost love You didn't lose love You dodged the bullet you were playing Russian roulette and lived you see what I mean you playing Russian roulette and lived So you got to change your perspective You know your perception of of his situation You know, you let go of a jailbird a prison bird. Okay Caged bird singing who now got two women pregnant and you hurt You had to really ask yourself. Where are my standards if I'm hurt by a man who get out and get two women pregnant Like do you want to be the third? Do you want to be in there? That shouldn't hurt you that ought to reveal to you That lord looking out for you showing you his true colors before you gave him your life and your body See you you were spared. That's what you just got to change that Purpose p. God bless you not only you are a blessing. I've watched your videos and lives so much already Know What your response is going to be also my time is no longer wasted. Thank you and blessings to you and the family. Hey god bless you Hey, I'm glad and she now she's saying she already know what my response going to be on the question Hey, that's that when you get right down. That's when you know what you're supposed to be Child's father keeps asking me. Hey, I got 15 more minutes now Why don't you want to spend some time tonight? I'm ready to get on off off here. 15 minutes can't go fast enough. Y'all better send your questions in now. I'm going 15 minutes From one blessing now boyfriend of four days asked to see me naked and compared it to test driving a car before buying it Before marriage red flag or not. Thank you, Tony Yep. Yes. That's a hundred percent a red flag. Okay. That's a hundred percent a red flag. All right God bless you. Okay God bless you. I say I need to do some more videos I need to do some more video Y'all have some red flags out here that got sirens on it It got little men standing up doing the cha cha moronga on top of it On top of the sirens and y'all God bless you now Tim has to make a video on why you say they aren't winning you're gonna have to read The book make it work Tim Read the book make it work. I got a whole chapter in there and it's on an audio book for you too now Oh, hold on. Let me see What this is? Okay, that's something X is doing things he did when we first met but slower Wasn't in the best Wasn't in the best way mental slash financial two years ago, but I have surpassed him Now I think I shocked him Try again broke up because energy got bad after four years a day. No, don't try again. Keep going keep going Andrea down and God bless you. Debbie G. Bless you now Keep going with your life Chanel are Bless you. Hi Tony. How many chances is too many chances to give a X? I believe in second chances if the first offense wasn't too great If it was if it was really real bad, like the first offense was bad Then you don't have to give a second chance, you know But if you if you feel like you can forgive and not remind them of the offense Then you can give a second chance because to each their own But after you get a second chance if they mess up again, go on about your life Don't don't don't stick around no longer after that now Miss angel. Thanks for responding. Didn't mean to miss a blessing. Mm-hmm. I hope you can catch it on them now 499 God bless you just so you know you brought me back to the lord Re-learning and living in the light again. Thank you for speaking your blessings to us. Hey god bless you now Uh I pray the lord is pleased now I'm talking a love relationship and people ain't think that that could be ministry That that could be bringing people to the lord. So I'm glad you I'm glad you shared that with me Hi, Tony guys interested but is hanging out with his people Family and friends during this quarantine. He doesn't care enough about his life I think this is too loose. Am I doing too much? um Yeah, you're doing too much. You are about the wrong thing Because if he don't care about his life, long as he ain't coming around you If he out there, he hanging out him with him about his life Just don't let him come around you Especially if you asthmatic because now if you asthmatic he come around you Like that right there one time You'll end up meeting the lord early now. So hey, but yeah, don't don't you can't care about somebody life You know or be caring about what they need to do if they don't care because you you losing sleep and stressing And they might not be that Um It's they'll god bless you now. Oh lord, Tony. I have a weight loss ig I've lost 60 pounds. I have my before and after pictures up. Will this affect any future future relationship? Uh Yes, it could it could you know, you probably It could and because and the reason why it could it's kind of like When a man first sees you he does not know you So he does not love you. He doesn't have he doesn't have any feelings for you So what you think might look okay or be cute He might not feel the same way Whereas when you're doing something like that that could be for your business for your clients You know, if you're a health and wellness coach If your accountability partner for people on dines Before the first session you could send them to before and after or you may put that on your website Now when you got that on your You know instagram now, that's a first impression So it's kind of like if you go to a man page and he got a before and after and it'd be like Used to be a drug didn't a killer now. I'm a pastor Now for women y'all a little bit more sensitive and of course, that's not his body but you know It's uh It's a little different