 Hey everybody, welcome back. It's day four of the 21 convention London Europe. My gosh the men's conference of the century You guys who are attending now have made it Through the whole week final speech Rob judge coming up all the way from New York his topic is Motivated to date hotter girls and that's the name of the speech too and he's a he's a pretty motivated guy So I give him a round of applause all the way from New York. Please welcome Rob judge Awesome Thank you guys. Thank you. I am so excited to be here. I know you guys are probably Tired you guys have heard some great speakers and you know the speech I wanted to give I originally had planned this whole PowerPoint and I try to memorize it and I gave like a rehearsal speech for this speech Like a month ago and it totally bombed and I realized the reason it bombed was because this speech really has to come from the heart You know what I'm gonna talk about is basically how I got motivated to just continue through with cold approach to continue through to the point Where I achieved the success I wanted out of this and that's I want to translate to all of you I want to give you like a kick in the ass today And I want to give a speech that honestly if you don't go out and you don't make this into a lifestyle You don't achieve your goals that my annoying long island accent is gonna annoy the fuck out of you Because seriously I mean like I want to give the kind of speech that you have well I've absolutely no other choice but to get off your ass and approach hot women to go out and get that girlfriend You want to live the lifestyle that you want to live so I put together a couple, you know bullet points on my on my PowerPoint here just so I don't go off on tangents, which if some of you know my speeches I tend to do sometimes so um alright so introduction how to get motivated, right because the real benefit all this 2021 convention is the is to get some momentum look like you guys probably heard some great speakers talk about the tactics The outer game stuff the techniques not only that but there's some great material out there So you probably all know exactly how to pick up women the thing that's funny about about like these conferences is You guys know exactly how to do it you have the full blueprint It's not like after this conference is over mean all the speakers meet up and we're like alright alright guys Let's pull out the real bag of tricks how to really pick up women like we're not telling them No, it's like you like that blueprint is already laid out for you now The only thing you have to do is translate it into action because it's like a fucking contradiction To think that if you know all the stuff about about being successful with women and go out and practice that you won't get better How can you not get better? It's impossible. It's absolutely impossible like you know so many guys have done it So why can't you you're not a special snowflake? So that's why all you need right now is for me to kick you in the ass so that you just get out and do it so alright So one of the biggest things that I want to speech to accomplish is I want you to overcome your fear I want you to overcome your anxiety I want you to overcome your laziness because you know that that's what will get you success The biggest barrier most guys have to translating this into a lifestyle is fear anxiety Laziness three biggest inhibitors that's the three biggest things I see from every guy that comes on my program that like that when you want to kick in the ass That's what I have to get into overcome so that that's really what the speech is gonna be about today And you know to get you over yours, you know to get you over your fear and so that you can like you know Like start living that lifestyle that you want you have to start living your life by your own standards And I'm gonna explain exactly what that means in a moment But first I want to I want to tell you a story about when this one This really clicked for me and the guys who took my live program you guys gonna be so sick of here It got told the story like four times in this program But it was a very definitive moment when I When I really started living my life by my own standards And it was a moment when I was on on the sixth train in New York City And if for those of you who've ever been to New York the sixth train gets like really packed really crowded like literally like Cram people in like it's like, you know human livestock and I was sitting there I was early in the morning my hair was disheveled. I was tired And I looked up and I saw a girl who's absolutely stunning. I mean absolutely stunning maybe standing 20 feet from me and I saw her and I was immediately taken taken back by how beautiful this girl was and Immediately as a thought of approaching her came into my head So did all the what ifs right like what if she like what if she has a boyfriend? What if I get rejected? What if I know someone on this train that would see me and think I'm a loser for trying to try to approach this girl All these what ifs start swirling around swirling around and it paralyzed me and I said, you know I can't approach her but then I started thinking you know what I was like no fuck it I have to approach this girl. This girl is just she's just too beautiful I'm like I can't let what these people think really matter So I started like dodging through people, you know like get you know Trying to like weasel my way like closer to her and eventually I got right up face-to-face with her And I was right up face-to-face with look at this girl And she's even more beautiful when I got close to her and I said to her I try to get her get her headphones out. I said oh my god. I was like you were so cute I had to meet you and when I said that you know I thought I thought I was just telling the truth, but this was like Amateur comedy hour on the subway. It was like we