 When the narcissist makes a huge mistake Yes, that is what we're gonna be talking about in this video and I can tell you that Yes, of course, narcissists do make a lot of mistakes They present themselves With this air of superiority Pretty much as though they are perfect as though they can't do anything wrong. They're always right. They don't make any mistakes That is typically how they present themselves and it's always you you are always the problem There's always something wrong with you. Everything is your fault and Less, of course, they are playing the victim and you've done something to them Then of course, they have to be seen as less than perfect But even then that's still your fault and it's something that you have to fix It's something that you have to do to help them. But yes There is one mistake that they make That is quite possibly bigger than any other mistake they've ever made in their lives and that mistake is Underestimating you Because they thought But it was as good as it was gonna get for you They didn't think it was gonna get any better They thought That was it So what did they do they devalued you they degraded you? And in some cases they even discarded you they got rid of you and why Because they underestimated you They thought that everything they've seen That's all that you've got They thought that's as good as it's gonna get for you There's nothing else that you can do There's nothing else that you can put out or produce Yeah, they thought that was the end And in some cases they thought they had you wrapped around your wrapped around their finger As though you're never gonna escape you're never gonna do any better They thought you were under their control and sometimes yes, they discard you because they assume You're done You're finished You're all washed up, but then what do you do? You move on and you become stronger happier and healthier Without them and that is the key word in a lot of situations you do it without them Because that is typically how it goes. I mean, I Know on my own experience when you're under the influence of control You can't produce anything good without toxic energy around you. It just brings you down as it leaves you to become and happy and healthy emotionally And inevitably unproductive Because when someone is constantly around you and they mean, you know, well They're constantly over your shoulder. They're bringing you down. They're insulting you But they're constantly doing all these things. I mean, how can you produce anything good? They've done scientific tests with plants and They've spoken words to the plants every day to one plant. They spoke positive things To the other they spoke negative things and the plant that they spoke positive things, too Sorry about that. There's a lot of noise in the background That's the typically is in my videos They will just wait for that to pass Yes, as I was saying about the scientific tests that they have done many times and then always produces the same result they spoke positive things to one plant and That grew into a beautiful flower While the other plant that they spoke negative negative things to that flower died and This experiment has been done with other things as well. I Believe they did it with water too And it produces the same result every time without fail So you can imagine Of course, this has the same effect with people and we know that it does This is proven in psychology Whatever you speak to a person especially if it's done Repetitively it's done every day. Yes, that will produce an effect And depending on the words that you say that will determine whether or not it is a positive or a negative effect Of course narcissists once they get into that deal devaluation phase Everything they say is intended to bring you down Just with the noise pass again. I do try my best, you know, I always try and find these parks these lakes peaceful areas, but as you probably noticed in The thousands of videos that I've produced whether it's in a Room where I'm staying Well in the open there is constantly a lot of noise So I unfortunately that is inescapable aside from that yes, of Course it should be obvious why be assumed that you were finished you were done. It was all over for you Because yes, they do know the effects of their words they know But if they drill this into your head all day every day of your life Of course, it's gonna bring you down. It's gonna limit your potential your progress and success And that is what it's intended to do. It's intended to have an influence on you to control you To turn you into the type of person that they want you to be Rather than the type of person that you actually are and the person that you are meant to be you're destined to be By God's will Yeah, they're trying to take you away from that Because they want to be the God in your life they want to have control over you and what you become Because if you become something good to a threat to them triggers their insecurities and Make some more aware of all of the times where they have failed because as I said earlier Yes, they do make a lot of mistakes, but yeah Yeah They underestimate you that is a huge mistake that they make and that is quite possibly The biggest mistake that they made in their entire lives it really is and You can tell that they made a mistake You can tell that they know that they made a mistake Because what do they do when they underestimate you and you move on and you do better for yourself As you become happier in your life You're looking good. You're feeling good. You're glowing What what do they do when you move on and you do all of that? Of course, what they do is they come back Sorry, I'm just a bit distracted all of these notifications popping up on my phone now It's always happens when I do a live video But I'm gonna try and stay focused on this topic because it is very important. Yes when they know That they have underestimated you they will pop up back in your life again And it's only to bring you down to sabotage your success and happiness Because they can't stand it because if they really believed But it's all over for you. It's not gonna get any better They probably won't even waste their time They would just