 فشرف بالشتغالي بالعلم ولا تبغي به ما عشت يا دا دا دا لا وياله من شراف عظيم إن الحمد لله نحمده ونستعينه ونستوفره ونعوذ بالله من شرور أنفسنا ومن سيئات عمالنا من يهده الله فلا مضل له ومن يضل الفلا هادي له وشد الله إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له وشد أن محمد عبده ورسوله يا أي والذين آمنوا اتقوا الله حق تقاته ولا تموتنا إلا وانتم مسلمون يا أي والناس اتقوا ربكم الذي خلقكم من نفس واحدة وخلق منها زوجها وبث منه مارجالا كثيرا ونساء والتقوا الله الذي تساءلون به ولا رحام إن الله كان عليكم رقيبا يا أي والذين آمنوا اتقوا الله وقولوا قولا سديدا يصلح لكم أعمالكم وينفلكم ذنوبكم ومن يطع الله ورسوله فقد فاز فوز العظيما أما بعد فإن أصدق الحديث كتاب الله تعالى وخير الهدي هدي محمد ابن عبد الله صلى الله عليه وسلم وشر الأمور محدثاتها وكل محدثة بدعة وكل بدعة ظلالة وكل ظلالة في النار أحبت أصدقائي وصديقائي اليوم إن شاء الله تعالى وما يجب أن يكون كارتوريستيكات من أصدقائي سأكون كارتوريستيكة وصديقائي لكم all إن شاء الله تعالى وفي هذا الموضوع أجد أن أصدق حقيقة لن يجب أن نستطيع أن أفهم الكثير من of us are living different to the reality كل now and then I receive emails I get calls and I receive emails and calls from our brothers and sisters our youngsters, our youths, your children and then I come across the parents and I look at how they are and their situation and I see that the child and the parents are on two different waves they are on two different paths it is as though the parents haven't yet understood there's a responsibility on them that is what I'm trying to say الإمام مسلم رحمه الله بروتيني الصحيح إن كتابه الإيمان من حديثه مع قلبن يسان الرضي الله تعالى عم ما من عبد يسترعيه الله رعية يموت يوم يموت وهو غاشه للراعيته إلا حرم الله عليه الجنة There is not a person الله places responsibility on His or her shoulder and they come and they have forsaken that responsibility except جنة has been made haram from them Responsibilities have been placed on each and every one of you الله تعالى تباركة و تعالى made you responsible for these children your children are selling drugs your doltors are committing zina and you still haven't woken up to the responsibility on you الله is going to ask you the day of judgement كلكم راعن وكلكم مسؤولون عرايتي كلهم يصدرون وكلهم يتحدثون بذلك ويجب أن يكونوا يساعدين حين نتجربون أمي كافي؟ حين نتجربون ونعرف بحقيقة؟ Our children are long gone. They are going every day as it goes by. And we are not yet realizing that we have to get hold of them. And how can we do that؟ And we have to establish our households in the correct manner. The person who built his house upon piety and God consciousness is he like the one who doesn't? The poet he said You tied your child or you take a person you tie them from their hands and you throw them into the ocean or the sea and you say to them Be careful, don't let the water touch you. You are the ones who brought these children into this country. And now you want them to not fall into the traps and the plans and the plots of this land and these people and you haven't prepared him for it. You haven't educated him. Our messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام he took this responsibility serious. He made sure his companions they were nurtured correctly. لك وهي سات صلوات الله والسلام عليك To the noble companion عبد الله من عباس يا غلام إني أعلمك كلمات إحفظ الله يحفظك إحفظ الله تجده تجاهك إذا سألت فسأل الله وإذا استعانت فاستعين بالله وعلم أن الأمة لو اجتمعوا على أن يفعوك بشيء لم يفعوك إلا بشيء قد كتبه الله لك وإن اجتمعوا على أن يضروك بشيء لم يضروك إلا بشيء قد كتبه الله لك عليك رفع عادي الأقلام وجفة الصحف Our messenger teaches this noble companion يا غلام أو ينبوي He didn't take him as though he's a little child He took him responsible and he made sure he taught him and educated him By beloved brothers and sisters The house is It's لابنة المجتمع It is the foundation of a society If you want to know a society is corrupt A society is finished Just look at their households The household is like the heart إلا وإن في الجسد مضغى إذا صلحت صلحة الجسد كله وإذا فسدت فسدت الجسد كله إلا وهي القلم The messenger said in the human there's an organ And if this organ is not taken care of And it's not observed Then the whole of the body of the person will become corrupt As the poet said وكل إناء بالليدي فيه ينضحوا Every vessel will only sweat was inside it A society will only produce what they bring up in their own households Allah says in the Quran Trying to show us سبحانه وتعالى That the household is a place where we need to find tranquility But a lot of us don't find tranquility in our own households الله سبحانه وتعالى يسيد والله جعل لكم من بيوتكم سكنة وجعل لكم من جلود الأنعامي بيوتك تستخفونها يوم الضعلكم ويوم إقامتكم ومن أصوافها وأوبارها وأشعارها أتاتنا ومتاعا الإلاحين والله جعل لكم من ما خلق ذلالا وجعل لكم من الجبال أكنانا وجعل لكم صرابيلة تقيكم الحر وصرابيلة تقيكم بأسكم كذلك يتم نعمته وعليكم لعلكم تسلمون فإن تولوا فإنما عليك البلاغ المبين يعرفون نعمة الله ثم ينكرونها وأكثرهم الكافرون إن بيسباس الله تبارك وتعالى يتلزس والله جعل لكم من بيوتكم سكانا والله يجعل لكم بأسكم مدينة ومدينة هل نحن نجد مدينة ومدينة المدينة لكثيرا مننا لا ولماذا؟ لأنك تجعل لكم بأسكم أكثر كراب than the streets أنت لديك 50 إنج بلازمة تليويشن وانت تجعل لكي رأيك 24-7 ونحن تسلمون يوم يوم يوم وكي رأيك مع حرام الإنقام الذي يأتي لكي وذلك يجعل لكي يأتي بأسكم والله يجعل لكي رأيك يجعل لكم بأسكم رجل يطيل السفر أشعز أغبر يمدوا يديه إلى السماء يا رب يا رب ومطعمه حرام وملبسه حرام وغضية بالحرام فأنه يستجاب لذلك أمان الذي يمتلك يمتلك من one land to another وانت تبارك ومن ثلاثة يجعل لكي رأيك يجعل لكي رأيك ويقول يا رب my lord my lord take me out of the hardship I'm going through and then Allah says he eats haram he drinks haram he was raised upon haram how can this man be accepted my beloved brothers and sisters we have to realize the seriousness of our matter we are living in a time and a place trials and tribulations are coming to us from every direction we need to take the precautions that are needed from us and that is what my topic is about our household for it to be in accordance to how Allah wanted for us to be for us to live in happiness the following things are needed from us the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam he said as Imam al-Tabarani narrated in his Mu'jam al-Awsat and he also narrated it in his Saghir and his Musnad al-Shamiay then the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam he said طوربا لمن ملك لسانه ووسعه بيته وبك على خطئته the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam he told us in his Hanid Prosperity and good be for the one who governs his tongue whose house suffices him and he cries upon his sins how could your house suffice you and how could your house be a place where you find joy and happiness in we are going to mention it the messenger also told us سلامة الرجل في الفترة أن يلزم بيته the messenger said A person to find safety from the times of trials and tribulations it's for him to stay in his household it's to stick in your household so why is it that a lot of us don't find that it's the following reasons the first one is أن مؤسسها على تقوى من الله that we build our households in the remembrance of Allah سبحانه وتعالى a lot of us we bring in our households things that we don't need and we have no haja for excessive things and the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam before that الله تبارك وتعالى يسيتو us ولا تبذر تبذيرا إن المبذرين اخوانوا إن المبذرين كانوا اخوان الشياطين وكان الشيطان وليربه كفورا the messenger told us don't be from those who are excessive you bring into your household things you don't need you're placing curtains on the wall and your children are in more need the sad reality is that people will spend more money in decorating the house but when it comes to the Quran classes and the madrasa they will delay they will delay the madrasa money they won't pay the teacher will be asking for it or will be prolonged but they will be decorating the house and make sure that the house or the grinding beast looks good one of the ways is to marry a righteous wife a woman who's going to help you raise righteous children الله سبحانه وتعالى says in the Quran وأنكيح الأيامة منكم والصالحين من عبادكم وعمائكم الله says marry the righteous one from amongst you because the righteous one is the one that's going to help you the prophet said الدنيا متاع this world is a very short joy وخير متاعها المرأة الصالحة and the joy of this world is to find a righteous wife who's going to help you the messenger said تنكح المرأة a woman is married for four things لمالها her wealth ولي حسمها her lineage ولي جمالها her beauty ولي ديليها and her religion فقفها ربي داتي ديلي تريبة يداك hasten to the one who has religion if you marry a woman who doesn't fear Allah why do you expect her to fear you or to listen to you if she doesn't listen to Allah and she doesn't follow Allah's commands then why would you expect for her to listen to you that's why the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said ليتخد أحدكم قلبا شاكرا that one of you should take a heart that remembers Allah تبارك وتعالى a gratitude make your heart a place to remember Allah وَلِسَالَنْ دَاكِرَا and make your tongue a thing you remember Allah excessively on and also وَزَوْجَةَ مُؤْمِنَةَنْ تُعِينُ عَلَا أَمْرِنْ آخِرَا and marry a woman who's going to help you in the affairs of the