might when the words left my mouth It was like a bomb detonated everyone on the subway sort of cracking up like not even like not even like a chuckle like people Heckling me like I really was like a big fat woman. She was sitting like she's sprawled close like three seats And she's like mm-hmm. She's like good luck with that line honey, and you know and This was a shit I'm dealing with right and I'm saying I'm getting I'm getting heckled by like you know Like this was like this made everyone's day the hilarity of me thinking a girl was so cute that I wanted to meet her But it really didn't matter to me You know cuz again like she was this girl was kind of into which was listening to what I had to say So I can't you know we talked for a little bit ended up getting her number I got that girl out and I ended up dating that girl and what really clicked in that moment was had I given like 1% of a fuck what any of these people have thought about me if that had affected me at one way I would have never dated this incredible girl who I dated from like a couple months after that And she was a great girl from we had a great relationship And that all those experiences all that amazing like just just amazing like incredible Relationship I had with this girl would have been impossible had I not gotten over my fear anxiety and laziness to do Something because you know what that's like the the great story of Rob approach to the girl in the subway And there was a hundred stories before that of or a thousand stories or a million stories of when Rob did nothing When Rob sat there and just let the woodish shoulda coulda's just swirl on his head and he sat there You know and I'm sure like you all have stories like that too And I want you all to have a story where you see that just girl It's absolutely stunning the girl that just takes your breath away The girl that you all got into this to me that the hotter girls right there's this type of girls that like You see in the marketing copy Those are the girls that you guys all deserve because the fact is you guys are sitting here You've come to a conference to better understand women to better understand yourself and to better understand how to relate to women So what guy deserves that hot girl more than you what some schmuck at the nightclub some fucking sleazy promoter No, you guys deserve those girls. So those are the girls that you should get All right So, you know, it's funny because I think about that like that moment on the subway I think about it a lot and the reason I think about it a lot and You know for those of you who are familiar with my material It really formed this real turning point my head this fork in the road that really kind of like The way I look at approaching women This this is like that definitive moment where I started seeing things for what they were And what approaching women is is that like you have two choices every time you see that gorgeous girl, right? You really have two choices the choices that you can live in reality Or you can live in fantasy and the fact is most guys live in fantasy And the reason is it's because we have we as a culture We put such a positive connotation on the word hope, right? Think about the word hope Does anyone ever say like hope sucks? No hopes the greatest thing ever people say Oh, I hope to get better hope to get better at meeting women I hope to get you know, think about the guy who's not at this convention He said oh, I hope the right girl will come along and and I hope I hope I can meet the right girl Right that that's what that's as a culture what we think is so great. Oh the hope the hope No, fuck hope hope sucks and hope like no I mean it like that these hope it's what's fucking all you guys over It's why you're not achieving your goals because you're living a little hope that oh not living in reality No, because you know what people don't want to live in reality because reality sometimes it sucks Sometimes people laugh at you and you don't get the girl sometimes you the creepy guy at the club was hit on every single girl there And you've got nowhere, you know sometimes like you find out the girl that you approach as a complete bitch Sometimes you find out You know a whole spectrum of reality But the fact is like you could sit in little hope land you can be like wow when I read some more ebooks That's what I'll approach those girls. Oh when I just like when I just attend like 15 more seminars That's an approach to those girls. No take the fucking information You're learning these seminars translate it into reality translate it into something you can actually tangible results And those results suck who gives a fuck at least you're living in reality, right? That's the way I look at it because every time I'm sitting there and I'm presented that choice Live in hope and live in reality now I'll make a confession You know as a coach and I'm sure all the coaches can relate to this Sometimes it's hard to approach girls in front of our students because the fact is like look The like you have a student who's look looks up to you who's listening to you and the fact is like I don't know How this girl is gonna react, you know, that's the thing like every time I woke up to a girl It's like this man throwing a bomb. I have no idea she's gonna react, you know You know Steve's laughing at Steve knows what I'm talking about because the thing is like look like I like I Still get rejected plenty, you know, I do I do I give it my best shot I throw it all out there put the cards on the table. I'll give it the best approach I possibly can but I can't get every girl who can no one can and the fact is every time I approach that girl I had to face that reality that I might get rejected that the guys I've been coaching the guys I've been telling all guys is how you pick up girls that I might walk up and a girl might just look at me and go No, you know and