leave you alone And that is typically what they do with some of their targets or victims They don't even intervene in their lives. They just let them do whatever they want Because they know they're not gonna be anything great anyway But with you it's different With you it is very Different and the reason why it's different is because you were destined for something great And I already know that because narcissistic abuse has had such an impact in your life That you found my videos You found this content and you found it Because of that effect that I had on you if this was just a minor thing One or two incidents you wouldn't have even found my videos It's because it was Such a pervasive thing in your life Because yes The narcissist or however many narcissists you were dealing with they were all aware of Your true power and strength They were all aware of that And that is why They Well, they do underestimate you as well, you know, because they've had such a A pervasive influence in your life Just by being around you, they know that's gonna have an effect. They know that's gonna bring you down Make you miserable and of course when you're miserable, you're not gonna want to do anything You're gonna be unmotivated unmotivated And that's typically what they do as well To where even if you do succeed they leave you with no incentive So you just look at it like What is the point in me working hard To produce a significant of results when it's not going to amount to anything anyway Because that's what it does eventually With a lot of people it's It's like how What they do with elephants and this has been scientifically proven as well. This is a psychological fact What they do is when the elephant is a baby They tie a rope or a chain around its ankle To stop it from getting away To stop it from escaping and the elephant may the baby elephant may try To escape they may try to get the rope off their ankle or the chain But of course baby elephants. They're not strong So that might be quite a difficult task for them and with time they continue to try to escape to break the chain to break the rope And they fail every time And then after some years they realize Okay, there's nothing I can do I give up I accept that it is inescapable they Submit they give in they surrender even though By this point now the elephant May be a fully grown adult it could weigh Tons and Yet there's just this little rope or chain around its ankle which it could easily break if I wanted to Many of you will have seen this in zoos The elephant still does not try to escape Because it's been groomed it's been brainwashed from a young age It's been taught that no matter what it does There's not gonna be any other outcome. It can't escape That's as good as it gets for them to be chained up with a rope or chain around its ankle It's gonna be stuck for life It's such a powerful influence that it has on the elephant And of course it does have the same effect on us as well, which is why many of you feel stuck and You seek hopefully a more powerful Influence that has a stronger Effect on you and that's where many of you find my videos and You feel my confidence My conviction in this authoritative position that I hold on this channel Which is meant to help you Realize that you can further develop and become something great Because I do believe that and that is why I put these videos out every day that is why I do that Because I understand that a lot of you have so much potential Potential that the narcissist trying to take away from you and all you need Is a mentor a coach Something that I never had in my life when I needed it And I guess that is ultimately what made me who I am today Because I never had that I started to notice that there aren't many Real strong men out there Men who Look up people And instead of seeing them as they actually are as a result of the abuse and the trauma they had experienced I see you for what you can be For what I know you can be Yes, I see your potential Yes, I believe in you If I did not believe in you, I would not spend all of this time making these videos. I wouldn't be on your every day Yes, I do this to Reprogram people's minds To make people believe in themselves So that they can become something great So that they can achieve the life that they want The life that they were destined to live by God's will Because I believe that no one No one has the right to take that away from you if God has laid something out for you If he has meant something for you and you are destined to do that I Want you to go out and do it I? Want you to live that life What I don't want is for anyone to take that away from you because For me, there's nothing that makes me happier than to see people Find Their value their strength Find that courage that confidence and you realize that yes, I Can be something great Despite what they all told me Whether it was a narcissistic mother father sibling Relationship partner co-worker boss wherever that was For you. I just want to get on to you and prove them all wrong Whatever they told you I Want to show you that they were wrong about you because I know That's That's what these people do From a young age They did that to you. They made you believe that you could never be anything That the best it's gonna get for you It's just to be their little puppet their little slave No That's not true If that was true, I would have stopped making these videos a long time ago People used to say that to me And I know I stand here right now With so much conviction with so much confidence and pride Yes, I know I stand here like that, but I wasn't always this way There was actually a time in my life Well, I had no confidence at all. I Didn't think it could be anything or do anything. I had already given up on my life before it had even started I used to walk around with my head down Couldn't even smile. I was afraid to smile. I was afraid to even look in the mirror Because I Was terrified in case it triggered someone In case it offended them Me just appreciating myself having any sort of respect for myself having any Satisfaction in my life. Yes, that bothered a lot of people around me A lot of people didn't like to see that But now at this point