 I deleted everything after I posted my last video, which is my reality check. I wanted to disconnect to focus on myself and really just kind of hone in on You know the things I was struggling with at the time and really focused on my mental health Many Mua just released his video where I've been and he's finally come back from a little mental health break And there's a lot a lot that we can learn from it What is up everybody? This is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel, I am not a drama channel My channel is actually all about mental health So what I try to do is pull from different topics going on in the YouTube community and all of that to try to teach you Yeah, you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being So if you're into that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and it's crazy It's crazy because I just made a video a little bit earlier and I was talking a bit about the beauty guru drama So like obviously I don't do makeup, but I was introduced to all this stuff from my amazing girlfriend She loves watching different makeup artists and their channels and her friend Shelby So they kind of got me in the mix and then all this stuff went down You know in the beauty community and I know a lot of you are new here You know you came from the Shane Dawson stuff But before I was talking about some of the stuff going on in the beauty community So a lot of you already know, but I'm not sure how many of you keep up to date with it I'll link some videos up in the info card so you can go check those out But quick recap basically some stuff went down and Manny MUA, you know people were calling him a social climber and he's had a lot of friendships that I Don't know come and go and many is the common denominator and then Gabriel Zamora made a video about it And then Manny made his video and he said he was taking a break So that's a little recap Manny just came back and he made a video and part of it is him announcing that he's doing like Kind of this little mini docu series about where he's been and So one of the things that I want to talk about and there's gonna be a few topics in here So please stay tuned because they're very important and again I make these videos to help you out because I know that some of you can relate to it so Part of this and I haven't been keeping up on you know the comments of that video or Twitter But I guarantee I guarantee there are so many people already who are saying oh, this is just a PR play Oh, he's just doing this to get people back on his side and all that other kind of stuff That's cool. I think it's ridiculous because here's the thing one of the videos I'm linking up here in the info card is how to earn forgiveness. All right, like so many people have done Just dumb stuff and then they have to apologize and try to get forgiveness But the thing is and what I talk about all the time is actions speak louder than words Like I'm much more empathetic to people who are trying to change and all of that because I am a Drug addict and alcoholic who has been clean for six years and I've had to earn forgiveness from people So like I I like sharing a little bit of my story because so many of you are new here And you're just now meeting me and I love when you guys give me compliments or you say, you know Chris you have great advice or a great outlook like I just want to make it very clear with all of you There are people who know me who know me, but they remember who I was six years ago And they still think I am a jerk. All right So I just want you to kind of keep that in mind when it comes to you know Different people who are trying to change or trying to get forgiveness But like I said like actions speak louder than words like I think it's crazy for anybody to think like oh Yeah, well, you know, I'll know whether or not I forgive this person like in the next I don't know. He took a month off like what what like he hasn't done anything to show us He's changed and even when he releases these videos like what has he done, right? So I will be like covering it because I've not subscribed to many until today I just subscribed to him because I'm really fascinated by it Like for example, I have an entire playlist about how to apologize because so many people so many people don't know how to apologize, right? And you know, I think it's important to kind of look at these different situations to see what people are doing Are there actions speaking louder than words? And like I want to watch them and I want to review them in a mental health aspect Seeing how he's changing if he's changing what he's actually doing and I work with a bunch of drug addicts and alcoholics So I'm pretty good at seeing through BS So I did subscribe to his channel so I can review those but the next important topic that I want to talk about that I never get to talk about on my channel But this is why I love making videos like this because people like many give me the opportunity to talk about this stuff on my channel So I will preface this by saying like and when it comes to many and what I'm about to talk about It's all speculation like I'll dive back into it after you know We see but I want to plant this seed with you and what this topic is is the topic of mental health breaks All right, like I know so many people I know so many people who take mental health breaks Maybe they take a day off of work or maybe they take a week off and they take this little mental health break, right? And it's like if you're not doing anything with that mental health break you wasted your time All right, and I know like some of you might be getting a little defensive about it But like hear me out hear me out So part of this like a lot of what I try to teach you guys about improving your mental health Not only is it from my education and my research and my studying but a lot of it's from personal experience So a little over six years ago right before I got clean and sober. I was hitting rock bottom I was a crazy person. I had health issues I had all sorts of problems and my the owners of my company they're like Chris You need to take a break like you're losing it you need to take a break So they gave me a week off they gave me a mental health break. Do you know what I did during that week? Can I tell you what I did? I sat in my