 Hoping my Wi-Fi Work on here. Let me see something almost ended almost ended the lie One second Clever my screen a little bit Wanted to pop in because I'm a member mobile office and um It's not a Q&A just a live video because it allowed me to shoot the video without having to try to upload it Don't have too too much longer My baby boy my seven-year-old practice and so I'm back then and I'm watching his watching him practice and I want to go live real quick just cuz Uploaded some videos. I was I shot a video earlier today that I was trying to upload But it wouldn't it wouldn't go through for whatever reason and then the 26 to 35 video was on private and then the Upload didn't work So then when I re-uploaded it is switched from private to public somehow YouTube did that and so it went public So I had to delete that because that's just a replay for the people that was in the live zoom class but Continuing what I was talking about on the video. I did two videos talking about how does he know? She's the one and it raised a lot of questions always and it's so many Cavias and nuances to it. You can't really fully explain Something like that because every man is different in the sense of what he's looking for Although it's two types of men. It could be one little change Inside of what one man is looking for in a woman. What what one man is another man is looking for in a woman and One of the things that I'm noticing though is I'm coming in contact with You know, it's some spirits moving around and a lot of some of these spirits cost in us our mind It's a lot of people starting to lose their mind in the sense of the desperation The frustration The anxiety all of those things kicking in and people starting to lose their way people starting to act out of the desperation and And it's on both sides, you know men and women and it's this unrealistic expectation from both sides So sometimes I will hear a woman say You know something that's just absolutely crazy as far as just what she wants from a man And then I hear men say something that's absolutely crazy as far as what he wants from a woman And it just kind of sounds like this society, you know, you think about it when you're in a society that right now They're working on flying taxis That's like the the Jetsons you remember the Jetsons when they had them flying taxis them flying cars I just saw the other day in like 20 30 is when the flying tax. He'll be certified Now yeah, that's nine years from now but they're doing the prototypes right now and they kind of already been working on it for years and Then we in a society where we got self-driving cars and yes Some of them drove, you know into somebody else, but we got self-driving cars And so when you have so much technology at your hands and the world is so advanced and everything does everything Like I'm on this phone and I could watch some on this phone and from this phone I could stream it to this TV in this vehicle and I can order a pay-per-view fight on this phone and stream it to this TV in this vehicle That's how much technology we have so what's happening is in our world We're getting weaker and wiser as you know the smarter your phone the dumber we get Because the less we have to do when they invented a calculator People got dumber Because now you just can punch the numbers into the calculator. It does everything for you You don't have to go through the formulaic equation. You just punch and stuff in and The same thing with our phone So now we didn't take we didn't took this technology and we've taken it to a whole another level to where there's now dating sites that have taken on there's now dating sites that are taken you can You can take in put in all your personality questions and you answer all these questions and It will then send you to These matches and I've I got a invite to be an ambassador for a dating site that it's Scientific like they're trying to match you based on all this different stuff. I don't believe in dating sites That's why I'm not doing it as a that's why I'm not an ambassador And I remember years ago. I signed on with a dating site to be an ambassador But it's not a Q&A. Did somebody miss the notice did not a Q&A. This job. I'm just talking so God bless you now y'all hold y'all questions on there and I took you know, I signed up to be an ambassador and they showed me where Based on the numbers, they were like what you know, this will pay you about four million dollars a year to be an ambassador for this dating site and Right after I signed and I got ready to launch I backed out I backed out because I heard about a man got on the site and Got him a woman and did something he wasn't supposed to do and I'm like I can't I can't promote that I can't set people up for that even though it happened in the real world I'm not finna make it easier by promoting that now. This was years ago. It's probably six seven years ago and As a young man four million dollars a year to be an ambassador of a dating site. It sound good, but That's that's how the devil work, you know, like when you look at this the devilish music We listen to and you see the money that them artists get you like shoot Shoot, I might rap by that for 10 million a year. I'll rap by that too You know, you look at the the websites where whether you the women who they signing up on the site the twerk And they get a million dollars in a day when they sign up. It's like Shoot That you go to thinking about this. So we got all this technology, right? And then everybody got a voice Everybody got a everybody has a voice. So everybody got a microphone So what happened is you you got the technology and then everybody got a voice so You get drowned out. So the people talking sense will be drowned out by the people talking nonsense and So you have men and women that now can take all of their pain and all of their trauma and get on a Get on a live stream and Get some followers and teach from a place of pain Teach from a place of trauma teach from their unhealed Issues and then from that that's like a Smoke signal and it calls out to everybody else that has brokenness in them And they feel like