in my life and after everything I've been through I accept that that Is who I am That's me and if anyone has a problem with that I don't care Because I look back now and you should do this too Just take a look at the effort that these sick Twisted people made in your life to bring you down To change your perception of yourself or the people in the world around you to change your Belief in your qualities and abilities and achievements Just look at the effort they made in your life to do that And then you should already know that yes You are very special You are a very Important and powerful person Because yes, you have had an effect on them Yes, they do see you and They do recognize that you are something great. That's why they tried to control you. That's why they had to bring you down in the first place Otherwise they would have had no reason to do that and when you recognize that that Funny enough is actually what will give you the confidence that you never had Just by looking at the effort that these people have to make Just to bring you down. I mean, I should give you more confidence than anything else It really should Because you've got to look at it like if you Aren't that strong that powerful If you don't have that potential to succeed Then why would they waste their time on you anyway? Of course, they wouldn't they would just let you go and Sometimes they do for a moment because they think that their programming has been so strong I had an effect in you That they may think that that's it for life. You're not gonna go anywhere. No, you're not gonna amount to anything Yeah, they may think that But then when they realize that they've underestimated you they will come back and Yes, sometimes they may come back with manipulation and love bombing As though they're finally trying to build something with you They had an epiphany now. They're trying to change. They're working on themselves They want to be something good for you Just as you were always something for them you were wherever they wanted you to be your entire life the entire relationship The guests as I said that is just love bombing They'll just say that to get back in your life so that they can keep you down and control you again They just want to show you that No, actually, you're not happier without me You're not doing good What about all of this all of this is wrong? You didn't do that right? You're not as confident as you think you are You're not as successful as you want to be But the funny thing is even when they do that They're only coming back just a sabotage you anyway just to bring you down even more just to put you back In the hole that they created for you So that you can't escape and trust me the second time the third time it's going to be worse Because now they're looking back they've learned where their manipulation And that tends to destroy you or failed so now of course they are going to Make adjustments. Yes, they will make adjustments But not in a positive way for you. It's going to be in a way Where it's like Okay, they managed to escape there They managed to make some improvements to get a little better All I have to do is close these gaps Cut these roads these pathways off so they can't go there then they're stuck Then they're not going to move they're not going to change they're not going to improve Because that's really yeah, I mean they try and make you believe that something is wrong with you You're not good enough Yeah, that's what they try to make you think but then when you actually Try to make changes you try to make improvements They're always there to stop you and to keep you down Because actually everything is fine for them there is no problem They're quite happy as long as you stay down They want you to stay down Because guess what once when you're up here That's really intimidating to them Now you're a threat to their Fake confidence their false sense of self-esteem Their false character and that's how you know that it is a false character because it crumbles so easily It falls apart That's how you're so intimidating to them because if it was real Then there's no problem at all you can move on you can do whatever you want you can become the best version of yourself That's fine Because then it wouldn't threaten them if they had a strong sense of self and in a sense of value At everything they do in everything that portraying the people it isn't just an illusion they're trying to protect If that was the case then they wouldn't care about you Because then there would be boundaries there would be a place where They end and you begin they would recognize you as a separate person with your own feelings and needs But they don't do that because they have no in a sense of value They have no sense of identity They didn't even know who they are and As I've said before they're like zombies a lot of them. It's like they have no soul no feeling No deeper Emotion no deeper purpose It's like their only purpose is just to bring you down and other than that they've got nothing These people are really just Low lives They have no meaningful purpose and that ultimately is the issue That is what the problem is because if they did have a purpose of their own If something actually mattered to them in their life And that could be a Job Maybe It could be something to do with charity It could be their family their wife their husband their children It could be all of these things If they had something more important to them Then there would be no problem They could just forget about you. They can let you move on and And Yeah, well From day one they never would have even Try to control an infancy They wouldn't have tried to keep you down but that's really it, you know, it's the the false character it needs supply and They get supply from keeping you down From devaluing you and when they see you starting to climb up Sometimes this may be Partly unconscious But they start to feel something they start to feel like something is not right You're triggering them and then they just lash out. They have to keep you down Because you become a threat to their false identity and The illusion that they are trying to portray and yet The irony is Many of you you have these