 Thursday, the 29th of April, 2021. My name is Ramaguko. As always, it's a pleasure having you sick around this particular program. Today, we have a lot in store for you. When it comes to this particular show, remember we come to each and every Thursday from 11 a.m. to 12 a.m. on the repeat of this particular program every Thursday from 10 p.m. Very good morning to you. The hashtag, as always, is Power Talk Show on Twitter. Today, our conversation is about a man's ego. Understanding a man's ego. What is it about a man's ego that turns people off when it comes to relationships? Does a man's ego come in the way? How can a man prevent his ego from getting in the way of their relationship? Do men need to learn about controlling their ego? Do men need to apologize more? What is it that turns you off when it comes to a man's ego? Today, we want to understand what a man's ego is all about from a man's perspective. That's right. Today, the conversation that we're going to have, I shall, I am joined by Samuel Fula. He is a psychologist, he is a pastor, and a counselor, and a relationship expert. Karubusana. Asante Ram. I'm also joined to my extreme left by none other than the man himself, smart joker, a comedian. Karubusana, smart joker. Asante. Karubusana. What is the title of this song, Zote? I'm a pastor, psychologist. I'm a Zote to scale now. I mean, the sweet talking, the smiling. I'm a talker, I'm a talker, I'm a lawyer, I'm a team officer, I'm a playbicker, I'm a food psychologist. You know what Zote's father is, Zote? See, he is a chicken engineering officer. What is a food psychologist? A food psychologist. He is a psychologist, he is a psychologist. He is a chef. The hashtag always is part of show. The hashtag at Ram Aguko, at Y254China, make sure that you give us your take in regards to this. What is the amount that men need to address when it comes to their ego? Does it come in their way? Well, most ladies say that they don't understand a man's ego. They say that they can't understand how it works, and that's why people get to disagreements. Today, let's talk about it with men. Hello, come on now, man. She doesn't understand how it works, she doesn't understand how it works, that you can't just allow things to just pass because of your ego. And I say, I must deal with it perpendicularly. The hashtag is part of show. At Ram Aguko, at Y254China, gentlemen, to have some conversations. Let me start to do a fuller. When a man's ego is put to the test, what is it that people need to understand about a man's ego that the society doesn't really understand and what is it that is wrong, particularly, that is there in a man's ego? You see, a man's ego is the way a man sees through the lens of life. How a man perceives himself. What a man thinks of himself, that is the ego of a man. So, many people fail to understand a man based on how a man understands himself. Now, do you think it is due to culture that you have grown up here? Yes. In a little bit of a background, when you grow up, when you grow up, as a man, when you grow up, your dad is doing something. You learn from your father. You have seen men in your culture handling themselves in a way. So, when they grow, they know this is how a man should be handled. So, it is being otherwise, it becomes a problem for the man because he is trying to protect his ego. Do women understand this particular phenomenon? It becomes a problem to many women, especially, you see also how a woman is brought up. There are women that, when you grow up, a man should be handled in a certain dimension. There are things a man should not do. There are things a woman should... There are women that say, you can't raise your voice at me. And there are men that have grown knowing if you have to address a woman and if a woman has to respect you, you must raise your voice. If a woman has to say, where I come from? Where I come from. People don't do this. Women don't do that. Yes. He is the pride of a man. I think that if a man has a hand in a woman, he should be handled in a certain way. If a man has a hand in a woman, he should be handled in a certain way. If a man is able to handle a woman in a certain way, he should be able to handle a woman in that manner. The things that a man should touch for fear of man he should be able to handle is a!! The two men say, in that way, If you want to know how I talk to Western people, you have to do research on how do they behave, how do they talk, how do they eat? How do they eat? So, I can research about that. From the first statement I come from the West, I can study from that. I think from the first statement I come from the West, I can study from that. But I don't know if you know anything about it, you don't know if you know anything about it, you don't know. Yes, I know everything. I come later, I come to the menu, I go to the menu. Which means, you serve, but as far as I know you don't serve. So you can talk to people and you'll find out what their works are. For example, I don't know what they are or what they are or what their jobs are. For example, I don't know what their jobs are, I understand what they're doing, as far as I know they're both working, Here, I cannot cook because I'm not good at cooking. I'm not good at cooking because I'm not good at cooking. That is the problem. That is the problem. In college, I