 Nowadays, or at Calamity Vow on my socials, by the way, do you know how you can interact with us? At White 5 4 Facebook, White 2 5 4 channel on Twitter, White 2 5 4 underscore channel on Instagram. And in fact, in case you've ever missed an interview or you just want to see us again after the show comes to an end, White 2 5 4 channel on YouTube. Now we've reached that time, that tail end of the situation. Same Kyo, Que Le Guys plays, it's just a saying, it's just a phrase. No? Anyway, Dwefkayo Pats, the segment where we have a conversation with Queens. And I think you might enjoy this one, I really really really do, but before we get into it, let me allow them to introduce themselves, saseni. Pocsna aina. Munakavizuot. Thank you. You're new, let's turn it off. Wala, you just introduced yourself to people. Hello, everyone. They're over there. Yes, my name is Marion Tenui, I'm from the University of Nairobi, 4th year student, journalism and media studies. That's, you're almost done? Yep. This year? Next year, mid-May. You have aspirations, do you want to go straight into journalism or, you and Dwefkayo Pats, you want to do something else? I only hope to be a media personality as yourself. I look forward to it. I look forward to it. So, my name is Akumu Aina, I'm also taking journalism in mass communication, and I am an actress. This is the time for us to see each other. Come on, blog or say me, come on. If you want to tweet or say me, you never know who's watching. You can find me on my social media platforms. It's Anna underscore K official. I'm in my entrepreneurship. Where? I'm still there. Thank you. You have marked all of your social media handles. My Instagram is Tenui Marion, just that. Not very good with social media. That's where I am. No dancing? No. No pressure. Can I call you Tenui or Marion? Yes, Anna. Okay, so now the question of the day is, okay, let me paraphrase it before I find it. But technically, what influences your shopping? What influences your purchasing habits? Are we together? And I'd like to look at it from as many angles as possible. But mostly peer pressure for girls, you work somewhere and say, eh, should I go to Gucci? You want to go buy Gucci? We might not be able to buy the actual Gucci, but if you have a plan to buy it, you can buy it. If you want to buy Gucci, you can buy Gucci. So, just off the top of your head, what influences what you buy? Well, lately, in this digital age influences. Should I stay the one influencer? That's fine. Well, Basha, I've seen. Before I started watching her videos, I was a teenager for Maxine. How are you guys? Like, you don't see the major impact. You don't get any kind of soap. You don't have to wear perfume. You don't have to look good-ish. But millions of people watch the videos. I was like, oh, so people do this. Let me try. And of late, I think I'll make one with that trend. We once hosted by Basha, and she said something to me that I will never forget. Like, why do you keep wanting to live hard life? Why? Take the softest route possible. Take it and run. It's quite serious. Basha, I'll never forget you for that. What influences you? Okay. May my greatest influence. I can say, you are my best friend. You see your friends who are on the same level as your group. How you are dressing. When you shop with them. So that influence. Your influence comes from your friends. Especially if you love hanging out with friends. You are the best. What kind of group? You just associate with your friends. It's more of you feel you belong to them. What impact do you have on your friends? What happens when... Okay, let me put it like this. Let me use me as an example. I have a side note. Do you have like a circle of friends and another circle of friends but I always call for some reason. Say you want to go out, but they are also different. They just won't ever. So I have that kind of one circle, one circle, one circle. But there is a circle of friends who are anti-warm adults. Anti-warm adults. Anti-warm adults. Anti-warm adults. Anti-warm adults. You can attempt to be like her, but you don't know who she is. Roho first. And all other organs and body parts. So what happens when you have someone like that in your life? Yes, you are inspired. But it's just not working out. You can try faking it until you wake it up. But it's not working out. It's just not working out. You can't do it. So what happens in that particular situation? But you feel it's more of establishing where you stand. You have confidence about yourself. You have confidence about yourself. You have confidence about yourself. You have confidence about yourself. So it's not a matter of when you are going to wake up. You just go out and play. You just go out and play. You don't want to be surprised. So you have confidence in yourself. You don't want to be impressed. I like it. So I'm beginning to have confidence. I need you to move a little bit to this side. There we go. The hashtag remember is WCW. That takes a certain kind of confidence to be around people who say that I am poor. And I am not a good person. so you can look now again with the circle and circle so I have another circle of friends where but they notice Josie to keep a baby town to know how to do keep them better to know something when they are minding business yeah everywhere from every corner on a sketch maybe gonna fly like that we're glad you found something that you like to see but not once have I ever felt they need to compete with them and I'd like to take the same as to let confidence levels a tool and we look different in our own ways but we're very confident yeah that's my favorite thing about I am not to them so in that aspect I think we can borrow from each other like yeah is this not how life was meant to be lived no competitions are healthy kind of friendships yet he you just step back you