hereafter a woman who's not going to push you to make haram income she's going to help you to make sure that you get halal ولي داك يسالفوا هادي الأمة the pious predecessors their wives would always remind them before they left fear Allah in what you bring home today don't bring us what's haram two things is what Allah mentioned tranquility should be found in I said the ayah before والله جعل لكم من بيوتكم سكلا your house is a place of comfort and your wife should be should be a place of comfort or an individual comfort ومن آياتي أن خلق لكم من أنفسكم أزواجل لتسكلوا إليها so you're meant to find two security two tranquility one should be your house and one should be your wife but why is it that two are not working correctly then that means something is going wrong what is it that's going wrong the reason is because we haven't built our household upon piety ولي داك يسالفوا the children have on you from them is that you marry you make their mother a righteous woman when you're marrying one of the rights that the children have on their parents is that their parents are both righteous the mother has rights and the father has rights I have rights on my father that when he was getting married he should get married to a righteous woman so that my mother can be a righteous woman it's حق من حقوق الأولاد it's a right from the rights of the children that they have on you one of the things my beloved brother and sister that we find that's not fulfilled in the house is Allah's remembrance is dead Allah is rarely remembered and the believer's time is excessively in remembrance of Allah that's why Allah He praised those who remember him He said عظيمة Allah also says or the Prophet ﷺ also said مثل البيت الذي يذكر الله فيه والبيت الذي لا يذكر الله فيه مثل الحي والميت رواه مسلم the house in which Allah is remembered and the house in which Allah is not remembered is a place where it's either dead or alive the place where Allah is remembered so do you remember Allah in your household or does rarely Allah come on your tongue ولي داك one of the things that the Prophet ﷺ told us to do is what that the man should pray his نوافل voluntary prays in the house and go to the Masjid to pray the Jama'a so the voluntary are done in the house why so the house cannot be مقابر and graves one of the ways to remember Allah is when you leave the house to make your dua you say and Imam Abu Dawood narrated this and that the person says also أو أزلة أو وزلة أو أولم أو أظلم أو أجهل أو يجهل عليها and Imam Abu Dawood narrated this also the Prophet ﷺ إذا دخل الرجل بيته or if a person enters his house فذكر الله and he remembers Allah عند الدخوله when he enters it وعند الطعامه and when he's eating food قال الشيطان and the shaytan says لما بيت لكم ولا عشاء today there's no place to stay and there's no food to eat but a lot of us our households is a place where we invite the shayateen and so then we wonder why our relationships and our wives were separating شيطان lives with us we feed the shaytan he sleeps in the house the messenger said and the shaytan would say if the person makes the dua before he enters the house شيطان will say لا مبيت لكم ولا عشاء وإذا دخل if the person enters the house فلم يذكر الله عند الدخوله قال الشيطان I'd like to build a beater but if the person doesn't remember Allah when he enters the house شيطان says today we have a place to stay وإذا لم يذكر الله عند الطعام because he doesn't remember Allah when he's eating his food the shaytan says ادركتم المبيت والعشاء today we have food to eat and we have some way to sleep the Muslim remembers Allah before he goes to sleep before he goes to sleep the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he tells الحديث of the barai بنعازب رضي الله و تعالى عنه قال لي رسول الله the messenger said to me إذا أتيت مضجعك برا if you come to your bed فتوضأوضو أكل الصلاة دو أيو فلوضو ثم مضجع على شقك الإيمن لن لائي on your right side وقول أن نسي اللهم أسلمت نفسي إليك ووجهت وجهي إليك وفوضت أمري إليك وألجهت ظهري إليك رحبة و رغبة إليك لا ملجا ولا منجا إلا إليك آمنت بكتابك الذي أنزلت وبنبيك الذي أرسلت واجعل هن آخر ما تقول متفق عليه يد باسل makes this دعاء and the prophet said make this the last thing which you say before you go to sleep and then when the believer wakes up he says and he's waking up الحمد لله إلا إيلا إي لدي أحيانا بعدما أماتنا وإليه النوشور أبود الإمام البخارية المسلم both narrated it من حديث حديثة حديثة من اليمن and then the believer says when he wants to have relationship with his wife he says اللهم جنني من الشيطان وجنني بالشيطان أما رزقتنا the messenger told us that if a person makes that dua الشيطان will not touch you him and anything from his lineage