used to go to school. I used to go to school. I used to go to school. I used to go to school. I used to go to school. Society, women, what? Women. When I started my organization, I used to work. I was a girl child. I used to go to school. When I was about to go to school, I had a father. In 1954, I was a father, but he was a young man. When a man is put on the spot in the house, As a woman, I don't know if it does or not. Can it affect a man's ego? It surely will in a great way. Because no man wants to marry another man. No man wants to date another man. So if you are coming into my life, it does not make my life better in any way. Why should I have in my life? The question is, okay, you need a woman. Yeah, you need a woman. To cook for you. And you see the roles of a woman are properly spelled in the society. For example, maybe say cooking, washing of utensils. You don't expect a man, say a man has a woman in his life and in his house. And it's the man that is waking up in the morning to wash utensils. So the roles of a woman, they are very clear in society. The roles of a woman are very clear in society. The roles of a man are very clear in society. So no man will want to stay or to have a woman in his life that does not know her roles in society. It's not women's oppression. We are talking about a man who came in the morning to wash utensils. Seriously, what is it if a man just decides to say, hey, you went to work, I also went to work. I went to pick up the baby. Nimbaya. That one, from where we come from. From where we come from, it doesn't work that way. Actually, maybe talk of a modern day woman. Maybe talk of a modern day woman. But one thing we must all agree on is that when you date a woman or when you marry a woman, you're not just dating or marrying that woman. You are dating and marrying the people that raised that woman. The whole family. Yes. When you are dating a man, you are dating the people that raised that man. So in society, how the man was raised, he was raised knowing that these are the roles of a woman. For example, let me use an example of where I come from. Where I come from, you see, what is expected of a woman is that when a woman wakes up in the morning, she will single-handedly prepare breakfast. One, clean the kitchen. Prepare breakfast. After preparing breakfast, clean, wash clothes, wash utensils. After there, you go, you know, take care of yourself. Come, preparing lunch. Those are the roles of a woman. But the man who was raised here in Gikomi. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. In Nimbaya. Just like the name says, you can go up first. So she is still here? That should be her dream in life. If I am a soul, you know very well. You can cook, you can wash the utensils, you can take care of the household chores. So how many people tell you, I won't cook. As a woman's life depends and how bad it is, I don't have a wife. I have a wife. But my wife is young. She is a pique. I was pique when I was young. But I was a kid. Yes. I was a pique. Trust me. I ate at the market. I was selling and selling. I had a lot of juice. I was a pique. I said, oh, how you sweet heart one go. I was very tired. I was fried. I love another thing he has spoken about. Kumuna kuka e ngine pukando. So when what you are looking at has come upon a single hundred and one這一 steer and become pique. We'll be here for breakfast, in the morning, at 2 o'clock. We'll go and have some fun. We'll be here for a while, then we'll go to bed. I'll be there when I'm done. Then we'll be here at 5. If you don't have the time, I'll be here for breakfast. I'll have some tea and some tea. Ladies, do you agree with what he said? In fact, that is how I usually teach my wife to do things simultaneously. But in this current society that we are in, where people look for gender equity and gender equality, we have a right to do what? You have a right you should not be shouted at, you should not be... Men are not understood. And as such, that is why these women empowerment... As much as there is an idea, but there is a rib culture in a way. Like for example, there are things a man will do at will, at his own will. Those women, they don't work. There are women who have a right to do what they want to do. There are women who have a right to do what they want to do that day. Not like that. It doesn't work that way. There are women who have a right to do what they want to do. If it's once in a month, fine. If it's once in a year. In fact, that is the time when women have a right to do what they want to do at home. That is the time when women have a right to do what they want to do at home. It's automatic. And I'm telling you. If it's once in a month, it's once in a month. If it's once in a month, it's once in a month. If it's once in a week, it's once in a month. It's once in a month. It's once in a month. I'm sorry for cutting you off. And? Women empowerment. Women empowerment. Fixed to Mahali. Women were to decide who is the king. Women were to decide who is the king. Some of them were foundation, an awareness, a daily memory, and you know that those who are in debt. Yes. How they come up with these things, those empowerment programs, all were because they are strong ones. Why, Then how would you interact now, Terremuka Coast, specific ladies who are behaviors and how would you interact