turn her back to me and I gotta be like, yeah Well, you know, I didn't frame control well enough You know the thing but the fact is you have to live in that reality And that and the thing is a lot of times when that anxiety comes up when I'm in front of students or even even if I'm like You know in a place like in a public place where it's maybe on like the train or I'm in a coffee shop And I see that hot girl and all those woulda shoulda coulda's start start swirling my head all the what ifs all this All this fucking noise in my head I have a silence that by saying no look look you have to live in reality You have to find out that truth by that girl because a truth waiting for you guys You know if you guys like again if you guys have any of you guys from with my material I emphasize a lot that idea of the truth when I see a girl sure I see a hot girl I appreciate her for like the beautiful girl. She is but at the same time There's a truth that's waiting for you with that girl The truth might be that that girl is most amazing girl ever and she's a me my next girlfriend The truth might be she like she's a complete bitch the truth might be that you know mean her click together But it just maybe just doesn't work out the truth might be that she's gonna reject me right away But at the same time I find out that at least I overcame my approach anxiety There's a million truth waiting for you from every girl you see But the fact is if you prefer to live in hope land if you're in like little little fantasy land Hoping to get better with girls. You don't know shit your whole fucking life is a fucking fantasy and that would suck You know what I would rather be a fucking failure than be a mediocre piece of shit who's sitting around I think oh, I hope I get better. Oh, yeah. Yeah, I hope I hope I hope Fuck hope that's it is one like theme from this talk. I want you guys to walk away with fuck hope forget it It's what's holding you back You know fucking placebo, you know, yeah Yeah, I don't fucking over for a long time You know get the thing again think about this way to hope it's all predicated in the future, right? Everything about hope is predicated on the idea that oh once once I get better. That's when things will get good Once once I read this book. That's when things gonna get better. That's when my situation is gonna improve. No the way that your situation is gonna improve is every time you face reality you face reality face reality and You know I want to tell you guys another story about how about how I kind of how When I got into this about how hard it was for me just to kind of like face this reality And why I had no other choice The story goes back to right when I entered the dating advice industry or community you know when I first found out about stuff because The thing was I had dated the same girl for five years and you know She's a great girl and we broke up one day and when we broke up, you know It's goes my childhood sweetheart, right? This was the girl I dated when I was 17 years old and I broke up with this girl And it felt like someone had pushed me out of a fucking airplane I was like, I don't know where to meet women. I don't know how to meet women I don't know which women to meet. I I literally thought and this is a real thought I had in my head I might never kiss a girl again. I I was like, look, I don't know where I'm gonna meet my ex-girlfriend I just had no idea so I remember I went where any clueless guy goes went to the internet and You know and before I could even go on start searching around Google like, you know Most of these stories end instead I went on AOL and my ex-girlfriend who I dated when I was like 15 years old or 16 years old Was online and I was like, holy shit. This is like this is this is fate. This is this is great So I started chatting with her and took me a whole hour till I eventually I worked up the balls to actually ask her To see a movie with me But she agreed and everyone she agreed I was like I was ecstatic I like, you know, I was such a loser back then. I thought that this was like the greatest thing ever I was like, you know, my heart was racing. I got my car this big shitting grin driving the whole way over to her House, you know, so so hopeful so expectant. I was like, wow, this is gonna be my next girlfriend It's just so great We're gonna reunite after all these years and now I never need to now I never need to worry about the stuff again and I remember I got to her doorstep and I rang her doorbell I waited for her to answer the door and when she came to the door it looked like that girl had locked herself inside of McDonald's for the last seven years and Like tried to eat her way out like yeah Like like not even you guys are laughing I had to live through this this this girl It wasn't like she had packed on a few pounds It wasn't like this girl had gotten chubby you got into college the freshman 15 No, this girl was was like flat out obese. Okay, and I remember just seeing this girl And I was just like, oh, but then I remember thinking like well Can't do much better, you know, like this is I guess this is what I'm about to settle for this girl and Remember we won on this date and took her out to this movie and you know at the end I kept promising myself you got to make a move because you know if you're gonna she's me next girlfriend You got to make it just a thing I was I was like legitimately considering settling for the obese girl So at the end of the end of the date, I remember I put my car in park and I got ready to make my move and That's where the real humiliation began. I remember I closed my eyes and I puckered my lips and leaned over to kiss her and Like the whole car must have been up on two wheels because she jumped back and And and she just had this lookalike horror and disgust on her face And she was like, I don't know what you think this is Rob, but I am just not