that comes from it then when the believer goes to the toilet he says اللهم إليه أعوذ بك من الخبث والخبائث وإذا خرجا when he leaves he says غفرانك رواه أبو داود والترميدي that when the person leaves the masjid sorry they leave the toilet they say غفرانك and when they enter it they say اللهم إليه أعوذ بك من الخبث والخبائث متفق العلي a house that is remembered اللهم الشيطان is far from that house it's protected house no one's going to be possessed no one's going to suffer it's a house that's fully looked after then we're going to be making sure that we're raising the right children also my beloved brother and sisters is ذات أن مطهر من المخالفات الشرعية get rid of things that are haram in the households from the things that are haram in the households is اتخاذ التصاوير placing pictures in the households placing and putting pictures in the house والتعليقها على الجدران and placing on the walls the professor of Allah عليه وسلم he told us لا تدخلوا الملايكة كلب ولا تصاوير متفق عليه the angels do not enter a house where a dog is in and there are pictures the عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها she said ان اصحابها the prophet said to her he said it to his wife عائشة ان اصحاب هذه الصوري يعذبون يوم القيامة يقال لهم احيو ما خلقتهم وانا الملايكة لا تدخل بيتن فيه الصور the aisha said that the prophet said to her the people who drew these pictures are going to be severely punished the day of judgment and it will be said to them give life to that which you have created and there really the angels they do not enter the houses where there are pictures in it the other thing is الاختلاط free mixing داخل الميوت in the household and one of the biggest problems that you find our cousins are free mixing and then people say حرام هدكان from this اخوان الاختلاط بين الرجالي men and women free mixing in a household where you're trying to raise your children correctly والله it's something that it's our aqib it's find outcomes are really not loved and they are very harmful the messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام he said stay away from entering onto the women and men and women free mixing فقال رجل من الانصار a man from the people of Ansar he said افرأيت الحمو يا رسول الله what about the relative you're in her in-laws what about the in-laws like my brother my brother to my sitting with my wife by herself the hamu is aqari buzouk the prophet said الحمو الموت he's dead he's the least expected individual now somebody may say والله my brother I know him is very trustworthy and reliable and I also trust my wife I also do and I trust my wife and I trust my brother but I don't trust Shaytan that's the one we don't trust he's the one who's going to cause this problem so our concern is not necessarily the individuals it is Shaytan who will never give up who will love to bring harm and والله brothers and sisters and the emails that I read and the things that I hear of are people who are coming to households and they're free mixing with your daughters and they're sitting with your wives and then the عاقم that come out of you you complain about it اخواني as I say always I'm saying it again الشريعة came to سد الضرائع our religion doesn't just cure problems it prevents the problem from coming it makes sure it puts obstacles in place it told you don't look at women it didn't say to you don't commit zina that's what Allah said ولا تقربوا زينة don't get close to zina he didn't say don't do zina there's a difference what does it mean ولا تقربوا زينة don't do anything that will lead to zina so if you're playing around the edges and then later you fall into the deep end it's your problem إن الحلال بيينون وإن الحرام بيينون وبينهم أمور مشتبهات لا يعلمه إن كثير من الناس فمن اتقى الشبهات فقد استبرال ديني وما وقع في الشبهات وقع في الحرام كالراع يرعى حول الحما يوشك أن يرتع فيه ألا وإن لكل ملك ينحما ألا وإن حم الله يمحارمه ألا وإن في الجسد مضغى إذا صلحت صلحت الجسد كله وإذا فسدت فسدل جسدو كله ألا وهي القل برده وانسسته وقد نهر ونحن مضغى في سيارة نحن المساعدات نحن يرزد المساعدات نرزد المساعدة قبل أن يأتي لا نريد أن نأخذ مدينة لا نريد أن نذهب إلى الدكتز نريد أن نميح صعب نريد أن نجمع أن نذهب إلى الدكتز تحرقه أفضل من قبول تحرقه أفضل من قبول لذلك تأكد أن الشخص الذي يأتي إلى المنزل يأتي إلى المنزل والأسف الذي يأتي إلى المنزل يأتي إلى المنزل يأخذ كل شخص يأتي إلى المنزل ثم إن شاء الله تعالى جيل فريد مجموعة من الناس who are righteous are going to come out from that household المسجد أصول صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول لا يدخلنا رجل بمرأة إلا معادي محرمين أي من يجب أن لا يدخل إلى أسفة إلا أن هناك محرمين معها أنا مجموعة أخي يأتي إلى المنزل أخي أخي أخي يأتي إلى المنزل إذا ليست