now, Terremuka Coast, specific ladies who are behaviors and how would you interact now, Terremuka Coast, specific ladies who are behaviors and how would you interact now, Terremuka Coast, specific ladies who are behaviors We'll be giving different scenarios as we continue this conversation Remember the hashtag is Power Talk Show on Twitter at Ram Aguko and that Y254 channel What do you think about it, a man's ego? How can it be addressed? What is it for a man that we don't understand? Today, it's a man's conference Man's conference A man's talk, a boy talk We give our voices from a man's perspective We don't understand a man's ego Let me get it from you, Ofula Yes How can a man's ego be addressed? How can a man's ego be addressed? How can a man's ego be addressed? How can a man's ego be addressed? How can a man's ego be addressed? Is it that man's ego is different in value? It doesn't matter if it's a man's ego But there is a way that the ego can be conquered And this is one thing women must understand Every man, no matter whether they're from church or from the club, where Every man has an ego He has a major ego He has a major ego It doesn't matter if it's a man's ego But it takes wisdom to conquer, to massage a man's ego You did me a massage in the first place Yes It should It must I'm not going to pass the bill You're not going to pass the bill But it's a gift that you can empower me to program I'm not going to give it I'm going to give it to you I'm going to give it to you I'm going to give it to you It's that lady When it comes to a man's ego A man's ego Can I have a visit Where to home You don't need a visit to either Your mother And your mother You know what happened For example, my wife She said to me She said to me She said to me I know very well what she's going to do there And one day She said to me I'm sorry She said to me I know very well what she's going to do there I know very well what she's going to do there I'm sorry That is how women should Those are techniques To massage our ego Some women are funny Giving different examples Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny Some women are funny It harms the ego of a man It really harms the ego of a man That is why I began by saying ego, the wills through which the responsibilities of a man are driven. Now when you begin comparing a man to another man, men thrive well when you appreciate their effort. There is a way you can push this man into doing more by appreciating the piece of bread that you have to offer. And when you are in a pizza, when you are in a car, you are in a flan. Where in a flan is it? Let me read a few comments on Facebook. Okay. A man, Jerry, and I say, man's ego, good topic. The ladies are good at multitasking. I do that. I'm also a fast hand. Okay. One of them is multitasking. To talk with a man, you go bad. And as a mother, they said, Ram, good job. Women respond to what they are given by men. Give me a sperm and I give you a child. Give me 200. You get a good dinner. We incubate what we are given and give back a good measure. With ego or with no ego, it's good to be careful what you give a woman. But if only I'm treated well by my man, so they can kneel. Let's take a short break. We'll be back in a bit. Keep it wide open. Power Talk continues after this break. Don't go too far. This is about a man's ego. Should I go happy? Thank you very much for keeping it wide open. This is Power Talk. As always, we value your feedback. Keep commenting and keep texting. If you're just joining us, you're just in time for the next and last part of this conversation. It's about understanding a man's ego. What is it that a man's ego has that needs to be put down? The hashtag, as always, is Power Talk Show at Ram Aguco and at Y254 Channel. My name is Ram Aguco. If you're just joining us, stick around for this and much more. I'm with Smart Joker and Samuel Fuller discussing this particular conversation, a man's ego from a man's perspective. How do men understand their own ego? Do we understand ourselves? Let me just sample a few of your comments on Facebook. Tell us where you're watching us from as we continue. I shall read them. Thank you very much for watching IED. I'm seeing Joe Carris and Juja. I'm watching from Ruru Murara. I'm tuned in. I'm showing it on fire. Thank you very much. I'm seeing Brio. I'm tuned in. I'm seeing Kigo and Jihya. I'm seeing Mokwajit. I'm seeing Maurice Jacob Makoha. I'm seeing Danny Darn. I'm seeing Ram Dari. Someone's called Ram here. King Baba. Thank you so much everyone for tuning in. Donna Derrick and Supu Yachapo. What are you going to imagine? So we were talking about comparison. When a man is compared to another person, what are the limitations? Is it okay to compare someone and it ends up healthy? Can you say that you can compare another person, your man with someone else in a healthy way to challenge them or should it just not happen? This comparison is dangerous. It comes positively. It comes positively. It's dangerous. My wife, a youngster, she's a doctor. She's on TV. She's on TV all day. It's very dangerous. It will spoil something. Do you want to go home? Yes, I want to go home. I have a feeling that I'll come home and I'll go to jail. I'll go to the cabbage and I'll go to jail. I'll go to jail. Since you want somewhere where I can vacuum how things go, you have to