 camera one how are you doing camera one camera two are you doing camera two welcome welcome welcome welcome welcome back welcome back welcome back happy labor day to you all shout out to the CIA what is the CIA confident intelligent and assertive man out there one love to the FBI those feminine beautiful inspirational ladies out there to help me and keep their mind focused on that prize it's been often said that you can be a high earner you can become a successful man you can become a lot of things as a man but there is a school of thought that says you cannot become a great man or it's far more difficult to become a great man without the existence of a great woman so a lot of people have an issue with that but I think like it or not history bears itself out why is that important well huh your grandfather has been every morning I wake up it's like something new every day I wake up and it's something new you know I by no means came up with the designation of high value high value has been with us for for eons but I think it would be disingenuous to say I did not popularize it and it's become a hot button issue as of late why it's got a lot of people upset this high value thing has a let's just be honest it's got a lot of black people upset you know this is not a conversation outside of black America outside of black America people understand that some people are higher value than others outside of black America this is just like a duh yeah but in black America oh my god this is setting folks off and one of the things I've noticed is that higher value men higher value women often have to fight with their hands tied behind their back while your opponents and your critics can just punch and punch and punch and punch you have to go high when they go low while they can just say whatever well today we're going to talk about why are so many why are they so mad at high value men and when I say they it's usually they usually means black women why are black women so mad at high value black men why why are they so angry at high value black men because here's one thing I will tell you as much as they talk crap about high value black men and they ain't this and they ain't that they keep bringing their cells over here Monday through Friday don't they they keep showing up and even when I ban them or block them they go create accounts just to be over here in the mix why is that because at the end of the day high value is and always will be where it's at so here's what we're going to do uh in order to keep the show going we got to keep the engagement level over 50 right now it's 1800 people in here we only have like when we have 600 likes I'm gonna give you 30 seconds to get the likes up but if not we're gonna go to the intermission and you won't like the intermission because I'm gonna start giving some real the intermission sounds like this if you don't want to hear that entire song play uh get the likes up they are free they are free so let's go ahead and settle into some ambiance you call it see we call it everybody else calls it ambiance but over here we call it ambiance or I would add they call it ambiance let's set the ambiance and get it right one of the things that I have noticed this whole high value conversation is it has brought out the best and the worst in a lot of people there are folks who consider themselves to be above it all so hoity-toity so uh I'm this and I'm that and then when it comes to high value we it's got and tighter than snake ass and vice grip because see the notion of high value draws a line it draws a line and especially in the black community we don't like rules measurements we don't want nobody telling us and nothing see black men can say this about the black women but black men got a lot of the same things you don't like nobody telling you nothing Robert Smith and the guy who drives uber are supposed to be on the same level and that's just not true but today we're going to talk about it let's understand something how many of you guys went to college or at least if you went to high school and were at least a C student you should understand basic economics the term value simply put is what someone is willing to pay for a thing a product or a service that's its value what somebody is willing to pay for it and in the real world not on youtube not in your delusional world not in her delusional world who determines value the market determines value you can put whatever price you want on your products your services or you but when you sit yourself out into a store or onto a corner or whatever the market decides if you went to go sell a car let's say you had a 1969 Ford Fairlander you loved that car and you knew every individual thing that happened to it and it could be kept in mint condition the market steel would tell you it's worth 350 bucks there was a scene in the movie trading places where the Dan accurate character he's trying to go into a pawn shop and pawn a watch in philadelphia and he said well this watch tells time in Moscow Berlin and shtod this was 12 000 dollars blah blah he's like on 36th street in pennsylvania and feel it is worth 50 bucks value is determined by the market we understand these things but in black america we decide we don't want those rules to apply to us because i've never heard somebody who is at or above market value complaining about the market the market determines and in this case when it comes to mating and dating what is the market the world and when it comes to heterosexual mating and dating ladies the market for women is men and conversely when it comes to heterosexual mating and dating the market for men is women and here in lies the road lot of lot of women in general black women are really angry at high value black men because they have a better market position they have a better market position these likes need to get up i'm only gonna say 30 seconds and we get to get the intermission the market see what are the beautiful things about being high value let's take uh your shopping experience at walmart versus target you know those are two different experiences no matter where you go walmart and target you don't see photos of people target target tends to be a better shopping experience because of the target the standards at target walmart they'll take anybody that'll lock low cost leader you know how this works go into macy's and you will have a different shopping experience and you will have sex fifth avenue and demon marcus when you have higher value you can demand more and this is why i believe so many black women are really angry or mad at high value black men because they actually have the nerve to demand at or more than their worth let's talk about it let's talk about it one high value men if i've talked about it many times when people start talking about high value and if they don't talk about these things and they mentioned my name they need to shut they need to just be quiet because i've heard people talk about me mention my name and talk about high value and the only thing they talk about is money and the length of time there are six principles of high value so if you just hear somebody talk about money and that's it they don't need to say my name that's if you know if we were competing media organizations you'd be sued for slander you cannot misrepresent somebody but in the black community we just act like oh whatever i can i can lie on the dude i can lie on him or i can say it's just my opinion yeah some of y'all gonna learn some hard lessons realizing this social media thing is not a game you signed a contract with google and even if you're not even if your channel is not monetized the terms of condition you still sign the contract with youtube to abide by their terms of conditions and you are going to start to see more channels and more content creators in court being sued for the way they handle other people other businesses let's get into it like it or not money is the fundamental component and when i was on uh donovan sharp show the other day this is the point that screws up so many so many men because they can't make the money target like it or not it's it's ten thousand dollars a month you need to have made ten thousand dollars a month for three to five years five years is when it really starts but in three years you're within striking distance so if you have not made ten thousand dollars a month for three to five years you're not in the conversation well you can't tell me a god making seven year eighty thousand dollars ain't high value if he lives in i can tell you the market says he's not high value the world does not look at that man as high value stop trying to lower it down and understand something every time a guy does this they're trying to lower the standard so they can qualify here's the argument that it breaks down for most people who mentioned my name uh don't listen to him he don't know what he's talking about i know better listen to me this is about attention for a lot of people it's not about being right on the argument it's about listen to me i know more and again i want to hold and say being right does not mean you win the smart people often loses low value shit it starts with money over a length of time high value men need to recognize you as part of their group high value men are like a fraternity a club they know their members they know the guys who will make good members you have to have a network of other high value other high value individuals you don't if you're a high value man and you got a bunch of low level friends you're not high value you just make a lot of money this is why you see a lot of nfl or nba or rappers and all this who aren't high value they make a lot of money for that for that period of time but the network is a bunch of lower level folks the network is not ceo cfo's industry leaders movers and shakers and see the guys who can make the money get ticked off on the network because at the end of the day it has to be linked in level it has to be visible to where people understand it and you have to be useful to the group that means the world the market if you got all this money and contacts and connections and you're hoarding it all to yourself you're not high value so as we get on into it why is this a problem andrey hatchett why is this a problem why is this a problem andrey hatchett well number one because for the longest black women have been told that they were valuable than black men black women for the longest have been have been made to think and believe that they're better or smarter or more accomplished leading the black community no no no no no not true the media tell you that but it's not true black men had no way to fight back in the media because we didn't know about our media and the time and the ones that did have it chose to fight a different fight so you get a lot of black women to say high value black men either don't exist or if they do exist they're gay or they're with white women somebody tell me i'm lying see that's how a lot of you get a lot of lower level that's how you get a lot of black women who have been content with losing and yeah let's call it for what it is you're losing your career and your money if you have financial position is not making you happy because if it was this wouldn't be a conversation if you were really happy you wouldn't have any issue with high value black men saying a word you'd be like well good for them look at the good job high value black men good do your thing now i'm just happy as can be over here with my dog and my cat or my girlfriend or uh you know but you're not happy and now you're starting to see the rise of high value black men speaking about the things that they want and what it's really ticking a lot of black women off as they're saying high value black men don't want what you have to offer bottom line high value black men don't want what you have to offer and see laura laura this right here chick let me go ahead and help you out laura um that won't help that won't help you on my show this whole blame the black woman show that that's not going to help you here because nobody over here blames anybody any and any of you women you're more than welcome to get up on the show see that's not going to help you out over here those things that that you can go see on other platforms i challenge you to come back i challenge you to get on the show and defend that point i'm not blaming anything on black women because honestly i don't have to the guys i'm talking about don't worry about blaming you for anything and see that's what you're used to dealing with women like cc and laura are not accustomed to dealing with black men of a certain caliber on a certain level so they treat all black men the same and that's what we're going to talk about because these black men aren't the ones you know how to deal with they don't they don't blame you they don't have to they're on about their business and about their life and they could care less about what you do or why you do it they don't see you you're invisible to them you're not a put you don't have these men as potential boyfriends nor husbands you don't even have these men probably in your friend group so when you hear someone like myself come along talking about these men it's foreign to you so what do you have to do you have to relate it back to something you're familiar with so nice try but that does not work here i've had black women on my show left and right up and down and you have yet to hear me insults be rude or harsh i've had some of the most people who have a completely opposite point of view and i've talked to them for an hour plus and i will continue to do it just so i can show you how the difference is and you can't say that so here's what we're gonna do though how about you me and understand one thing what they they want what they want how they want it and if you don't give them what they want they won't do look here man i've asked you guys to get the likes up but now we're gonna do it my way get them up the likes up get my likes up so if you're used to dating white men why are you here another foolish if you're used to that why aren't you with your white men here we go we're gonna tackle this too let me go ahead and say this too for the for the woman that came in who made that last comment about dating here it is i mostly date in a racial lol i acknowledge good black men i'm used to white asian men because of where i live well good then why are you here see what you should really be doing is not talking you have no dog in this fight um because you're not dating black men and that's fine it's your choice but see the difference between high value black men and uh pretend high value black women is high value black men don't use their high value status to beat you down far too many black women who will consider themselves higher value use their education position income and status to beat black men to beat on them think your education puts you make you in a superior position black men don't do that especially high value black men they don't have to worry about it so you don't hear you it's far more likely that black women when they rise up they're going to be more likely to talk about well i can't find a good black man so i'll go to a white man and asian men but here's the thing kudos to you but we keep score over here in long-term relationships and marriages if you're not talking about your white husband your asian husband it doesn't count it doesn't count so here's where we're going to go from here but thank you for playing you know again again you gotta you gotta you gotta you gotta spend what you have that's the issue see the reason so many black women are angry with high value black men is because high value black men don't have to explain themselves see i'm doing the show but i get paid to do this this is part of my media platform and i and i do very well for myself talking about what my clients and the guys who run around these sectors the guys who are in the top 10 percent or who are gunning to be in the top 10 percent the men who are out here who have the work ethic high value mindset high income skills ambitious competitive willing to network have a tolerance for risk and get out there and grind see they're out there doing the damn thing and the thing is when they look around and they're ready to grab a mate to go ahead and get married secure their legacy have children something so forth they're not finding a lot of women that look like them that they want they're plenty of women that look like them but they don't want them for various reasons that we can talk about and see here's the thing black women say well why don't they want them let me let you in on a secret these men don't have to explain themselves to you they don't want you because they don't want you i will tell you why they don't i will tell you some of the reasons they don't want you one you don't pass the fitness test you're out of shape if you if 80 percent or not in shape if the numbers hold i do don't it's not common to see women who are higher up the socioeconomic status who are really in shape it tends to be the opposite way when women tend to go up the the educational or socioeconomic ladder they tend to also let themselves go thinking that they can use their money career power and position to get a mate and it doesn't work that way and men who you network with don't feel the need to explain themselves to you they don't and here's nothing they don't feel the need to have to justify to you why they want what they want they don't have to justify well why don't you want why don't you want to deal with a black woman of your age of your socioeconomic status they don't have to explain it to you and they don't have to justify it why why because for high value men high value is a business mindset it's business first and if you don't understand the business principles of brownish you just won't get the argument and this is what's so funny some for so many women who are educated and earning so much you don't seem to understand the underlying business of relationship and it is not up to your market understand something ladies your market is men and if you want a high value man your market is high value men it's not for the market to educate you it's for you to become smart about your market i mean think about this imagine if i sold a product through a service and i went out and said well tell me how to sell you tell me how to get your money i got this widget tell me how to sell this to you to get the maximum amount of money out of your pocket please tell me all the secrets so i can just what is that that would be stupid af why because that's not how it works no it's up to me to figure out how to sell this widget to you and a lot of black women are angry with high value black men because one you don't understand them and it would be better to say what's going on j j came in with the double bomb it will be better to say is i can hear it will be better to say i don't understand high value black men nor do i understand how they think or how this works teach me how and that's the thing it's going to cost you a lot of money but you got the money you remember you got a you're a phd i'm a phd you got the money you're going to have to get out there understand what it takes just like Becky Becky will go on Becky will go put in some money to try to get to get her a brat and she'll put in some money to get Keith and Marcus too if i actually let the black women in this room know how many non-black women in this chat room right now or in these comment sections looking around for black men y'all be real y'all y'all's will get real tight because while y'all in here talking crap about black men the ones who come in and talk about black men or the women who come in talking about dating out and getting this see there are plenty and they call in anyway get into it they don't have to explain themselves they don't have to justify themselves because for them they understand business first it's about a lot of different things and better to say you just don't understand it but instead of saying this you automatically default back to the it's always our fault beating up on this bash and this blah blah taking the victim position instead of the instead of the winning position said all right this is how do i figure this out and what happens tick tick tick tick tick time goes on and eventually you go from being 23 to 24 to 25 to 26 to getting into that 27 to 35 and then the time is just going then you hit that wall you run face first into the wall at 30 and now you're flustered you're upset you're mad because you look around and you got less time ahead of you than you had behind you you look at all the opportunities you've blown all the guys that would have been suitable in your lane but you bypassed them and now you make more money you move further up you expect the man on your income and earning level but that's not what you qualify for and you get upset because at the end of their day you want something that doesn't want you and you don't know why so what happens a lot of women a lot of spinsters get flustered because they know that every high value man that marries a younger woman or dates out and gets with a non-black woman is one less for them to get with and they can't figure it out so it makes them mad but the thing is why are you mad at them there will be like me going to a restaurant there'll be like me going to the there'll be like me going there'll be like me saying today's special is meatloaf and i'm i'm known for chicken i'm known for chicken and i open the door and there is a line actually i'm known for chicken and everybody comes for chicken i say up but today we're serving meatloaf then everybody's sitting in the dining room i don't eat meatloaf and then i come out of the storming out of the kitchen what and if i started yelling at my customers what is wrong with you guys this meatloaf is delicious it's my grandmother's recipe that was it was passed down from my great grandmother to my grandmother to my mother this came from the old country and we use this and we use that and i and i started berating the customers and they're like but i don't eat red meat but no you don't know how good it is you should try it if you taste it you'll want it no black woman would sit back and say there will be a smart business move to berate your customers because they're not buying what you want to sell them the better move would be to say you know what i misjudged what the market wants they want chicken i know they want chicken i have chicken but i decided to give them what i what i wanted to give them your customers are saying can you just make us chicken yes you have chicken in the back yes why don't you put it on there well because it's better for my business if i give you beef it's better for me to give you meatloaf see i got this meat that i bought on sale and i got a good deal and by profit if i start giving you all the business reasons why it's better for me to sell you meatloaf you would look at me like i'm a damn fool but that is far too far too many black women are trying to do with black men trying to tell them all the reasons why they should take what you have to offer versus giving black men what they say they want fit women who are cooperative that's it fit women who are cooperative and agreeable it's not rocket surgery it's not brain science so when you hear somebody like me talking you get these women coming up all right it's just blame black women blame us blame us bash us blashing well okay all right let's just say all right you're right Laura you're right so how's how's how's that working out for you i need to talk more like umar or whoever okay how is that working out for you how's it working out for you because at the end of the day the one thing that has not broken the one thing that has yet to happen but it's poised to happen is black folk on both sides just say forget it everybody just start dating whoever you still got a shot at getting the high value black men that you want but you're only going to get them if you give them what they want and what my show has shown more than anything else is far too many black women who claim to want a high value black man have no idea who these men are or what they want but let's talk about it let's talk about it because that's why a lot of these why a lot of these women are mad that's why a lot of these women are mad a lot of these women are upset because at the end of because at the end of the day they see these brothers what does that high value man do you behind be quiet go back and go back to the beginning of the broadcast i'll be dropping a video in the morning to explain it for the five millionth time because everybody who keeps talking about high value mentioned in my name keep getting it wrong and that shows me that they're they're mentioning my name talking about high value and don't understand what i'm saying all right after i drop this video tomorrow if anybody mentions my name talking about high value and they keep misconstruing i'm going to just say that they are trying to lie because i've explained it multiple times but tomorrow morning will be the definitive drop to answer any question so let's get right into it let's get right into it why are these women so angry they're angry because they realize this if they don't get a high value black man what are the options they can't get other men they can't get other men can you get other men as the question all right fine these high value black men like this or that all right but brad lee america they want their own women and if you believe that only a high value black man will do then you better be competitive for what he wants and it's not as simple as saying you'll date out dating out is not the measure it's marrying out and the bottom line is this let me go ahead and read this stat for you there's a city in in here let me go ahead and read this stat out to you because i'm about to hurt your feelings the book coming apart the state of white america 1960 to 2010 by charles murray in it murray makes the case that the divorce rate in the upper middle class white america is only 20 while in the working white class the divorce rate is 70 and it's always been that way black america white america the divorce rate in the upper class the divorce rate decreases the higher up you go period point blank end of sentence now there are all the guys who gonna get panties in the bunch behind that oh that's not so what are you saying a regular guy gotta have i'm telling you what the stats are the numbers have always been this gentlemen if you want better outcomes increase your value what the hell do you think an image consultant does self-improvement and personal development why for better outcomes and for any guy that will sit there and complain about it gone over there with the women because you sound like children you want you think that a man who's in the top one percent should have the same outcome possibilities as a guy in the top five percent as a guy in the top 10 percent as a guy in the top 50 and a guy in the bottom 25 you think all those men should have the same equality then what you want is you want communism or is it socialism you don't want equality of opportunity you want equality of outcomes and that ain't this world higher about high value men have lower divorce rates and higher higher retention rates well man i know a lot of guys i mean you see you see these rich guys getting divorced all the time again you're assuming well you're assuming money equates to high value the thing that keeps women more than money is the network oh so here's what we're gonna get into ladies here's the question for you ultimately is this there's levels to this and if you're mad at high value black men here's the thing you're gonna you're only gonna get more mad because here's the thing unlike in my generation and previous generations where men were having children out of wedlock more and more black men are not having babies before marriage 51 percent of black men are single and childless 64 percent in the middle class that means at least 51 percent that means at least 64 percent of those men have an opportunity to become high value men they have an opportunity to go from being just as poor and disenfranchised a lot of people to leapfrogging into a whole another social another tax break in another social class and once they get there they are not going to turn around and get keys from the block they are not going to do it they've had to become too much to do that and that's where this channel is going to talk about how you become first generation high value first generation high value is a choice and one of the things is controlling your seed controlling your seed focusing that's another video so what you're going to do you're going to start to see more and more black men move up the socioeconomic ladder they're not going to be stuck in middle class like my generation and previous generations because they're not going to be saddled with all these kids and all these things they have an opportunity to get out there fail try fail better and they'll turn around and mess around and be at 40 and next thing you know they go from making 30 or 40 or 50 thousand dollars a year to becoming the next the next tech millionaires the next logistic millionaires the next blue henries the next blue collar millionaires because they'll have an opportunity to do what I'm saying you talk about work hard and do the shit jobs all the time you're sitting there sleeping on them laugh at them because they they work with their hands a drive a driver truck not a lot realizing this guy has a hustler's mentality and a hard work ethic and you're sitting there sleeping and next thing you know when they you see him out in about 10 years and they're like oh Jesus I remember when I saw him and oh he he smelled like work but he's looking kind of good now hey how you doing hey big head you remember me and they be like oh no no uh-uh no thank you back then he didn't want me now I'm hot all on me no nope nope and you're gonna be sitting there 10 years older 10 years fatter 10 years more disagreeable thinking you're gonna get one knock at the french toast off so um is Ike are you in here is Ike in here Ike Ike Ike Ike Ike Ike if Ike is in here raise your hand anyway all right well we're going to do something a little different today um see high value men that network piece is really important high value men look for other high value men to network with do business with and there's something about high value men that they move on the same kind of energy level whether they're white color or blue color doesn't matter and high value men tend to attract or drawn together by a universal force like the binds and and the binds and Adam see we didn't skip chemistry class let's get into it let's get into it let's open the call lines but uh you're ready to get to the next song let's get into the song high value men think is there always looking at ways to give back and help people who help them and do things for other people generosity remember remember not talking about becoming the bag bold ambitious and generous oh see y'all ain't ready for this y'all ain't y'all ain't ready for this y'all ain't ready for this y'all ain't ready for that so uh he wasn't here today but I wanted to actually show that because I thought it was pretty damn dope I thought it was pretty damn dope who are you all right here goes the chat room so if somebody grab Ike and tell him Ike was been a superstar that was pretty cool man come with you gradually and I can't I don't I don't know what the hell he was saying all I know is I was grooving to that shit all I know is dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun I was like she Ike got skills man and see that's the thing high value black men men look to try to give ways to give back and help other men he didn't ask me to do that but the brother has talent um who is this and I said ladies join um all right well I don't know why I keep doing this but who is this who are you ttajpc so dun dun dun dun why were you timed out I don't know why you were timed out I don't know why you were timed out um ladies join because here's the question if men can go from first generation high value go from single mother born in project born into poverty if men can do that does that mean life is over for you guys what is it what is it and that's the thing there's so many women who are mad because you've given up you've given up or you don't know how to get out or how to fix it but see you don't fix it by getting mad you don't fix it by going to these other these women's channels who just have bash black men or bash men or we don't need no man you don't fix it by saying you don't need no man that's the worst thing you can do in my opinion ladies I mean you can do that but what's the what's the end goal you're gonna die alone you think that may work right now while you're healthy in your late 30s 40s that sounds real good well we do if these men ain't doing this we might as well take up the banner you can't do that you cannot survive nope um uh you need to actually show yourself man no no black photos no if you're not going to show yourself you can't be on so all right I got pictures but I don't see people so I'm gonna ask you to I'm gonna ask you to start your camera you don't have to get on YouTube but you will have to be come visible let me do this breakout room breakout room open all rooms Do-do-do-do-do-do-do-do Broadcast message to all You must don't show you you must get on camera to be on show That's what it is boom boom boom boom Mm-hmm Yeah So that's where it is man, if you want to do what if you want to have if you want to have something that approximates Having a decent rest of life. What are you gonna do about it ladies? What are you prepared to do? What are you prepared to do? What are you prepared to do? All right? So what I will do is I will do this Here's what I'm gonna do I'm gonna close this down right here And we're gonna open the chat. We're gonna put this person in It meant this person Alright. Hi, I oh Chat, let me go ahead and unmute you sis Ask you to unmute yourself Make sure you know Hello, how are you? I'm dead in you. I am well. How are you? I I'm good. I'm kind of nervous. That's okay. He's talking to me. Don't pay attention to YouTube. You and I are just Oh, no, I'm not. Okay. Let me go What do you got for me? Let me go ahead and put my view up here so you can see me Okay, so Basically, the story is I'm 22 and I'm in nursing school I'm in I graduate next December and like I'm really trying to get serious about like dating More high-value men and I have met like one person that I would consider high value But I'm not sure of like how to go about it because I'm I'm I'm 10 years I'm 12 years younger than him. So I'm like trying to figure out what does he want from me like How do I kind of go about it? How does it mean? Do you know if he's do you wait first up? You got your eye on him He has his eye on me. He came to him. He drove about two hours to come visit me at school Okay Just yeah, just someone like I just like talked to and met it's not something like I wouldn't chase down Okay, I need to be clear. You said that you're in nursing school We don't do the mm-hmm we do yes or no Yes And how did and he said he he approached you how? The social social media to do what he approached you to date Yeah, yes Just get to get to know each other. Okay to what end See he wasn't specific on that and I didn't say anything I was kind of He's 34 Approaching a 22. Oh, yes, not a mm-hmm. It's 34 approaching a 22 year old with an undetermined goal. That's not good Okay, he should know and see there's a lot of things wrong with this one 34 year old man Should not be approaching a 22 year old woman without a plan Number one number two. You should not be trying to figure out how to get on his plan. Where's your dad? Me and my dad haven't spoken since I was nine. Okay, why yeah He was really abusive to who and so to my mom and to me hold on hold on Let me let me hold on now. I gotta ask some questions here Mm-hmm abusive to you See this like physically abuse, okay, physically. All right. Yes again. Do respect. I don't know You have any siblings Yeah, I have a little brother and I'm the oldest so Did you mean? Abusive I mean you got a whooping or You got a broken arm. No, it was it wasn't towards just it was more like emotionally abusive towards me But he was physically abusive towards my mom. Okay, ma'am I gotta gotta be real with you your father's relationship with your mother has nothing to do with your father He's your father See far too many of our women want to throw men away and then wonder why you don't know men I didn't throw him away. He just never talked. We just many up. Okay. I said far too. Okay. Let me let me make it clear Okay, you got some issues with that I know So you're not gonna fix him on this call and you're not gonna act actors though I don't know what I'm talking about You need to get this square you need to get your daddy issues and check me before you deal with any men And when I asked you about your father, you're telling me about what he did with your mother and that is not your concern That was those two grown people you said he was abusive and I gotta tell you what I'm expecting He is he broke my arm or broke my leg and we had to remove into protective custody and that's not what I hear often from women what I often hear from women is a Not a child's point of view on what they saw Between two adults and you don't know It's all a little coming down to you don't know and why is that relevant? Well Daddy issues end up having issues with men in general Where's your father? I don't know like we haven't talked in like 13 years. You haven't talked I've wanted to reach out and I've always wanted to like, you know Kind of I'm not trying to make this into like a daddy issues type of show You know, but I've tried my best to kind of reach out but like every time it comes to family I'm always discouraged by who to actually the women long exact exactly Parental alienation happens so often to women I need you listen to me. Okay You're growing into your womanhood, right? Yes, we don't do yes Yes, all right Have you had boyfriends in the past? Yeah, I had one. Are you a virgin? No, all right, so you understand that relationships can be complicated Yes, you cannot judge your father Based upon what you saw at eight years old between him and your mother and I can almost guarantee your mother has not really told you anything positive or endearing about your father And when you say you want to reach out to him, it's discouraged That's all kind of problems Like it or not she he is the man your mother chose to reproduce With once or how many times twice you got your brothers by your father Just once my my mom got remarried She's still married. Yeah, they're still married All right And your stepfather Said what about your your dad My stepdad doesn't really talk about my dad. They don't really no one really talks about my dad He's just like he's a kid. He's like it's almost like he's a ghost No, the only problem is that your father I don't want to give a shit about anybody else. That's your father And you need to understand who you got a whole half of you out there that you don't know And there's a daddy-sized hole in your existence. This is this happens So it makes sense now 2234 Yeah, no So I say therapy is so necessary of black people You don't need to be really worrying about relationships until you at least address these issues And you're not I don't want to like say I don't want to say like I haven't tried to like Kind of address them because I know I I've always been extremely self-aware of like what's going on with me by yourself You need to okay. I got to move on to another call. Let me just tell you this you're too young You don't know what's going on this 34 year old man You got all these different things going on ma'am. You need to address your issues your your your father issues your daddy issues with a licensed professional therapist And you're not going to get any help with your mother because I would tell you this They're going to be things that have come out That you might be really surprised and shocked to hear that your mother was culpable and your father may not have been as guilty It is not Healthy to sit back and tell you you don't need to know your dad You don't need to know anything about him That's suspicious af Yes, sir. Thank you so much for talking with me. You're welcome And we do this often to our young girls. I mean ask this question Who are uh Love You can go ahead and unmute yourself Hi, how are you? I'm well, how are you? I am well What do you have for me? I just wanted to ask more about I know the topic was why I went in so mad at high value men And um from my observation I've seen that a lot of people just don't understand The definition of high value which I see you explain it every time on your show But I think that's really the major issue people really don't know what high value is And it's just a misunderstood concept Well, how old are you? I am 25 25. Do you own a car? Do I own a car? Yes Yes All right, did you purchase that car? Yes What what make a model is it? It's a jeep patriot jeep patriot Um it has a value, right? Yes, if you were going to go try to sell it You could only sell it between this dollar value and that dollar value Could you go sell a jeep patriot? On the mark on the market today for a hundred thousand dollars used No, because it's not what it's not worth the same amount. It's not that value Right versus if you decided you wanted to go sell a Bentley of the same year Used could you get a hundred thousand dollars for it as long as there hadn't been any kind of wrecks or accidents? Yes, we understand value We do understand value. We don't like to ascribe value to people Because it's very cold It's very real Um you ever go into a nightclub before? A nightclub. Yeah, I've been to a club before Um You ever see the VIP line where the young pretty girls get in for free? Yes Have you ever been in that line or I mean, you know, you know that that line, huh? I have and then what about the women that weren't in that line They have attitudes and they're wondering why they're not getting in as far Hold on. Are they are they really wondering why or did they know why? They probably know. There's no problem. There's no probably They know Okay, tell me why you get in the VIP for free and they can't Because we're dressed up. So like when you go out, we're wearing dresses. We wear heels Okay, if you look like if you look like precious in heels in a dress, could you get in the VIP? No Okay, so let's not play At 25 I treat it's not treat you as a grown woman at 25 And at 25 you understand that you have to be of a certain looks value to get into this place for free And if you don't you stand in line and pay with the dudes right So what's not to understand we get this It's just harsh All right, so, um, do you want to be married? Yes, okay Any kid you want to have children? I do not have a children. But no, no, you won't have children. I definitely do you want to have children is a question Yeah, how many I would say two or three Okay, do you want to have to work to pay substantial bills or significant bills after you're pregnant? No, no, okay. And uh, what part of the country are you in north southeast or west? I'm in the south. Okay So if you're going to be a stay-at-home wife With three kids How much money would a man have to make? To have a wife stay at home with three kids to support an upper middle class lifestyle. How much would he need to make annually? For north carolina, I would say anywhere between 150 and 200,000 What part of north carolina are you in? I am In like the Gibsonville area. All right. Well, I say when I say upper middle class What I mean is would you want all three of the children to be able to go to college if they wanted to? Yes, okay, would you want them to have to take out student loans or would you want to be able to pay for it? I would want to be able to pay for that. All right. So when the kids each turn 16, let's say you have Would you want them to have a car? Yes, right, and I'm assuming you'd want that car to be clean safe reliable transportation Of course. Yes. So you're gonna get there on no hundred fifty thousand dollars a year with a family of five You're talking about a man who's making three hundred someone thousand dollars plus because college for three children see A lot of you young ladies don't really seem to understand how much money You're looking for a man to make Right. Well, I I'm really thinking about like when I think of family planning I look at like mutual funds Different things that you can invest in to prepare for college not necessarily it coming completely out of pocket But I definitely but that's still Not something you plan on paying for You plan on being you want to be You want and here's the thing. I'm not I'm not I'm here's the thing. I'm just trying to give clarity three children having each having a car at 16 in college To raise a child from zero to 18 is 200 thousand dollars in this country and you're talking about attacking on an additional 50 to 70 thousand dollars in college bills A man is going to have to make 300 plus thousand dollars and I don't think a lot of you ladies get that And I'm not trying and what I'm trying to get you understand is If you want a man that makes that kind of money, what does he want? What kind of woman does he want? He wants someone who's feminine definitely someone who takes care of their body And who's easy to get along with okay that comes standard. So how tall are you? I am about five seven five seven and a half dress size My dress size is a four. Okay. How much did you weigh the last time you weighed yourself? My last weigh in I think I was 170 Okay Ma'am, there's no way on god's green earth You are a dress size four I do this in real life at 170 pounds Why is that important? Well, I mean I have mine. I have them in the closet. I think it just depends on where you get them Again, no offense, but professional image consultant who does this in the real world Five foot seven women 170 pounds you weigh more than a man Well, the last I will honestly say the last dress that I thought it was the size four if I got it wrong Okay, ma'am, but Again, you see what you just did there I'm 51 years old and a professional in this and instead of just saying you're right This that you're gonna just in your nice feminine voice argue the point Why? I'm really I'm not Yeah, you are you are you're telling me. Well, you're wrong sir. I do have a dress size four Let's move on See Okay um Well, you raised with mom and dad And your mother and father were married Yes, I can't hear you Yes, they were married. Are they still married? My father passed away All right, are you looking at you too? Were you looking at me? I'm looking at you. Okay. Um Sorry to hear that but I'm gonna tell you that from what I'm hearing you have a nice demeanor right now But the man making the kind of money you're talking about making Don't want women that are 170 pounds The average height of an american man is five foot nine and a half. He weighs 168 pounds Again, you weigh more than a man and that is going to affect Your mating options your marriage options Is this the first time you're hearing something like this? No, I've been listening to you for a while and I just Started burning boot camp like three weeks ago So, um, I know I took a long break with this quarantine. I should not have done that but I'm definitely in the gym every day. At least my nature's today. Okay But one of the things is we have to be honest is um Black women have to stop and I just gotta say it man. Black women have to stop lying to themselves about their physical bodies I know what a dress size four looks like and I can tell just by the the girth of your arms You're like a 10 and you're too young to be this size This is why it's going to be so Um, if uh, have you ever weighed more than you weigh now? No, all right. Well, let me just be honest, man. Um, if I gotta just be truthful You're looking for an elite level man and you're an average woman and that's not an insult average shouldn't be an insult Okay This whole notion about not working You will be working 72 percent of mothers in this country have to work full apart time Are you familiar with that? Yeah, I've heard you say that before. All right. I honestly I went to school. So I don't have a problem with working. What I'm saying is after I College the baby you went to college. Yeah And your degree is in what? My degree it's in social work. Right. So you went to school. Do you have student loan debt? Yes So what you're telling me is you're willing you went to school to go into debt to at the end to go to work to When you find a husband just say now you pay all that debt. It was useless then Why go to college and get into all that debt if you're not going to use it? No, that's what I'm saying. I want to use my degree So my plan is of course structured around family planning when I get ready to have a child To just have money saved up so that I'm able to pay that debt off because I don't want to pay that debt off for who's money though With mine how Ma'am social work, you're not balling You get married get pregnant. You don't want to work anymore There's no more money coming in from you How you gonna pay off a debt? How's that work? What I was saying was I wanted to Plan for a family. So I'm planning on having money saved before I have the baby So that I'm able to pay off. Okay, ma'am save saving. Okay again Saving who's money Saving my money. How much are you making right now? Right now I make about two thousand dollars a month Lady you're broke That's twenty four thousand dollars a year you have to be living at home with mama or something Okay, reality check time you have no plan And if and if you do have a plan, it's a bad one You don't really seem to understand what you're saying doesn't make any sense And how much is your student loan debt? It's substantial. How much is your student loan debt? About A hundred thousand dollars in student loan debt to be a social worker Ain't nobody gonna marry that So basically what you're saying is you're 175 pound 170 pound Social worker with a hundred thousand dollars in debt and you expect somebody to marry you And allow you to stay at home and get What doesn't doesn't make a lot of sense does it? You're gonna save up some money. How you saving any money? You got it. You're living paycheck to paycheck right now right Well, honestly No Okay, are you are you are you paying do you have are you in a do you live with somebody you have your own place I have my own place. How much is your rent? My rent is like 750. How much? Say again $750 against the $2,000 a month income these numbers on add up ma'am You are living paycheck to paycheck. Listen young lady. You're living paycheck to paycheck You make $2,000 a month and you got a $750 rent You're not saving anything Your plan at best would be i'ma hold on until I could find a man Who will pay my debts? Because you're not going to be able to afford to pay them with your income And see this is why women are mad at high value men because they won't take this A high value man will come look at your situation and say well, wait a minute You weigh as much as a man You got a hundred thousand dollars in debt You have low income skills. You don't want to have to really work So it's all on me now. Okay. Let's say I decide to take that. What am I going to get? I'm going to you're going to get a feminine woman There are feminine women everywhere ma'am Who are in great shape And lower debt That's why I try to let you a lot of black women realize You're upset with men that won't take this and it's because you haven't even sat down and Sharpened your own pencil and put pen to paper. It's all well fantasy I will I don't want to just quit work. I want to actually save money. So that means he has to pay the bills You worked yourself into a pretty bad position Well, and the way out of it is to stop digging to stop lying to yourself Stop saying you were a dress size four when you know you were in a 10 or a 10 plus Get a second or get a get a you need a better job I don't know what job you're doing, but if it's paying you $2,000 a month That's $12 an hour Ma'am, you can make more money at Circle K quick triple Walmart And a hundred thousand dollars in debt This is why women need men because you shouldn't have even been allowed to get in this position I mean, how far how long did your father pass? He passed away when I was 17 So your mother allowed you No, no disrespect to your mother, but she allowed you to get into this debt For a useless degree So when you say when women say they don't need men you need men for things like this Ration and reason business All right Uh, I hope it works out for you sis Thank you Dude, I don't you say somebody told you you need to get on my show. I really don't talk to men I will tell you that much. Um, let me get in the chat room Uh Refer to your channel by a co-worker told me that you can help me at this point in my life I'm because I have all your men. I also have a question about my ex told me. Well, I mean, I'm gonna be honest Hey, no, you need to actually get on camera You need to get on camera. Um I would do this dude. I'll give you a second or two Because you've been here for a second. Hello Hello. Yes. Hello. Hello your first name First name is frank. Frank. How old are you? 29 Are you watching youtube? No, I'm not Uh, you need to close youtube and all the things in the background Just have zoom on please And now i'm now me you and I get on my screen. It's like and visually I do you so Um, go ahead frank. What can I do for you? Okay now me? I'll give you a second What's going on frank? I usually don't talk to guys. I did say women only but go ahead Okay, well first of all, thank you very much for, um, allowing me to talk to you I work in public accounting. I run my firm a cq firm. I'm also a tax attorney And recently, uh, I broke off with someone else who told me or mentioned something about me Uh, dumping her because she felt as though I felt as though I was powerful or I was a High-value person and so I spoke with my co-worker and the co-worker Kind of agree with her. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on ight ight You say he's super late. Oh you missed it Well, since oh ight is just not getting here. Hold on man What's going on ight man? We've been looking for you All right, so I'm gonna get back to you frank um You said somebody You got to make it quick man. Uh Naomi you're next you got frank go ahead What's the what's the what's the question I need to answer for you? My question is what makes someone a high-value person I broke off with my ex maybe a month or two ago And she was telling me that I dumped her because I felt as though I was Powerful you dumped your ex You dumped her. Yeah. Yeah You dumped your ex. How old is she? 32 Yeah, uh, bro, uh, that's too long of a I don't know what you're getting at She said you dumped her because you felt you were a high-value man Right. She felt as though. Yeah. All right. But here's the net net of it You're 29 he's 32 and there's far too much for me to dig into If you really want my assistance, man, book a session. That's really what I can tell you It's not even what this show was about. You can play off the topic Okay, thank you on your own business you can afford it Thank you later Naomi go ahead and take off the get on the camera Naomi Naomi Naomi the cameras dark so um Uh, I would say this though Um That's all that sounds all kind of messed up Woman said you dumped him A woman he was on there for 30 plus minute. Uh, why is your man? Why is your face covered? You got a mask on that's not how this works You want to talk to me you're gonna talk to me Hello Hello, yes Why do you have a mask on? I'll take it off. What's going on? All right, so my friend actually linked me this video. This is my first time How do you pass your channel? How old are you? I'm 24. All right Um, so yeah, I came um when you sent me the video so I subscribed and We thought it'd be fun to ask a question About value um So the question, um Sorry Um, I'm curious to hear what you're Where you would think I would stand on like the values to go for a woman. Uh, that's not what this is about Oh, okay. Um, who's your friend and they your friend referred you to me Oh, no, my friend just sent me the link to your video. Okay. Was it a man or a woman? It was a man. Okay. Uh, have you been watching my show? Uh, no, but I have been on here for this video Um, I don't know why he would send it to you, but I got it. Well, I'll okay. Uh, are you dating this guy? Um, we're talking we're friends We're friends Together do you have any children? No. Do you want to get married in the future? I mean, it would be nice, but I don't really you're 24 Marriage like that. Yeah, did you go to college? Yes, where'd you go to school? Um, I don't want to say specifically for I've seen reasons but Well, then you're on my show. I don't really I mean man, look You can I don't nobody gives a shit nobody's gonna Okay, okay. All right. Um, I'm from I'm in california. I went to school at the state school. All right, so I mean In general you're asking about value and at 24 you seem very girly Are you normally so, um bubbly Because you came on the show you didn't want to show your face you got a mask on And I'm like, all right, you're 24 and I'm expecting to talk to a woman. I feel like I'm talking to a teenage girl Oh, okay. Well, that's just that's just my personal I mean, I'm not I'm not that way all the time Well, but you're on the show with 4,000 people and I'm just trying and you got you asked me a question So I'm trying to understand who it is Um, bottom line is if you don't know you want to be married or not. You're just kind of out here Living life, right? I'm not out here. I'm not out here. I mean ideally I've always seen myself with just one person I just asked you a simple question in the future. Would you like to be married? That's either yes or no Well, that's not what you said Okay, well, I mean it's kind of I don't really think about it like that. So But that's the point. Let's see. That's the point. You know, what do you think about it like that and these are the years You should be thinking about this heavily because Because time is wasting And at 24, I said you're just kind of out here. So you made my point You're not thinking about it. So I hope you're not sexually active Uh Because accidents do happen Uh, um, is your dad in your life? Yes All right. Well, um, I don't know what else Are you actively are you working? Are you still in school? Um, I'm job searching right now, but exactly I graduated college. There you go. So and you're living with who? There you go, you're a little girl No offense, but this is what I mean. You're not serious. I'm not talking to a 24 year old I'm talking to a young. I mean I'm talking to a 24 year old college girl who has no job living with dad No plans for the future. You're just out here 24 Oh, I have lots of plans, but you happen to but you're not doing anything you can have lots of dreams But plans require. Oh, no, I'm doing stuff. I have I do have plans Yeah Again This is the position we put a lot of our women in we just Life is not serious for a lot of a lot of black women. They're just out here and You're wasting time I'll let you unmute but you can't talk over me Okay, I'm sorry What are you planning on doing with yourself as far as working? Um, so I majored in computer science. So my plan is to get a my plan is to get a software engineering job And what age did you graduate? Uh, 22 right, so it's been two you've been out of work for two years Um, well, I wouldn't say out of work. No, no, ma'am. I have another career. No, no, no, no You've been a graduated for since 22, right? Yeah, yeah, have you been gainfully talking about no, no, ma'am. I let me be real clear I don't play games. I know what employment is. I'm background is in engineering. I'm not it's not a toy over here Have you had a job? Have you had a job the last two years? Um, no, no, then how do you how do you then what do you then how do you eat? Um, I have a savings, but I have savings from what we're receiving savings from what? Where've you had a job? Well, I have worked When I was in college. I um helped with the family business You helped with the family business that wasn't that wasn't a job, ma'am They found a way to give you money But I actually okay, but you work for the family business. Okay, see I See why he told you to call now. I see why he told you to call. Let me help. Let me help you. Let me I see why he told you to call That's it. You could pull with daddy That talkative little uh stamp you for daddy's girl. It don't work in the real world Of course, I know Well, apparently not because you've I've had to mute you twice on this show you you graduated 22 In california see adults have to go to work to pay for the housing the food And all the other kinds of children get to go back home and live it with daddy and pretend To be have dreams and things for two years COVID didn't do it And you're you're saying you you live it off of savings where you work for the family business Meaning that's another way whether you work the night is irrelevant the fact of on the open market Why are you not working to take care of yourself and pay for anything? Yeah, why don't you why aren't you out working like the rest of the people in the world? Oh, that's my friend, but um, you're playing. Okay. When is it supposed to start? When is it supposed to start? Oh now now? I actually have interviews coming up But why hasn't it happened in the last two years? Because I said previously I have an entrepreneurial mindset. What do you mean? So see ma'am entrepreneurial meant what how would you take any money to run a business? Um, well what I'm doing doesn't require like a huge investment. I mean see what what you're hearing folks is if this were a man We call her a loser We call this kind of stuff loser This is a female loser If this is a man, we call her a loser We call this person a loser. I got entrepreneurial plans and this and that I work for the family business You're not doing anything your daddy's girl. And that's cool And maybe you'll make somebody a good This is problematic Um, I hope the person that gave you this link is not a guy you're dating Because it gave it to you for a reason Because you're kind of cute But it seems as though you're going to be a hell of a lot more problems than anything else because You can pull shit with daddy that you can't pull with men. The real world expected. Well, I think Oh, sorry, go ahead. Go ahead Sorry, um, yeah, I know what you're saying, but um, the This idea of just being a cute daddy's girl. I mean, that's not really accurate. There's a lot of context missing But I understand what you're saying The problem is you went to school to you went to school to get a degree Everybody else who didn't and you're supposed to go to work after that not not Do entrepreneurial stuff for two years Okay, well some people I mean, I don't want to say some people but um In some cases people do take like a gap year to yeah, yeah Yeah, but again, but the only reason you can have a gap year is because daddy's paying for it He's not paying for anything. Um, you work for the family business. Who's business? Who did you work for? It was uh, I don't want to get specific. I don't give us no no no see, of course, you don't want to see This is another reason why it can't be high value. No visibility See when it's ever when it's ever I don't want to did you work for a family business? Yes or no Yes, all right And why not go work outside the family business? Because I was just when I was in college, but when I graduated I decided to You decided to what? When I got out of college, I decided, okay I'm not gonna get a job right away. I could have easily done that. Um, it's not that I can't I literally had professors tell me you're very intelligent like I know you're not gonna have a problem getting a job. Um, so I decided to just take some time to really own in on my craft and Now it's time for me to go get you know, like I understand the importance of working and stuff and being in this process. That's what I'm doing right now Uh, huh Yeah, um What I said stands You're living in a fantasy world And this happens a lot to our black women in california I don't know what's going on in california on the west coast where we make women think you can just pretend look, man At 22 after college, I don't begrudge you for working in the family business It's good to have a family business that you can work in But that does not give you a taste of the real world Professors telling you you're intelligent does not give you a taste of the real world Have you ever lived on your own? Yes, or no No, so you are still effectively the same emotional maturity as you were in high school That's why I felt like I'm talking to a teenager You have not gone out and paid your way in the world. You have a degree You're not using it and the only reason you could sit back and do that is because somebody else was paying for your grown And your grown self To find and figure it out fine But um, but I let you talk Okay I will say this Uh marriage sounds like a great bet for you because you Don't sound like you have the mindset Or the desire to get out of here and be a career woman, which is fine. Oh, I definitely Witness the birth of an eternal seven The birth of an eternal seven Why is that allowed to happen? Well Third father's credit or family's credit. They know we cannot send this bobble head out onto the planet She will not do well on her own Keep her close to a home She's not ready for the world and that's smart see honestly It'll be far better for somebody in that mindset to go from dad to an older man who's a older husband And he just yeah, come on come over. Yeah, uh-huh. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We'll start to your own your your own, uh Your own consulting firm. Yeah, right. Yeah You just squirt me out three kids and you just sit over there. Yeah, this Yeah, you're you're brilliant. That's right. Yeah, you're the next Einstein. Just just go give me a sandwich I mean that look man That's not a bad path because I would rather Here's a question. Would we rather her be at daddy's home? Being kind of emotionally immature Oh, we'd rather her be out here becoming a hard-scrabbled worker and riding the cc I mean, I try to look for a silver lining as much as possible At least guys understand she's not out there becoming hardened. She's hard headed But but it's not even really hard headed. That's that I'm a daddy's girl And that's that's why I said that's not gonna work Um, especially not with somebody around her own age Only fans She ain't that cute She's cute ish, but not that cute um You know, uh, let's see who's gonna listen to that. I know Um, we're gonna have to have a talk about this whole thing about Later on this week I may actually do a show every day this week because we've had a short week This whole notion about women talking about they want to build with men I want a man. I can build with I want to build. I want to be how many times We need to talk about this fantasy building you guys have in your mind. What are you gonna build? You want to build what? Build with other people's money Well, what you want to do is play you want to play you don't want to build That's why a lot of high value men give their wives The ability to start their own business and their own sign projects so they can just stay out of the way Because the women You're not supposed to be the builders Another thing when I hear you've heard this thing about abuse when you talk about ask a woman Why you're not no longer with your man? What are the reasons that come up infidelity? or abuse Two things you're not supposed to talk about. Well, I think it's time we start talking about it This abuse thing is used Very broadly Now I'm just going to say this from anecdotally I don't see a lot of women walking around with black eyes and broken arms and jacked up I don't see that I've never seen the world I mean, I'm not going to Downplay the fact that there are some women that get out there and get horrific abuse But I think it's far. I think in modern times It is far over. I think it's far over reported. I think more women say it than happens. Who's more abusive Are men more physically abusive or are women more verbally and emotionally abusive? See, we don't talk about it the other way I don't see a lot of men. As a matter of fact, I see women who it's far more likely to see women How are you all of a sudden to say all these abused women and when a woman's quick to jump and start yelling and snapping at men A lot of these women talk about abuse, but they they don't act like they've had nobody Not going to furniture out their mouth. I haven't seen this I don't get it Some is mental abuse, but who's who who does them? Who are who's more abusive? See abuse is something you're not supposed to ask if you say, well, why'd you leave your man girl? He got all of a sudden these men. I mean just go look at my show All of a sudden you were with a guy for two or three years and all of a sudden he became abusive really the end of the day A lot of women are angry with high value men because they can't keep them Some of these women can deal with high value men, but they cannot keep them You cannot keep them. So a woman a woman's rated on her ability to keep a man Oh, let's talk about it A woman is rated on her ability to keep a man So if you're a woman who does not have a husband Does not have a long-term boyfriend or relationship and has no history of keeping a man What does that say about your overall value? I didn't make the rules ladies But it is far more detrimental to a woman to be for on her on her overall value The way society looks at a woman who's unattached Because a man Because see here's the thing ultimately people know you can give it away. Why can't you keep a man? Why can't you keep them around? I don't know how I'm gonna touch this subject of abuse and I don't even if I want to because it's too much of a hot button And one of those things, you know, even if you talk about it, it's gonna get misconstrued You know, I just personally I've seen far. I've seen more opposite. I've seen more women who are just verbally abusive to men and just You know these new I mean women are just women have no problem talking about looking the subway When they do with the eight ball jacket, you got three women just smashing people's phones and talking crap and carrying on If men were as abusive as some women say you wouldn't have that happening So These women can't cut a single Financial abuse. So at the end of the day, what are you going to do and a lot of Especially older black women are angry with high or mad at high value black men Because they actually have the nerve to start talking See if if men weren't going to say anything if they were just going to keep it quiet But men are tired of being the scapegoats And telling the world what a reason I ain't married is because these men ain't worthy. No You I've actually heard this on youtube Asking asking women in general black women in particular. Why don't you have a man? Why don't you have a husband? It's men's fault I actually heard women say this I don't have a man said this woman and it's the men's fault Wow Really You don't have a man, but it's the men's fault Okay You mean got to change where you were exactly So I would say as far as millennials and zennials They're not taking the these crazy deals and ladies if you're if you're 21 to 40 Uh my suggestion If you're 21 to 27 You better start act moving like the world's on fire Because no one can really tell you but i'ma tell you once you hit 27 once you hit ZANGERZONE The music starts to slow down and stop and these guys are not taking his bs Don't let yourself get over 30 years old thinking you're gonna get out of here and find a husband Your chances of marriage drop substantially and the whole notion of or not every woman wants to be married. That's bull That is bull. You want to be married. You just don't know how to do it No women don't run around and talk about I want to be single and a spinster for the rest of my life. No children That's not in your that's not in your it's not in the typical woman's uh makeup So what ends up happening in your early years? You say the men ain't crap They dusty busted crusty whatever then and you're late to mid 30s It starts to level out and 40 these men are ready for prime time and you wasted your time Not submitting or getting yes submitting and getting with a man In your early 20s getting the best man you could get and just getting off the board You waited too long You waited too long thought you could find a better deal and now you're stuck You're in your late 30s. You're 36 plus in no man's land and no prospects What are you gonna do? How do you fix it? How do you do something about that? because You don't have to it doesn't have to end right there, but You got to recognize the fact for what it is. You got to stop digging Don't want for and the first thing is I say to a lot of sisters. You got to stop lying about your weight I'm a size four. You know how many women have called in said they're a size four and I can see you I can see your thickness of your arms The the broadness of your shoulders You know and we'll sit there argue luck down like You too big And see two things any woman can can control you can control your your weight And your attitude High value man or no So what are you willing to do? That's the thing. What are you willing to do to get what it is you say you want? What are you willing to do to get it? Now here's the funny thing I got u.s. Michael Harrell. I got women are telling me you stupid you trans you don't know nothing You don't know this you don't know that but every day I get somebody You don't know what you're talking about I don't have any problems with me and ladies I'm not your enemy Black men aren't your enemy. Men aren't your enemy. The truth is not your enemy The truth is not your enemy. The truth is neutral Facts are neutral and is not my goal or intent to sit here and I'll put it through this you can think what you want to you can listen with your feelings But it is better to know the truth and know where you stand and then decide what you're going to do about it That's the question. Forget me Forget the message of high value and this and that forget all that What is the truth of your existence and then what are you willing to do about it? That's really what it comes down to for a lot of people Moving like the worlds on fire sarah, that's true Because women have a have a clock Women have a clock and then when you get women like Lizzo talk about they want athletic men. They want men of a certain kind Ladies the best thing you can do to make sure you have a better chance of having any man is be fit feminine and friendly Fit feminine and friendly gives you the best shot to get with anybody That high value man that 10 percent man knock it off If you are not an eight nine or 10 in the body And an adjustable six Eight or nine in the face Right out of the shower no makeup No hair extensions just straight out just straight natural if you're not there you're not going to get a high value man. That's High value man on in your vocabulary I know many let me go ahead Donna I know many men I know many of my brothers that have been hit and their cars and things have been destroyed By women and women are very these guys. Yeah, man You know The reason a lot of a lot of women can be abusive man is because the world doesn't hold them accountable You know a female police officer walked in and shot a man and and the judge hugged her the judge hugged her and um You know, that's why you know, you're starting to see a lot of women who aren't claiming to be feminist Because they realize this feminist stuff is starting to look bad on them But it doesn't matter if you claim it or not if you're still walking around here with this combative attitude with men Where in your life are you getting along with men? Where in your life are you getting along with men? The fall is I love the fall The fall you're gonna see me in the drone the drone. I'm gonna call it junior You're gonna see me in the drone. We're gonna be out and about because in the summer it's too hot but in the fall Where are you getting along with men? Where do you go and interact with men? When you're having a decent time Where people are happy to see you coming or are you just sitting around angry all the time? and The notion that you know high value black men Don't want black women Whoo, we got to get on that one too Is it the only question you got to ask yourself is my opinion ladies Is you only need one Forget what all the stats and all the naysayers are telling you you need one Instead of being mad instead of saying it's not fair Instead of saying it's not right What are you going to do to get the one you need one and done Your goal needs to if you were asking me your goal should be to I just need to get it together Get my one and get out the game That's it. I just need to get my one and I'm gone Not try to fix it for everybody else when I had uh, what's her name on my show? I'm here for all women. You need to be here for yourself Be here for yourself One and done. Lizzo is beautiful Tyler, are you are you? What are you? Are you serious? This woman says this woman is beautiful How are you ranking beauty ladies You will be on a better path if you start hanging in more talking to more men listening to more men and If you're going into spaces with women who are telling you things to soothe your feelings And telling you what you want to hear it may it's That's comfort knowledge Like comfort food, but that's like comfort food is generally junk food Junk food is bad for your body junk comfort comfort knowledge is bad for your brain It's not going to help you get anywhere so you end up sitting around talking about uh Listen to all these women empowerment this and that Uh These women going back to their husband ask yourself a question Ladies seriously Do I have any marital prospects for the next 12 months? Is anyone strong am I is anyone strongly considering me to be their wife? In the next 12 months 12 to 24 months And the answer comes back no, then what are you going to do? Fight for it alone. We're heading into the next round of Uh Under corona This is going to be an epic cuffing season And here's the thing if you had an entire year To plan for the pandemic and you still ain't got a panda bay or panda boo Whoo, what'd that say about you? So all right appreciate everybody joining in appreciate everybody coming to the show um Monday Wednesday and friday is when I said I was going to do this show But I I don't know we may end up just going to stay monday through friday just make the show shorter um Tonight tomorrow I will be dropping the video on what is high value since our high values and everybody's Since so many people's titles Which is fine Which is fine But for me and I will say this understand high value Has a lot to do with business And if you really don't have a good business mind if you really don't understand business It's going to be hard to wrap your head around high value Uh From more than just a money standpoint And all that means is you got homework to do You got homework to do If y'all think lizzo is pretty well, I think you're uh, no, she's not pretty to me I Mean that I think when women talk about her pretty they're talking about her face And um Let me see. Let me pull up a picture of li- Uh to be fair Let me pull up a picture of her face Um Lizzo American singer Lizzo image Uh, I mean even if adjusted for I mean her face is symmetrical, but She's got a good bone structure She's cute. She's not pretty. She's cute. I mean, I'm looking at I'm looking at the uh, Fibonacci equation of her I'm looking at basically the symmetry of her face taken from a point and spiraling out Um, I'd have to also see no makeup No makeup Lizzo Okay All right, let's let's be fair about it. Um Let's be fair about it. Okay You know I do this in real life. So I'm not uh, I'm not gonna just sit around and just say what's popular Okay, so here's her face That's her face. Okay She has really nice skin. She's very clear skin She has nice eyes You know Ellipse her nice Overall nice facial symmetry See it maps well the through line See if I can draw the through line I mean this eye appears to be Yes, you know, yeah, she's cute Now if she were to lose weight her cheekbones or jawbones or her cheekbones would be more pronounced Yeah, but the fullness of her face works against her man It really does. I mean It's just not what men Have have classically looked at as attractive. She she's far more. She's built far more like big mama Um Women who are usually her size are associated with you know back in the you know early 19 early 20th century If she were being cast in movies, she would have been cast for like a domestic I mean, it's very hard to get a a star's picture Um, yeah, but no thank you. No Is a problem. Okay. Now we start to get to the problem areas Okay I mean still her skin is clear. She has nice lips But I'm sorry The weight is too much of an issue You cannot overcome this weight You just cannot overcome the weight as an issue You can't overcome the weight as an issue And this is the this is the sad thing um, there are even if there Many women in the black community Who would have been in decades past would have been married But that fitness component heavily affects men's perceptions And it upsets women to no end but men are visual Like you care about resources No amount of man being a What what would a man have to look like for you to be all right with him being? homeless How how how attractive would a man have to be for you to be willing to pay 100% of his bills for the rest of his life And you got to work. You're not independently wealthy. You got to work. This is how men look at beauty I mean, dude, she I mean Can't say that she's not cute Lizzo is not ugly guys Her body Makes it Very unattractive it makes her very unattractive But her face is not and see this is this is something that honestly um A lot of average everyday women a lot of average everyday black women have relied upon I got a cute face But it's the rest of you if a man's hands cannot touch around you that's a There's no way in the hell I should be doing this with a woman now Cute versus pretty difference a lot Cute versus pretty different. I mean, are you serious? Women who are pretty beautiful and gorgeous versus cute? Come on, man How about this instead of asking the difference? How I want to say this I don't this is why I don't answer some questions because you're just being disingenuous One of the worst things we did in this country was remove competition And high value men are comp or competitive and high value ladies. They're competitive too How many of you ladies out there? Are actually competitive For the women who have a problem with the things I say or the things men like me say are you competitive? Are you competitive for the kind of men you want? and if you're not There's really nothing else to say about it It's like saying I got meatloaf And people came to eat chicken. All right. So, uh, let's get up out of here. Let me go read through the super chats Um, I want to play this again. I am the king