هناك فتاة يأتي إلى المنزل وديل الله سبحانه وتعالى أخي سأأخي إلى المنزل أخي سأمتلك أخي always أخي نعم شر الله رجل الله سبحانه وتعالى سمعه أخواني our salvation our prosperity is connected to follow these rules الله سبحانه وتعالى فلا وربك لا يؤمنوا لحتى يحكموا كفيما شدر بينهم ثم لا يجدوا في أنفسهم حرجا مما قضيت ويسلم تسليمة الله سبحانه وتعالى وما كان للمؤمن ولا مؤمنة إذا قضى الله ورسوله أمر أن يكون لهم الخيرات من أمرين وما يعصى الله ورسوله فقد ظل ظلالا بعيدا إخواني ليزأ أوامر the belief is known إذا دعو إلى الله ورسول ليحكم بينه أي يقولوا سمعنا وأطعنا the belief is known if he said come الله said come the messenger said he says I hear and I obey you know why he would say I hear and I obey because he knows if he's looking for happiness he knows if he's looking for salvation he knows if he's looking for good it's in the rules of Allah ومن أعرض عن ذكره فإن له معيشة ونكر ونحشره يوم القيامة أعماء قال ربلي محشر تني أعماء وقد كنت مصيرا قال كدالك أتتك أياتنا فنسيتا وكدالك اليوم تنسى you're going to live a hard life when you go against Allah's command and we're seeing it we're reaping those dry those hard painful fruits because of our own actions إخواني protect your children protect your children observe what your children are doing look at their issues you're buying your child a mobile phone you're buying your daughter a laptop you're starting a laptop and you're letting them be as they want you're not observing what they're up to you're not looking at what they're doing where's your responsibility what Allah has placed over you سبحانه وتعالى the reason I'm speaking brothers is because of the pain that I feel and the things that I come across every single day we have to wake up we have to realize what we need to do as Muslims wake up our issue is in our own hands if we solve it and to follow Allah سبحانه وتعالى is come on أقولوا ما تسمعون وأستغفروا الله لي ولكم وليسائل المسلمين من كل دنب فاستغفرواه إنه هو الغفور الرحيم الحمد لله رب العالمين له الحمد الحسن والثناء الجميل وأشد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له يقول الحق وهو يهد السبيل وأشد عند سيدنا ونبينا محمد آخر الأنبياء في الدنيا عصراء وأجلهم يوم القيامة شأنا وذكراء صلى الله وملائكة وصالح من خلقه كما وحد الله وعرف به ودعى إليه أما بعد my beloved brothers and sisters one of the things that we're suffering for why our households are not well is because هجر القراءة القرآن the recitation of the Quran is not on we've exchanged it with music we're putting on music in our households and we've left of putting on Quran the statements of Allah the words of Allah we've left the Quran all of it generally and especially Surat Al-Baqara we've left the Quran عامة and we left Surat Al-Baqara خاصة the Messenger ﷺ and his companions their households was a place which Allah سبحانه وتعالى's words were were reverberating and it was coming out وذلك the Prophet ﷺ he told us لا تجعلوا بيوتكوا مقابرة don't make your household graves إن الشيطان ينفروا من البيت الشيطان runs away from a house التي تقرأ في صورة البقرة a house where Surat Al-Baqara is recited شيطان runs away the Prophet ﷺ also said اقرأ صورة البقرة في بيوتكم فإن الشيطان لا يدخل بيت يقرأ فيه صورة البقرة the Prophet ﷺ said read Surat Al-Baqara in your households for verily الشيطان does not enter a house where Surat Al-Baqara is recited also the Prophet ﷺ said إن الله تعالى كتب كتاما قبل أن يخلق السماواتي الله تبارك وتعالى he wrote in a book before he created the samawat and before he created the earth بألفة عام 2000 before it وهو عند العرش أن الله تبارك وتعالى was at the throne وإنه أنزل فيه آياتين الله has said down two verses ختم بهما صورة البقرة in which he concluded Surat Al-Baqara with ولا يقرأان في دار these two verses are not recited in a house ثلاثة ليال in three nights فيقرأوا هالشيطان and then the shaitan comes close to that house ثلاثة آيات of Surat Al-Baqara أعمل الرسول those three verses are not recited in a house three consecutive nights except shaitan will never come close to that house let alone those family becoming possessed so now do we ask ourselves a sincere and honest question and that question is is that have we followed let alone all of that but some of that for us to take to ourselves that we've done our jobs and this is in the hands of Allah that why our children are not guided I also want to speak to all you youngsters فيقرأوا هالشيطان it is not a justification because of your parents والله you're going to be both in front of Allah who Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala the day of judgment and you're going to be questioned for every single statement you said you will be questioned for everything you looked at you will be