step in. You go to jail, you have to step in. I'll go to jail. You'll have to go to jail and have a cheat suit. You have to go to jail to massage. Do you want to go to jail to massage or do you want to go to the toilet? Now they say it happens. Ladies, do you understand this? Is this true? Do you believe that this is possible? Should a man's ego always be massaged? Come on, Toto. Do you know what I mean by come on, Toto? You see, that massaging is what we call motivation. Yes, a man needs to be motivated. Okay, this massaging is what we call massaging. What do you mean by massaging? Do you think it's possible? If it's possible, I would appreciate it anytime I make an effort. I would appreciate it. Maybe it's not doing much, but for the little it's doing, it's being appreciated. Now massaging is ego. Make them feel good. You compliment them. And as you do that, you propel them to do more, to improve. So, if he comes maybe with a packet of milk today, he'll say, hey, thank you for doing that. Thank you for the milk. Next time, I'll give you a compliment. At Arudina, now a whole bundle. Yes, that is how it is. Yes. How do you feel about massaging? For you personally. I'm sitting here with a massage. I'm sitting here with a Range Rover. And I'm sitting in a room. My massage is done. I'm going to leave. You're going to leave? I'm going to leave. You're going to leave. You're going to leave. I will turn to me, a left-wheel ticket. When I'm communicating to you, you will come to me, and I think what is the difference? We still live in language. We don't know how to communicate. Of course, I'm not a teacher. I speak in a language. But what will you do? How will you communicate to me so I can make use of the language I speak? When a woman is a woman, she should respond and come to the house. Yes, she should come to me and listen to what I'm talking about. I should not talk to a woman and I will be in trouble. I will be cut. I will pass the message. She will watch TV and I will be in trouble. That means I'm talking nothing in that house. They respect and their attention. For example, as a man who stays at home with a wife, they are just storing it in the middle of a story. A wise woman will post the story, and she will welcome you back home. How was your day? That one is enough. I understand the story and the friends. That is fine. In fact, my brother, he will post the story, and I will say, he will sing, and he will be in trouble. He will be in trouble. He will be in trouble. He will be in trouble. Those two things. He will be in trouble. He will be in trouble. A woman will be in trouble. But in that house, they will never know. It's a legal reason why men beat women. It could be. Now when there is a crisis, there are two things here. How you address a man when there is a problem. And the timing is very important. Yes, the timing. That's all. I will say, I will say, I will tell you what I will say. We must talk. The timing is very important. Like, a woman can be very right in whatever issues she wants to raise. But when she is wrong in timing, she is wrong completely. But women beat women. If you are not a woman, you are weak. If a woman beat a woman, that one will not have a problem. Personally, I won't advocate for that. Even though I am weak, I will say, I am busy. I am busy. I will say, I am busy. I will say, I am busy. I will say, I am busy. I will say, I am busy. I will say, I am busy. At least you will have time and address the issue verbally. Tell her, what you are doing. When I am talking to you, don't be too busy when I am addressing you. Maybe when I am calling you, you will raise the issue with the lady. Tell her, father Meshah should be taken. You know me, father Meshah, he is like that. He is like that. He is like that. The first thing he will do is to kill you. You see, I will think about that from the external nose and the tail is, say, Father Meshah, he will think of you as a brother. Yes. He should do it completely, completely. There is no!] you are father Meshah, you should never know You know what they say, in the country, there is a crime, but you know what they say, the police is the police. They say, there is a Russia. There is a mother, there is a land. What do you mean by a mother? What do you mean by a mother? You know, one of the most important things, after the Constitution, we say fighting, home-based violence, it's a crime, you know. But you know what they say, a woman is a criminal, and she is a criminal. When you raise your voice she will say that you are shouting at her How can this be solved? My name is Amamis the head of the family I have a very strong relationship with her When I take money from her I don't want to take it I'm here with a woman who loves her father She asked me what I liked That is how I thought I would get married, and that is how I got married She also said her father is in a situation like this What do you do? I believe dialogue is very important, ever in a relationship or in marriage, dialogue, how you talk, how you know there are conflict resolution methods. The first one is you talk, you sit her down, maybe take her out, maybe come and mess with her but take her out, take her somewhere. Sit down, address all the issues, come and ask the key, then I believe that is why you see every relationship needs mentors. Now I'm talking from