evaluate your friendships because it's not that's not how friendship supposed to be should be healthy should be embracing each other's differences and complimenting at the same time you have to take photos and then by that time you're not your best self at that moment you're like what the hell anyway we should be sensitive to each other's because confidence levels sometimes they fluctuate that doesn't mean your beauty has changed yeah fun fact maybe it's fine it is fine so that is one way to look at how what influences rather our purchasing like you said now you have an influencer coming at you post-flagging admin admin a make a trooper to come in a girl or not number Naki pal a Facebook quite to five or so see me on and he got you I'm like what's this so the first thing I did is what start stalking I'm not ready I'm not paying social media in as I get stuck down like once in every five days or something which is I need to amend but I'm not usually like that so I mean I mean I mean see see see see what any person any personality yeah so that I if I wanted to feel bad you get that cocoon for well one day could you serve the life life decisions I'm only getting one at a question in kill a time and it's a why not pay another woman who can only show me and pay another time kid over spent in Sharia care to just buy a pair of shoes masterpiece took a picture with Now, everyone is under a serious pressure. They are like the ones in the school. They are so calm. They are like the ones in the school. They are like ones in the school. They are like the ones in the school. They are like the ones in the school. They are expensive. They are like the chief of Hamca, the ones who象lessly wear gloves. Actually, that's what I'm buying. Have you ever felt that kind of influence in your life? Like the pressure on teenagers and young stars is really important to you. Even older than us, I'm sure they face some kind of pressure. Yes, I'm so conscious of you. Yes, tell us. Can I say it in the form of the workplace? That's fine. Say we are interns, and then there's no casual vibe on campus. But if you're working in a city, people with heels, you're working with heels in town, in Adihapa, they have flashy, new clothes, and you're just there with your campus clothes in Zagicomba, but you have to survive. So in terms of the influence, let me just take this one to add to the collection. And lately that has been influencing my spending, my budget. You have to look the part. So I'd say that. So instead of cooking in the kitchen, what do you do? I cook. Oh my God! I want to keep you. No, I don't want to keep you. No, I don't want to keep you. No, I don't want to keep you. You can't just leave it like that. You can't leave it like that. Okay, that's fine. Next. But I think it's a positive way. Because you don't want to lag behind. You have to keep up. See, if you're a person with a vision, if you're a director, you can't be constant. So we grow. As much as we grow, we have to take new things, taking new ideas, new looks. Yeah. And if you're a person with confidence, you feel motivated. You can feel confident when you're doing the interview. Yeah. You can feel confident when you're doing the interview. So you can look it in a positive way. Yeah. When I was growing up, I did not enjoy makeup. In fact, I did not enjoy being a girl. Wow. My clothes are T-shirts and jeans and sneakers. So you can't say, Mom, I'm going to be a boy this year. It's hard to be a girl. I'll take ten minutes. I'm going to go home and I'll take ten minutes. Ten. I don't... I might even just forget that I'm not a girl. I'm not a girl. So now, as I continued, I went to school. And when I went to school, I liked nice things. I liked nice things, but I didn't have a good budget. So what had happened, I had to take a job. I had a lot of wages, but I didn't have a campus. So I had a lot of wages. I didn't have to pay for cancer. I had to start putting on makeup. I was like, why? No more. I didn't have a good budget. They face it then. Yeah, they face it then. I had to put on makeup. I was like, ah. So I remember the first time when I was working, I was like, how? For like a week. I laughed at all the other girls in the office. What did we say? But don't tell anyone. Don't tell anyone. Don't tell anyone. Don't tell anyone. No, no. So I was like, I was like, I had to go buy makeup, guys. That's the first time I bought makeup in my life. And then they had to give me tutorials. Like, guys, teach me how to do these things. Like, even if it's Ghani, now look at me with lashes. I even prepared. I started to work. I could fly any minute. So that was one of the things that influenced me. That's why it's not such a big deal for me now when I'm on speed to have makeup because I'm already wearing a mask. So I was like, I'm going to go to places with a mask. Is there something that has influenced you like that? Ha. Food. You don't eat food. I eat food. You know, some days, you plan, I'll have breakfast in the morning. I'm going to have lunch. I'm going to go home and take supper. And then you meet with your friends. I'm going to the club. And then they start enticing you. I'm 50 Bob2. Me? I'm a cook. A girl. A burger. Me? I'm a cook. I'm a surgeon. Me. Your ego is wounded. So you have to defend your honor. I don't need to. And like, so you can spend so much in a week for food, something that's, Inama, you know, for the greater good. So, I'll tell you that. Among the people who eat at home before lunch, okay. Among the people who packed lunch. Yeah. I'm Jamiangong Road. Before lunch, Kenyatta, packed lunch, Tisha. No. Never again. After the war, I'm going to make a relationship study. No relationship study. You started off as friends. After lunch, it's okay. It's okay. Yeah. So, there are a few instances where I'm going to go shopping. During, I'm going to