attracted to you Yeah I remember when uh when I dropped, you know, Jabba back off at her hut and you know And I watched you like waddle back to to her doorstep and I was sitting in my car That's when it really dawned on me. I was like I I hit rock bottom. I was like this is pathetic. I was like I can't even settle I can't even settle with the girl I don't find remotely attractive. This is this is this is like, you know either I'm gonna get good at meeting women or I'm gonna be celibate Don't those are my choices my choice was either to live in hell or to walk through hell So I was fully when I got into this you fucking better believe I was fully ready to accept reality There was no option to me. I option was accept reality or be celibate But I didn't have this fucking little cocoon of mediocrity of like, you know girls I can like talk to or whatever no like like if I was ever gonna meet my next girlfriend I was gonna have to face reality every fucking day Every moment every time I went out of my house and like I wanted to get better at this I had to face that reality every time I saw that hot girl choice fantasy reality celibate girlfriend You know life life that I'm settling for or life that I want to live mediocrity or success and The fact is like like I said, I had no fucking choice no choice no options And I'm gonna throw that out to you guys Are you guys you guys want to live in hell for those of you that like, you know That's I mean that like do you want to live in hell or do you want to walk through hell? Do you have the balls to walk through hell to face that reality? Really ask yourself that take a moment think about it You know, it's a thing like it's all great for me to get up here and like you know Give my speech and maybe you guys are expecting like to feel good feel good dating advice. You know, I don't fucking do that shit I'm not up here to be your friend. I'm not up here to fucking entertain you I'm up here for one reason to get you all results to get you dating the girls that you want And that's why I wanted to give this speech. This speech is fucking dark You know this shit on the internet People that know me like people knew me from high school and see this gonna be like what a loser couldn't fucking cook out the fat girl You know, and the reason I have to tell the speech the way it is is because there's no other way to give this speech You guys have to know what you're going into what that reality is because like I said, I wanted all you guys deserve girls I'm like like honestly, I love you guys I think it's fucking awesome how you guys come out and push yourself through this I can totally relate to that because I was exactly what you guys are sitting I know what each and every one of you going through. I know how fucking hard this can be I know how fucking brutal it can be to be that guy out at the club that girls are just like jacking left and right You know, I've been there I live in that reality and the thing is is that like I said like they give me moments where you're gonna You're gonna second-guess yourself. You're gonna start thinking it's all a scam You're gonna want to run to PUA hate and like get on there and fucking be like fuck Rob judge I fucking asshole and I hope you do I hope that like you know what if you don't take action And you just sit on your ass and do nothing fucking call me a scammer go on PUA hate like whatever like trash bin the internet I don't give a fuck. I really don't like I said I'm not up here for any other reason but to get you results and if you don't want to get yourself results then too bad oh Man, I had a note in here. I meant to give a disclaimer and I Was gonna say you know anyone that doesn't want to hear the truth about pickup You know could just get up and leave the room, you know, sorry I kind of spoiled it because I you know again like I said, I'm getting up here I'm trying to give a very honest talk of what's in front of you Because this stuff is not you know again, I think I think meeting women's fun I think the whole process is fun. I think I think you should enjoy it But I'm also not gonna get up here and say it's easy, you know because it's not because I've been there You know like I said like I've been out at the club. I've been that guy It's not easy But the fact is is that it's so fucking rewarding, you know to have that option Like the guys I coach this weekend to watch them over the course like when a lot of them came in with approach anxiety And then like last night to watch them just going up to any girls They wanted and having great interactions getting numbers getting makeouts stuff like that What is better than that be able to walk into a nightclub see the girl you want and know you got a pretty damn good shot at At least like attracting or getting her phone number getting her out on a date making that girl your girlfriend having those options What is better than that? honestly, I Would trade all the money in the world. I would trade my job I'd trade anything for that when I started out and I said and I was I was like walking through that hell I would have traded anything to be successful with women There's a little like I look that's a thing You know all this talk like the community being massage and this and all stuff, you know And some of it is some of it's ridiculous, but at the same time I think at its core It's it's the most genuine appreciation of women. It's that like I like look my problems I love women too much. I was such a nice guy I wanted I wanted to give women everything, you know And that's a thing and that was problematic in terms of like the way I was interacting with women But I genuinely love women and I love them so much. I went through that hell I went I faced that reality every single time because I wanted to be able to learn how to how to re you know How to better relate to them how to better talk to them how to approach