oh, this is our leader This our broken leader and so and it's men and women and on the man side broken hurting Loss got trauma got pain got failed marriages got failed relationships got child support issues or whatever it may be that got him angry and Now we'll put a microphone in that man face And so if he hate his baby mama It's finna be open-season on baby mama's and although he has a personal vendetta with his baby mama or his ex-wife or his ex-girlfriend These men now can just spew this hate publicly and what they really trying to do is social What I call social abuse To where the anger and the vitriol is for the woman or the women that he's mad with But what the men don't realize is that they rallying troops and they'll have men who following them Who reeking havoc in their own relationship with their woman who has not done anything to them? and he'll be doing that because that cry is Music to a sore ear and So these men start to feel like okay. Somebody's singing my song like somebody on my side somebody got my back When the man might not even need to have anybody to have his back and so the next thing you know You look at this and you like wow because of one thing somebody heard and me Being a man out here. I understand it because I see it. I sense it I feel it to where if I hear a grown boy say something and What the grown boy says is in my favor and It it's in my favor in a sense that It gives me in it gives me an advantage It makes me the prize. I will take and look at my wife crazy for a second I love mmm and And then I have to snap out of it. So then because of I could snap out of it because of my calling Because of the other information that I have but When I think about it if I was a man who I didn't have that other information Then I would be recruited and let down led astray by This man who has a platform who is hurting who is broken and Then the same thing happens on the woman side of things where there were there are now several women Who are trying to teach women? how to seduce men and how to manipulate men and so we seeing this happen right here and Now me because my audience on YouTube is 95% women. I get to see far more women who Seem to have lost their mind then I get to see men and Out of the men who do comment majority a lot of them have lost their mind and Then it'll be a few good men that they're here to learn they're here to grow and they understand the purpose of the page and They understand this ain't about no being no simple anything about this This is about being a good husband that can have a household that sound and secure and that could raise a family and raise productive Children in society to be productive citizens and doing that from a place of balance and stability in the household and not Making the scales uneven to where the woman is out of disadvantage and the man is has the advantage and the woman feels like a pawn she feels like a You know a tool she feels Worthless she feels like she doesn't have a voice Don't put names on here if y'all new to the blessed ride y'all ought to know better than that Don't post people names on here. Don't be you know promoting people and all that same people name we don't speak names on here because for one I Coach the woman in France and this woman didn't know who LeBron James was so Everybody don't know everybody and we don't want to be promoting people who may have a message that somebody else don't know and So understand that right now It's it's it's working hours. So the moderators probably not in here because they probably still at work But if y'all notice, I don't I don't state names and the reason why I don't state names either it's cuz I Know what I do about my name So I just I try my best to keep people name out my mouth and just address the situation And whenever there's a problem, it's never just one person So it wouldn't do me no good to highlight and pinpoint one person because it's always gonna be several people at several at several levels that is you know gonna be Saying stuff and so understand that right now But this what we have happening in the world. So What's in the dating scene? What's what's coming up is you have you have several situations to where Women are asking for something that that men are not willing to give and men are asking for something that women are not willing to give and Nobody's a lot of people are not realizing that in a relationship It's give and take and it's never it's never a fairy tale in the sense of I Say the fairy tale is real, but I'm talking about you declaring happiness in your situation But your happy situation may not look like what the world has painted it out to be so What I mean by this is that My marriage going on 15 years a person may look at and say oh the man pulls take out the trash But this day is my wife take out the trash People may say a woman supposed to cook But it's it's weeks that we might not cook at home. And so and our relationship is completely happy But this our relationship and it don't fit inside of what the movie has shown us It don't fit inside of what people think and so that's what we have to understand about these relationships Is you got to be able to have your morals and your values and actually have your morals and your values and know what you want and what you are asking for but Understand that you can't let it be dictated by us online with a voice with a platform And we out here talking because not everything gonna relate to your household not everything gonna relate to your life And so that's what you have to understand. So Think about this and when you look out here You're gonna see these spirits at work and The the biggest ones right now that's destructive are coming from men The male accounts that are destructive are larger than the female accounts and To the point that I will hear and have heard of more male accounts than I have female accounts that are destructive and so you have to Understand that it's coming to a place right now a lady was we was doing a call and she was talking about the man who You know this man was talking to her and the first date He asked her to come to the house and