Yeah, y'all can leave the chat open now because because i'm leaving in an hour. I'm leaving in an hour At one hour not in an hour. So I got 10 minutes So uh to the moderators y'all could take the night off. I so appreciate y'all for keeping the chat clear for me I so appreciate you See love god bless you That's my point in her life. See la only you know if you need any more blessing now the way you be blessing me or Keep doing what you're doing lord How do you diminish the underlying fear of putting yourself back out on the market The way you do that see love all the blessings you just sent me you probably couldn't have full sessions of coaching The way you're going to do that is going to be through knowledge But see for you you watch the videos and you hear on the q&a So you may need one-on-one knowledge that is specific to your life So in there you're getting knowledge you're getting confidence you're getting affirmation And that's what's going to help you because see they say knowledge is power Why is knowledge power because it brings confidence? And so when you're afraid to get out on the market, that's because you're not confident That you know what you're looking for and what red flags look like and how to recognize the grown boy behavior Early enough so that you don't waste too much of your time and get your heart broke So you need the knowledge which will produce the confidence and that's what will help you remove the fear Or get over the fear overcome the fear See and pray love god bless you now I met a man who said he was divorced over a year ago Found out he has a whole family across town So glad I kept it classy and waited to observe him He is blocked moved on swiftly with no drama. Hey god bless you now. I told y'all that's what you got to do You keep them led clothes and you pay attention for a little while You're gonna see what you need to see and now you able to walk away be gone And you ain't lost none. You ain't added another body to your list You ain't added another soul tie to your spirit You able to just wash your hands of him and go on about your business Evet god bless you not it said we could be friends after break up Watch one of your videos. I decided no. Why would he get upset? He loves me but not in love with me. Why would he get upset? He says um petty Well, he upset because you have standards because you got confidence because you standing up for yourself He upset because he thought he could do what he wanted to do with you He had lost respect for you and thought he could run in and out your life And now you loving yourself and you standing up for yourself because you don't come into some new knowledge So my people perish because of a lack of knowledge So now you get knowledge So you ever stand up and he mad that you know better See people love when they want to use you they love for you to stay in the dark The vegan talk show god bless you now. Hi ton. I love what you're doing. I'm growing But just wanted to know do you have any information about the credit repair business? Thanks a lot. Now. I don't know if you mean starting a credit repair business or getting your credit fixed so um Email me at support at tonigaskin.com um My daddy just started him his credit repair business And enrolling new clients now Um, because it was another I got a client to have a very successful credit repair business so She now doing training as well and I got you know My dad trained and set up and certified because he a budget coach and financial coach so You know, but I don't know if you mean by doing your own business or getting your credit fixed Uh lady trucker god bless you now Just want to be a blessing you teach us what we need to know no matter our age and you are very entertaining god bless you and the queen Hey, god bless you now If you feel entertained by me that mean you got a good spirit You got a good sense of him because I don't be entertaining y'all so that mean Your spirit in the right place My shell network bless you now. Can a friend with benefits situation turn into more if both parties love each other Words and actions match up. Yeah, I guess anything possible according to adidas you know, um But me personally I have not seen that I have not seen that happen typically it you will turn into more and it'll fizzle out You know so I Because if you meant to be most of the time you're going to start out with romantic interest And be building a friendship inside of a romantic interest not Friends platonic friends and then friends with benefits and then In a romantic relationship it typically Especially for me and it's it fizzles out um, and so You know just be prepared do you know Stay positive, but just know Y'all will be an exception to the rule if y'all last Bell beauty god bless you now when I'm ready to date again. Should I stay away from my past? Criminals if I have a big heart No more second chances on men turning their life around. No, no more second chances. Keep going about your business now because Going about your business because see what you gotta realize a man don't care nothing about your progress Man don't care about nothing about your self-care. Nothing about your self-love All humans thinking about is themselves So if you go dilly-dallying with somebody of your past that ain't doing right that wasn't doing right They're just gonna use you for your time. Just use you for your time So, you know, just just keep going about your business And if a man wants you he's gonna catch up to you and he's gonna show himself worthy To where when you