go shopping. Every, I'm going to go shopping. I'm going to go shopping. I'm going to go shopping. I'm going to go shopping. I'm going to go shopping. I'm going to go shopping. So, there are a few things that we want to do... You know, but no one can change things. Yeah. So, which one looks better on me? Yes, but one day, hey, it depends on your. Here, I'm going to lie in your bed. Here, there's this, when I'm friends, you guys say you have my bar, blah, blah, blah. We just go. So, and you know what to look like, wow. Hey, so, you can sit at home and enjoy the food. Yes? Yes. You don't have money. And then you don't have money. Hey, where? Fuliza. I know you're looking for money to buy something and you're just going to buy it. You're a grown-up. You're a grown-up. But you're still in pressure because you know it's just money. You're just going to buy something. You're just going to buy it. Imagine if you find a specific shoe that you don't know, I was like, you know, I'm not a fan of this. I'm not a fan of this. Then you just end up buying. In a video, you try. I'm not the kind of girl who thinks that I'm a bombay lady design. It's just that I'm not good at it. But sir, I had no option. I'm not good at it. So I took the school, the school, the school. I took it. I was like, hey, I'm ready. The shoe is not there. So I'm not good at it. And so since then, I'm like, I was so impressed and I was so happy I was like, I'm so happy I was so happy I was so happy I was so happy I was so happy I was so happy But that's happened to both your experiences I love the club I love the club I love the club I love the club You just have to I love the club I love the club Even me My heart is beating I am happy I am so happy All right, I love the club I love the events For example It's a pressure I have experienced once or twice I love the club I don't know what I'm saying. I don't know what I'm saying. For example, let's say, blankets. For example, I'm saying I'm going to save. And I'm going to say, hey, soulfest. I don't know what I'm going to break up though. Anytime I take about that break up, I... Heartbreak. Anyway, so to say I'm going to soulfest. I'm going to save. I'm going to save. I love to pay or drop. I'm a forum and I always show up to, QM charges you all. I don't know what I'm saying. I even think it's my birthday. Let's say your group of five is my birthday. I don't know what I'm saying. All the people who come to see me, I don't know what I'm saying. Can you all see yourself? You'll see yourself going to tell us. You'll tell me about that. I've heard that dinner is so happy. I also saw that picture from the lights. All my videographers were like... to capture the perfect moment at the other event graduation don't graduate how? how even? how? how? like you said now happy you're graduation talk to me about these events to give us pressure one good thing I like about regarding events graduation, birthdays even just a dinner you might not have something nice in your closet one good thing about tiktok is they give you places not hidden gems per se but when you put places where you can get good things at a good price I have lifesavers in that point you don't have to go all out just need to accessorize just a bit and then you can end up looking okay so that's the good thing when you're on a budget you find nice things at 5 or 6 in the morning and gambles I am a what I am a what when you go home you find you have a good haul and say that's a lifesaver honestly I am a victim I apologize to my friends yeah I am a victim I apologize to my friends yeah it's life it's life okay but I feel in these events if at all it's announced if it gives you time you can get that time you can save up for you just find something I am a what I am a what I am a what I am a what you can try tell me about that experience first actually it's hers it's yours I am a what I am a what I am a what you save you save with a group of people and swear when you have a treasure and a friend of yours disappear oh no please so a treasure can disappear and then you make up a money you're like wow I am a what I am a what I am a what I am a what I am a what I am a what yeah it was an experience on its own so if you like come and itch maybe you can do something you make it formal you can contract I think that's better yeah but there is a life saver when it comes to events yeah at least you can plan yourself if you allow me just to ask the last question on that particular stage how long was this saving happening for like I make a tomb true for months and months wow so you really want to know but it was the last question okay okay it was three months it was three months like you're doing more of a business thing like you're investing you're investing there so you as much as you're saving this money use it to create to business so so so and then yeah so but I so distribute the money and it happened that way but it's an experience I don't want to remember I'm sorry I'm thinking at a source spot but maybe you never know who's watching like so maybe who knows who's saving and investing thing all over there yesterday we were talking about success and failures and I heard something that she said we don't celebrate failures we really don't all we do is celebrate successes but you've succeeded but when you fail or when you feel like you failed again failure is very relative and that's very very important and that's very very important I'm very sorry but you see me talk up in a lesson say I want to just contract you like to formalize everything formalize sweethearts formalize talk you see now you're even advising you came out much better the way I'm having fun you like it we don't have any dog anyway hashtag is moving on swiftly so we've been largely talking about so in the event that so that so excuse me I'm nice sorry I'm nice alright