the pastor's point of view, from the pastor's point of view. You approach someone that you feel can help you solve the issue, in a relationship or even in marriage. Let me read some here on Facebook, Aidi Esther Nasema and also Swali. So what you're saying is that respect is the thing that motivates the man's ego. See you. Yes, respect. Nasema let me learn, I love this, I hope you will talk about how to treat a woman sometime in future. How to treat a woman. Come and ask her if she is a woman, if she is a woman, she is a woman. Does it mean you did something wrong to instigate her? Because as one viewer said, Emma, you give her something small, she multiplies it. Okay, is it that you say that she is a woman, you and your ego? Now that one now narrows down to intimidation. You see when a man fails in his responsibility as a man, like for example a woman is feeding you, you see there are common things a man should be doing. Like even from the Bible, a man is a provider. That's right. So when you fail in your responsibility, you're just there. It is the woman feeding you. The woman and the man are preparing for a job. And they're in the same state, you understand. So those are the things that make a woman begin looking down on you as a man. When you fail in your responsibility, there are triggers. Yes. When you fail in your responsibility, there are triggers. You know what to call it, that point of father measures. You pushed her to take you to father measures. Yes. Now even your wife and the man, she is a woman, she is a woman, she is a woman. So she is a woman. Yes. She is a woman and she is a woman. She is a woman and she is a woman, she is a woman, she is a woman. Yes. Why? Last year. Like me and my husband, I have been responsible of her. They are not responsible for the problem. But they are the ones who do it. They are the ones who get the job. So the solution is that men should do so that they don't instigate or pressure their women to think about it because a woman can be loyal. Yes. A woman can be loyal. And you see we might run away from this fact but it is the reality. Money contributes to a woman's loyalty. Money contributes. Yes, pesa. Without money, are you saying that women are not loyal without money? They can be loyal without money but you see there is a form of dishonour that comes from women when you are broke. That's when you say ma, when you find a woman that is feeding you every day last month, this month, she is feeding you every day. She is the one taking the responsibilities, the roles of a man. She has now become the man in the relationship. You know it becomes trouble. Mother Rao. Mother Rao says, how is the kuskiza? How is it? That is why the Arab Bible and Asema, the wisdom of a poor man is despised. Let me come to you Baba. There is the issue of a woman telling you and she is saying that she wants to take it but it is not easy. So where are the plans? Okay, I know she wants this but it is not easy. So you will postpone it. Another time, at a kuskiza, when you are broke, Allah will tell you, if you say ma, it will come back to you at that time. I will tell you. If you say ma, she says no. But deep down, it means yes. Allah will tell you, if you say ma, it will happen. So these two scenarios where people now start engaging in arguments, is it that men do not quite understand the communication strategies of women? You are a man who does not think. You cannot think. And she asks, should I think for you? In fact, it is not easy. It is the opposite. It is not easy. There is this thing, it is dating. It is what we are dating, for three years, four years. Do you know dating? It is the beginning of marriage. Did you know that? And dating will never contribute anything to your marriage. Do you know why? Me and I date the same day as Patricia, just using that name, Patricia and I date. Dating, yes, I go to the coast to swim, to go to Wapi, to eat pizza, to eat bambé. That is dating. There is no one sweet, no one and so on. And what we are communicating there, it is not something that it is not something that you are not married to communicate. It has been four years since I date. I have been at home. I had a lot of fun. I had a lot of fun. We had a lot of fun, we had a lot of fun, we had a lot of fun. We had a lot of fun. We had a lot of fun. We had a lot of fun, we really had fun. We had a lot of fun. We had a lot of fun. We had a lot of fun. We had a lot of fun. And we had a lot of fun. You met her when you were lying in bed? Yes, I met her when I was lying in bed. when she was married, I was told that she would hear it, and I went to a girl's place and said, that I was going to call Gett. Yes! There's a toothbrush. Even not me. And the toothbrush. There was her, and this was it. When I was married, I was told that I was going to run a car, Or I would call him a rectifier, or something small, the person who went home is a rectifier. A rectifier, at least, There are many things going on in the house. I love when I come home and talk to my husband. My wife comes home, and when I come home, she comes home, and when she comes home, she comes home. She comes home. Because when I come home, when I come home, when I come home, I come home, and when I come home, I come home. Sometimes they say no to me, yes. I think every man should understand the communication of his