dark apartment by myself I got drunk and high all day and I watched the entire series of lost That's all it was it was me going in and out of blackouts watching lost like how insane is that? So for me to sit back and say that I utilized that week off in a way that improved my mental health would be Absolutely ludicrous So what I want to say to all of you is like during a mental health break make sure you're taking action Whether that's spending more time with your friends or more time with your family or seeking out a therapist Like if you're one of those people who is so busy You can't even go to therapy or anything like that or if you're somebody in recovery and you're so busy You can't even go to a meeting like use that time to take actionable steps to improve your mental health Like if you take a mental health break and all you did like that day was just sit around and binge watch Netflix You didn't do anything to improve your mental health So again, like I don't know what Manny did during this like month and a half off from social media and all that But we're gonna see I want to hear like did you do something like that was one of the pet peeves I had with Bobby Burns like when Bobby Burns had his mental health Breakdown like a few months ago and he was like talking about how he how we needed a break how he needed to take a break I'm like I was watching him and I followed his content I'm like it doesn't seem like you took actionable steps But I do know that not everybody puts all that information out on video, right? But I would appreciate if they did that because if they said that it would inspire people to do the same So the last topic I want to talk about is in this clip right here Manny talks about something You know in the beginning of the month, I was like self-medicating Because I was going through it mentally. So yeah, Manny talks about self-medicating and I am interested to see what that is Like as an addict and alcoholic in recovery, I know all about self-medicating Like I have a brain that beats me up constantly and in order to quiet that voice I would self-medicate with alcohol and drugs. So in Manny's case, I'm interested to see I don't know if it was substances, but I know some people they self-medicate with other things like shopping or Gambling or some of them. It's being promiscuous. I'm gonna link another video up here about how addiction is everywhere Because what happens is is when you start to self-medicate you're rewiring your brain to become dependent on that thing So for example, if I drank or used every time I felt bad about myself Then my brain is going to learn that anytime you feel bad about yourself. You should get drunk or high So self-medication is a big big big problem. Now, here's something that I teach to my clients Here's something I teach to my clients at the rehab I was working at. All right This is a this is a secret hack that I'm gonna teach all of you. Okay. You ready? You ready? Okay, so like in a group I would say like how many of you ever drank or used because you just felt like a piece of crap, right? And pretty much everybody really raises their hand, right? I would say how many of you drink or use because of feelings of guilt and shame and Pretty much everybody raises their hand. So I tell them I say I'm gonna teach you the best recovery hack ever You're gonna get rid of two triggers by not doing things that make you feel guilty and ashamed Like it seems that seems too too easy to be true, right? But it's the real stuff like that's what I imagine Man he might talk about is he was self-medicating because he felt he has he has some kind of Conscience in him and he felt bad about the things that he was doing. You know what I mean? So like if you're somebody like that, I can't believe the great timing of this because in my last video I just made about Shane Dawson I was talking about like doing these random acts of kindness if you are somebody who has a lot of Negative self-talk if you judge yourself too harshly if you have problems with self-love and self-compassion I'm telling you go out and do things for other people go out and be kind I guarantee it will make you feel better Go out and do things without expecting anything in return The only thing you should expect is that good feeling you get just by doing something nice But the one of the reasons I love mindfulness is it balances your expectations like don't expect that every time you do A nice thing you're gonna feel great because then you are really trying to get something in return But I would say if you did ten nice things in a day, you'll probably feel good at least at least With about eight of them. All right So this is the way that you counterbalance that negative voice in your head If you're somebody who carries around a lot of guilt or shame or self-criticism Just go out and start helping people like the way I say it is it's really hard for your brain to beat you up And call you a bad person when you're going out and putting so much good into the world like somebody left a comment on my last video about perfectionism and self-criticism and anxiety and I have some videos about self-love and self-compassion that you should check out But I really need to do a video about perfectionism and anxiety because I definitely can relate to that But anyways, I just want to talk about this and again. I will be reviewing Many MUAs videos when they come out. So here's what I want to do down in the comments below Let's do this. Let's talk about mental health breaks Like let me know how you take advantage of a mental health break or what you suggest somebody else could do during a mental health break To really improve their mental health. All right, I can't wait to see what you guys say down in the comments below But anyways, that's all I got for you with this video If you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up and if you're new I'm always making videos to help you out with your mental and emotional well-being Make sure you subscribe ring that notification bell and a huge Thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon And if you would like to get some merch from the rewired soul shop, which is totally designed by my amazing girlfriend Clicker top right there. All right. Thanks so much for watching. I'll see you next time