a girl in a way that wouldn't be creepy to her They'll be attractive to her. That's what I wanted because again, like I said, there's no better reality And to actually realize your success in the real world and like I said, too I don't want to get up here and Come off like I'm the all powerful guru that like went through the process and now I can approach any girl Because look I still get rejected by students. So I'm gonna get rejected this weekend My students also show me like, you know doing pretty well with girls It goes both ways and the thing is you got to love the ups with the downs, you know, it's funny One of the things I say a lot to my guys is you know You just have to go out and you got to be ready to play to win One of the things I like to do is I like to play roulette and not not no It's healthy habit and you know most healthy activity But it's what I like to do and when I whenever I'm like in Vegas or even Lester Square I like to go out and I like to throw down ridiculous bets on black and a lot of times That works well for me like a lot of times it hits and I make a lot of money I mean we did a program in Vegas and I want to grand, you know throwing down stupid drunk bets on black and Last night. I went, you know, I threw down You know 200 pounds on black and I lost and you know, I could be a baby about it I could I could cry about it. I could feel bad about it. But you know what? I don't I think it's funny Because it's you got to take the ups with the downs if you're ready to win big You got to be ready to lose big if you want that like hotter girl You also have to be ready to take the reality that comes with it, you know, that's a thing It's like it's like I get emails from guys sometimes and they want me to like give them a blueprint on how to never get rejected And that's like I just like my eyes fucking glaze over and I get this shit because like that to me contradicts Everything that this industry is predicated on everything about interacting with women is predicated on the on the highs and the lows You can't go out and expect always Things always to be like you always win your favor for the girl always to love you for you always to do great to always Look, I'm a dating coach. I still fuck up plenty You know a lot of it's even worse when I do it because then I also have like the coach part of my brain Be like what the fuck like why are you doing this and then then like this like the nervous like you know I get these like weird internal debates in my own head, but the fact is I still love that I still I still love every aspect of going out meeting women. I like again, and I'm not saying you got to love rejection I hate when people say that like oh, I'd love to get rejected. What are you fucking retarded? I don't love getting rejected, but but I accept it, you know, that's a thing I'm full acceptance of rejection. I'm not afraid of it I'm just a man about it and what's really great about coming to that acceptance for rejection it allows you To then come to an acceptance of the whole timeline of when you meet her to when you know You have sex with her and when you make her your girlfriend Because the fact is is that most guys expect that timeline to be flawless, right? They think you're gonna go in they're gonna get the perfect opener She's just like oh, and then he's gonna be like he's gonna run some attraction stuff Oh, and then he's gonna go to make out with her. She did back. Oh, you know And then there's gonna like right off into the sunset together and fucking have two curling sex Does that ever I have never once had a pickup goal like that. It's like I walk up and I'm like, hey What's up a Rob? It's like it's girls night, and I'm like, haha. Yeah, I know like whatever blah blah blah blah And then you know boom and then every every moment every time I try to kiss her like turn head turns You know and again the thing is is that I don't care about you know The thing is alright don't care it might be sound a little harsh that that I don't care It's like I respect her boundaries, but I'm not emotionally affected by it I'm not sitting there getting butt hurt when girls don't want to kiss me when girls don't want to talk to me In fact, I think it's like I said I just accept it I just keep going if a girl says to me it's girls night out. That's fine Like if a girl says to me, I don't give my phone number out. That's fine I'll tell her I don't give my phone number out either. Let's make an exception for each other You know the thing is it's like I was trying to really so I was really trying to hammer with the guys I was coaching this weekend. I think they did a really great job of picking this up is Pick up is not this ballet of like perfectly executed lines and the perfect techniques and like the perfect frame control No, it's it's a lot of friction and really I mean if you really want to boil what great game is It's just being okay in those moments of friction It's being a man and accepting it because that's the thing It's your masculine duty to push the interaction in a certain direction the direction that you want to push it in That direction When you push it at direction, she's gonna resist and it probably has nothing to do with you You know, she doesn't want to look like a slut Maybe she doesn't want to look like she's like desperate in front of her friends Maybe she's she's just like a little shy. The thing is like these guys I always kills me when these guys internalize this stuff as rejection I don't see that as rejection at all when I get that friction I Interpret it as I'm doing something right and really think about that when I get friction from girls when they put the brakes on whatever I'm doing or you know kind of Whenever I see that that friction come up. I Interpret that as a sign. I'm moving in the right direction I'm doing something correctly if I in fact if I ever had a pickup that went