woman. Some people say, I like this dress, but I don't like it. Yes, but that is how she is communicating. But would you say no? Okay, you like the dress. It is a nice dress. It is so nice. I also like it. I don't like it. So until you understand, this communication is important. Especially, it varies. It is important to communicate. Like for example, a woman can have an issue with you. She will expect you to know that she has an issue with you. But how she is behaving. Is it true? I think you can say that you can have an issue with her after she has a glass, you can have a brush your teeth. I think you can have an issue with her. Yes, you can communicate with her. You can say that you have a shield. We have to talk about it. Are we too egoistic to notice such small things? Now that is where men go, they go overboard when it comes to ego. When you understand your woman you will you will understand her communications and I think Problems begin in marriage or in dating when there is you know your communication Yeah, you are doing nothing I love you married one a car one month one a break Look for woman propose marry buzz if you want to come to Danny but to what? to what? to what? one date for long one divorce? another example about this ego issue when a man makes a mistake two months, three months, one year down the line, but you're not sure, you're not sure. Is it a wrong move that can affect a man's ego? Yes, because most men don't like repeating themselves. If I did something wrong and I apologize, I say, I'm sorry. I wouldn't want you to remind me two months after. You remember you did this one. You remember, oh no. Maybe I did something, but I'm sorry, I apologize. But men don't apologize. They can't say I am sorry. Why? Why do you want me to apologize? Is there a woman also there who has this problem that you don't want me to apologize? I don't want you to say I'm sorry. Men just can't apologize, because I am sorry. I'm sorry. Why do you want me to apologize? I don't want you to say I'm sorry. I must do that because I love this woman. Do you apologize? Yes, I do. Why do you want me to apologize? I think the maturity of a man, not just a man, an individual, is to recognize and forgive and apologize. And you see that is what you do in the workplace. Many people are shocked, get shocked, just because they couldn't say I'm sorry. And to me that is pride and arrogance. But any normal human being must learn the art of apologizing. And say I'm sorry. Yes. It's a so meaningful commission. Yes. Now, how should you apologize? Because I'm sorry, I love to apologize. Is there a way that a man needs to apologize that can make a woman say that this man has to apologize? Yes. There are degrees of apologizing. There are degrees of apologizing. That's it. That's it. You've got to apologize. Some people have answered the story. Some people have asked me, my wife, what is your intention? What is your intention? I don't know how to explain myself. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know how to explain myself. I think it's a very difficult question. I'm sorry. You know what? I'm sorry. I don't know what I'm doing. I'm sorry. I've been through a lot. But it's not me. Yes. You have to apologize. And then you repeat that same mistake. Okay. Over and over again, for example, cheating. You cheated before. You apologized for it. You got forgiven. You cheated again. You apologized again. Do you expect that she will believe you when next you make a mistake and then you say, I'm sorry? At the same time, I'm tired of your sorry. But I don't know what I'm doing. I think through apology, you have to apologize for a mistake done and strive the best you can not to repeat the same mistake again. Yes. So when you say, I'm sorry and maybe after one week you will make the same mistake. I think yours will be a special case. Yes. And also, if you make a mistake you cheat. You cheat there. I think so. I think so. I think I'm not going to repeat it again. I'm going to repeat it again. I'm going to repeat it again. Just say the truth. If you make a mistake and then you cheat you apologize for it. You cheat again. You will say, I'm sorry. And even if it happens, yes. Someone said that if you have a special interest in schoolgirls buy your wife a school uniform. I think I read such a comment. Yes. Let me, let's bring up a comment here. IED Esther, I think, is it coming up? I think couples should take their time to know each other well. You will understand each other well and communication will be easy. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. What do you usually do when you are dating when you're voting and you have to get married. Ask that person if he is married. I don't know if you know he is going to be married. I'm going to explain. What's your opinion about what he has said? Most of you are about what he has said. I remember dating and I said, what do I watch? What's your dating, end and door? I think that is the gospel according to smart joker. But I feel like dating plays an important role in relationships and in marriage. Because, well, you can never know someone enough. Just the same way, people don't know themselves enough. So you can, no matter, even if you spend 10 years dating someone, how is it going to be enough? There is something that will always just rise up after