people around you your entire life Your entire life You were raised in a family full of them Which may have caused you to be around narcissistic friends relationship partners co-workers bosses your entire life and Yet you don't feel so threatened by them You don't lash out at them You don't feel the need to devalue them and that should reveal to you just how weak and insecure they really are Many of you you can't even fathom it and that is really the greatest illusion of all is that the way that they try to Portray you as the one who lacks confidence You can't even imagine in your head I mean even I can't I can't even comprehend it just how insecure they are fact that is the cause of everything they do Everything they do it really has nothing to do with you at all It comes from their own insecurity and self-hatred They're hurt So they want to hurt you They want to bring you down because they feel down But they never satisfied so once they've got you down is still not enough they have to put you beneath them And then they have to keep you there and Prevent you from rising up, and it's all because they're extremely insecure They are extremely insecure, which is why that's what they're trying to do with you as Without so within however they feel inside However, any person feels inside that is how they will treat you if they feel insecure They're gonna try and make you feel that way and they're gonna try and make you own it But the reality is they just can't deal with your confidence You are very confident in yourself If you weren't you probably never would have found my videos You're watching this right now because you know you identify that there is a problem Despite everything they did to you and how they try to brainwash you You still knew in the back of your mind that something is not right because of course I mean Anyone would think okay if I am the problem I'm the one who is insecure Then what do I have to do? Tell me give me instructions. How can I be better? Where do I have to go? No, they can't do that And the reason why they can't do that is because there is no problem with you Or at least whatever problems you have That's just the result and the effect of being around very insecure and self-hating people that's all that is and it's sad it really gives because The entire time nothing wrong with you You were perfectly okay, but they made up these issues to try to control you Because they felt threatened they felt intimidated But your abilities and potential Things that they knew that they could never live up to they knew you were going to outshine them Yes, they knew that and they were blinded You were blind in them they couldn't take it it destroyed them and that is how you should already know that you have won You won from the beginning And it doesn't even matter How much or how little you achieve in your life Because whatever you do it's the result and the effect of them anyway. They've already limited your your potential So any little success progress or achievements you make Yes, you do need to celebrate that You do need to celebrate the person that you are and that includes all of your flaws and imperfections Because you didn't have it easy like everyone else You didn't have a fair start. So that puts you ahead of 99% of people in the world already Even if you have nothing Even if you achieve nothing and if this doesn't boost your confidence nothing will nothing will this Just look around at everyone else a lot of people they weren't raised the way that you were They had all of these opportunities everything was laid out for them And a lot of them they still didn't amount to even a fraction Of what you you became of what you achieved And yet you look around and you wonder why they're so mad This is why It's because they already know You had a very unfair start in life Many of you you had narcissists parents narcissistic siblings People who taught you the wrong things they set you up to fail from the very beginning And you still found me You still found my videos You're still trying to be better. You're still trying to be great Despite all of that And you know what that is That's like a big fuck you to the narcissist To all of the narcissists you ever dealt with it really is And yes, they can't stand it Yes, they know they underestimated you Yes, they know that all of that brainwashing and programming quite possibly from the day you were born Was not enough to crush God's purpose for you and your purpose is To spread the love to uplift people It's not to bring other people down whether they're a narcissist or not It's not to get revenge It is to find the love and the passion within yourself and share it with other people Do not become like the narcissist Whatever they're doing you do the opposite There needs to be a contrast people need to see the difference Like I could quite easily come on you I mean as you know, I didn't even talk about Much about my life and everything that I've been through I don't really talk about that But yes, I have been through a lot in my life from Day one I sustains many severe injuries some to the head And I've experienced every form of abuse on multiple occasions and pretty much all of my family members Everyone was around me from day one and yet despite all of that I can still Come on here with this strength and conviction to motivate and inspire you I can still come on you and do that I can have so much bitterness and resentment in my heart That's how I have been treated unfairly And how so many other people in this world I've had so much support They didn't have to do anything in their lives. It was all laid out for them Their lives were already planned out before they were born. They had everything they needed in life And I'm not just talking about money. I'm talking about that emotional investment That empathy that actual care and support because we all know that Is missing in these narcissistic households They don't care. They don't give a shit about you Unless it's something where they can bring you down or control you So yes, I could be very bitter about that I could be like a narcissist myself. I could be thinking Well, I didn't have a good start in life Why don't I just go and