from like me walking up to a girl To me going home and having sex with her and it was totally flawless. She was probably a hooker that You know that was probably not a normal girl because that's the thing is it's never like that You know, I have approached and picked up so many girls and Every single time I'm gonna I know I'm gonna have friction at some point in the interaction And like I said, it's just like coming to acceptance with that rejection You want to come to an acceptance with that social friction because the more that you can accept that The better your games gonna become the better you're gonna be at approaching women because that's the thing like What really sucks is when guys have this expectation that everything's gonna go great that the minute you hit some social friction It's gonna affect your confidence. You're looking for her to externally validate what you're doing Whereas your validation has to come from yourself and that's I said in beginning like living your life by your own standards What are your standards and I don't mean that like a Tony Robbins self-help kind of kind of way what I mean It when I say like what are your standards ask yourself? What do you want to be doing? You see that hot girl? What do you want to be doing? Do you want to be sitting there like a fucking stalker? Drooling over her or do you want to be the guy that walks up and approaches her? When you're talking to her do you want to be the guy who's asking her who lies more men and women men or women? No, that's kind of like an old-school one though. What's like? I don't know what whatever whatever stupid thing that like guys say to girls and they have no no interest in saying it Don't be that guy the guy I want to be when I approach a girl is I want to be the guy that tells her first of all that that She's fucking hot. I want to be shameless about it. I want her to love it You know she might not and when she doesn't I'll just keep being shameless about it. Like I said like me and my My best friend and wingman and business partner You know, I don't know if you guys know Zach Bauer, but you know I really kind of like understood what this meant to be shameless watching Zach It was funny and I told the story story to my students this morning And this was like the definitive moment that I really saw what shamelessness really was I remember me and Zach were we were walking through the park one day And some girl had like what she was like some baby and she was in a bikini and Zach just she just looked at her He's like, oh my god. You're gorgeous and the girl just looked at him like look at a scotch. Yes, you're disgusting And every like you know most guys that would be that'd be game over. He's so said Zach what he did was he was That was a reaction. Whoo. Thank you, you know, and then what else can that girl do but laugh What what else are you gonna do so many times I've watched Zach like approach girls and then be like now get away from me You're ugly you're fat and he'd be like, huh. Yeah, so let's go. Let's go to the shake shop. Yeah. Yeah, yeah So yeah, like you know, you have lovely cheekbones blah blah and he's keep saying stuff until because these views hang in there And she sees that you're not visibly affected by that rejection Eventually something you say is gonna click She's gonna laugh and the minute a girl smiles or laughs That's like and this is kind of like a brutal analogy But you know that scene in like Rocky for where Rocky makes Ivan Drago bleed and like mixed like he's just a man He's just a man. He's just he's just a human. That's the way these girls are I like, you know to the average guy these girls look like these ice bitch like ice princess bitches like these like club goddesses When they're all dressed up like that But when you can get a girl like that to laugh and I have you realize that she's just a girl She's just she's just like she's just like you she has feelings She has emotions and again, it says so so fucking obvious But most guys and again, I'm sitting here. You probably go. Yeah, like oh, yeah Girls are just girls like how fucking obvious is this Rob? But the thing is I Hope my voice is in your head when you see that hot girl because we said hot girl at the club She no longer just looks like a girl anymore. Suddenly. She looks like she's like a fucking goddess, you know, and it's tough It's a mind fuck. It's what it's what gets all of us It's why you know, most of you guys don't approach those hotter girls because it's scary You don't want to find out that reality about that girl You'd rather just live in the in hope land. Yeah. Oh, maybe one day I'll approach that girl, you know Like I think it's quick tangent. I said I wasn't gonna go up in tangents But just one thing whenever I see a guy just shamelessly approach a girl like that no matter how you know Give me like it's a horrible approach and the girl like totally blows them off. I'm just like dude That guy is awesome. Like fuck. Yeah, dude. Like just yeah, you know, that's the thing you guys should all be that guy Like that's the thing like that living your life by your standards, right? So again, I guess like I don't want to make this like this talk too too intellectual or too much like Oh, here's someone here's like XYZ exercise, you know, I'm sure you guys got a lot of those exercises here So I don't want to you know, and again, I'm sure they're all great But I don't want to like, you know, give you more like homework to do But you know, there's one thing you should ask yourself when you when you were approaching this girl Just ask yourself. What are your standards? What's the right thing to do when you see that hot girl? What do you want to be doing? What conversation do you want to have with this girl? You know Zach and I created this um We have this like strategy that we call like a strategy. It's like it's like it's a funny thing that Zach