she said no, I'm not comfortable with that and then He said okay, well we could meet down at the lake or whatever and just walk and then after they met up and walk He was like a can you you want to come over to the house and she was like no I'm not comfortable with that and she said it was the best-looking man that has ever approached her and Then she didn't hear from him anymore And so that right there comes from men right now Not being raised and not being taught respect Still in this day and age That's when we don't have Respect and we just see a woman as a piece of meat and we just want to do what we want to do with her and If she don't want to do what we want to do then we just cut her loose And so in order to protect yourself as a woman you got to get to a place to where You have policies and procedures for your life to where you say, okay, I'm not going to go out Just to no lake and do no walking because that's an open place out there You can you can get snatched up put in the van or what have you then? You also got to have a stipulation would say I want to go on a real date That's gonna cost some money and it's an investment and men got to understand like in certain countries Men have to pay dowry in America. We we don't been spoiled as men to where we don't have to pay dowry But in certain countries that man got to give that woman family money a big bag or Some cattle or some real estate or whatever it may be In America, we don't have to do that and a lot of dads not in their daughter life So a lot of men don't even have to ask a dad for his daughter hand in marriage And so what happens is we'll take and we will start to see women as a piece of me But there'll be a group of women who have been seen as a piece of meat for so long That they say listen, I'm tired of being seen as a piece of meat If I'm gonna be a piece of meat you finna pay you finna pay for this help piece of me And so then the women there'll be a group of women who become savages and they say hey We um You know, we're not finna be no, it's not a Q&A There's just a video that I'm shooting because I can't upload it right now So I'm just shooting it live. It's not a Q&A and then there'll be women say look we finna we finna charge We you got to break bread and it becomes about the money and not about the love and We going both ways with this women women saying a Man got to provide Man got to have all this money. He got to provide a Man got to pay for the dates man got to do all it is and then the man said hold on that ain't fair And then the man say a woman got to get on her bike when I want her on her bike And the woman said hold on that ain't fair and what this is is we're not creating win-wins What we're doing in this selfish society because we selfish people and we selfish humans and this technology make us even more selfish is What we doing is we now starting to operate From selfishness and so we trying to create a win-lose To where the one person to where we winning and the other person losing And that's not How it's supposed to be it has to be a win-win and what men have to understand and this is my thing as a man What changed my whole life? because I wanted to play in the NBA or the NFL I was a basketball and football player and I was always Number one or in the top three in basketball and football my whole life. So I thought sports would be my way out and Then when I didn't make it from sports I had to find something else and as a black man in America you typically see a few different options so you see be a pro athlete be a dope boy or Be overworked and underpaid like your parents And so when you see that to be a business man to start companies to start tech companies None of that stuff was ever shown to you or told to you so for me to change my life and go from making nine dollars and fifty cents an hour to being able to build several businesses and Earn a living Doing something with purpose The thing what I had to do as a man is I had to accept full responsibility for my life I Had to stop making excuses for myself. I had to stop feeling sorry for myself So I had to say look if it's meant to be it's up to me like that's a somebody quote So I had to do that and in doing that I say look I'm gonna stop blaming My mom For what she didn't do raising me. I'm gonna stop blaming my dad for what he didn't do raising me I'm gonna stop blaming the government. I'm gonna stop blaming the white man. I'm gonna stop blaming women I'm gonna stop blaming my homeboys. I'm gonna stop blaming other people and I'm going to assess and Address and I'm gonna adjust and I'm gonna do what I got to do to still win at life and So by accepting full responsibility Everything in my life change and that's what my thing is what I'm asking men The men who see this what I'm asking men is you got to get to the place to where You accept and stop waiting on a woman to be perfect Stop waiting on a woman to cater to you stop waiting on a woman to do for you and To bend over backwards for you and as a man you say look, I'm going to do what I need to do as a man I'm gonna do What I know is right. I'm not going to treat somebody a certain way Because of what they're doing I'm gonna treat somebody the way that I know I should operate as a human I'm not gonna change how I move Because this person is not worthy so to speak and When I started to lead in love meaning set the example in love Become love and operate from love Everything changed in my life Everything changed in my life and that's what you know, I'm asking men to do is Be the man that your creator has asked you to be be the man that you call to be and Put put the team on your back and this is the thing we praise a Player who could put the team on his back and Win the game we praise that person we praise that man We praise the man who can be in a fight Get knocked down get back up and come back to win by knockout. We praise that man We praise the man who can go from The ghetto who can go from prison who can go from having nothing in his life to building to being a Six-figure earner seven-figure earner. We praise that man But as men what we got to take pride in