try and make other people miserable? Try and bring them down Try and make their lives just like mine how it used to be I could go out and do that But I don't because I took a different path But you know what? I think narcissists would love to see you become like that Where you're like this bitter person And you just want to see everyone else fail. You want to bring everyone down Just as they did to you because that's what it was all along. You had a good heart You wanted the best for other people You had empathy They wanted to take away your love That's where your shine is Which is why my advice to you is to keep on shining keep helping Keep lifting people up They hate that more than anything else Because that tells them that they have failed Even if they destroy everything in your life Even if they destroy it all It's the fact that if you still care at the end of it You still love people you love animals. You love this world. You still have that then you have won You've defeated them And guess what that is one thing that they can't take away from you They can take away everything else everything you've got they can take that But you will still have you still have that in your heart And guess what that's worth more than anything It is That's worth more than any amount of money Any amount of friends fans followers It's worth more than Your perfect ideal relationship partner Your perfect family your perfect children It's worth more than all of that It is Just that feeling in your heart And there's nothing Nothing in this world That compares to that you can see that because that is How we made it this far in this world If people didn't have that we wouldn't even be here We wouldn't even be here It's just because a lot of people they make mistakes and they put these narcissistic people on a pedestal They worship them And that is actually the only reason why they're able to survive If it wasn't for that then We'd all be empaths We'd all be good kind loving people But sadly So many people want to enable these narcissists As allow them to continue with their behavior Like I said That's why your heart is so valuable It's more valuable than Any house Any car I don't care what car it is it could be a Bugatti Ferrari It's worth more than any amount of money billions trillions. It doesn't matter That's only going to make a person more narcissistic anyway This heart that you have is priceless it is Of course that is why Many of these people they will try to rip your your heart out of your chest And then they'll throw it on the floor And stamp on it They'll stamp on it a lot of times. They'll break your heart Because they know That is the most valuable thing that a person has to offer And if you have that then you are an extremely valuable person You are And yes, this is a message I want to spread because actually You know sometimes That is the part of you that they underestimate the most Your heart They think that after they've crushed you and they've done all these things to you Just going to turn out to be a heartless person just like them You're not going to care about them anymore They assume And a lot of them get it wrong Because if you were born an empath If you were born a Kind loving and caring person You're always going to be that no matter what they do to you A lot of them are stupid They don't realize that They think that it happened to them, but they were that way From the very beginning anyway So they assume that they can do it to you But they can't And why? Why is it set up this way? When narcissists can't change no matter what At the same pass we can't change we'll always have a heart Who knows? That's just the way that it is And I think it may be that way for a reason I believe that as empaths are meant to take our power back And we're not meant to let the narcissists have all the power Where they can misuse and abuse it Because that's all they're going to do. They're just going to use it for a self-seeking motive For their own self-interest But as empaths we will do it for the good of other people Yeah, that's it, you know Narcissists, they will Underestimate their targets Because you have to consider as well You're never the only one And if you look back you will see that yes, they have Manipulated and brainwashed other people In their lives They've destroyed other people's lives So Don't think that you're so special in that You may not recognize it sometimes Because they're constantly doing these things to you But look around at their families, their friends People in their community Look at what they've done to them as well It's not only your life that got destroyed There were other people too Other people who had a lot of potential and they could have been something great They could have been so much more than what they are today They could have been This is what narcissists do, they do it to everyone Even to other narcissists They limit other people's potential Now these people could have had a purpose, they could have been something great But the narcissists took that away from them Because as I said they only care about themselves But I would like to finish this one on a positive note I would like to advise you to Continue Spreading the love and positivity Continue To care about other people Because that's what we came here to do. That's why we have this A heart We have it because we are meant to use it I just don't give it to the wrong people Because some people will misuse it and abuse it They won't respect or appreciate it So very careful who you give it to Share it with the right people People who you can trust 97 live viewers Please give this video a thumbs up down below if it resonated with you Let's get this message out there A lot of people need to hear this And share the video on social media if you can And subscribe Let me know your thoughts down in the comment section I read your comments every day If you'd like to book a one-on-one with me You can book it on my website. It is narksurvivor.co.uk And I have my Instagram as well. I've got new pictures and videos on there every day It is narksurvivor youtube and instagram All right, so that's it for this video, but I will talk to you in another one very soon