 All right, everyone welcome back it's day four of the 21 convention in London the men's Conference of the century now. I'm glad you guys are here because our next speaker you may recognize him from vh1 The New York Times dr. Phil, and he's even graced the 21 convention stage twice before in the past He's here to speak about identifying and fixing Fear failures. He's a great guy very fun You'll notice him any room he walks into please welcome DJ Fuji Good afternoon London That's the part where you say good afternoon. Let's try that one more time. Good afternoon outstanding All right, so check this out guys for the next 75 minutes. I'm not going to speak to or at you I'm gonna speak with you It's not enough to just pay attention to the guy on stage It's not enough to just listen and hope that you absorb enough information to change things Learning and absorption is done through action. It's done through participation. That's what I want from you guys Here's how we're gonna start that out. All right I'm gonna say good to go and you guys are gonna say good to go But you're gonna say it like you got a pair and if you don't have a pair well, then you just act as if good to go Awesome outstanding. All right, let's get started Now before I begin I want everyone to get on their feet and I want everyone to join me in a round of applause for your host Peter Murphy for your architect Anthony Johnson For your staff and for all of you guys that have made the sacrifice to be here to improve your lives Give it up Thank you. Take your seat My name is DJ Fuji and I am not here today gentlemen to be your friend. I Am here to be your best friend The guy who won't necessarily tell you the things that you want to hear but he will tell you The things that you need to hear That's what I'm here today for My goal over this next hour and about 15 minutes is to share with you three things Three things that are gonna revolutionize your game your mindset and your journey Let's get started The first thing is why we are genetically wired to fail in our journey Now those of you guys that know me know that I'm not a big fan of excuses of reasons why we can't do things But over the last year I've been obsessed with figuring out why things aren't working for people and This is a big big key factor Okay, I'm gonna explain today what you're really up against When you set those goals and you say I want to do this. I want to get better. I want to change things What you're really facing when you set those goals? Okay number two are the hacks That you guys can use to overcome these genetic limitations and Number three are the things that you can do right now to start in vastly improving your lives overall Some of you guys know my background some of you guys have heard me speak before some of you guys know what I'm about What most people don't realize What most people see is the guy on stage and most people don't realize That a very very few short years ago. I was just like you I was sitting in those chairs. I was at the conventions. I Was looking on stage and I was saying look at that guru look at that speaker Look at that guy who's got everything What I would give to be that guy What I would give to be in that guy's shoes One day I would just like to know what it feels like to be good at this I'd like to know what it feels like To not feel helpless I look out of that crowd and I see a lot of guys of varying skill levels But I see a lot of talent to Hopefully some of this resonates with you guys. This is where I came from. Let me take you guys back about seven years ago at that time Before the community I had ever found the community My friends looked at me and they said Fuji you have it all man You're so Fortunate you're so lucky you have so much going for you. I Gotten out of the Marine Corps. I bought my first house at 23. I had a sports car I had a six-figure job. I was a United States Marine. My friend said man, you've got everything we want You've got it made. You're so lucky And I looked at them and I said yeah, man. I'm very fortunate But deep down inside I wasn't thinking that Because inside I was feeling one thing and it wasn't fortunate I was feeling lonely and It's really hard to admit that to yourself to your friends to your family to anybody Very hard to admit that I felt lonely. I felt desperate needy supplicating pathetic But most of all lonely that's an emotion. I never want to feel again that's an emotion that drove me and Continues to drive me it continues to drive why I teach that To drive why I go about and I make sacrifices to make things happen for my own development and for you guys All the Marine ribbons all the accolades the sports car the fancy house none of that stuff mattered Because deep down I knew there was something wrong. I knew there was something that I had to fix And I had tried everything I had changed everything and yet I had changed nothing I used to dread I can tell you guys a quick story. I used to dread going to work on Fridays Not going to work, but I used to dread Friday coming around All my coworkers are like man tgif right tgif. Thank god. It's Friday I'm so happy that Friday is around the weekend is here And I would join them and I would say yeah, you know Friday is awesome. I can't wait for the weekend But deep down inside just below the surface I dreaded Friday. I didn't like Friday Because Monday through Friday I could pretend That I was doing the grind the nine to five That's why I don't have time for a girlfriend. I don't have time to go on dates or anything else like that I'm in the grind. It's Monday through Friday I show up and I go to work and I go to the gym and then I go home and I go to sleep I can fool myself The illusion is still there But come Friday come Friday night Come Saturday night when you have no excuses And I'm sitting there at home by myself That's when it hits you Things have to change And so when I found this community of guys I found this industry To me that was huge To me. I appreciate that. That's why I'm here Because to me this community wasn't a bunch of loose knit guys running around throwing pickup lines at girls To me this community represented hope It represented that glimmer of hope on the horizon at the end of that tunnel Finally, there were people out there That knew me There were people out there that knew what I was feeling That felt what I felt That struggled where I struggled And that's a lot of the reason why I continue to coach today Why I've made the sacrifices to be where I am and why I continue to coach And over the next few years after that period when I found that community I dedicated my life to this And I'm not going to lie to you guys. It was not easy not by a long shot and anyone anybody who tells you that this is easy Is bullshitting you straight up They're bullshitting you or they're telling you it's easy for them But if you were like me, I'm five foot four an asian If you were like me if you're anything like me If you grew up shy introverted You don't know how to carry a conversation You don't have a developed sense of humor. Guess what? This isn't easy It's immensely rewarding, but it is not easy But you know what? I remember that pain period That period where you go through Where everything seems to be going wrong all the time. I remember that like it was yesterday