so I'm nice and for some reason my favorite color is green but I'm blue yellow, black, white everything but the favorite color of I'm nice you see would you just go even buy a towel your green at least that's not affecting your money or your spending habits I'm over it I'm over it I'm over it look at the way looking at me avoiding my eyes make eye contact happen to a friend we can always do I know a friend wow wow so thank you well it's one thing to try to appreciate you say nice there's a thin line between trying to appreciate them and show them that I'm being a pleaser I don't want to be a loser because let's say I'm a green but what if you don't look nice in green you just okay I used to date someone who was very how do you say manipulative and I would say according to you we're going to have dinner tonight wear that nice black dress who's got a nice black dress you have to go you seek out your friends you have to go and spend again and influence how you your budget so it's just sometimes you just know where to that's one experience okay okay you can yeah how did you know when enough was enough I'm not doing this anymore thank you oh it's just romantic it's just a breakup but I can't remember the lyrics but when did you say you're influencing me and it's not in a way that I like when it got to the point it can either lead to emotional abuse or even to some extent physical like when you're being led out of the door or something if not done what he wanted so you know your girlfriend yes we don't want to see you in the news just take a bow so yes you're getting a hug after this of course yeah me I feel the moment is more fun that's the end of it without even attempting to make an argument apart from for example when you're having a birthday you're getting into a market you're getting into a big market you're getting into an industry it's kind of like if it's possible in this hour okay you can please him but he's not here especially we are talking about when he opened So you don't see you have that self-respect that away like you do you shouldn't Let him a cool manipulate a cool control I think of better words cause Anna come here because you're like you have to please him I draw as much as you want to be submissive you want to please your guy you shouldn't let him be in control So Well, I can come here if you my noise no if he doesn't respect that Okay, you don't want to do it. It's fine, babe. It's okay And then at least that I actually come here where you like Oh, I don't know is a change mind because you have any react so first reaction. Yeah, it had it. I mean if yeah Sometimes you test this man Because So first reaction to many a talk on beer next time maybe you can choose you can change your mind Willingly because you want to impress him, but not because he wants you to do what he wants Yeah It can be it in that perspective Searching you know, I'm Stephanie. Hey, so at Stephanie on everything by them what it she gave us statistics that were Insane to say the least to say the what Because she was talking about gender-based violence in all its forms and I think mostly was physical violence like and 30% of urban females can and females Think it's no more to be beaten and then scenarios were put out 50% of it were rural areas and we Attributed that to a head is out in a pot. I don't like And I attributed that to you know traditions and maybe lack of awareness, but also Africans, you know, sometimes some things are set in stone or so we think so on a carb Mama like one of my dad only wanna figure mom at a mime more and it's a big baby. I'm gonna see big way. That's You need a hug Hashtag is that we sit up is anyway One of the scenarios was for example at a foodie kitchen maker 26 I'm a 16% something with a six, but not six percent either 26 or 36 percent of females Kenyan females thought it was okay for your husband to beat you come on I am another city foot foot is due what percent come on come on People argue guys, it's part of communication But apparently if you talk back to him another city how many percent Yeah What yeah, I told you insane to say the least to say the least So I'm imagining if your love language of gifting is different for example Where we want to buy a Semisocs Maybe you bought him a book Maybe you'd like to read maybe you know the importance of reading but they are tacky yeah Whatever he wanted a watch And then his response Who that affect your purchasing power now you say anyway we He has every right. Oh my god. No, it does not but Would that affect your purchasing power to affect more than your purchasing budget One thing a very unpopular opinion people say that men should be the providers Yes, we're in digital aid where women can also be providers as well But in a fuck picker the extent where I am willing to buy for you something if you want to chicken fine If I can afford it, it's not it should not burn a hole in my pocket Don't you could please I could give it a little I have and when I have more Because you should be you should appreciate the little and then when you guys grow together and you earn more and you're growing your careers You can now Take the big leaps can go on vacations. You can have all the things you want But say in our setup since it was your compass Money would get either from our parents or if you are having a business on the side the profits maybe here and then we Go on go to the limb for you and you buy you something you go ahead and turn it down and demand something else No, not a car. We still It's not a lot of money. I'm a obey a obey to me at a cunning water shatty too, and then he doesn't wear it Oh babe, thank you, but you know, I wear a lot for a man of conditions. Oh Thank you, but I wear some Hey Why you not appreciating me oh seep on you appreciate it. I don't think your relationship with a few chacoise You have to