 Ma'am what can we say to guys who say no seal no deal meaning if the hymen is broken she's not a virgin and they're rejecting the girl even though the hymen can be broken in many ways and it is not necessary that she has had a relationship before. It is so wrong and it is abusive how can we change them? Okay let me ask you a question instead. Would you really want one of these guys? I mean even if you are a virgin would you go up to one of these guys and say I have a seal deal me in. No right? So my advice to you is just walk away. There are plenty of really nice guys out there look for a relationship where there is mutual respect forget about these people and as for how can you change them you can't change anybody you cannot make anyone think a certain way. It's only when every single woman decides that she's taking ownership of her own body that she's not prepared to put up with any kind of labels will these voices become insignificant and irrelevant and for everybody else out there you wanting to be with a virgin is your choice completely but getting abusive is not acceptable.