 Hey guys it's David here and I'm going to read a question from a viewer and the goal of this video is I'm going to show you my approach to how you can have the best most productive week of your life. The question I'm going to read here is someone sent it to me and the reason I'm going to share it here the person asked me to to share it is that this is the talk about procrastination, talking about personal productivity. This is the story I see repeated again and again with people. This is the experience they're going through. I'm going to give them advice here on how to overcome this but people sometimes ask me why I'm so interested in personal productivity and procrastination, gold success, how to achieve your goals. The amount of emotional suffering people are going through in their turmoil because of this and as a therapist what I'm interested in is helping people overcome inner conflict and emotional pain and if you can resolve these issues you're going to save yourself years and years of indecision and inner conflict. So have a read of this question maybe only partially it will apply to you but you might recognize some of your own issues in this but we'll see. So the question says David the pattern I'm locked into seems impossible to overcome if you were to look at my life you think I was a failure I'm working a job I hate it has no future and gives me no sense of pride in fact I feel ashamed of my job but the thing is I do feel I can accomplish more as low as I am I feel I have more to give I have ambition it just seems like I can't find a way forward it seems like I have a mountain to climb to get to the life I want after work I know I should be working on my goals in this case the goal is an online course but I feel so drained that I can't seem to move physically I'm fine it just seems emotionally draining I sit in my room watching videos or playing video games I tell myself I'll start tomorrow but I know I'm lying to myself I feel like such a failure it's affecting all aspects of my life my confidence is so low that even my friends notice it their advice doesn't seem to help what should I do so I'm going to give my advice based on this question and this is inner conflict inner turmoil and indecision that's the way I see this issue it's leading to of course not following through towards a goal but what I'm going to say here is just going to make this so simple now it when I say it you might the person who sent me this question they might think that and you might think that also when I say this it's going to sound so simple it's going to sound too simple but I just want you to bear with me this is the advice I would give the problem here is indecision not making up your mind what you want to do I understand completely that it feels like emotionally draining and that is exactly what's happening the problem is you feel emotionally drained so let's look at what's causing the emotional draining what's causing the emotional drain is indecision the the mental energy that goes into what am I going to do and nothing clear about that so what I'm going to say is having a goal in life is great and the fact that you have ambition and you have a sense that your your life you haven't lived up to your potential is also a good thing because the truth is you do have enormous potential everybody has enormous potential and when we go around go about life with these goals that we have but we're we're not conscious about them we get into all sorts of problems you're better off having no goals than having a goal and being unconscious about it not consciously aware of what's going on as I'm going about achieving this goal okay well a lot of us are asleep when it comes to this so I'm going to show you how to the simple little thing you can do every day I wrote a book on this just on this one thing really and there's an online course on my website about this what you need to do is forget personal productivity and being getting a lot done what you need to build the first thing you need to build is self trust once you have self trust established there is nothing you can't do and one thing that will immediately go away is indecision and this mental emotional drain that you're feeling so if I asked you to I should be checking in with this person if I was working with them I might I could check in with them randomly and I had asked them your goal okay what's the next thing you're doing towards your goal right now you might be relaxing that's fine but what is the next thing that you are consciously aware that you're going to be doing towards that goal and I would almost put money on it okay that the person wouldn't be able to tell me I'd find them in a state of indecision about when should I start if it's not the right time etc etc that's where the the drain comes in so if you don't know consciously your next step by the way that next step should always be so easy and so achievable and doable it seems almost not worth it okay that's another thing but the main issue is do you know the next time you're doing towards your goal and the reason we usually don't have it in mind is that we get so fed up of having failed to follow through in the past that we believe there's something wrong with us and we believe that I'm incapable of doing that now we don't trust ourselves anymore and it's really because we've made so many promises in the past we've broken so many promises to ourselves that we get into this state of helplessness so very simply this is what the formula looks like pick your next step and it has to be super easy and you either follow through and do it or you don't but what happens after you don't do it you lose the right to do it for the rest of the day that's it that's the consequence there has to be a consequence when you don't do it you can't the one thing you can't do is say I'm going to do it at 8 p.m not do it at 8 p.m and tell yourself oh I can do it later it's the I can do it later option that is killing you emotionally so just remove that option so consciously 8 o'clock now consciously at 8 o'clock means 8 o'clock or it's not going to happen at all it's either 8 or it isn't and then you just watch whether or not you show up if you show up great if you don't show up that means you just and that's not a bad thing either but how you respond to not showing up is the issue do you permit yourself to say oh well I can do it later because it's important to me well if it was important to you you would have been there at 8 o'clock and by important to you like what's the real thing you're getting from that you're developing self-trust I'm going to be where I say I'm going to be consciously okay I'm becoming conscious of what I'm actually doing to myself in this whole goal I might sound like I'm being a bit firm here with this person but that's just because I know that this will change it I know this will work and I see people falling at this all the time oh I can do it later well maybe I'll do it I didn't feel like it then if you didn't feel like it then that's okay just say well look I didn't show up at 8 o'clock that means I can't do it today now if you do show up at 8 o'clock that's fine you've kept the promise to yourself then you can find what is your next step you can you could work again maybe at 10 o'clock if you wanted to but you consciously decide what my next step is you should always have a conscious consciously decided upon next step for yourself and if you notice yourself breaking promises to yourself that is the one thing you have to eliminate and eliminating that is through okay that's it leave it I've slipped back into breaking promises and procrastination I need to shut this down and just go away for a while okay that's you teaching yourself if I don't show up I that's it there is no later on okay I've made a few videos in this people who watched a few of my videos before will know that but I promise you if you do that and stick to that plan this goes away and I know the language of course I have huge empathy for this person in this question because I was there I know exactly what that feels like you feel like you're a loser you feel like you've got a million miles to walk towards your goal you'll never get their amount of the climb feel like there's something wrong with you you're you're defective and you know your friends probably mean well giving you advice here but a lot of advice online is just work harder push yourself do all that stuff okay motivate yourself motivate yourself really has nothing to do with it it's about trusting yourself systematically setting small goals for yourself consciously and then either following through or not so there is no try in this don't it's not about trying harder it's about just noticing am I keeping promises to myself now you do have to pick a time you just have to choose it doesn't matter what it is what is my next step so let's say tomorrow you wake up just pick something what is the thing I'm going to do towards that goal now I've identified it and that's fine and then just notice if you show up great if you don't immediately you need to stop just step away from it for that day you can try again tomorrow so I've tried that in fact I've tried this with clients it's worked for them and the one they actually fall into a different trap then some of them they actually fall into a trap where they can't stop working I know that probably sounds like I'm filling you full of it here but I promise you that you'll have a higher end problem I'm going to talk about that maybe in another video the next problem you'll have is shooting off work you'll be so consistent with these that you'll be becoming so productive we'll have to you'll have to consciously step away from your goal because you can unconsciously stay in a goal as well when you're in it so you have to decide when I'm going to do it and when I want to step away from it that's what I mean about consciousness being conscious I'm going to leave it there for today guys a bit of a rant but let me know what you think and I'll talk you next time