 What's going on you guys? Yeah, I Got a haircut. Okay, so we have a question from one of my viewers today. So I'm gonna read it here It's basically hey Lloyd big fan of your channel I had a question because I always seem to be the one chasing girls I have to work really hard for seemingly little reciprocation I can sometimes find a girl I like but I'm tired of always being the one to chase How do I get women to chase me? Okay, so this is a pretty common question that I get from a lot of guys Something that a lot of my clients I work with a lot of clients to be able to create this kind of lifestyle Where you have the woman come to you and you're you know, you don't have to chase all of them around a lot of people say that you know The a guy who's good with women will be able to pursue her and then win her over but You know a guy who's great will be able to pick the one he wants from a variety of them Okay, so the way you become the guy who's picking rather than the guy who's Pursuing is you basically have to have a really really high mate value. Okay, and given situations So the way some guys can get it is if they're really really good looking Or maybe they have really good social skills like game Or whatever and the difference is between The woman who's chasing you and you is high enough that she's willing to go after you basically Okay, most guys even if they're really good-looking or they have a tremendous amount of like games so to speak They're not usually pursued by the women that they're interested in so they need a little bit of an extra boost Okay, so the way I would kind of worry about this is basically You know, I've spent four years of my life kind of pursuing chasing after women and There's a difference by the way you guys between chasing and showing interest You know as a man you have to show interest and I would pursue and initiate and take things forward that way That's kind of leading the interactions part of being man But don't chase Chasing is kind of where you drop everything to try and be with somebody chasing usually doesn't work And if you find yourself doing that you're probably not that successful. Okay, but how do you get the women to chase you? So I'm gonna get into that right now So the first four years I was running around, you know Pursuing women left right and center Okay, yeah going out a lot Probably slept with a couple hundred women during this period of time, which was pretty cool for me, you know at that age But looking back on it and you know, you know at the time when I did it I really still didn't feel that desire Definitely wasn't as fulfilling as I thought it would be it was fun I'm not gonna deny that it's a good time in certain cases some crazy stories But I like I said I didn't really feel like a very desired man And it's because I was running I would see a girl that I liked and I would go after see a girl that I'd go after And so every time that I dated a woman, that's kind of how it would go down for me to date a girl that I really liked I would have to pursue pretty hard But what I noticed was that towards the end when I started becoming better with my social skills and build up But you know more of a circle there was women that would come to me occasionally and I found that to be a lot more enjoyable like I like the women a lot better and Once that started to have where they kind of saw me at a party or something like that I realized that you know you I needed to change kind of my approach and so what I see a lot of guys doing is if They're having some moderate success and They want to to get this where women are chasing them You really got to change your approach rather than just like talking to this girl trying to get her to like you Trying to get her to like you you have to set up your life in a way where You're doing things or you're having things that women want. I mean the perfect example of this is Dambels area I mean say what you will about the guy the dude hasn't had to hit on a woman in about a decade Okay, and you might not like the girls that he likes I mean obviously they're super attractive super hot. Maybe personality wise you might not like them, but You know, he's into them and he set up his life. So those kinds of girls come to him, you know You know the money helps but I would say at least 90% of it is his fame is the fact that he's like an authoritative figure in social media and those kinds of parties and You know, he's surrounded by women that are the kind of women that he's trying to get with and so women see him surrounded by those women That makes him more desirable. So basically he's set up his life where he doesn't have to really have a Conversation with a woman anymore to have sex with her like he really doesn't so that they already desire him when they're coming They already know about him that all that stuff is taken care of so obviously Most guys can't do this. Okay, and the truth is most guys are gonna have difficulty Creating this kind of lifestyle like it does take work. It does take time to be able to create that kind of environment I mean you can organize events You can put yourself in a position of authority with something like, you know Like if you're giving talks or something like that You can organize dinners you can do Maybe be the captain of like a sports team like those are all the kinds of little mini Groups that you can be kind of an authoritative figure in where women will pursue you they will chase you Okay So what you got to think about is you have to think about what kinds of women do I want to chase me? How do I have something that they want and be kind of an authoritative figure in it? Okay, that makes you really really desirable and most guys who are in those positions You know, they do get a lot of women who are pursuing them Okay, so ask yourself those questions and you're going it's going to take work to create this kind of lifestyle for yourself We're regularly meeting the kinds of women that you want. They're kind of coming to you and you don't have to You're not having to chase after them like this guy's worried about doing so that's something that I work Pretty in-depth with with a lot of my clients because you know, every person is different every person has different interests And every person has a different lifestyle that they can work with and so really I can't give you specific advice Depending on your situation But what I can tell you is to think about those questions, you know, what kind of woman am I looking for? How can I have something that she's interested in? How can I organize something around that where she'll be there and then she can see me being an authoritative position in? Okay, the details of it are different like I said for every single person But those are the kinds of places and things that you want to start thinking about And ultimately it does take time But if you can craft a lifestyle like that You know guys in my program doesn't take that long for them as long as they have like some sort of direction or me helping them out But yeah, you can definitely do this at home, but don't expect it to just happen like that like some mindset hack And now women are chasing me Usually that it doesn't really work like that. Okay, if it was super easy everybody be doing it Okay, so hopefully this helps you guys. I don't have time to go into everything about this I mean I could talk about this for like, you know hours But I think that could give you a pretty good start from now So thanks for watching you guys admit to the end if you do want to get coached by me There's a form down in the description box below click on the link fill out the form and he seemed like a good fit We'll get back to you. Thanks a lot you guys Good luck