appreciate the little Muki grow you know at least I expect Financially So you just have to appreciate don't give me conditions No, I think that's a sign for you to bow out You need to be appreciated in all Levels And then and in the out and he's making demands that's not that's not even real Love so to say although I couldn't love Watch us at Yeah, and I want to ask you the Time I don't know where it goes when we have it took the time See what I did there Anyway, I want to ask you and please answer me very honestly. It's the opposite true Should your men nice I'm on poor uncle. I'll be a kid. Oh, no. Jolly. So this on a major layer But there's a way There's just a way There's just a way warm is where certain life certain types of things. Yeah, what are you going to do you going to tell him? But it's okay It's fine Me I feel okay by the time I think a couple pair gifts come any love language And a fuck was up some I should reveal a Drain any me the quality of things you like Vito not in a corner You can't say that you're a girl You can't say that You're just a girl How can I put it? See how difficult it is It's very easy to say when it's about You're just a girl You're just a girl You're just a girl I just want to say that I have to prepare conditions Okay, I just want to say that I'm just a girl I just want to say that Oh my god I'm singing mine Okay, we should just go back to that level I appreciate it I just appreciate You're just a girl You're just a girl I just want to say that I have to say that I have to try I have to try But I have to say that I have to level up I have to try I have to dress I have to dress I have to dress I have to dress I have to dress You're just a girl You're just a girl You're just a girl It's a hard question It's so hard It's really easy to talk about him when he's doing something When you're doing something for him but when he's doing something for you it's a little bit harder most people for me the littlest things I usually I'm so happy I got many I spoke hey I got your I spoke on my way here and it's very I'm not talking about these no I I don't think it's a challenge first of all to me milk in a bear smoky that's that yeah it's it's deep but I'm not talking about these day-to-day things I'm talking about significance present like yes he's been doing these lovely things in between here and there but when it comes to you anniversary I am both past day something something just something that's really significant for you where you expect someone to go a little bit higher than they've been going but that's the higher yeah then what happens you have to appreciate what if you guys you know it's ground being gratitude cultivating it's welcome mighty my say you never to come over because I say you know that I'm a best friend your girlfriends I love you but that now I'm out and I'm a buffoon change all for appreciation I'm grateful I'm not going to be a good sister no no no no no We just imagine something that is quality and there is a standard for you to be able to do it For example, you were expecting the Ruan and instead you got something else that is not the Ruan You can style it I'm not sure Like where you guys are being optimistic We are trying to look for options It's not easy by the way Today I said we are going to take a moment of silence for the boy children Just a moment to appreciate you and everything that you do When you are not sick, when you have affairs, when you are at home, when you are at home When you have a family to feed, we appreciate you But before we do that, please, for the last time because now we can't leave, we have to go Please do give me your social media If you have last words or something that you would like to tell the audience And if you could repeat your social media handles I have loved the conversation It has been so nice I'm like, wow, anyway Thought process Yeah, I have meditated, I have thought about it But yeah, I've liked the conversation And I would say that we learn to appreciate Yeah, we learn to appreciate the smallest gifts we've given And don't force issues to fit our budget Have your own standard, have your own confidence Yeah, so thank you so much My social media handles, like I said, Anna and the school care official Every social media platform Thank you, Anne There's a lady of few words One thing I'd like to say, thank you for having us here It's been lovely To the girl child out there Who is in a situation where You don't have your pockets How easy to sustain Or even to sustain your beloved It's about time you have that conversation with that person And if the worst comes to the worst You better just end things For your own safety For your own mental health Good, positive mental health Meet on the positive for me So walk out of situations where you don't feel appreciated Because you need to know your worth My Instagram handle is Tenry Margin Just like that Alright, thank you so very much Both of you ladies, you have been wonderful Thank you I don't think I've... That's an example of how I was scared of By the fact that you have made my heart sing I really like this conversation Like I said, one moment of silence Guys, that I'm done, I'll let you into a joy moment Thank you so much for your social media handles So we're together This is for all the boy children out there Who are doing what they need to do And perhaps not being appreciated For the ones who are being appreciated But don't feel like they're being appreciated enough For the ones who wake up Whether they're being appreciated or not We appreciate you Moment There we go That's why I found Facebook Y254Channel on Twitter Y254UnderscoreChannel on the gram Hashtag of the day has been WCW My name is Valentine Or at Color Me Val And we have been in studio with Grashamayangi And on behalf of us both Have a wonderful day We'll see you when we see you