look at him, he's gonna look different when you smell him. He's gonna smell different He's gonna talk different. He's gonna walk different. You're gonna be like, who is this person? But if he still resemble who he used to be That's who he is Broke up With my ex a few weeks ago for poor communication Ghosted for two days. He has a call but left the gift on my doorstep. I didn't reach out to thank him Am I doing this right? Um Well, it depends on what you did before breaking up with him The question is did you have a proper conversation with him about communication and the proper way to communicate And the communication that you need and then example exemplify the type of communication you want to receive and Buy him a copy or make it work and read the chapter on communication together and then discuss it So now if you just ain't like the way he communicated and you just up and left, then yes, you're doing it the wrong way And understand this when you play mind games, everybody lose So when it comes to communication, you know, a lot of men just don't know how to communicate So you got to, you know be very Mindful now if you had a good conversation with him and you talk to him and you check them and you let him know He still didn't want to grow. He still didn't want to change Then yes, you write to kind of get some distance. So he realized you're not going to be there But the thing is if he just leaving a gift on your doorstep and he's not communicating Or giving you the communication that you need Then he's just doing enough to get you back just to say i'm not going to change But if you're crazy enough to come back then come on back And i'm gonna keep giving you what i've been giving you and waste some more of your time Ciro jackson god bless you now. I'm 21 X that i was with for a couple years said he needed a break. So we broke up a couple months later We went to the movies and he said he's still really loved Then blocked me a week later That that ciro. That's why i try to tell you y'all too young to be dating Okay, y'all too young to be dating that boy came barely walk and chew bubblegum at the same time So when a man doing all that y'all too young y'all too young you need to be focused on your schoolwork And you need to be focused on your money. You finding your job But you worry about the little boys little boys You wasting your time and you wasting your good life. So now when you get all of age and it's time to meet your husband You're gonna be too tired and drained. Hey, y'all I got the gold now So now don't don't y'all put no more blessings in there now because I ain't got nobody a minute now So listen, you're gonna be giving a donation, but I can't answer all these questions. I got to go Good evening tony. You mentioned you was blessed in march. I too was blessed my daughter who was special needs started walking She is six years old. God is good. God bless you. Thank for that praise report Kimmel a good evening tony blessing now and the bless tried you've been a blessing to me So i'm sending a blessing you thank you and be well a blessing now you write me the blessing Belle beauty. Okay, Belle. You need a coaching session now. You're writing in with a second question. You need a coaching session I'm not talking about giving second chance to a past relationship. I mean men that have A bad past but making a fresh start. Do they really change? Oh, yeah Oh, yeah, yeah, they changed You must ain't heard about my past You need to read my book. Um real love Read this your book real love. All right, it's on amazon.com. Read that Raven god bless you now being been dating boyfriend for seven years. Okay Okay, four years to many raving. He says he wants to get married, but it's still working on things He hasn't given me a timeline should I wait for eight years or leave it's time to leave You should have left four years ago Clarity and peace god bless you also tony a lot of men are hurting insecure. How can women protect themselves? Keep your legs closed Keep your legs closed Keep your legs closed that that's the door to your soul Aliyah, all right, y'all I got to go to my last question now anything after this you just send him a blessing You just send him a blessing. This is the last question of lia Ever since I cut communication off with baby daddy. He doesn't try To daughter or call anymore to see our daughter used to call and see haven't been intimate in over three years Aliyah that lets you know where it's hard at that it's not about his daughter It was just about keeping his hooks in you. It was just about the soul tie with you that You was with a grown boy and he's still a grown boy So you got to be like good riddance and be okay And now you got to be a hundred percent to your daughter Don't expect him to be 50% and you just being 50% you'd be a hundred percent All right, my phone got 20% battery left. So it's time for me to go in the way Hey, thank y'all so much. God bless you. I really appreciate you. Um tomorrow night I'm gonna be tied up Helping a family member with some so I don't know if I'll be able to do a live tomorrow night So I let y'all know, you know, probably by eight thirty or nine on the community page If I be going live, um, thank you to the moderators for helping me out tonight Um, I don't know who I was on here. I see caramel kids and I saw share on there earlier. I think I saw glen rocks makeup on them I don't know if tish or okay mama tish on there I don't know two bellows on there, but um, I appreciate y'all. Thank you. God bless you And we'll talk soon