is putting our family on our back We got to take pride in picking up the slack. We got to stop Looking at a woman and knit picking and what she is and what she ain't and what she doing and what she ain't doing And we got to say listen this on me I'ma set the tone in the relationship. I'ma set the tone in this. I'm gonna lead in love I'm gonna teach love By my actions and what I'm doing. That's what I'm gonna do and when I do that Now this woman because I'm a man and because I done studied and because I'm a good person and because I done paid attention and because I chose with my head on my shoulders and Not the head in my pants. I know I chose a good woman And because I chose a good woman When I lead in love meaning when I set the example of love And I love her the way the creator has asked me to love her I know she's going to reciprocate the love And then I'm not going to take in place petty On the reciprocation So I'm not gonna go tip for tack I'm not gonna look at it as keeping score Instead, I'm gonna as a man evaluate the things that matter the most. So what I'm gonna say is I'ma say Is she honest? Is she faithful? Is she trustworthy? If is she respectful? If she are those things those things are the intangibles Those things are what will stabilize and Give a relationship longevity Can I trust her like when I'm out and I'm gone if I'm on the road and I'm working can I trust her to be faithful Can I trust her to be faithful if the answer is yes? Then I'm not asking the question of how much does she cook? How much does she clean? What sexual favors is she willing to do because those things are minute In the grand scheme of things those things really those are ounces not pounds And so I'm not gonna focus on the little things that are a Plus I'm focused on the priorities I'm focused on the things that I absolutely need and that's honesty and trust Transparency and respect And see what's happening is as men we getting too stuck in the weeds We're getting too stuck in the weeds and we weren't about Is she gonna do this in the bedroom? Is she gonna do that in the bedroom? Is she gonna allow this is she gonna allow that is she with this is she with that and we just want this All this open freedom. That's rooted in lust We want this freedom. That's rooted in perversion We want this we want things that don't really matter in the grand scheme of things And and we're not focusing on what really matters Hey buddy come on in So y'all finish early today, huh? I've got to watch you practice I say I got to watch you practice That's why I pull up over here It's always just doing drills I feel like y'all got super early your mama says you're gonna be here to get you before You're gonna put your cleats in the back Okay Did you drink all your water? You got more water drink drink you a little bit more water because you sweat it Okay, yeah sit back sit back there right there And um daddy's daddy on the live so Can you could turn tv on but we got to turn the volume down I'm gonna get off in a second, but um, hey My baby boy just got in here. So I got to go. I want to let him watch his tv And he on you know all the grown folk conversation But this I end the video right here and y'all watch this hill back This me speaking from a man from a male perspective Talking to the men and and what I really want to get men to understand is responsibility Because look we can always look at somebody else and what they got to do All the way. Oh, they go both way. They go both way See that man. The woman needs to be doing this the woman needs to be doing that See see that man. They went on light man. See you a man basher And and I always asked and I really want to ask me and like where did I bash a man at? A lady told me yesterday her boyfriend said I'm a man basher. I'm like, where do I bash me in that? All I'm asking men is to be responsible And be responsible and then to the women Be responsible Like because this women who write me who have lost their mind Lost they ever love in mind and so it go both ways but What I'm trying to get us to understand is as a human Women can't keep saying oh men need to do this and men can't keep saying oh women need to do this What we have to do is look in the mirror And say I need to do this And so when we could get to that place, that's when your personal life will change And I hear you know people say well people need you need this If they can't accept me the way I am Then I was like no you need to become the best version of you to be accepted don't want don't ask somebody to Dedicate their life to you and to commit their whole life to you Your media at your mediocre self Become a better version of yourself And then you will attract what you deserve It's going to be some distractions and some decoys in there that you have to use discernment to step around But you will attract what you deserve and the same thing with men. Oh, I can't find a good woman Oh, I can't find a good woman because you're not looking for a good woman You're looking for a lap dog You're looking for a slave You're looking for a do-girl You're looking for a ah, uh, uh, you're not looking for a wife A wife is not going to ride or die She's gonna ride as long as you're going the right way In going the right way mean you may be broke Mean you may be out of the job you might get laid off But what it means by going the right way is you're not Controlling her you're not deceiving her you're not manipulating her You're not cheating on her. She's gonna ride like that because she ain't got a word about dying if you're treating her right You could be flat broke if that's what life Throws on you But if you loving her and you chose the right woman for you She's gonna be there with you But if you chose with your little head stood at the head on your shoulders Then that's when You're gonna get dogged out. You're gonna get used and mistreated and then that's when you're gonna look and be like Oh, see I don't like women on trust women all all live But so when you do what you're supposed to be doing you will see everything in your life changed Ain't that right tatum? Hey god bless y'all. We'll talk soon