 Why didn't the narcissist realize what they had? The narcissist didn't realize what they had with you Because they took you for granted They believed that they could find the same or better somewhere else By taking you for granted It made them miserable and dissatisfied and they attributed that miserable That misery and dissatisfaction to you They assumed that you are making them feel that way When they just couldn't be satisfied The narcissist is like a bucket with a leak at the bottom Nothing you do will ever fill them up. They will always be wanting more They will always be looking for more and there's really nothing you can do about that Narcissists are externally focused They are always focused on everything but themselves They avoid self-reflection Which means they avoid their own healing so they look for people and things outside of themselves To act as a band-aid Something to cover their wounds Something to distract them from their pain and shame But it's only a temporary solution It's only a matter of time until they realize that it isn't working The wound is still there because they refuse to acknowledge the wound They assume that you are now the cause of it Anytime that you bring up problems or issues in the relationship Any time that you trigger them to self-reflect it rips that band-aid off and Causes them to feel the pain all over again So by the end of it They just see you as a problem Because you're constantly trying to bring truth and reality to the situation and that's just something they don't want to deal with They want to play pretend They want to live in a fantasy They are arrogant and entitled They have to see themselves as being superior to everyone around them And if you're not going to validate that illusion They're not going to value you They're not going to see you as someone who has any use or importance When a narcissist gets involved with someone all they're really looking for is someone to reflect something back to them Their delusional sense of superiority the grandiose image Everything they wish they were and if you're not going to reflect that back to them They're not going to want to be around you anymore Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of their own abilities and importance They think that they can do better without you They think that they can find better and that's why it's so easy for them to leave you That's why it's so easy for them to not realize what they had because their minds are more focused on Looking for something else Rather than appreciating what they had with you remember Narcissists are like bottomless buckets Nothing can satisfy them the more you try to make them happy The more you're just going to drain yourself Until you have nothing left to give to them and that's when they leave their victims When they've already used up everything that you had to offer So by the time they're finished with you They raise nothing left for them to appreciate Because they've used it up already and that's why it's so easy for them to move on That's why it's so easy for them to forget about you The narcissist didn't realize what they had with you because they didn't realize what they had with themselves They lack consciousness and awareness They are unaware of their own wounds And they try to use you to patch them up when the wound was exposed again They then blamed you as though you caused it They used up everything that you had to offer Until there was nothing left for them to appreciate about you And that is why they didn't realize what they had That is why it was so easy for them to move on They expected you to heal them They expected you to make them happy When that is an impossible expectation for anyone We can only heal ourselves We can only make ourselves happy But that is something the narcissist will never comprehend They will always expect other people to fix them And when those people inevitably fail They will always hold them responsible But you should not hold yourself responsible for the narcissist's stupidity One day they will realize what they had with you One day they will realize everything you did for them And how you made them feel But by that time It will be too late You will have moved on And you won't want them anymore But eventually They will wake up and realize how easy life was with you Thank you for watching I hope this video has it with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos Check out the new Narx Fiverr website At www.narxfiverr.co.uk Where you can read my blog posts, book coaching sessions And join our support forum If you're allowed to donate My pay-up and link is in the video description Coaching inquiries, you can email me At coaching at narxfiverr.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon