 I don't know much about the clothes I'm wearing I don't care about your latest fashions don't want those shop shoes or pants in suit you can't polish me up like a diamond you treat me like some old Chevy you're gonna get a suit done right can you guys hear me everything all right let's get started oh hit that like button hit that subscribe hit that like that helps other people find the show guys I need a haircut the next time you see me I'll get one I got him I got an appointment tomorrow uh there's there's a like thank you very much all right to hear is showing up uh let me guys hit me up in the chat let me know that you're here let me know where you're watching from and um we'll go ahead and get started I hope everyone's doing fine on this beautiful March second that's right that means that means spring is is coming for all of us I'm very excited even me here in Las Vegas I gotta tell you I haven't ran in a few months I have a rule which is if it's below 50 degrees when I wake up and uh that that I will that I'll go for run but when I wake up at six in the morning it has not been 50 degrees and I don't do well in the cold all right is that I'm not sure to pronounce your name right uh um brand new view here from Sacramento right on well we're just getting started brah I do this every Tuesday at 8 30 I go over a few things I give an update of what artichoke is doing and what we're dropping this week content wise so I hope you enjoy it all speaking of content yesterday I added to the many lessons just go brie got it we can do that all right brie um so yesterday I dropped another micro lesson how to be seen and heard in any room and this is coming uh from a series of many many uh many lessons and how-tos that I'm doing and they're mostly well they're from my 15 years in in the art of charm and research that we've been doing over the podcast for interpersonal relationships but also uh you know I have had an extensive life as a bar manager and bartender so I threw a bunch of these things that I had learned over the years in that environment to help everybody out so I hope you guys enjoy them they're in the micro lessons playlist they're a lot of fun and uh so last week I did a a micro lesson on how to connect with anyone instantly and it was a it was a small trick that I used to use bartending and as I was saying in the video I was able to use my tips as uh to quantify the level of engagement when using these rapport tricks and when I used them my tips went way up I would I would use these tricks for like a few weeks and then I would use another trick so I'm putting all my results all the research that I had done over the years into the micro lessons are a lot of fun check them out and you have an opportunity to tell me what you think and and to add to those in the comments so hope you guys dig them all right so I'm going to get started today with a little bit of of cancel culture reporting this is the kind of stuff that usually gets me in trouble but I don't care I think it's so absurd at this point that that how can you take it seriously that's how absurd it has become it has become so absurd that you can't take it seriously for instance Dr. Seuss we have now gotten to a place where Dr. Seuss is highly offensive to a lot of people now I find this hilarious because as as this kind of stuff and I've been following this for like the last decade but when you keep chopping at the bit right with cancel culture you you find people that are offensive and you get them and then mildly offensive and you whack them and then you look for somebody else and you whack them and it eventually gets so absurd that no one can take the whole thing seriously well what do you think most people most Americans think about the idea of canceling Dr. Seuss do you think that they think it's a good idea or do you think it's so absurd that they're that they're seeing the ridiculousness of the offensiveness that these people are are taking it has gotten to a place where no one can take the movement seriously they have overplayed their hand now I'm sure that some people will rationalize it and go well you know Dr. Seuss is offensive well I guess I can see that I mean a lot of those books were written a very long time ago and we had a different set of cultural standards then that though they have may have been mainstream and those stories and those books have landed into the lives of millions of children from around the world perhaps they are offensive to some because of the time period that they were written you can make that argument but how many times are you going to make this argument so but here's the thing okay let's all agree that possibly in the context of when these were written if you if you bring them into today's culture some people might see them as offensive so these books and these movies the Grinch and the other Dr. Seuss movies will live on YouTube if if we continue to play this game where everyone is so sensitive that everyone's going to continue to get canceled then mainstream culture what you see on regular television will be dulled to such a degree that no one is going to take interest in watching it anymore because things that are funny tend to be a bit edgy they make you think about things comedy is supposed to be about cultural shifts and ideas and to look at things critically with a sense of humor about it so that we can examine whatever it is that the comedy is about but if we decide that all comedy is offensive or that it could be offensive well then we're just going to continue to keep dulling the art that we produce until it it is so safe that there is no bite to it there is no emotional it is devoid of any emotional content which good art is all about good art makes the uncomfortable comfortable and the comfortable uncomfortable that's what good art does good art should make you think it should it should make you aware of things that perhaps you've never thought about that's that's the idea of things being thought provoking that it stirs up emotions which will stir up your brain activity so that you look at things from all different sides examine it and then make your own decision if we continually reduce art into just safe images and safe music so that no one is offended well that's going to lose all its bite and then we should see if that's the case here's the argument i'm going to make if that's the case to all of this then mainstream media who is perpetuating all this insanity should be losing their ratings rapidly is that the case has that happened is that the consequences of reducing the product to very safe humdrum emotional devoid content yeah and you could say that mainstream television now is just making emotionally devoid content so that means that everyone will have to go to alternative platforms in order to find engaging thought provoking content so they're going to find dr seuss videos in movies and books in the fringes of society where it has been reduced to because that's what good art is there comes a time in everybody's life where you start to pursue thought provoking content because you want to be moved you want to feel alive you want to feel like you're a part of something when mainstream content doesn't deliver that to you you will seek it out and you will find it or you will create it yourself this perpetual culture of being offended only it just moves people to other places and and we're seeing the fallout of it right now i mean as i said if that was the case then mainstream media would be losing their ratings well did you see the ratings of the golden globes this weekend it was a 60 drop in viewership 60 percent that means no one cares why does no one care because no one can connect to it because it is not thought provoking it is not it doesn't stir you emotionally it doesn't connect to you it is bland boring safe images on a screen that's where we are you know what i used to be i used to get so mad about all of this stuff but if we just write it out to its inevitable conclusion then we get to watch everybody else learn from their mistakes and backpedal and double down in the rest of the insanity and guess what this is where i take a step back and watch the show for my own enjoyment so i hope that you guys can enjoy it with me and that is my rant for today so if you guys feel the same way let me know throw in the comments let me know how you throw uh how you feel about it because uh you know i see a few of you are have been able to tune in and watch and we're always going to continue to build our little thing here so as i mentioned i'm here every tuesday 8 30 a.m for a live stream to do something different it's an opportunity for me to rant and go off so as we watch the continual decline of art and music and cinema in our culture it'll swing back the other way but i'm going to sit back and watch the catastrophe that is unfolding before our eyes because for these people who feel like they're doing the right thing they've watered down their product and no one cares so then what do you what do you think that the mainstream does now that everyone runs to find this edgy content thought-provoking content content that they can identify with and make them feel good they go elsewhere to find it and guess what the mainstream tries to shut it down because they're not interested in their bland lame safe product so as i said i used to get mad now i just watch it for the the pure hilarity of the whole thing so that's what i that was my rant on cancel cancel culture and that's where i'm at with it today you know it's quite amazing you know you can look at cartoons from the 40s and 50s and things like that and see their the stereotypes and how in the in a cultural context of that time period those things looked and felt different because of well we everything looked and felt different back then every and then of course everything that is created today is going to take on a different meaning in 20 years because those are cultural shifts if you and listen if you want to put things in a museum for a bit and so that people would chill out i'm fine with that as well but i certainly don't think destroying things is the answer how are you supposed to not repeat the past if you have no reminders of it i mean this here's my final point to this and i do we all have to watch this show to inevitably understand and know its conclusion and just watch the trainwreck everyone's been screaming everyone's been holding up the the red flag and and saying yo this is going to end terribly but here we go steadily hurtling to our demise and when i say our demise i mean that in the in their cultural movement it's an inevitable demise and i'm certainly not gonna get into all that now because i'm just gonna end up upsetting more and more people which i tend to do when i rant into the camera all right so uh this week we also dropped the emotional bids episode emotional bids are probably one of the most powerful tools that you can learn to use in communication in interpersonal relationships because you and me give out emotional bids all day every day in order to receive attention approval and acceptance the three things that all human beings need in order to feel good about ourselves in fact everything that we do through our self expression is an opportunity to connect with others through attention approval and acceptance if you understand how to wield the three a's attention approval and acceptance you can use them to your own advantage you can use them as rewards for people you can use them as motivation you can use them as punishment you can use them as something to aspire to but emotional bids are the distilled essence of where attention and approval and acceptance spring out of look at facebook look at every post that you see those posts are emotional bids there are an opportunity for you to throw out an idea whether it's a meme a song a rant this is an opportunity for you to connect to other people when you when no one comments on your post and there's a little feeling of of being ignored or upset inside and i know it's silly but we all do it we all allow social media to play with our emotions because that's exactly what they were designed by the top experts in psychology and and technology to do so if you understand emotional bids you can use them much in the same way technology uses you to manipulate and influence behavior which is incredibly important now if you want to know how to use emotional bids and your own and other people's psychology and an opportunity to influence them to persuade them and to connect to them well then i highly suggest that you download that new podcast it's going to be on youtube thursday we always drop the podcast episode on youtube on thursday we give it a few days on itunes and then we drop it here but we've talked about emotional bids on this show many times and this week's toolbox goes in depth inside and out on emotional bids there's also a screensaver that you can download for your phone that has all nine emotional bids so that you can learn them and to be able to identify and validate and turn towards emotional bids you can't use them unless you know what they are you you're not going to be able to identify them if if you don't if you if emotional bids are not defined for you right they are a bid for attention we go through all of them in the show we talk about how to use them to connect with your loved ones and how to use them to be able to persuade behavior it's probably well i will say this emotional bids are one of the communication tools that will completely change the way you look at conversation because now you understand what you need to pull out of conversation in order to connect with people and i'll tell you another one here's a here's a story once you understand emotional bids right which are opportunities to connect with people once you understand what they are how to identify them you will never run out of things to say in in a conversation you will never you'll never run out of things to say on a first date you you'll never run out of things to say at a networking event because you understand what you're looking for and how to identify and validate those emotional bids which when you do heighten the person that you're speaking to it heightens their emotional state it heightens their emotional state because when you identify and validate emotional bids you trigger their dopamine receptors and it floods them they get a shot of dopamine just like every day that you log on to any social media and you get that red notification badge up in the corner that has been specifically designed to heighten your emotional state through dopamine it's the same mechanism why are you not using the same mechanisms that science and technology and psychology has devised to make social media so incredibly addictive why are you not using that those same mechanisms in your own personal life to heighten the state of everyone around you to be able to heighten their state get them to feel good and then be able to influence or persuade them or connect to them it's all the same thing and you know when i talk about influence and persuasion i could also throw manipulation in there because the actuality is it's all the same thing it's just the intent behind why you are doing it that that matters my mom is probably the greatest emotional manipulator of all time in history i'm 47 years old and she still uses emotional manipulation to mess with me to this day why not understand and use these tools in your own communication to your own advantage because guess what everyone else is already using them against you so if you want to get better at persuasion and influence and connection and even manipulation if me if if it came to that if you were using it for Jedi purposes only then then check out the emotional bids episode because that is the the same mechanisms that technology uses and you once you learn them you will feel as if you are in on a little well a little secret that most people don't acknowledge or realize in their own communication that you will now be in control over so that's what i have to say about this week's episode on the at the artichoke podcast it'll drop here on uh thursday but it's already in itunes and in the recent podcast now my last point today that i want to discuss is well here how about this i'll just do a quick i'll do a quick recap which is um monday yesterday i dropped a how to be seen and heard in any room micro lesson check that out last week's was how to connect with anyone instantly i put that together from all bartending tricks that i used to use to raise my tips back in the day and then the drop will be for the emotional bids episode podcast which will be dropping uh thursday now this is all going to be in a series of rapport tactics that you can use to connect with people influence them persuade them and just communicate better i think of anything of of our modern times that has showed us the importance of of influence it has showed us the importance of ideas in fact i think that you can chalk up everything that is going on culturally right now connected to the internet which is hyper speed info information exchange and we are trying to navigate this new technology to the best of our abilities and i will tell you this right now we're not doing a very good job about it when you're canceling dr seuss and every other movie and childhood book and and everyone's mad about everything and and no one's safe about talking to anything and mainstream culture has diluted their own art for the sake of being safe and uncanceable then we have painted ourselves into a corner those who oblige to it those of us who constantly open our mouths and get ourselves in trouble which is me and you probably if you're watching this we're over it we're not playing this game and uh because we're not playing this game we can detach from the whole the whole thing and have a good laugh so all right guys that's all i had to say today give me give me a thumbs up if you can that always helps people find the show we're going to continue to do this i do this every day i'm sorry i do this every week tuesday 8 30 pacific and if you have any questions i'm going to give you another minute or two to put them in the comments in the in the chat and i'll answer them or if you just want to say hello put it in the chat and give me that hello outside of that my time is up and i got a head out of here and do some work so i appreciate all of you guys tuning in today and and and checking it out as i said check out the micro lessons i added two really good ones i think they're a lot of fun they come out every monday 8 am pacific time and then the podcast will drop on thursday and if you haven't checked it out yet make sure that you can hit it on itunes all about emotional bids as i explained it's a lot of fun it's definitely something that i would want you guys to check out and have in your communication conversational repertoires and then if you enjoy what i had to say and you want a lot of cool stuff to to learn and practice while you're still in the pandemic check out the art of charms captivate and connect it is everything that you need to unlock the hidden skills that are within you so that you can meet your goals and with that guys i appreciate it thank you very much i'm gonna head out i got a lot of things to do thank you if you haven't given me a thumbs up please do and i will uh you can catch me on all the social and i'll be back next week 8 30 a.m pacific all right guys cheers