questioned for every single thing which you have listened to فيقرأوا هالشيطان privately and privately and publicly the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he told us that the day of judgment there's going to come a group of people they are going to be coming to Allah and all of their actions will be eradicated everything null and void their righteous actions so when the companions were told this they said يا رسول الله لا يُصَلُّد were they not praying were they not fasting were they not coming with righteous actions the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said yes they did ولكنهم إذا خلو بمحاري من الله تهقوها but the problem with them was that when they were private and they had their laptops and they were alone and no one could see them they did every filthy thought that came to their mind and because of that they lost a lot of righteous actions youngsters who are using Facebook Instagram and social media الله can see you سبحانه وتعالى يستخفون من الناس ولا يستخفون من الله وهو معهم إذا يُبيتون مالا يرضى من القول if you are hiding this from your father if you are hiding this from your brother if you are hiding it from somebody you fear or you are concerned about from the community remember you are making Allah the worst the one that looks at you you are respecting the human's eyes from not seeing you do these filthy things or speaking in this filthy manner but الله تبارك وتعالى you make him what أهو ونظرين إليك the lowest of those who look at you have shyness of Allah have concern of him سبحانه وتعالى youngsters you have a life ahead of you make sure you benefit from this opportunity you have life doesn't repeat itself you don't get this chance again and once it goes you're not going to receive it fill this mashallah smart brain of yours which you have fill it up with the remembrance and the verses of Allah سبحانه وتعالى there's going to come a day والله in which you're going to look back and you're going to regret it and I always remind myself and I say to myself that every single person is going to taste from the bitterness bitterness of the cup of death everyone will regardless of who you are and regardless of how high you are and regardless of how rich you are and how blessed you are you're going to taste the cup of death everyone it's just that we're all in a line and some people are tasting it before others but every single one of us is going to taste that cup I just make sure that when it comes to you that day which you have to taste it and which you have to die make sure you have died and you have come with righteous action because you have nothing else to befriend you this individual that you're hanging around with this friend that you think he's your boy he's your homie he's your man he's whatever he is for you والله he's the first one who's going to forsake you in this world and والله is going to forsake you in the day of judgment for sure الله تبارك و تعالى it tells us يوم يفر المرء من أخي و أمه و أبي و صاحبته و بني your friends are going to run away from you even right now if you look at them they run away from you if you committed a crime the police court you red handed doing that crime they will never say to the police officer let me take the charges for him they will forsake you and they have nothing to do with you فَاليَنْضُرْ أَحَدَكُمْنْ يُخَالِلُوا you're of the religion of your friend look at you you befriend a lot of the youngsters they believe this person it's safe for you والله they are with you for nothing except what they can receive from you the only friend that you have as I was saying the only friend that you have is your actions the prophet said you know what a friend is what is the true meaning of a friend the ones that's with you through thick and thin isn't that what a friend is that's what your actions are it will stay with you معك when everything else leaves you يَتَّمِعُ الْمَيْيُ الْتُثَلَاتَةَ Three things would go with you to the grave and they would two are going to go back and one is going to go inside the grave with you What is the one that's going to go in the grave with you? Your actions That's the only friend that you have Make sure you look after that friend Make sure you accumulate so much righteous deeds How can you come with righteous actions? Just two things. Memorize that If you haven't understood all the parts of the خُجبة just remember these two. What are they? Make sure you accumulate so much righteous actions and stay away from what you're prohibited from أنت خير من زكاها أنت وليها ومولاها ربنا آتنا في الدنيا حسنة وفي الآخرة حسنة وقلع ذاب النار يا مقلب القلوب ثبت قلوبنا على ديرك وأطمص الله