marriage. Especially when women, you know, actually maybe actually a little more, now they feel the sense of entitlement. There is now that character that has been hiding. For many years, that has now come out. Let me still give this other example about men, particularly. You are in a position where you tell your man you are wrong. Is it bad to tell your man that he is wrong? How can you do that? How can you make a ta? He doesn't know me. Does it bruise their ego? Do you think they are wrong? Yes, it actually messes up their ego. But should it be so? If you were to tell a man he is wrong, I think there is a better way to put it. You tell him, babe, I didn't like how you did this and this. Now he is just being direct, you are wrong. That one, you are wrong. It becomes, you know, it will bruise his ego. There is a way you can put it that will accept money away. It won't mess up the man in him. Yes. And that is why. If you were to tell a man that he is wrong, he will say that he is wrong. If I am wrong, he will allow my wife to say, hey, you are wrong. And I will listen to her. I will listen to her. If I am wrong, I will say that I was wrong. Another example. Salary. Okay. You have told her that this is the amount of money that I earn. But I will say that I am wrong. I am wrong. I am wrong. I am wrong. When she mocks you about how much you earn, when she tells you that you are not earning enough that can sustain the family, when she discredits the kind of job you do, she will say, you are wrong. You have to do your job, you are right. And she tells me that you have a character. You are wrong. Yes. You are wrong. You are wrong. Yes. If you are wrong, you are wrong. So, how is it that you are coming to me? You are wrong. I was a child, I was always happy. I was a child, I ate pizza. That is why I will just take you back to Mambo na kudete wachanana Ndiye ne dani Kuhu o wanja Kila mutu wachese posicionia ke Maisha isongembele Mambo na mushahara Si tu mewana Tu kikudye iwi kama one week, two weeks, two months Tu na juwana ni mehenda kuenu nini Ambi aneni ukwe liwi Nili sema po awali Mimi na aningi hi Na fanyamu jengo A ma mimi na funisi ii o Na patanga hi pesa ki wango hi ki Una nuna Na hi ki ki wango nji o chenye na henda na achu Utafumi liya Tu kainawaya na hi ki ki wango cha pesa Na tulishe na achu watoto Tu investe na izi pesa A maha uta kubali Kama ha u kubali Mi Pevwe Ni tafute mwingine A maha uta kubali Mwenyata kubali anana mi Mi remember You are telling someone Mwenyamu mekana One month, two months, three months kujwana Si o mutu me meded seven years So that he Mudamfubi ii namu ambi After all, si tu mekana two months Niki Pevwe ni mwachi anafasi Si ta kua hat If you are with a woman and then Let's say, I just give an example She makes this comment You tell him and I call him How much do you earn? Mwenyamu mekana Let me give an example 30,000 shillings per month I come here I don't think you are earning enough Mwenyamu mekana Now You see, the first thing God gave a man Was his work That is why the first The most dangerous place to crash in a man's life His work, what he does for a living Mwenyamu mekana Mwenyamu mekana So when you mess up his work You mess up his ego You finish the man So it is Si ombayok say I think 30,000 is not enough But I appreciate the 30,000 As we trust God for A salary increment or a better job Alright Let me go to Facebook Favour of Violet What advice can you give to a woman Whose husband always makes mistakes But he will never apologise to her Violet from Kayole Mwenyamu mekana Mwenyamu mekana Mwenyamu mekana Mwenyamu mekana Mwenyamu mekana What advice can you give to a woman Who is married and God does love to be married If a womanї get married If he gets married She will talk about marriage If you come out with a woman Who is going to get married Who is going to get married Ask her, If she gets married It's not a wife does this have any side issue? I have assisted her. My name is Amu Rumilie. Here I have witnessed the old man. OK. I understand now. Sir, yes. Time in Asia, my brothers. Time in Asia. But I want to say thank you so much. Sam Adeline in summer tunes from West Dansum and 먹ulia Amaran in summer following the show. and some are tuned in, or so many comments sit there. We cannot eat bado at Jamalizia Vizori, bado, bado. Because we still have no talk talker thought about Kama manome aki anezakubali wa kohen na njena rudi usigu, aki chelawa. Umambeweni manome na gadi. Ha ha ha ha ha ha. This has been bad, but sure, remember the conversation continues. Today, so it was all about a man's ego, from a man's perspective. I was in Zama Fula, and I was with also smart Joker. A very good morning to you. Thank you very much for keeping it Y254. That's what brings us to the end of this conversation today. I would like to end with a quote saying, when a man can listen to a woman's feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her a wonderful gift. He makes it safe for her to express herself. The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels hard and understood. And the more she is able to give a man the loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that he needs. My name is Ramaguko. This is Power Talk. I repeat, this conversation of this show comes tonight at 10 p.m. God bless you. God bless the work of your hands. This is Power Talk.