and I created that We just do we call it the Pacino and what it is. It's like basically we always say to each other like oh She know that chick do the Pacino and what we mean by when we say that is You write the script in your head you there should be a script in your head how this interaction is going to go down Maybe you want to walk up and say oh you are my new girlfriend for the night You are you are absolutely adorable. Let's go on our first date, right? You've written that script in your head You and her boyfriend girlfriend for the night Chances are she's probably she probably hasn't gotten the memo She didn't get the script she might be like I'm not your girlfriend What the fuck are you talking about and I'm like yeah girlfriend come on Let's go get a drink and the thing is like if you keep that script in your own head You're doing the Pacino we reason we call it the Pacino's because you know think about Al Pacino guys a legendary actor The guy shows up to do it to like shoot a movie that guy sticking to the script hell or high water There's like no way you can get Al Pacino to go off the script the guy such a great actor that he just He sticks to the script. You don't have to be an actor. I'm not advocating you guys do an act But write the script in your head. What is it? What's the script gonna be for you and that girl? Is it gonna be that you're gonna meet her and get her number? Is it gonna be that you meet her and take her home? Is it gonna be that you meet her and you just met your new girlfriend? you have to write that script in your head and Stick to it and when she when she doesn't maybe get the memo She she kind of like throws up a little friction have acceptance with that Acceptance as a man to just just accept that social prick that social friction And you know I kind of want to I want to wrap this up like I don't want to I don't want to like You know, I don't kind of talk in circles about this stuff. I really enjoy it. I think it's so important, but I'm You know, I just want to kind of give another story like right after When I first started like really like reading this stuff and reading up on it and and studying this stuff. I remember I was sitting in Starbucks and I saw this girl and This is like right when it was right after like maybe a month two months after that fat girl story And you know, I'm still not good at meeting women at all. I knew nothing I didn't know any opening line that read maybe double your dating. That was about my the extent of my my you know dating advice knowledge and I remember I just saw this girl on a Starbucks and I thought she was absolutely I thought she was beautiful You know, I thought I saw this girl and I really wanted to approach her It really took me a lot to overcome my approach anxiety And I was sitting there and I had a notebook and I kept writing I kept writing like these ifs like if I could approach that girl if maybe I was a little better looking or if I was a Little taller or if I was better dressed and I was writing all these ifs because that was the thoughts going through my head And you know as a writer sometimes I just like to write like exactly what my thought process is I was writing all these ifs writing all these ifs and I did this for like a half hour And just by like look this girl sat there like she was just kind of in her own world I think she was like she was like reading a script and You know, I kept writing and eventually I was like all right, you know, I just have to approach her I just have to like at least try so I can say I could do it and it's funny I didn't even approach her what I did was I wrote my phone number on a piece of paper and wrote her like a little gay note And I like I like threw it at her and then I like ran away I like like literally like full sprint out of the Starbucks worst approach ever right, but that girl ended up calling me back I mean he did updating Pretty pretty fucking weird right pretty pretty crazy story pretty quick All you guys know like that that every rule was broken on that pickup But what you guys don't know is that girl was a model from Poland She was here for like six months had no friends wanted a boyfriend I happened to be the first guy to throw a phone number at her in Starbucks She called me back and we dated, you know, and the reason I tell that story It's not to emphasize my great pickup fucking horrible The reason I tell that story is because you don't know the reality of anything Yeah, like I said, I kind of gave you that that very realistic worldview that you know Reality might not always be great It might not be all be like sunshine and rainbows when you approach girls, but also to you don't know That's a whole idea of living in reality not living in hope You have no fucking idea what that girl is going through what's going on in her mind And you might be exactly the guy she's looking for and the only time that you don't know that Is when you live in hope when you live in fantasy land So really guys I just want to end this speech by just really really hammering home Like look you guys came out you guys spent so much time listening to speakers getting this great information You guys have invested in yourself, you know in times in terms of your time your money your effort I'm sure most of you have been in this pickup community for a long time and you were to all ask yourself How much that reality you willing to face are you well if you do like one approach today How much is that that really living in reality you have to really ask yourself every single hot girl you see That reality that truth that's waiting for you and you have to man up put that first foot forward Silence all the ex you know internal fucking noise and bullshit in the wood of sugar. Cutters the ifs what ifs silence all that Put it on mute say that girl that girls for me First foot forward approach find out reality. Thanks guys